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sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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People, why against the rocking chair on the porch? Posted: 11/20/2009 5:44:42 AM
If the weather was good, I can think of nothing nicer than sitting on the porch with a cold one, relaxing in a rocking chair. Yes I go to the gym; helps keep osteoporosis at bay, and yes I work, but there’s nothing wrong with having ‘down time’ too.

sacharissa

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aging moustache Posted: 11/18/2009 11:13:05 PM
I think older guys look wonderful with the salt & pepper stuff... If it's otherwise trimmed and kept neat then the natural look, as above, is always best. Only thing I don't like is a 'soup strainer', on any age!

sacharissa

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/16/2009 10:41:23 AM
I notice you are in your early 40’s. Just how much older are you looking at? There will always be exceptions I’m sure, but I view any man more than 15 years younger taking an interest in me, as very suspicious. I don’t suffer from low esteem and generally speaking won’t date anyone who I could be the parent of. This has nothing to do with the ‘social norm’ or fear of what my family would say; it just wouldn’t feel right to me.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/16/2009 2:21:09 AM
Having posted on page one of this thread, I’ve had to come back and read some of the replies. I’ve never laughed so hard! Note to self, stop reading the Forum’s when you’re supposed to be working…

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Why are we in such a hurry? Posted: 11/16/2009 1:34:17 AM
I’m not in a hurry, but that in itself can cause some people a problem. They see it as disinterest just because I don’t feel comfortable giving out my mobile number within one email, or not wanting to jump into a physical relationship too soon, or even not wanting to move into a relationship after meeting once for just an hour. However we do it, we’ll always find someone for whom it doesn’t work out. I’m willing to wait for the one who is also willing to take it slow and to build up a relationship involving trust, and slowly getting to know someone.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/15/2009 5:26:07 AM
Luckily I've never come across this... I used to pluck my ex's unibrow

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Childless men Posted: 11/14/2009 12:53:56 AM
Like a few others I don't see it as a failure, although it's obviously a regret you have. From a dating point of view it could make you a 'good catch' and maybe you should consider checking out women who have youngish children. You could be a father that way, even if only a surrogate.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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I'm a 58 year old guy with young kids (Where is the POF/AARP/K-8 Forum?) Where do I fish? Posted: 11/12/2009 1:34:46 AM
The fact that you have young children wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me because I too had a child later in life. For me the deal breaker would be your marital status and I’m sure that will ring true for a lot of people. You say you’ve been separated 2 years already, so why not divorced yet? I think if you want to make any headway, you should state that the divorce is proceeding in your profile. On that note, it’s rather a long profile, most people won’t read it all… I agree that you can’t and shouldn’t lie about your children and their young age. Keep plugging away and at some point, hopefully you’ll find someone that will accept you and your young family.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/11/2009 5:14:11 AM
they all pale in comparison to fuzzy cow slippers! I have a cow phone, scared me half to death the first time it 'rang'

sacharissa

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/10/2009 9:28:57 AM
^^^^^^^ That would depend on how big your hands are

sacharissa

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Friend vs. Lover? Posted: 11/6/2009 11:50:30 PM
I was starting to feel either old fashioned or a prude of sorts,,, I want it to be with a friend. If I have sex with someone I don't care for as a friend first (I've made the mistake in younger years), it usually only turns out to be temporary. I'm not looking for temporary. How wonderfully refreshing to see this posted by a man. I was beginning to lose hope...

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/6/2009 11:25:01 PM
In a simple demonstration, the player will profess to find something wonderful about you even though he doesn't know squat about you. Already, he has your interest and the guy who might like you, if he got to know you, is in second place. How naive do you think I am? For the record I can smell BS a mile off

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/6/2009 8:02:04 AM
By choosing such men, they are rewarding the very behavior they complain about. That's just my point; I'm not choosing those men. My profile clearly states looking for Long Term. (Your height would not be a problem as I'm only average height myself.) I'm rejecting those that only want the casual stuff in favour of a proper relationship; dating, getting to know the person, in other words progression and not just jumping into bed with them. My post wasn't meant to be bashing men in general, just the ones who don't want anything meaningful and they are legion!

sacharissa

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/6/2009 5:28:45 AM
Does a man over 45 actually want a relationship? Damned if I can find one... ONS yes, Casual fling yes, FWB yes, Intimate Encounter yes, Relationship? Not so far...

sacharissa

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how to slow the pace to make it real Posted: 11/5/2009 1:46:08 AM
Ooh I dislike that so much. One man I met for coffee decided to leave after an hour because he didn’t want to seem too pushy. However, he then started emailing lots, talking online and decided he was lonely, and that we should be together. I apparently had no say… He wasn’t interested in slowing things down; quite the opposite so I did the only thing I could

sacharissa

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Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/4/2009 6:29:53 AM
Long time ago I dated a man who shaved ‘down there.’ As well as looking a bit weird, it was not a pleasant experience. Don’t do it guys...

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Dating a couple people but not having sex at our age Posted: 11/3/2009 9:04:27 AM
Sacharissa..........Are you talking about batteries or men when you refer to the "rechargeable ones"?.............. That's a good question. I think I'll leave you wondering...

sacharissa

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Dating a couple people but not having sex at our age Posted: 11/3/2009 4:56:53 AM
...Well with the way the economy is now a days and the price of batteries going up I might just have to have sex with a man. Too funny... And don't get me started on the price of the rechargeable ones

sacharissa

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/1/2009 8:07:47 AM
The only thing that is intimidating is the hours billed by her plastic surgeon. Ooh that’s mean. Paul.W 1967 I like the way you think and express yourself

sacharissa

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What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/1/2009 12:58:09 AM
I just turned 50 and have been single just over 3 years. I have good days and bad days. I admit sometimes I feel lonely and would love the company of a man, other times I’m perfectly happy in myself. Like most, I’d rather be alone than with someone who’s wrong for me. My biggest concern is that one day I’ll find someone who feels right, but that I’ll find it hard to share my space with them if I’ve been single for a long time. I live in hope though.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Sitting solo on a scary Saturday (Halloween) Posted: 10/31/2009 5:54:35 AM
I'll be at home with a movie and some popcorn. Sunday morning I'll probably be cleaning the eggs off my car that the little b**tards, sorry little darlings,will no doubt have thrown at my car... Now if I had a dungeon, and my pointy hat still...

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Party like they're still in high school and other turn offs Posted: 10/26/2009 11:46:32 PM
Grown-up, with an active life and positive outlook is a killer combination Ooh is there hope for me yet then? ps I'm a Libran too

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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what is with the phone number Posted: 10/26/2009 4:00:13 AM
I'd have to look up my cell phone number, if I wanted to give it to someone. I don't know my own number off the top of my head and never give it out until I feel comfortable with someone. If you have my number, you're highly honoured

sacharissa

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Party like they're still in high school and other turn offs Posted: 10/26/2009 3:30:52 AM
I thought it was an unripe banana... My mind has been clean for too long

sacharissa

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Heart Strings Posted: 10/26/2009 2:52:33 AM
Sometimes a sad movie will do it, immense scenery often brings a lump to my throat, hearing of sick children can make me cry too and I’m thankful my son is healthy. Man’s inhumanities to his fellow man make me choke up too. A lovely piece of music can move me. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not a cry baby, but sometimes it feels good to have something move you to tears.

sacharissa

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Party like they're still in high school and other turn offs Posted: 10/25/2009 12:21:36 AM
If we knew where to meet a SO then we wouldn’t be here... I never go to a bar alone, but a bar or coffee shop can be a good place to arrange for a first meet. Work is the obvious place to meet people but my place of work isn’t as good because they’re mostly young (adult) students. Evening classes are a possibility, or a hobby? I don’t party, nor am I an old fogie so I guess I’m in between too.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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matches and chemestry Posted: 10/24/2009 4:54:56 AM
Mostly I’ll look at local matches, and sometimes the profile of men who’ve looked at my profile. I like pics where you can see the face well and even better if they don’t have sunglasses on. A recent pic is always best. If the profile seems long and rambling I won’t read it all. If it’s full of spelling mistakes or txt speak then I won’t read it. I guess I’m drawn to what I think is a nice face, nice eyes and open body language.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Is it possible for men to flirt Posted: 10/24/2009 4:44:00 AM
Not read the previous 4 pages but… I think men can flirt without doing any of those things listed by the OP, though it’s easier in person than by email or chat. I think flirting can be a lot of fun, harmless, or with intention. So long as you’re both on the same page then it’s all good. As for meeting for just sex, if both parties understand that’s all the other wants, then why not?

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Men over 45 who dye their hair Posted: 10/21/2009 11:55:03 PM
I'm all for growing older gracefully or disgracefully; whatever, but never dye my hair and prefer the natural look on men too.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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What's in a kiss? Posted: 10/21/2009 2:34:54 AM
it's not easy to pick the worse type of kiss... is it the weak little peck... Oh I hate those... If you're going to kiss someone, kiss them like you mean it

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Positive Negative Posted: 10/21/2009 1:54:37 AM
It’s true that someone can ‘grow’ on you. Long time back I was friends with a man, a work colleague, and he was easy to talk to and fun to be with but I never had romantic feelings for him. But over time, as I got to know him better, I really started to see him as a possible SO. We ended up dating exclusively for almost a year before it sizzled out but it was good while it lasted. I like to meet a man for a few dates before I start to wonder if he could be a possible SO. Unless there are red flags very early on, then it could develop into something significant.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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What's in a kiss? Posted: 10/19/2009 8:38:58 AM
I had a man once kiss me out of the blue Those kisses can really make your toes curl. Best kiss I’ve had in a long time was an unexpected kiss on a date Making me long for another now…

sacharissa

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Are Your Filters Set Too High? Posted: 10/19/2009 8:29:37 AM
I only have 3; must not be married, must not smoke, or do drugs. Not too much to ask is it? I’ve seen some that have as many as 15 filters!

sacharissa

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Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 10/17/2009 12:03:16 PM
I had a military upbringing; we were always on the move so were discouraged from keeping trivia. I haven’t changed. When I moved into this house I only needed one small van so yes I travel light. My son however is a real hoarder and hates to throw anything away. He still has toys from when he was toddler!

sacharissa

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 10/16/2009 2:27:54 AM
Anyone here know what shag means in the UK? As far as I know, in the UK, shag means sex.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 10/16/2009 2:26:03 AM
Never happened to me thank goodness. I'll settle for coffee, and lunch maybe if we really hit it off

sacharissa

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perplexed Posted: 10/12/2009 5:02:10 AM
It’s very difficult when families break down and there can be any number of reasons why grown up children don’t want to keep in contact with one or both parents. My stepdad is great and has been married to my Mum for over 20 years, yet he has a grown up daughter that he doesn’t see for years on end despite the fact that she lives within 40 miles of him. I don’t know the reasons and I don’t pry; it’s his business. I suggest you accept him as he is and don’t worry about it.

sacharissa

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Misconceptions and Ms Takes Posted: 10/11/2009 9:35:35 AM
Some people can mistake shyness for being stand offish or just not interested; I’ve been accused of that in the past myself though never of being gay (that I know of!) Best thing you can do is to try and be more self confident and more interested in those around you. If you see a woman you like the look of, take a chance and ask her out! What’s the worst than could happen? She might even say yes! I checked out your profile and if you weren’t so far from me I wouldn’t say no to a coffee date…

sacharissa

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television-- pros and cons Posted: 10/11/2009 3:38:18 AM
I lived in Germany from age 6 to 13 so spent my formative years not watching that much TV because it wasn’t in English. Only one friend had an aerial big enough to pick up TV in English in our entire neighbourhood; she was popular… I watch TV but I’m quite selective in what I watch and always mute the commercials. I don’t have a TV in my bedroom, and our second TV is a small one without even an aerial that my son uses for his PS2. After a busy day I like to relax with the TV on. I love to watch any space programs including news items, programs about places that I’d never have the opportunity to visit, and the Discovery channels. I’m not tied to my TV but I’d miss it if I didn’t have one. It wouldn’t bother me if a partner didn’t have a TV so long as he didn’t mind me watching mine now and again.

sacharissa

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pre-nups Posted: 10/9/2009 7:49:59 AM
To me they display a level of untrust Got it in one... If my intended asked me to sign one I would feel he doubted my commitment to him and I'd be offended to be honest.

sacharissa

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Do you wonder when to say I love you? Posted: 10/9/2009 4:16:50 AM
Not read the previous 7 odd pages but... 2 months doesn’t seem very long but there again it depends on how much you’ve seen him, how often, and how close you’ve become. I say it if I mean it but I temper that with how I think he’ll feel. If I’m almost sure it’ll scare him off then I prefer to wait a while.

sacharissa

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Dating a Gamer, would you? Posted: 10/7/2009 3:21:21 AM
It really would depend on how much time you 'devote' to it, but honestly I think in the long term it would drive me crazy. I don't play games, so can't really relate.

sacharissa

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False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/4/2009 11:03:35 PM
but ladies I'm attracted to in their 40s won't date me because I'm "too old." That is such a shame... I don't discount men because of their age, but I dated one man who was only 52 and I was genuinely worried that I'd kill him! If you have stamina... As for lying? However tongue in cheek it's done, I rather know the truth thanks, but hey, you go for it!

sacharissa

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What is the strangest way you were told it was over Posted: 10/4/2009 12:25:04 AM
I’ve usually been the one who ended things, but as a teenager I dated a guy a year older than me. We’d been dating a few months, then one day he kissed me goodbye after a date and said see you around. Next day he turned up with my best friend on his arm. Guess who lost a friend that day… I have to say; those who’ve come home to an empty house have had a coward for a partner When my LTR’s have broken down I’ve always made every attempt to do it amicably and to split everything 50/50 as it should be.

sacharissa

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What's with the shared interests thing? Posted: 10/3/2009 12:04:32 PM
searched interests occasionally Never knew you could do that... I usually just read profiles but this could be interesting.

sacharissa

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Was it loosing your s/o or the habit that was upsetting Posted: 10/3/2009 3:32:34 AM
My suggestion is to - call everyone - exes - kids force them to come and remove their junk or toss it out - get rid of things that remind you of your life before (before right now) and make the place YOUR PLACE. This is such great advice! Three years and more on, and there's still cr*p in my attic that belongs to my ex. He's married now, got his own place, but can he be bothered collecting his stuff? Think I'll get me a skip...

sacharissa

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Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site? Posted: 10/2/2009 2:32:29 AM
They know I’m on a dating site, but no way would I tell them which one. I’d be worried they’d look at my profile and tease me, or worse, pretend to be a potential date!

sacharissa

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WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/1/2009 11:17:50 PM
As long as they were kind and could speak English I’d be okay with it. Not sure about colour; my fave colour is purple and if they were green they’d clash with an awful lot of my clothes... Seriously; one family member is Russian, my nephew has a Polish girlfriend, and I’ve dated a Croatian. We’re very cosmopolitan.

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Gentlemen - this works ... Posted: 10/1/2009 2:28:47 AM
How can you look her in the eyes when she has a great set of hooters staring at you just asking to be caressed, fondeled, & sucked? Oh good grief are you sixteen? The original post is correct; works for me! Nothing worse than a man who averts his gaze all the time; makes him look shifty. I think you can tell an awful lot from someone's eyes and eye contact...

sacharissa

Joined: 5/7/2009

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 9/30/2009 6:03:27 AM
Ohhh My.. Ms sacharissa , You DO know your men..!!!!! If you'll include a lil "pat on the head", some " belly-rubs" and some "monkey-bussiness" every now and then......... I'll marry you now............... Shucks, gonna make me blush... I was starting to feel left out; no marriage proposal from you. Will give you a 'pat on the head' anytime

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