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sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

Msg: 286 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 6/15/2009 10:11:33 AM
To all of you that have lost a loved one my heart and prayers go out to you. I lost my first husband suddenly and unexpectedly to an accident when we were in our 20's. I had never experienced the loss of a loved one and it isn't something you think about when you are young, so it was hard for me to accept and understand. I can tell you, you NEVER forget that person and you shouldn't try to. No ONE will ever take their place and they shouldn't have to try to compete with a ghost, (an ex, a past love.) In time it does get easier and each person heals in their own time. Although you might not think so at the time, honestly if you are willing, you can open up your heart and let another person in. If you do chose to allow yourself to love another, love this person for their wonderful and unique qualities. Never try to compare.

sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

Msg: 38 (view)

Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age? Posted: 6/15/2009 9:58:09 AM
I tend to agree with RanRan's philosophy. What we once (younger years) thought was "love at first sight" was sheer animal magnatism, a strong physical attraction, and lust. Can it still happen at our age? Oh heck yeah. I saw this hot dude in tight jeans last week and had to do a double take...... rofl. Well you get the idea. It can happen at any age!

sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

Msg: 154 (view)

Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles Posted: 6/15/2009 9:49:28 AM
Personally I wouldn't put that statement on my profile but then I don't expect a meal on a "first "meet. I prefer to meet someone for coffee, ice tea, or a drink and converse to see if there is any chemistry or we mutually agree we would like to get together again. At that point we both come up with a plan/date that works for both of us. I have had a guy ask if I wanted to get a bite to eat on a first meet if things were going well. In that case I always offer to pay for my meal, and I have NEVER had a guy accept my money. You meet all kinds on here, men and women both. I consider myself fortunate as I have met some really awesome and sweet guys. ;-)

sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

Msg: 16 (view)

the nice guy. Posted: 6/14/2009 8:08:56 PM
Not all women go for the "bad boys." At least not for a long term relationship. They are like Disneyland. Nice to look at (perhaps,) and even fun to day dream or fantasize about, but as far as a long term relationship goes, give me a nice guy. I won't settle for anything less. ;-)

sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

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when you think you found the right one Posted: 6/14/2009 7:53:08 PM
Hi Suny and Tommygirl. I am so sorry that this has happened to both of you. I think it has happened to a good many of us who have tried our hand at these dating sites for any length of time. I have tried for the life of me to figure it out and have never come up with any good or logical answer. I think one problem that I have is that I am geographically undesirable. I live in a small town, 40 miles from CDA or Spokane. Most of the singles from my area are from both of those two towns. There are so many singles on here and the fishing has got to be good in those two areas and the two aren't that far apart from each other, so my guess is they eventualy find someone who lives a lot closer. Let's face it, when you want to go out to dinner or dancing on a Friday or Saturday night, most do not want to drive 40-50 miles. I agree, it would be nice if these guys would have told you the reason, but not all guys play fair or nice (and it is not gender specific.) I have had guys tell me that women have done this to them. I am starting to realize that guys are more interested in dating and making new friends, where women tend to be looking for long term relationships and something more serious. I guess it all comes down to the known fact, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus and we do not think alike. If either of you has read that book it explains this pretty well. A lot of men will run, not walk in the opposite direction when they feel things are getting too serious. I wish you both the best and good luck to both of you ladies. Eventually you will find the right guy. You are both wonderful, sensitive ladies with a lot to give. It was their loss. ;-)

sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

The Northern Panhandle Posted: 6/14/2009 7:36:16 PM
I love that everyone has jumped in here and given their thoughts and opinions on single live in Idaho in general. Perhaps you are exactly right. People might be leave me alone and I will leave you alone, in their thinking. You have to remember that I am from California and meeting singles wasn't a difficult thing to do. Everyone is very outgoing and very few are shy.... especially if they see something they like, lol. It seems that us Idaho singles are spread all over the state. We have people posting from the north, the south and in between. Planning a get together might not be such an easy thing after all, but sharing our ideas and plans is pretty cool. I like the gals spunk who says she is going camping by herself this year. I hope she does it. I got out my golf bag and decided to dust them off. I am going to get back in to the game. It was a great way to get some sun, exercise and meet nice people. Now if I can just remember how to hit the ball, lol. The point is, I have come to realize that love, friendship, people will not come knocking at your door. You have to get out and about and mingle. Thank goodness summer (well maybe? Hard to tell from day to day) is finally here. We can lose the cabin fever and go have some FUN!

sumeraine4u

Joined: 5/11/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

Profile review needed! Whats wrong? Posted: 6/14/2009 7:24:20 PM
I reviewed your profile and the first thing I thought was this guy is a "super jock!" You are fit, athletic, outgoing, and love anything to do with sports, winter/summer activities, and this isn't a bad thing. Like the others have mentioned the types of gals that you will attract are girls who also are into sports and physical activities. I am sure there are plenty out there but they are just harder to find. As for women checking you out but not sending you a note? I have also had several who have looked at me and not sent an introduction. I think people are basically curious and like to check people out and see what we've said on our profiles. It doesn't mean that they are interested, it's more like window shopping, lol. I do think one draw back about the profile pics when you are searching is that the pictures are so small and no age/location appears so you click on it and find yourself looking at a 28 year old or someone 20 years your junior or senior. Plenty of Fish really should fix that. It's happened to me a few times and I think to myself.... I wonder what they think! Yikes.

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