Your actually so wrong, you didnt even score a mark !!!... and boy did I smile when I read your above mentioned lines...if we were only on here looking for sex...appearance and social status...would mean nothing to us......we would just want physical pleasure....SEX !!!!...we wouldnt be "fussy" and we could get a bonk anywhere...there isnt a women alive who doesnt knows if she puts on her push up bra, dons the black stockings and high heels, sprays on some nice perfume and shortens her skirt for the evening and hangs out at the "rite" places..she can get sex whenever and wherever and pretty much with who ever she likes....we all know this... and trust me...there are plenty of genuine sex sites on the web that if she was to "advertise" her wears..she could have a shag within no time...

RobW^^^

The most pathetic sounds in Perth yesterday was Pookie weeping, screaming, cursing and wailing in the last 1.20 minutes of THE game..I live in the quietest st in Australia and trust me EVERY neighbor knows I barrack - (live) for Geelong !!! and if Ablett was pissed..Pookie was distraught...still we lost it in the first quarter when the boys were still apparently on the bus travelling up the Geelong Rd from the Cattery !!!!

Got to hand it to the Saints, they were awesome..however my boys came back mighty fine as well...a draw would have been fitting.....we saw the best two teams yesterday and I believe these two will be there that last Saturday in September !!! oh yeah


On topic.....after yet another weekend (in between football duties) of another great date with a gorgeous man..but guess what ? of course doenst want a relationship cause he works away 6 on, 4 off. !!!!..yep still convinced that..... guys in their 40's still dont want a real relationship.....is there a guy out there to prove me wrong ??................be ideal if your a Cats supporter (Perfect - I dont want much) can endure most teams but Pie supporters need not apply !!!

Yeah I will wager you RobW...name your bet.....oh and a PS...my current photo is like 18 months old... I wouldnt dream of having a real old one up...no point in lying..but I refrain from putting up one of me draped in my over the top Geelong garb...even I admit I look STUPID !! cute..but stupid !!!

The majority of women on this site are looking for sex.

I presume you are talking about "delusional grandeur"..... Which is not a definition of paranoia but, one of it's strange and twisted little spin offs .... personally I would have left well enough alone but, hey.... if the shoe fits....








Delusions are firmly held beliefs that are untrue, not shared by others in the culture, and not easily modifiable.....







Paranoia is a term that describes suspiciousness (or mistrust) that is either highly exaggerated or not warranted at all.....

Post 84??!! ....... I rest my case!

I wouldn't give some people on here the time it takes to type F*** u on the keyboard... So I take my hat off to you pooks for even bothering. I will point out that paranoia is a thought process characterized by excessive anxiety or fear, often to the point of irrationality and delusion. Paranoid thinking typically includes persecutory beliefs concerning a perceived threat towards oneself.

ttt seems you've gone and threatened some with your OP pooks..... nothing like stickin it to em

There is no confusion what so ever on how they are to operate - the Ask A Forums were designed to handle all respondents - as badly as they were implemented and named.

Read >>>>> Ask A Forums - Purpose

With the odd exception - I have little, if any tolerance, and for the most part, of those sewer pits of stupidity. They only breed non adherence of the rules and not what the forums were designed for. For the most part, they serve nothing more than a platform for comic wannabees, agenda trolls, and are poor substitute for the Jerry Springer crowd when their cable get’s cut off.

The rest of the forums can certainly accommodate the same questions without reply limitations - simply ignore the posts you wish and take from the worthwhile replies. You can ask the question of any gender in the other forums AS LONG as no one is directed to not reply - problem solved.

Ok firstly I want to point out that this is not a “woe is me” thread…this is a genuine observation of which I do hope to get a lot of response from our male posters out there and also some great feedback from our lady posters as well…but in order to do so, I must share my own experience.

After almost 18 months of mourning my last relationship (read weeping, wailing, rocking backwards and forwards and making voodoo dolls of HIM,,, oh yeah I’m not bitter, ) with great reluctance and also because I got a good ass kicking by my bestie…I have re-entered the world of dating……..now I’ve had a profile on this site for quite a while, I hoped to have met someone but alas that has not happened…..and in all honesty, I have given up on ever being messaged by someone DECENT…(having said that my g/f just got engaged to her b/f and they met on here so there is always that small smidgen of hope !!!)

On this site I seem to attract 30 and under – I must have that Cougar glint in my eye, or men over 60 who are obviously looking for a nurse, or guys who um ah like um er MARRIED/ATTACHED…..guys do you really think we want to go down that path strewn with broken hearts and promises ???…no sorry, some of us would just like to meet someone nice and maybe build on that …………….ANYWAY

So I ve started dating……I’ve met real men in real life in like real places..I have met men via the internet and thru friends and work ..so my options are open…I’ve yet to met any man doing any of the classes that all the single/lonely hearts psychologists recommend…and I do really want my new guy to salsa better than me ??………………ANYWAY

So I’ve done the “lets meet for drinks” thing..Nope not coffee, I don’t drink it…and I figure I do need a stiff drink to get me thru some of these dates, plus I work and only around at nites, …………….. ….. ANYWAY

Now I want to point out..I’ve actually haven’t had a bad date….all these men have been quite lovely…smart, intelligent, witty, (smell nice) interesting jobs, fascinating stories to tell, so I can honestly say I’ve enjoyed myself and I believe the nite has been reasonably successful and yes I’ve gone to like fourth base with 2 of them- yes home runs have been hit..But I’m a big girl and if I wish to sleep with someone after a first date I can and will (damn those hormones) and I’ve not been sorry…….ANYWAY

But this is what I have noticed………………..the story is all the same…………I’ve been dating guys in my age bracket……in their 40’s and even before we meet and then “ITS” reiterated at the ‘MEET”, that they are not interested in a relationship – unless SOMETHING happens (not sure what that “SOMETIHING ” is. Is it like a world wide warning that a gigantic meteor is on its way to Earth to like wipe us out and therefore we must have a “relationship” , is it like the Biggest Meanest Tsunami ever ????) ..Im not sure what this SOMETHING is….it is yet to be defined…………….but apparently that SOMETHING is not happening to men in their 40’s…so they reiterate that they aren’t after ANY relationship, they just want fun, casual sex etc etc etc….in other words…a bootey call, a Friend with Benefits etc unless SOMETHING happens (whatever that is..)

Ok that’s fine………………..their prerogative….as you chat to these men over endless glasses of bourbon..(an expensive issue when you live in Perth – 9 bucks for bourbon over here) ….these men will tell you about their lives, which includes how much he hates the ex whose ripped him off in the divorce settlement, how pissed he is with CSA agency, how the new blokes in the exes life is a tosser…..etc etc etc

I sit there nodding my head in all appropriate places and then subtly or bluntly as the evening wears on I will be hit upon for sex…………..and yes to a degree it is flattering or is it? I then have like ooo’d and aaahged for like 34 nano seconds to decide if I’m “up for it” or not…ok twice I was…I’m human ok !!! and the rejection of these men, well there is a whole other thread in that but …ANYWAY

Now I tell this story not for sympathy but so you get a feel for what my observation is…am I the only one who is noticing this ?

I’m 44, been married, widowed and no kids. I’m financially secure, I have a career and I’m not bad on the eye, can string more than like 18 words together …so not a total looser!!! (am today in dressed in like trackies and looking like I could give Amy Winehouse a run)

I reckon – my observation - that guys in their 40s are reverting back to when they were in their 20’s and trying to get laid as many times as possible – their last Hurrah before prostate cancer kicks in….to prove something to themselves and their exes (like she gives a toss)….no man APPEARS to really want a relationship (yeah I know I had to look it up in the dictionary too to remind myself what one was too) …they basically just want a Fcuk buddy !! which is fine………….but I ask you then what hope for us girls ? Do we like just not “date” for like another 6 years or so and then hold our breathe cause the guy that we liked NOW wants a RELATIONSHIP ?

Guys in their 30’s well I’m not going there…and guys in their 50’s – getting in to their 60’s they appear to want a relationship but its gonna involve a woman in their 40’s more than likely nursing them as the years go on (statically speaking guys….you are far more likely to get sick at these ages, than we are) so these guys in their age range appear quite happy to commit (read – stay over on a Sat nite) than their counterparts in their 40’s

Am I being jaded and cynical ?……………………..could it just be I’m meeting all the wrong guys alas…..their common denominator (apart from me) is that there in their 40’s, but I’ve “dated” from all social backgrounds and different careers etc…..or I am more than happy to admit……that indeed it could just be me (however real life besties and women in the same age brackets assure me its not) …ANYWAY

So I’m not asking for comments on my own experience….I wrote that so you could understand why I now pose this question.

Do Men in their 40’s REALLY want a RELATIONSHIP? …..you know…a RELATIONSHIP ?

Or do you just want to play tiddly winks for a couple of years and then we can like check back with them when their like 55 and we can take it from there ? and yes guys out there, I know it’s a broad question and I’m sure not ALL of you think like that…however where is that one, that doesn’t ?

Please posters ..be grateful if you address the actual question……………..I’m already facing self esteem issues….don’t need you to reinforce that there is no hope for me…..I already know this as I chose to stay home last Sat nite and watch a MJ special rather than face another nite/ followed by a Sunday of “will he, wont he call/sms/email me?”

Cheers

Pookie

While we do get some men that post in there just to give the OP a hard time or to do some women bashing, the men that post in there regularly, with sincere answers, are very welcomed responders for a couple of reasons.

A majority of the questions asked are not gender specific and are geared more towards just getting some attention from women.

Some of the questions are actually more suited for men to answer but there is not a GAG (guy ask guy) forum.

Some of the questions need some good brotherly advice from another man who has walked in the same shoes as the OP.

Some of the questions actually need answers that help them with “tricks of the trade” which only another man can give… ie: things that have works for them in the dating world.

Sometimes the men that post can help dispel myths or generalities made by the OP regarding dealings with women…women can try doing this but then we look like we are all members of the secret girls club and are only defending our gender.

And the list goes on…. perhaps after you have spent some more time in these forums you will see how valuable the advice is from SOME of our regular men posters in AAGirl.

I regularly see the OP thanking a male poster for responding b/c HIS advice made a lot of sense as another male.

I think you will also see that if it is a question that is REALLY geared specifically to the need of female responses the men stay clear.

AND, the regular men posters in AAGuy feel the same about the women posting in "their" spot.

If that were the law of the land, there would be more illegal abortions - and suicides.

As for the inequity between men and women in choosing whether to continue a pregnancy (men have no rights), I'll repeat what I've said elsewhere: men should donate to a sperm bank and have a vasectomy. Only then can men fully control their own reproductive choices.

wow... volatile. ive seen that statement similar to that before. ive actually gotten in a physical fight with a couple of protesters because i pulled in the wrong parking lot and got my truck surrounded by a bunch of people yelling and hitting my truck with that sign.

i cant stop a woman from doing what she wants with her body. even if i could i wouldn't. and i dont think its really anyone's business if thats what she chooses ... i think its already been said ..consent to sex is not consent to parenthood..

Somehow, I found a thread started back in 2005. The topic was interesting to me, so I read on. I evetually came to a post which stated the following.

"No abortion, No adoption! You've made your bed..."

This really got my attention. I don't get it. Maybe some friends here can help me understand why someone would feel that both abortion and adoption are wrong and that a woman must raise a child from an unplanned pregnancy.

It seems to me that someone not ready to be a parent, not ready to give it their all should not be "forced" or even coerced into parenthood. I know there are others among you who feel differently. Could you please explain this to me?

For all you posters out there - if you were aborted - from your Mother's womb as a fetus you would not be here right now in this moment on a Fourm site - think about it

perhaps but likewise those same people that say it's only a child when it leaves the womb are the ones killing the children inside their own. so why is it ok now? because not calling it a child doesn't mean they have to feel bad about what they are doing. hopefully all those that do realize their mistakes whilst they are burning in hell

Do you mean men who want their partner to have an abortion? Are we talking about suicide? Not trying to be obtuse, just not following.

OP i totally agree with no abortion no adoption. i have 2 wonderful children and i was adopted. and i don't care what any person anywhere says under any circumstances abortion is wrong. i will never associate with a woman that had one much less date or marry, that just shows immaturity as does adoption, because eventually that child will wonder why mommy and daddy didn't want them which leads to years of therapy, trust me i've lived through it. i say if you wanna have kids you keep your kids and if you don't wanna have them dont have sex. simple as that

Rape victims? out of my experience, thank God. It's impossible for me to know and I have only compassion for their experience and recovery.

You can advertise what you think a man you would want would want from you. What kind of man do you want? What kind of woman does he want? What does he look for? Your question doesn't say what kind of man you want to attract, so there's no way to answer it. I could tell you how to attract a man if you could tell me what kind of man you wanted to attract.

Damn this is so hard. I have been on this site for a week now and I am having a hard time. Ive never had to go to a singles site before, but I am new to the area and I dont know allot of people here. So here I am on p.0.f.

I was curous to how other women were presenting themselfs so I looked and most of you girls are wearing low cut blouses and sexy outfits. ... I dont have a problem with women doing that on their profiles ,but for me. I am keeping it real for me. I do dress sexy but for my man which I dont have at this time.

The question is and this is for the men.

Are you more likely to read a profile if a woman is wearing a provactive outfit? Also how do you let a man know you are a sexual person... without showing it visually... and maintaning class. When you look at sexy pictures then profiles are you thinking relationship material or fling?

Well, I am not saying I want a man, since I am STRAIGHT. I want a woman who has the things I have- my status, education, quality of life, similiar type of profession, physical condition, etc. Why is it so HARD to find that woman?

This might sound NOT nice, but let's get realistic. I (or ALL of us) work hard to achieve what we have. I also noticed that lots of people here want a LOT from their dates/boy-girl friends/future spouses. You might all deny but deep down, you do NOT want to settle down for anything.

So, I don't think it is wrong for me to ask my girl to have the similar values and even qualities I have.

Here is what I have:
I am single, never been married.
I have NO kids.
I have a master's degree.
I have a profession.
I am at least average or slightly above average looking.
I am in good shape.

These are only SIX qualities.
I am very frustrated to have found out that it is extremely hard to find someone with those SIX.

At this point, I am sure I made ALL SINGLE DADS and MOMS FURIOUS. Don't be offended. Don't take it personally. I did not say anything negative about YOU. I just want someone who is like me.

I tried hard to reach where I am now. I fought hard the temptations to lead a "decent" life, waiting for someone who has done the same or at least similar.

Now, I am about to give up. brndn

Uhh, there are no more Persian men, cuz there is no more Persia. It's Iran, and has been Iran for quite a while. The folks from there are Iranians, all of 'em.

Alright ladies & gentleman I have a question for all of you. I watched an episode of
"How I Met Your Mother" a couple of weeks ago where they claim that if you are out on a date with someone that you know does not find you attractive or interesting at all, and if you for some reason get invited back to their place, and if the oportunity arises (she or he walks out of the room) you quickly strip down to your birthday suit and await his or her return to a naked person in their living room. Apparently the person coming back in the room to find the naked person can do one of two things... kick you out or Laugh and have sex. The T.V. show claimed that it worked 2 out of 3 times.... Now I realize that it is T.V., and that T.V. world does things that do not happen in real life. Now I have never had a problem with women myself, what it is I am wondering is how many people would sleep with someone that had the courage to do this? I honestly think I would respect their courage... and I probably would. Anyone else? What would you do if faced with a naked person in your living room?

Yes I have. After time I grew to love all of his facial flaws. Flaws make each people unique.