It's perfectly possible to get to know someone very well indeed through writing. Letters/emails.

I hate to say it but it is glaringly obvious that they were not responsible in choosing a suitable partner to have children with in the first place - that is how they get to be single mothers unless they are widowed.

To me there are much bigger issues then older people having kids. There are people with known genetically inherited conditions and illnesses that have kids despite the high risk of passing these on to their children. Hemophilia, chronic depression and a whole lot of other poetically life threatening conditions can now be identified and are known to be passed on by the parents. When these people are so selfish as to have kids and possible pass that condition on so they can have a biological offspring it seems criminal to me.

Forget being a "nice guy" and work instead toward being a "good person." Failing that, be a "decent human being."

But today she was calling me her boyfriend and told me that she had told her friends that her and I were together, actually that "I was her man"--and not in a jokingly way and then proceeded to call me her boyfriend.

I know as we age, certain priorities come to the forefront. Also physiological and mental changes come into play, which may change or need or want for sex.

I`m just curious how aging has effected your sexual appetite, and if good and satisfying sex would be considered imperitive to you in a relationship, and has it`s level of importance when weighing the value of a relationship changed? Would you consider a sexless or less frequent or lower quality sex life now , which you might not have considered when you were younger?

It is truly all in the way he kisses you. I have had some french kisses that were disturbing, to say the least, some men equate that type of kiss with a right to violate your mouth! Eww.
You know the kind, deep, probing, and invasive kinda kiss.

Then there are those who employ a gentle tongue action that leaves you wanting for more.\
As far as it being a prelude for sex, hmmm, not always. Some of the best kisses I have had led to nothing more than a good make-out session.
Bottom line, OP, french kissing, when done correctly, is a delight.

My question is how comfortable are you getting naked with someone the first time?

Remind me to tell you the story of my friend,....while moving into a new place, her dog found 'Mr. Jiggles' and proceeded to play and toss it around the backyard, where all her neighbors could look over fence and enjoy the fun!

If it were me I would simply go with Option (3) - perhaps he just said YES to get the FB woman off his back and had no intention of actually following through - you did mention that the drink never happened as "something came up".

Either way, if she plans on continuing a relationship with this man and taking the step of moving in with him there has to be an element of trust and looking for ways/things to sabotage the relationship with is definitely not a healthy start!

Yay for vasectomy!

And what does your choice of pets say? If you have a dog, as I do, you need to be there for him 2 or 3 times a day. Cats can be left alone for several days, and other "unfurred or unfeathered" pets require less in the way of maintainence. And, does the type or breed of your pet say something about your personality?

WRONG.. My cousin is a product of that environment that you just described. Mom controlled, dictated and was not a friend. (not even a little) Mom thought she was doing the right thing...Everything she did growing up wasn't good enough, mom was super strict and super tough on her, she had no leeway for fault or mistakes, mom never taught her to believe in herself or her abilities, never taught her faith of anykind.

Take charge yes, hurt thier feelings and be super strict or super controlling? NO!

i am in a somewhat similar situation except with an autistic son and a daughter. i can't just leave them with anybody.