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hyoid

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What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/23/2009 11:56:50 AM
The upside of being over 50 and single is the bad things about being over 50 and single don't seem quite as bad.

hyoid

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To ask her or not to ask her Posted: 11/20/2009 11:28:10 AM
If you're close to her, to the extent where you knew the progress of her relationship with her ex-boyfriend, then wait for a definitive indication. If your relationship has to this point been casual, meaning talk about school, the weather and such, then her making a point of telling YOU about the breakup IS a definitive indication. Ask her out.

hyoid

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Anyone had to subject a child 6 or older to surgery? Posted: 11/20/2009 6:44:21 AM
Kids this age are very astute. Since surgery is the last or only resort for fixing a serious problem (one THEY are suffering from), they will usually be enthusiastic about the procedure. If you focus on your hopes for the improvement rather than your fears about complications, they'll be OK. My older son spent close to a year on antibiotics because of re-current strep throat. Finally the pediatrician said the tonsils have to go. My kid was so tired of the sore throat and side effects from the meds that he said "Let's do it right NOW!"

hyoid

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/19/2009 9:16:35 AM
I don't think I've changed with age but the age has changed with age. Formerly, many (most?) had as much commitment to the commitment as they did to the person. Marriage vows were as much or more promises to God and the cultural standard. Family ties, fraternal associations, neighbors were bound by scripture and custom. Breaking them was, personally and socially, a sign of lost integrity, weakness, deficiency. The only constant is change. Adults know that things will be different in the future. When change discomfits one of the parties and the other trivializes or ignores the impact of the change, without trying to ameliorate, compensate or sympathize, then the relationshipship is weakened or broken. All that remains is commitment to the committment. A generalized pledge. If this is strong due to common faith or socialization, the relationship can endure though the point may be lost on observers. So I'd have to say it is for most, unique.

hyoid

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Do ANY Men Read Profiles (First or at all?) Posted: 11/19/2009 8:35:26 AM
I've messaged few women here. If someone's photo catches my eye or a post my attention, I will skim the profile for its humor and distinct personality. If it shows either, I'll read it thoroughly. If it consists of "My friends say I'm....; My favorite shows are....; I'm tired of ...." I just back out.

hyoid

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How do I ask a man out? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:27:08 AM
Have a conversation with him. Find out if he shares interests with you or has an interest you're curious about. If not there's no reason to pursue him anyway. (Well, maybe ONE reason but the blunt approach works best then. eg "I want to **** you.") Ask him where or when he engages in that interest. When he gives you the recommendation, say "I'd like to go there/do that. When can I pick you up?" or "When should we meet?" .

hyoid

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 11/18/2009 11:25:07 AM
I still have (and use at work) my TI-25!!!! Did that model still blank the display after 20 seconds to keep from draining the batteries? Those LEDs were so bright you could have read the display standing on the sun. I went to the Consumer Electronics Show in chicago in 1978 as a rep for the store I worked at. At a demo for digital audio, the salesman smeared Crisco shortening on a disc, then played it and said "Try that with an LP record!" Some buyer in the crowd asked (seriously) "Do the discs come with the Crisco or do you have to buy it seperately?"

hyoid

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Free speach......... just how far does the right to free speach reach...... Posted: 11/18/2009 5:44:17 AM
How about you explain it to me. As if he needed encouragement.

hyoid

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Selling Human Beings on the Intergalactic Space Market Posted: 11/18/2009 5:38:55 AM
what marketing message would you stamp on the box as the selling point? "Best if purchased by 01/01/1800"

hyoid

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 11/17/2009 6:45:48 AM
You remember envying the rich kid in junior high as he showed off his brand new TI-2500 pocket calculator-the one that ran for about 15 minutes on 4 AA batteries. You remember getting home from school to find mom watching the only show she watched all day-this new quiz show called Jeopardy. In your first programming class you remember feeling Oh-So-Superior to the data processing students who stored their programs on punch cards while you used the much more modern punch tape. When home NFL games were blacked out regardless of whether they were sold out or not. When an auto tune-up meant plugs, points and condenser.

hyoid

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independent women fall the hardest Posted: 11/16/2009 8:17:58 AM
Everyone is independent to the extent required for survival. Even a parasite has independence in its choice of a host. "CAPABLY SELF-DIRECTED" might be a more descriptive term for those who excel in the planning and execution of their lives but I think Oprah or Dr Phil would need to lend their influence to get it into the lexicon. The thing about falling is it's un-anticipated and uncontrolled. (gymnasts and stunt people are special cases we can safely ignore). You fall in love like you fall off a cliff. Attachment comes before analysis. "I never saw it coming." So a person accustomed to mastery of their own domain (insert Seinfeld aside here) will likely incorporate the plummet into the overall plan. The CAPABLY SELF-DIRECTED might suffer more if the fall ends in rapid deceleration. But by their nature, they're better suited to re-assembling the fragments and moving on. They'll probably stay a few steps further from the cliff face in the future.

hyoid

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Cinderella..But.wheres my prince Posted: 11/12/2009 10:59:52 AM
Remember those 9 other dates? The ones where you had no interest in pursuing it further? You were the interesting guy's 8th date. Bad timing. It wasn't bad to try fanning the flames with a call and e-mail. But it's now pointless to continue after his unequivocal response.

hyoid

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Found a man made tool, artifact Posted: 11/12/2009 9:29:56 AM
Unless you can prove the provenance, it has little archeological value. It's location and the circumstance of where it was found is far more important than another example of well understood stone working. If you can get someone to buy it, more power to you. Personally, I'd keep it. But I'm strange that way-I have chunks of interesting (to me) minerals and fossils lying around my house.

hyoid

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How front page is science? Posted: 11/10/2009 11:54:57 AM
over here ... probably the most popular science show is Myth Busters. its done by two special effects technicians and they test popular myths. As a basic demonstration of science, Mythbusters is pretty good. One I recently saw tested the efficacy of dimples (like on a golf ball) toward reducing aerodynamic drag. But they did it in a visually stimulating way, covering an automobile in modeling clay, getting a base line for fuel mileage, then cutting dimples into the clay and driving the same course. There was a 10% increase in mileage with the dimples. As a first step, it's a pretty good experiment. Now true science would pursue these counter-intuitive results to the root cause and define the physical phenomena responsible. But that would entail some pretty boring, mundane laboratory work. And that's the nature of science-it's a process used to discover facts. The facts themselves may be amazing but the process generally is not.

hyoid

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Why lunch or dinner? Posted: 11/9/2009 11:34:56 AM
'Cause if you go for breakfast, all the waitresses think you've already slept together. Especially if you dress up for it. Nothin says overnighter better than tux or ballgown and pancakes.

hyoid

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The dumbing down of society and its impact on children and public mindset towards intelligence Posted: 11/9/2009 8:54:43 AM
We are all dumbed down. 15,000 years ago any adult human would have known how to feed and clothe himself from the land. How to braid a line and set snares, find edible roots, construct a seep, skin an animal and tan the hide, to make the stone or wood or bone tool to achieve a task. The mark of civilization is specialization. So why is it dumb to utilize the specialists that have grown up in the human ecology around you? Perhaps it is shortsighted, but only from a perspective that encompasses a future one is unlikely to see. Humans have been gambling on civilization since they planted the first field. So far, it's a pretty good bet. Actively seeking out talent, and developing it should be the main priority of schooling. But simply getting the "dumbed down" version of an education seems to have taken root. This just produces another generation of specialists. It's the individuals who have the personal drive to persist against conventional wisdom that produce the sea changes in the human ecology. Galileo or Edison or Einstein or the Wrights are remembered because their "manias" drove them in the direction of truth. But lots of people have died still trying to perfect perpetual motion.

hyoid

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Could the Large Hadron Collider be held back by its own future? Posted: 11/9/2009 8:07:54 AM
LHC "bird-bread" strike From CERN, Nov. 6, 2009 On Tuesday, Nov. 3, a bird carrying a baguette bread caused a short circuit in an electrical outdoor installation that serves sectors 7-8 and 8-1 of the LHC. The knock-on effects included an interruption to the operation of the LHC cryogenics system. The bird escaped unharmed but lost its bread. Funny, but not too unusual for a facility this size. At Fermilab we've had similar failures caused by snakes, mice, raccoons, squirrels, birds, coyotes and sadly, humans. Never by a baguette, though.

hyoid

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Isn't the LHC like a capasitor? Posted: 11/9/2009 8:01:36 AM
The electromagnets that store the beams are necessary to bend the beams into a circle. The magnetic field strength necessary to keep the radius of bending reasonable (about 8.5 km) means superconducting magnets are required. This also greatly reduces electrical losses but at the cost of tremendous refrigeration bills to provide the 100 tons or so of liquid helium necessary to keep 1600 magnets at 1.9 K. The total electrical charge of the beams is miniscule; less than 100 micro-Coulomb. High field storage of electrical charge will only become cost effective if room temperature superconductors are developed. Even the liquid nitrogen (hi temperature) superconductors now available are far too costly( to operate) for this application.

hyoid

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What are your favourite sayings? Posted: 11/6/2009 1:15:08 PM
I'm gonna let you go with a warning.

hyoid

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Proof of Darwin as a regular scientist Posted: 11/6/2009 10:25:39 AM
Of course 'imaginary' numbers do not exist... A retard could figure that out. i has exactly the reality that 1 has.

hyoid

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Could he be? Posted: 11/5/2009 7:24:39 AM
But, the question is that he seems much more interested than just a friendship. I have only seen him once since our first meeting, and he didn't make a move or anything, but his phone calls, messages and emails indicate otherwise (almost daily). He makes the time to call or email. In my experience, a man's actions speak louder than words. A man only makes the time if he is interested. I guess I am a bit confused and wonder if he could be subtley courting me? or does he truly want to be a friend? If you truly believe "actions speak louder than words" , you'll weigh the bold (actions) against the italics (words) in the above quote and have the answer you already know.

hyoid

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How can you prove soul exists after death? Posted: 11/5/2009 6:12:47 AM
Define it. Locate one and tag it. Detect it again after death. The details I leave up to you as an exercise. Don't forget, quiz on Friday.

hyoid

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CERN/LHC starting up soon Posted: 11/5/2009 6:08:11 AM
My research is on neutrino oscillations, another exciting window of opportunity to expand the Standard Model and to uncover new physics previously not seen. If you're going up to Soudan, tell 'em I want my UPS back.

hyoid

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What's the point? Posted: 11/4/2009 12:44:48 PM
Despite all the badly done psychoanalyses done so far (which reveal more about the analysts than the subject), I'll have a go: I think it's a pose to get your attention, to stand out. Rather than blend into the army of guys who will claim (perhaps truthfully) to match your likes and dislikes to 5 decimal places. And I think it worked- you DID post a thread about him. His goal MAY have been only to get you into the sack, like most of that army. You can't say he's been less successful than them. He may have overplayed his hand with the " loser" comment, though.

hyoid

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Mention of having been hurt/cheated on in profiles Posted: 11/4/2009 9:52:20 AM
"I have been hurt before", "I always get cheated on", or "I don't want a cheater". 1 means I have been hurt-RECENTLY 2 means she commits emotionally very quickly-could be an easy lay. 3 is a kind of unconsidered protection mantra, like crossing your fingers and whispering "miss it!" when the opponents are attempting a field goal; baldly stating the obvious shows a lack of critical self awareness.

hyoid

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if you are involved with this man for 5 years and then not Posted: 11/4/2009 9:27:57 AM
do those kisses represent something like love.... It's clear that you're hoping so.

hyoid

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why hard boiled eggs shells stick! Posted: 11/3/2009 12:15:37 PM
fill pot with water, bring to boil. Enter garden, pick corn, shuck. Place corn in pot, when water again boils, turn off heat, let stand for a few minutes. I had an uncle who was very particular about his sweet corn. His method was similar to this except he only allowed 1 minute after removing from the heat. Oh yeah. He also required us to RUN from the corn patch to the house. "If you drop any corn, don't bother stopping to pick it up. It's already stale." Weird, but as a kid, it was fun to have the grown-ups urging us on-"Hurry Up! That sugar's turning to starch!" I do remember it as tasting better than it does now. But memory makes a pretty good sauce.

hyoid

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The conciousness of water. Posted: 11/2/2009 9:28:05 AM
The inefficiency of electrolysis of water to H and O yields a different benefit-portability. You wouldn't have to carry around the oxidizer, since that's available from the atmosphere. Hydrogen has three times the energy as an equal mass of gasoline. But less than 3/10,000 the energy of an equal volume of gasoline. So storage and dispensing are huge issues. You'd have to store hydrogen at around 50,000 psi to get the energy of a similar sized gas tank. My guess is this tank would weigh many thousands of lbs. Even if the mechanical design of this tank could be assured during an automobile crash, the reactivity of hydrogen at these incredible pressures might well destroy its integrity just sitting in the garage.

hyoid

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Hockey-Changing the shoot-out. Posted: 11/2/2009 8:11:00 AM
I am a big fan of the change to the 5 minute, 5x5 overtime. But it seems half the or more of the games still go to the shoot-out. What if they added additional overtimes with decreasing players to decide the game for a true win/loss. No team point for an overtime loss unless it ends up as a shootout. Say 4 minutes of 4x4, then 3 minutes of 3x3, 2 minutes @ 2x2. No line changes or substitutions after 4x4 except for injury (both teams could substitute 1 player when an injury occurs). The individual skills that get blunted by packing the defensive zone could shine again. Think of the advantage of a good skating goalie.

hyoid

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How would a post MLB World series, WORLDS SERIES be/sound like?? Posted: 11/2/2009 7:50:37 AM
The World Series is a name, not a descriptor. It dates from a time before peculiar cultural affinities allowed baseball to take root in Japan, Venezuela, Taiwan, etc. Like the Super Bowl. Doesn't mean every game is super. Or the Olympics. It hasn't been held at Olympia for millenia. Since MLB has by far the largest and most varied international representation of the 4 US major sports, you could argue that it already is a world series. Almost 30% of players in the bigs and 50% of minor leaguers were born outside the US.

hyoid

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This Week In Baseball Posted: 11/2/2009 6:56:55 AM
Now why was A-rod hit three times by the Philly pitchers in the last two games? I haven't watched every minute of the post season but from what I did see, A Rod was putting outside strikes into the bleachers. Hence, pitch him inside.

hyoid

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Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys? Posted: 11/2/2009 6:31:06 AM
re: The title's assertion-If true, it means the woman is willing to give love in return for love. Perhaps not the worst bargain to be made and more than likely, the the basis for most relationships through history. "If you can't be with the one you love, honey Love the one you're with." In this era of intercontinental browsing, without pre-arranged marriages, this type of pursuit is unlikely to be employed. In either case it requires the persuer to know more of the target's desire than the target. The persuer has to know that his/her virtues are well enough suited to the target's desire that they will erode or override the initial disaffection. Not impossible, but not very likely, either.

hyoid

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Proof of Darwin as a regular scientist Posted: 10/30/2009 1:52:06 PM
Actually, I think Charles Darwin was exceptional as a scientist and a human. He delayed publication of his thesis for 20 years because he knew the pain it would cause his 3 primary mentors, all advocates of the biblical creation . When A R Wallace sent the note that indicated Wallace also saw evolution, Darwin had Wallace' and his results presented jointly, even though Darwin's had precedence by those 20 years. Darwin never glossed over the gaps in his theory. When he didn't know, he said so. "Darwinism" has its usage: evolution as a word has a number of valid applications. Darwinism specifically describes the evolution of biological species through natural selection. It's true that using his name as shorthand for the full description of his theory can serve to obscure the universality of the theory ie "It's just one man's opinion !" But the weight of the evidence from every quarter of science continues to fall on the side of evolution. The opposition seems destined to the intellectual equivalent of sticking their fingers in their ears and going "NYAH-NYAH-NYAH-Can't hear you!"

hyoid

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Any Bengals fans out there?? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:36:00 AM
I was a big fan last Sunday- but only because they were beating the bears. My next concern will be when they play the Vikings, again rooting for the orange and black. After that, I'll be hoping for them to lose the superbowl to the Packers. SteelCity-I can't believe how weak the Browns look. They couldn't even get ONE sack against the Packers, who were on a pace to set the record for most allowed in a season. Can't pass, can't run, can't defend either. Maybe their punt returns are good but they'd have to force some to find out.

hyoid

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Great dates end bad Posted: 10/28/2009 10:33:38 AM
Did your last vacation to an exotic tropical locale end badly because you had to return home? It sounds to me like your great dates ended just fine. They just didn't progress to fulfill your expectations. The way to avoid this in the future is to either: Lower your expectations or: Inform them that THIS date is the beginning of a long and fruitful relationship. It won't increase the liklihood of it being true but then it will be a bad date that ends badly. Much less cognitive dissonance that way.

hyoid

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Is this a date or a job interview? Posted: 10/26/2009 1:45:01 PM
The people that go on about their history, experiences, knowledge, education, etc that made them who they are today are putting the cart before the horse. As are those who ask their dates for this information. Kind of like choosing or rejecting a house based on the bill of materials. If my date thinks the same about something I thought was funny or clever or insightful AND had a killer response, then her pedigree , whatever it is, points to something perhaps compatible. There's time enough to reject each other later, as long as a good time is had by both.

hyoid

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This seems to be an on-line version of a bar. Posted: 10/26/2009 12:15:25 PM
This seems to be an on-line version of a bar. Smells better, though.

hyoid

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Men over 45 who dye their hair Posted: 10/22/2009 1:02:00 PM
Vanity comes in a variety of guises. I have only 1 or 2 gray hairs, though they don't stand out much from the mouse brown normal hairs. Beginning in my mid 30's, I got a kind of 5th column attack on my hairline-the stuff in front still grew but a stripe behind it began to thin out. It's nearly bald now. The haircut I had (for about 20 years) and the way my hair falls naturally hid the void for the most part. I'm 6'3" so not many people look down at my head. Then one night an acquaintance of mine, passing while I was seated, said "The come-over isn't working." Next time at the barber, she asked " Do you want me to leave the hair behind the stripe a little longer?" I said "No. In fact, get out your clippers . I'll go #1 on the sides and #2 on the top." I'm not pleased to be balding but horrified to be thought of as a come-over guy.

hyoid

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im in love with a guy should i tell him Posted: 10/22/2009 9:18:59 AM
ive apologized to him hundreds of times, If, after all this, he still walks out of the room you're in there is no chance of reconciliation. One apology would have been sufficient IF he was inclined to re-establish the relationship. It's past time to let it go.

hyoid

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The 09/10 Arts Season- Opera and Symphony Posted: 10/22/2009 6:39:36 AM
As a former low brass player, I would really enjoy Wagner's opera if it wasn't for all that singing. Seriously, although the symphony and the opera are both "events", the spectacle of a staged opera is what places it ahead of the others as a live performance. You can read a play but seeing it performed is an entirely different experience. The live symphony performance isn't too different from recordings of the same conductor/orchestra. Unless the symphony program had pieces I wouldn't be able to find recorded, I'd stick with the opera. In chicago, seats on the glass for the AHL Wolves are less than 1/3 the price of NHL Blackhawk tickets 11 rows up. But the difference in the quality of play is immediately apparent. Walk-up tickets is always my choice for the minor leagues.

hyoid

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Michael Jackson died in 1984 Posted: 10/16/2009 1:54:14 PM
"All famous people have doubles in the ready " It's true! For example, I was the double for Hans Bethe AND Bob's Big Boy. I'm scheduled to double for Glenn Close but it looks like she may outlive me.

hyoid

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Michael Jackson died in 1984 Posted: 10/16/2009 1:23:23 PM
OP- You need to be careful of how many irrational positions you promote. Soon, you won't be able to do any of them justice. Then people will think you're just nuts.

hyoid

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Men and Women spending time with their exclusive Friends Posted: 10/16/2009 10:25:32 AM
Using your numbers for work commitments and an equal period for sleep there still remains 56 waking hours in a week. That's 32 hours on the weekend and almost 5 hours per weekday. I would think one could indulge almost any number of hobbies and still devote 3 hours every day to one's partner. If that amount is not forthcoming or is insufficient for one, their needs are are not compatible.

hyoid

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no pic...send one ..no response Posted: 10/16/2009 9:45:29 AM
I'm told I am an attractive person, Unless you've been told this by someone with whom you share a mutual dislike, I'd treat it as more of a supportive statement than a descriptive one.

hyoid

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Lovers with benefits. Posted: 10/16/2009 9:36:34 AM
Rather than hijack another thread, I want to pose one of the assumptions in it as a question. they(mature partners) recognize the benefits of having a partner in life When young, a partner is necessary to at least begin the next generation. But by age 45, that task is largely completed. So what ARE the benefits of a (mature) partner? Beyond the mutual satisfaction of primal urges, what will your partner provide that you don't want/can't get from others? Someone to warm your feet on cold nights? Someone to chop the onions? Is it validation of your feelings by someone that laughs or cries at the same things you do? Is it even definable by anything beyond "I feel better with than without them"?

hyoid

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These beautiful fall leaves ... I want to make them worthwhile Posted: 10/13/2009 1:53:52 PM
Not that removing the leaves would accomplish it but why do you want to sanitize your lawn? Put 'em in a chicken wire cage and let them breakdown back to their components. Spread the residue around your trees to get the nutrients back into the cycle the trees evolved to exploit.

hyoid

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Book false starts Posted: 10/10/2009 12:03:40 PM
Read something that interests you, not something that you think will make you seem intellectual on POF forums....Just a thought,,,,,, Not much of one but thanks all the same. I try them because they do interest me. Their longevity in print, the reputations of the authors and their other works, spur my curiosity. But they're difficult. There are many things I've learned and mastered that were difficult at the beginning. Some I puzzled out on my own but for most I asked for help. I can't say "Stick with the easy stuff" has been particularly useful advice.

hyoid

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Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/7/2009 2:10:22 PM
Sarcasm IS criticism. If your sense of humor is dominated by sarcasm you are either a) generally serious around people you don't know or b) oblivious/self indulgent/mean spirited. Meaning a) you try to learn something of another's sensitivities before choosing this mode of criticism or b) you don't know/don't care/hope that the barbs you throw can penetrate deeply. Years ago I played 16" softball, common around Chicago, less so elsewhere. Also called knuckle-buster, because it's played bare-handed or mush-pounder, since the ball ends up resembling a sack of millet by the end of 7 innings (even though it starts out as hard as a 12" ball). We had a player on our team with an unusually strong upper body. He could age the ball 7 innings with one swing. But he may have been the slowest creature on 2 legs. So on his not infrequent home run trots, we (his teammates) would sling our good natured barbs his way: "How're the new prosthetics working for ya?" "Hey Dave -We're going for a beer. Call us when you're safe." "Dave-okay if they re-seed the outfield?" Until he blew up one day. "Eff you guys!" He knew he was slow. He was embarrassed to get thrown out at first by the center fielder. He'd run faster if he could. "Aww, man. You know we love you!" Yeah. But I hate that shit. He apologized at the bar for going off on us. And we cut out the sarcasm (about his speed, anyway).

hyoid

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thin, we can't win! Posted: 10/7/2009 9:04:09 AM
The only men over 40 I know with this type of body have: a) recently survived some sort of medical crisis. b) a severe chemical dependency c) plans to finish at least 6 marathons/ year with reasonable hopes of winning their age group. If you're serious about finding someone, you'd best hang around rehabilitation centers, detox hospitals or finish lines.

hyoid

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Does anyone else appreciate Classical music Posted: 10/7/2009 7:05:53 AM
Do you ever listen to classical guitar? Check out anything in the catalog for Manuel Barrueco. Except for a Beatles title-that's dross. The man's facility with 6 strings is nothing short of astounding. He hasn't recorded much baroque/pre-classical music and his playing has become more romantic (more rubato and dynamic) so he's not likely to go back to that more mechanical style. I have recent cds where he reprises Giuliani and Albeniz pieces he recorded in the 70's. I thought the earlier versions were the best I'd ever heard. But he surpassed them.

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