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 Author Thread: Does she need a girlfriend?
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Does she need a girlfriend?
Posted: 8/8/2009 6:42:33 PM
Ok, I just checked your subsequent posts....all two of them. They try to backpedal from your initial post, but the fact remains that she accused you of not being interested in her daily life. You asked what she meant. She said because you weren't asking questions. You said because you weren't interested. So since you aren't interested in her daily life, I suggested that it might be more primal urges.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Does she need a girlfriend?
Posted: 8/8/2009 3:18:40 PM
No dude, it's definitely you.

You need to expand your horizons a bit. This is something she needs from you. You need to decide if she is worth the effort. If she isn't, then i think you know what you have to do.

It's actually insulting to her to say that she needs some little friend to get all the "chit chatting" out of the way. That way she can just give you the cooking, cleaning and sex that you think women are good for?

If you have no interest in this person you supposedly care about, then you are ego-centric. You need to address that. Hopefully all it will take is practice.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
IM IN LOVE WITH A MAN WHO DOESNT LOVE ME
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:28:42 AM
You are his booty call. Perhaps one of many. End this.
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
the man I am dating just lost his son, how can I help?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:24:19 AM
That's a horrible situation, but what he needs is someone to support and listen to him. Taking off or clamming up isn't going to help him. He's going through massive grief. I would offer to help him with simple things like cooking him a meal. don't prod him to talk if he doesn't want to.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 433 (view)
 
Lower body hair.
Posted: 7/22/2009 12:22:08 PM
As long as she doesn't look like Bigfoot, I could care less. I'm not going out with a plastic Barbie doll, I'm going out with a living, breathing woman. I love every inch of her, hair or no.

I've heard of people with this bizarre hair phobia. It's YOUR problem, not hers.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
egnorance and unhelpfull
Posted: 7/21/2009 2:12:10 PM
Sounds to me like he got a wake-up call for life with kids and it was like a cold shower. I'm betting the kids were running around like wild animals the whole time and he was like "See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya". Of course this means he is a sheltered brat and not a compatible mate anyway. She should have eased him into the "family life" a little better as well.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
How long before you talk about your past?
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:15:18 AM

op, isn't sharing about ourselves part of getting to know each other? I'm struck by the way you formed your questions, as if it's all about someone else wanting to know all these things ab0ut you against your will. Don't you want to know more about them? Isn't it a 2-way street to you? Sharing seems to be a distasteful thing to you, the way I interpret your post. If you're interested in someone, don't you want to know what makes them tick? Why are they thinking the the way they do? What are their hopes and dreams?
Or doo you prefer to keep everything on a superficial level?

Not at all. I want to satisfy her curiosity and alleviate her concerns. I don't mind talking about my past. I don't have anything to hide.

My post is coming more from the spirit of "How much should I disclose on a first date?" But I am also surprised that every first date I have been on in the last few months has largely circled around all the things I have always been told not to talk about on a first date.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/19/2009 9:47:24 AM
Gwendolyn,
As I said on the last page, I screwed that up. The original title of the thread was "mousy women", but I changed it not realizing my first sentence depended on the title.

Like strong women, don't like mousy women.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/19/2009 9:32:37 AM
justin you are now lying and trying to get the upper end as you see this as a competition or a vain attempt to either get attention, reinforcing the mask you are trying to present us.

I don't lie. EVER. Please present some evidence that I have done so.

1) the number 12 wasnt "dating women who had a traumatic experience in their childhood", but people you date who have psychological problems, with medications or even having made time in a mental institute, with backgrounds etc etc

It's called an ANALOGY. Look it up.

and most people have replied on that basis.

That thread was deleted a long time ago. LET IT GO.

You even lied twice in your recent reply "please explain how I am supposed to magically know they are taking pills before we go on a first date. when in fact you said in the other thread that we all have read, that the person is telling you blank point about her and her family history of mental disorder or have been in an institute.

ON.
THE.
FIRST.
DATE.
So it's pretty IMPOSSIBLE to not DATE a person who has mental problems if they don't tell you until you are actually on a DATE WITH THEM! AS I SAID in that thread you keep dredging up that has NOTHING to do with this one
ONCE.
I.
FOUND.
OUT.
I.
STOPPED.
CONTACTING.
THEM.
Apparently this is some sort of brain surgery. If you can please explain how I can psychicly know a girl is taking pills before she actually tells me and before I have met her, please divulge. If not, STFU and go away. It's a dead topic from a dead thread. Grow the F up already.

gotcha twice already.

The only thing you "got" is some sort of brain tumor that doesn't allow you to follow a conversation.

I understand that you where annoyed that I got a lot of reply from posters saying that I was right, that you weren't the center of attention of your own post and that why YOU deleted your own thread, as there wasn't even a vote of 7 to 10.. so please do not try to make yourself look nice; because your not.

I don't appreciate someone bringing up irrelevant crap from another thread that isn't even true.

gotcha 3 times now.

I just picture you masturbating in your trailer home saying "gotcha again". HA HA!

2) Please learn to read and learn the terminology of things. I told you that you are confusing terminalogies (labeling, personality traits etc etc) and you jumped direct to a pathetic attack (show that you are wearing a mask and what is behind it...). I never said that am or not labeling, so do not pretend to; but you do label and if you weren't so self absorbed, you will see it; I do not have to waste my time, take you little hand and show you what you wrote....

You appear to have PLENTY of time to attack me for no reason. You began this whole thing by accusing me of confusing things. You haven't a shred of evidence that I have confused anything. What YOU were doing was insinuating that a strong woman is stubborn, etc. I explained to you that I don't make those mistakes. This made you cry. Learn to get along with the world. Your life will be so much easier.

Now, as you seams to have a complete biased image of yourself and a chip on your shoulder: have you noticed your usage of "I" or the way you state things? your wants and and so forth? ..now what does tell you about yourself? have you also noticed how you want to control and dominate or how easily frustrated you get?

First of all, I don't think you know what the terms "biased" and "have a chip on your shoulder" actually mean since neither apply to this conversation. Secondly, you are trolling this thread. The fact that you are bringing up stuff from a long-ago deleted thread PROVES IT! I don't suffer fools lightly. As far as me using the identifier "I", kind of hard to discuss things that are important to me without doing so.

tut tut tut ! I think you have several issues to deal with before posting banalities.

Dude, you are a hefty-sized bag of issues bulging and about to burst. You apparently think all strong willed women are arrogant and childish when in fact you have done nothing but illustrate that type of behavior yourself. THAT is why you are a troll.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:33:26 PM
mcwr, please explain how I am supposed to magically know they are taking pills before we go on a first date.

If you have some sort of over-the-phone brain scan technique, please share it.
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Why do ex's randomly contact you ?!
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:30:42 PM
Sounds like he's struck out on the dating scene and is trying to plant the seed for a booty call. You should block him on facebook and not take his calls or return his messages.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
OKCUPID works
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:14:11 PM
Were any of them bad spellers? Because I hate that.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:11:52 PM
I'm not confusing anything. It is YOU who are quick to label without even referrencing an example. What evidence do you have that I have even the slightest problem determining these things?

As for "number 12's", that's like saying "stop dating women who had a traumatic experience in their childhood. And somehow accomplish this without them telling you it occurred."

As I stated in that other thread, it's kind of difficult to know if someone is on pills unless they actually tell you, or you spend enough time around them to figure it out, hence DATING. Now if I had a magical crystal ball like yourself, I could avoid them altogether. Oh, by the way, stop going on first dates with women who have commitment problems and you'll be far more successful.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
 
When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:57:37 PM

How is she being "used" for sex, anymore than he is? They both agreed to have an ongoing sexual connection over weekends, and that they weren't going to have a relationship. No one is being "used". No one was deceived. No one is being "treated like crap". It's what she said she wanted, and what she has.

Aren't you the big Christian guy? Seems counter-intuitive that you would be defending perpetual booty calls as a substitute for a binding, spiritual relationship.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:44:18 PM
Shouting isn't communication, it's just verbal agression.

I like debate but I don't do arguments. Once things turn that direction, I will try to steer her back to civility. If that doesn't work I leave her to deal with her own anger.

Homey don't play dat.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:31:44 PM
I agree men are probably more likely to guard their ego than actually consider another position. That's just how we're built.

What I'm talking about is being respectful. I don't have to agree with your opinion on anything, but I need to grant you the respect to listen.

I'm saying I'm very interested in hearing a female's position, even though I may not agree with it.

But coming back to the original topic, it's a woman feeling confident enough in herself to even TELL me her conflicting opinion that I appreciate.

But as I noted in my original post, and which some have chosen to disregard, I don't like to be treated disrespectfully. An alternate opinion must be presented tactfully for it to be considered "strong willed" and not just b1tching.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
How long before you talk about your past?
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:23:40 PM
I think important things that could impact a potential relationship need to be disclosed when things start getting serious.

I guess "serious" is when exclusivity is discussed, or when you have sex, whichever happens first.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:13:22 PM
never confuse strong with stubborn, never confuse opinionated with narrow minded, never confuse confident with arrogant and never confuse direct with bitter.

I am also careful not to assign these types of labels to people's opinions just because they are different than mine.

By the way, I was on the phone with my mother for awhile so I didn't see why my Warning Signs thread was deleted. As far as I know I didn't violate any rules so did someone start a flame war in it or something?

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:05:28 PM
Well, that's interesting. You start out with how you don't like strong willed women, you're not attracted to them, then you go on to explain how you think they're just sexy as hell. Are you a bit confused?

AW CRAP!
The original title of this thread was "Mousy Women". But then I decided I wasn't really talking about them, I was talking about strong willed women, so I changed the title. I didn't realize I had opened with a dependant sentance.

Then my mom called from Australia so I missed the edit window.

Love strong women, not attracted to mousy women.

Sorry about that guys.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Strong Willed Women
Posted: 7/18/2009 5:47:20 PM
I don't like 'em. or to be more accurate, I'm not attracted to them.

A mousy woman is very shy and quiet and never has a divergent opinion. I don't like a woman who is constantly trying to let me know how great she thinks I am. I don't like when a woman defers to my opinion, at least not on a regular basis.

I want SAUCY! I want a woman who's going to speak her mind and tell me "was'up". if I say something she takes issue with, I want to HEAR it. If she thinks I'm wrong, I want her to tell me so. If she has a different idea I want her to express it.

I respect the hell out of a woman who isn't afraid to speak her mind. She can even "put me in my place", as long as she does so respectfully. I'm not a child and I will not be talked down to.

When a woman says something to the effect of "Well Justin, that's an interesting opinion, but here's what I think...", I instantly zero in on her. To me that's just sexy as hell.

It's a fine line between being strong and being ****y however. I don't want to hear a litany of complaints. I want directed assertiveness.

What has been your experience in this area? Ladies, have you noticed guys like or dislike your strong streak? Guys, do you respond or shut down in the presence of a strong woman?

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 7/18/2009 5:29:13 PM
In my estimation it is just not healthy to be in a purely booty-call relationship. It's just going to mess with your mind and potentially keep you away from a good man you could find happiness with.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
How long before you talk about your past?
Posted: 7/18/2009 5:14:21 PM
I've been kind of surprised at the first dates I've been on because the women want to tell me all about their last relationship.

I personally don't care about their previous relationships unless they have a child with that person. If talking about them makes the woman feel more comfortable then that's fine, but it sort of puts the pressure on me to talk about my last relationship.

My problem with that is that my last relationship ended because she couldn't stop cheating on me. That casts my ex in a bad light, but her and I are still friends. If this date and I get serious, it is likely she will meet my ex and I don't want her to have bad feelings towards her.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
How long before you talk about your past?
Posted: 7/18/2009 5:00:38 PM
It starts with the same simple stuff like how many brothers and sisters you have and where were you born, etc. But that's not going to suffice for long. Eventually they are going to want to know more.

If you were married, that's coming up. They are going to want to know exactly what happened and what connection you have to your ex now.

They're going to want to know all about your childhood and what your relationships with your family members has been.

Criminal record? They wanna know. I even had one girl run my record while I was on the phone with her!

And of course, your sexual history. How many? How many AT ONE TIME? How long has it been? Have you ever had a STD? Have you ever gotten someone/been pregnant?

Word to the wise, this isn't first date material. So how far along do you start spilling the beans? Should your past stay shrouded in shadow or do you want them poking around in it with a flashlight?

Is it legitimate to even ask about someone's more guarded secrets? At what point do you start doing this?

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 113 (view)
 
When are you most happiest?
Posted: 7/17/2009 12:24:58 PM
Probably kissing a woman I am in love with.
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
A situation I've never been in before...
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:25:41 AM

you can bet your ass there's a bible quote to justify it somewhere.


Isn't that the truth!
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are women obliviously attracted to a man's appearance?
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:39:35 AM

Women want eye candy.

People want BEAUTY, in all it's forms. Aesthetics make the world go 'round.

That is NEVER going to change.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
We're all rich!!! Who knew?!?!?!
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:31:52 AM
He's either dellusional, amazingly gullible, or he misunderstood someone talking about social security.
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Are women obliviously attracted to a man's appearance?
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:24:56 AM
All this sobbing is too much. Would you date a stump? You know, a woman with no arms or legs? What if she were a hunchback with no face? No? Then you're obviously putting looks above personality too.

Let me break it down for you, looks are important not just in romantic relationships, but in every form of visual interation. An attractive person is, on average, going to have an easier life. People are going to help you more, listen to you more. Attractive people get hired easier, and make better first impressions. And of course they have better looking children which benefit from all this as well.

So when picking a mate, you aren't just looking for what you want for yourself, but what will benefit you as a couple. so all this talk about looks not being important is hogwash.

I feel very blessed that I'm a reasonably attractive guy. Lord knows it's helped me a lot in my life. There are no words of comfort to those that haven't been as blessed. The only thing I can suggest is that they hit the gym and at least get toned. That's something everyone has control of as the OP attests.

I can't be made to feel guilty for being attracted to attractive people and it's not fair to try and get women to feel guilty for it either.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Are women obliviously attracted to a man's appearance?
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:04:14 AM
Height counts for a lot dude. You tall guys get all the ladies. I'm 5'10" so I'm not a midget, but I see ugly tall guys with pretty girls all the time. I'm convinced that if I were 6" taller I'd be prying them off with a stick. I'm glad puttin' on some pecs has helped but you had an advantage over the rest of us all along.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
How long till you get over an ex?
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:49:10 PM
Hardcore, soul-melding, can't breath without you love?

2 years minimum.
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Get rid of new Puppy or Else...
Posted: 7/6/2009 11:38:39 AM
If she's willing to not date you because you have a puppy, I think she's made her level of commitment to you pretty clear.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why, why, why
Posted: 7/6/2009 6:43:26 AM
It's because he's been seeing her, probably all along.

Don't date men unless they are single or divorced. If he isn't ready for a divorce, then he isn't ready for someone new. Consider it a lesson learned.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:49:40 PM
I don't understand people that trash their ex. If they were so bad, why'd you marry them?

My relationships have always ended amicably and almost all of my exes have come back trying to restart.

My best friend in the world is my ex-girlfriend.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 36 (view)
 
anyone else find it harder as ya get older
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:13:01 PM
katchme, I think your "not settling for less than what you want" theory definitely applies to me. I'm picky as hell, but then I always have been. But back then a pretty face would sway me every time. Not so much now.

As for the "no thanks" thing, I have no good way to handle that one either. I have always said that people need to shop in their aisle. If you're 50 and weigh 300 pounds, I frankly don't care how sweet you are, it's NOT going to happen. I hate to sound ungentlemanly about it, but it's just the truth.

But how do I put that in a way that isn't going to insult them? I don't think it's possible. I used to believe you should always reply, but I've spent days trying to figure out how to do that and eventually given up. The fact is, I'm sure she has a pretty good idea why I'm not returning her email, but she doesn't know for sure, so maybe that's better.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
anyone else find it harder as ya get older
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:00:29 PM
I have to agree Dan that wearing a hat in your pic, particularly a backwards baseball cap, looks childish at best, hiding a bald spot at worst.

And just because a woman thinks you're "hot", doesn't mean she wants to date you. WOMEN your age are letting go of the party, anything goes life and are thinking it's time for marriage and children. That means they want a man on a path for success who is ready to be the head of a household.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
anyone else find it harder as ya get older
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:22:11 PM
I'm not trying to brag, but when I was younger I had a fair amount of female attention.

I think it was a combination of a few different things. Back then I had long hair, which was very "in" at the time. I've learned that unless you're a biker or a hippie, it's more repulsive than alluring nowadays.

Also, in your 20's everyone is just more sexually charged. They aren't thinking about mortgages and stability and other crap like that. They just want someone new and exciting.

People in their 30's have very different priorities and obligations and careers. They aren't as likely to take chances.

At least this is what I tell myself to feel better about sitting home alone on the fourth of f*cking July.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Why does contact fade?
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:55:17 PM
It sounds like you didn't spend much time actually in his physical presence before sleeping with him. I think texting and emailing is great, but it gives the ILLUSION of closeness when in fact it's pretty trivial.

From the vibe I'm getting from your thread starting post, you sound kind of "needy". What I mean is that you NEED somebody else to complete you or else you feel inadequate or something. I'm betting he sensed that too and sized you up as "an easy lay", and you have now fulfilled that purpose.

My suggestion to you is to not be in such a hurry next time. Go on several dates first. Go do an activity together, not just dinner every time. Go on group outtings with others. That will cement you as more than just a lay. He will see you as a partner. then you will both be on equal footing when you take the next step.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Where are the decent men that are looking for more than just sex....
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:25:30 PM

Seriously most of your posts are about cumplay and anal sex...what kind of attention did you expect to get?

"Cumplay"? I don't even want to know what the hell that means.

As for anal sex, I have no idea why a man would want to treat his woman like a prison b1tch.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
have we met before?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:42:03 AM
Pretty sure I've seen that plot in just about every sitcom ever made. Amazing you actually lived it!

Honesty is always the best policy. Is it rude of me to point out that YOU didn't mention the previous date either?

If it were me I would have said "Good to see you again_____." Undoubtedly the other two would ask about this and I would say "You're not going to believe this but ____ and I met on POF as well."

Unless they were severely insecure, they would recognize that it didn't work out and go about the evening with this bit of info as an interesting coincidence.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Please clear this up for me.
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:36:41 AM
What the hell was she doing in your email? Yeah, that's messed up.

But telling a "female friend" how hot her legs are should definitely raise her eyebrows.

You can't go on together with suspicious minds.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
i cant beleive someone would talk about their mother like that
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:28:23 AM
I agree it is uncouth behavior, but these aren't kids either. Dissing their grandma in front of a stranger is the worst aspect.

My mom has been talking smack about family members my whole life. Through my own excperience I've found she was pretty accurate. She just doesn't realize that the apple hasn't fallen that far from the tree.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:21:44 AM
If someone cant afford the 30$ monthly that birth control costs, then maybe chose to be abstinent!!!

Holy crap! I actually had no idea it cost that much! I guess I never really thought about this aspect. I guess I assumed insurance covered it or something. I mean, it's in the insurance company's interest to keep from paying for all that accompanies pregnancy, so I don't see why it shouldn't be covered.

After reading a few replies I agree that it's her body and she needs to govern it the way she wants to. A man with a "stake" in her sexuality probably subverts that to an extent.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:18:05 AM

If your on the pill, needle, ring, implant, etc, It can cost money. Some B-control is 28-30 a month..doesnt seem like alot but it adds up. If you are in a relationship do you not think that your boyfriend should pay half for your birth control if they are not wearing condoms and your relation is monogomous and long term?

Wow, that's a really good point I had never actually considered. It's never been an issue to me personally since I've always wanted to be a daddy, but for someone who doesn't this makes sense.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How to impress a girl.
Posted: 7/1/2009 6:31:31 PM

One thing kids like is to be tricked. For instance, I was going to take my little nephew to Disneyland, but instead I drove him to an old burned-out warehouse. “Oh, no”, I said, “Disneyland burned down.” He cried and cried, but I think that deep down he thought it was a pretty good joke. I started to drive over to the real Disneyland, but it was getting pretty late.


HA HA HA, oh man that is so cruel!
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
How to impress a girl.
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:29:32 PM

7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words "F**K you" and grab the other girl's ass. Girls love competition.

That one in particular cracked me up.

Also imagining some guy constantly giving his date a titty twister.

Some of them were a bit tasteless though. I don't think it's ever funny to joke about punching a girl in the face.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Long vs short hair
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:59:58 AM
BigDaddyJinx said:

I have better things to do than defend myself to trolls.

Now THAT'S irony!
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
What do you do when someone you love is an alcoholic?
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:12:29 PM
Ginny, all I can tell you is what will happen if you stay. You will watch your beloved man decay before your eyes. He will age rapidly, becoming weak and frail. As the nutrition in his body declines, it will begin to feed on itself. He'll get pale and sickly. His teeth will rot. Eventually his speech will be affected. Not just pronunciation, but actual formation of thoughts. By the end he'll barely be coherant.

And there you'll be to tuck him in and pat his head. And one day, he just won't wake up because he would have choked on his vomit in the middle of the night.

Quit saving him from his rock bottom. He'll never learn to stand again if you keep catching him. As hard as it is, you must let him fall. It's the only way he will take control of his life again.

If you leave will he drink himself to death or accidentally fatally injur himself? Possibly. Will it kill him if you stay? Absolutely. There is no painless way out of this maze. There's no pills, no plans, no shortcuts. He has to realize that alcohol has destroyed his life so that he can blame the alcohol instead of whatever he's blaming now, probably you. But in order for him to have that revelation, you have to let it actually ruin his life. You can't fight off his demons for him. All you do by trying is make them your demons too.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Fellas, how would you honestly react to this?
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:06:11 PM
Landra said:
oh come on. A young girl working at a Subway sammich shop can't make a silly, provocative remark to guy without the poor dude getting all hot and bothered? Sheesh. Doesn't take much to piss you guys off either then, does it? LOL

No, it would be playing games if she were flirting with a guy she had absolutely no interest in, as you suggested. Apparently this is a favorite pasttime of yours and I'm telling you, that pisses guys off. How are we supposed to figure out the appropriate response if you admit to LYING just to f*ck with us? It's called "mixed signals", and no, it's not by Milton-Bradley.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
What do you do when someone you love is an alcoholic?
Posted: 6/29/2009 3:01:58 PM
Ginny, the only reason someone would call you an enabler....is because you are a classic example. While you have breath in your lungs you will continue to sheild him from the detriments of alcohol as much as possible. And because he doesn't have to actually face these things, like losing you for example, he will continue to drink himself to death. Can't you see that you are virtually ASSURING that will happen?

Leaving him certainly won't automatically mean he will quit. All it means for sure is that he won't continue to destroy you in the process. And it MIGHT cause him to change, or at least start down the road of change.

A lot of us have been there, we know exactly where you are. It's a tough situation. If you want to hang in there then that's your decision. But I can PROMISE you it will never get any better than it is right now and it will very likely get a hell of a lot worse.

As for Alanon....Ginny....THERE IS NO WAY TO HELP! There's no instruction book on how to convince someone to quit drinking, because it's NOT POSSIBLE! Their drinking is not up to you. Alanon is about you dealing with YOUR feelings, because that is the ONLY thing you can do.

~Justin
 thadood38
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Fellas, how would you honestly react to this?
Posted: 6/29/2009 2:54:53 PM
Landra, that's not "joking around", that would be "playing games". That typically pisses guys off, just so you know.

~Justin
 
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