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alwaysexpectmiracles

Joined: 5/14/2009

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pre nups Posted: 11/26/2009 8:24:16 AM
I don't think prenups are wrong. There is no reason to not write it down on paper what seems fair to them at the time when everything is perfect. You can view it as how much money each one is getting. But you can also view is as how much responsibility each party is taking. While there may be not much point in a prenup for those who have simple lives, it may make a lot of sence for those who's financial situation is complex. For example, I was dating a guy who had a debt over a million dollars. He said he made some mistakes in the past. Well... I don't want to share that if we were to get married and then divorced 2 years later. FWB is not right or wrong. It a choise that says "I wish we both take no responsibility whatsoever".

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Text message? Posted: 11/26/2009 8:08:21 AM
I'd say 5 hours is not a big deal, assuming that there is nothing urgent in your message. I don't look at my phone when I'm at work. I don't look at my phone if I'm doing something fun on vacation. Say if i went surfing or skiing. But several days - that's too long.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Asking a girl out from class Posted: 11/26/2009 8:02:51 AM
Try not to think of it as a big deal. Ask her out for coffee already. It doesn't matter when - after class or on a weekend. Aks her after class. But if it turns out she's busy ask her how about weekend. You can keep over-thinking it and trying to make it pefect while some other guy could imperfectly ask her out and succeed.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Ex Girlfriends as friends? Posted: 11/25/2009 8:29:46 PM
Hanging out with your ex every now and then is less of a problem than continuing to view yourself as a father figure to her daughter. No need to confuse the child. You think you are doing a great thing for her, but actually you are sending "father always leaves me" message to her.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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questions from a heart in pain Posted: 11/25/2009 1:44:09 AM
Focusing on yourslef isn't really the final answer. Understanding your own desires and knowing your own goals is important, but through our relationships we fully grow as human beings. Both is important - focusing in yourself and building your relationships. Time doesn't heal wounds. It's a myth. Time just ticks away. Yeah, we do tend to forget, but that doesn't equate to healing. Like you say, we forget, but when we happen to be remined or happen to remember it only gets worse. If time doesn't help, you have to take active steps in order to heal. Try the book "Dump your relationship luggage and make room for the love of your life". It gives some really good insights on how to do it. But you know what? So many people are turned off by the title simply because they are in love with their illusion and with their suffering. "Oh, don't call it luggage... it was real... it was the best thing ever happened to me..." Yeah, it WAS. But it's luggage now, a piece of luggage without a handle at that - too awekward to carry, but too dear to throw away. Any time we learn something new we lose a part of ourself. Usually, we don't regret parting with ignorance. For one reason or another, you regret parting with shyness. Ask youself why.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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after all these years i still can't get over my first love Posted: 11/25/2009 1:33:45 AM
So he tells you "it was a mistake" to be with you and then a few sentences later he can't hear it from you that you won't come back? Of course, he wants to be in charge of what's going on - friends today, lovers tomorrow, friends day after tomorrow again. Reclaim your heart. Don't let him to hold it in his hand.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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4 years 2 LD and now she wants to see others Posted: 11/25/2009 1:19:03 AM
She didn't come up with the idea just yesterday. She must have been thinking about it for a while. But now she has to make a decision BECAUSE you're coming back. Up till now, she could just push the issue aside, talk with you on the phone or on IM once in a while. Now she iether has to get back into the relationship with you fully, or get out of it completely.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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What does religion mean in profiles? Posted: 11/25/2009 12:54:38 AM
Ask the person directly. That's the only way to know what it means in every particular case. You're right, it is an important point in relationships, that's why it is here on profiles. Many people like you - baptized rather somethig, but in reality non-religious - could have put the religion they were baptized in (or whatever the ritual may be called) on their profile, but they actually don't follow it.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Slightly suprised and confused. Posted: 11/24/2009 8:42:34 PM
As I was stepping inside she remarked that I should walk her home. This took me by suprise and as I was almost inside I brushed the comment off and said goodbye. You didn't walk her home even after she asked you to? I thought a man would walk a woman home even if neither one of them is romantically interested in each other. In most cases, it's a given and she wouldn't have to ask. But maybe I live under a rock... She was not flirting with you. She was giving you a chance to act like a gentleman and you blew it twice.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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What do y'all think about this scenario? Posted: 11/24/2009 12:28:55 AM
Ask him only one question: "Why did you send your message to me 8 times?" If he doesn't know what you're talking about and if it turns out that POF has a bug that caused it to happen maybe he's a normal person. If he actually sent it 8 times - ask no futher questions, he's crazy.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Sincere and forthright, or insincere and mysterious? Posted: 11/23/2009 11:59:36 PM
I'm verbose for the sake of being precise in my words. It takes a lot more simple words (which are easily misconstrued) to express what I want to express more often than not. Sometimes the meaning gets drowned when you use too many words. So your precision is lost on many. Effective communication is not granted upon you expessing yourself perfectly according to your thoughts. It also includes the listener/reader. Does the information make it to their minds, or it gets lost on the way? Don't mistaken humans for computers. Sometimes what people hear is not what you said at all. Being cerebral, as you put it, you might do well if instead of concentrating on how to express your every though, you put more though into the point you're trying to get across. You'll be amazed how concise you can be. As for OP - you know the answer. You knew it even before you posted your question. It's a matter of opinion, and you already formed yours.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Why does he say best date ever then not call? Posted: 11/23/2009 11:38:16 PM
Some people just say stuff... Some people say "nice things" compulsively.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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In the Heat of the moment he ask !!!! Posted: 11/23/2009 11:24:10 PM
My advice is to not date other people behind his back. If you are not sure how he feels why not talk to him? If he still won't tell you how he feels you can tell him how you feel. Tell him something along the lines "I like you a lot but I'm no longer satisfied with uncommited relationship. I would like to have more in my life." See what he says. If he says nothing, continue with "If you are not interested in commited relationship with me I would like to move on." And - very important part - stop having sex with him. You might want to acctept that you are unlikely to keep him as a friend.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Cheating Posted: 11/23/2009 2:13:02 AM
What do I consider cheating? - Something that has to be done behind my back. Why do people cheat? - Careless, mindless and so on. Using other organs than their brain for thinking. - Unmeat desires/needs/expectations, but preferring to avoid the issue rather than resolving it. Is watching porn considered cheating? - Only if I'm against it and he knows it, and he told me that he's not into that. Is going to strip club considered cheating? - Again, only if I'm against it and it has to be done behind my back. Do I think it's easier to cheat with technology? - No, the "technology" for cheating was always there. Technology helps communications, but it goes both ways. Cell phones can be used for texting multiple people. They can also be used in "Howcome you didn't pick up your damn phone when I kept calling you?" If cheated on would you stay with the person...? - Depends on many things. Did he go to a strip club last Saturday but told me he's visiting his mom, or did he have a mistress for the whole duration of our relationship?

alwaysexpectmiracles

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bi man marrying women Posted: 11/23/2009 1:47:20 AM
As long as it's not important to him to keep having sex with other people I don't see a problem. From what I know, bi people like both genders, but they can also love one particular person.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Question about a girl Posted: 11/23/2009 1:36:32 AM
I don't really talk to this person just anytime I'm near she brings it up. Maybe she talkes about him all the time, even when you're not near. Don't read too much into it. I'd say it's poor ethics on her part to discuss her relationship problems with a friend in someone else's presence. I mean, how would you feel if you were in that boyfriend's place?

alwaysexpectmiracles

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advice to help a friend Posted: 11/23/2009 1:29:37 AM
I'm sorry to say that. You can try, but you will fail at preventing him from doing what he's doing. I've seen it happen many times. Right now, anything and anyone seems better and kinder and more interesting than his ex. Give him advice when he asks for it.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/22/2009 8:27:13 PM
Paying for a cup of coffee is an issue? Are you serious? I thought you're going to complain how you took her to this expensive restaurants on every date and so on... But coffee? I suppose you could mention it to her that you would like for her to treat you to coffee once in a while. See how that goes. I'd be like "Sure, of course" and thinking to myself "OMG... ridiculous." Am I gold digger? Maybe, if $3 is now considered to be a pile of gold. I can't stand stingy men. And no, I don't offer to pay for anything for the first 2 months or so. If he needs me to participate financially it means he's taking me on the dates that he can't afford. I'd rather be invited to whatever dates he finds affordeable.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Man asks woman to go to his home after dinner on first date Posted: 11/22/2009 8:09:33 PM
You sound outraged that he dared to ask you to come to his place after you had just discussed morals with him. As if he haven't heard you. Despite what people say, that being invited to his place on the first date doesn't necessarily mean sex, but it means exactly that more often than not. Who knows what he had in mind. A nice way of handeling it, IMO: "Thank you, but I'm not comfortable with it." "But... but I din't have anything romantic in mind!" "Thank you. I'm still not comfortable with it." Always works for me. No lecturing, no finger-pointing... You are just "not comfortable".

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Piercing question Posted: 11/22/2009 7:45:34 PM
The hardware can stay at the hardware store. That's pretty much summarizes it for me. Why ear piercing is OK? Because ears don't perform any active function, unlike the part of the body you are referring to. Also they don't move when you speak (as opposed to toungue piercing), because they are at the sides of your face (as opposed to nose and brow piercing) and they don't look distracting.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Fanning the Flames.... Posted: 11/22/2009 5:59:43 PM
I hear it a lot: "You should be yourself". As opposed to being someone else? The way you are asking this question - is it appropriate - is kind of strange. I don't see how can it be inappropriate, unless we're talking about stalking or inapropraie/ unwelcome physical contact.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Hard Question Posted: 11/22/2009 5:17:54 PM
My guting feeling tells me that he does not see me in in his future and just passing time with me. You are probably right. His growling was a confirmation. Men usually know pretty quickly if they want to have a future with you. (Except the extremely confused ones, they never know and unlikely to find out). It's been almost a year.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Met on date site now does one withdraw or ask the question? Posted: 11/22/2009 5:11:18 PM
You have just as much power as he does in brining up the matters in an open conversation. He isn't happy with the long distance thing, but having you is better than having noone at all. He isn't sure yet. But if the man is thinking - he is thinking of leaving.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Girls initiating first contact with guys Posted: 11/22/2009 4:49:59 PM
When I view someone's profile it can go both ways - I would like to hear from him, or I wouldn't. But if I clicked on the picture it means at least the picture was interesting enough.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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If 2 people have difficult schedules, how to ask for date in different ways? Posted: 11/21/2009 2:33:23 PM
However, if for example your icecream meeting didn't happen, suggest desserts for the next time not icecream. Yeah it does sound kind of repetitive. I don't know why. But it really depends on how the conversation turns out. If it's like "So... when are we having that icecream?" then it's fine. But if it starts out from a different subject area you might want to suggest something else.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Signs of Testing Posted: 11/21/2009 1:58:44 PM
First, you cancel the date, then you take an entire week to contact her again and now you're all surprized that things have slown down. She is the one who feels you lost interest. Try to put yourself in her shoes: she just lost a job, and all of a suddent you cancelled a date and then you slowed down with contacting her. She probably thinks "he doesn't like me anymore cause I lost my job". Plus, if she is anything like me, she'll let the guy do all the initiation at the beginning. If he is interested enough he will keep initating.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Whats up with that? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:44:10 AM
You both made some assumptions here. She assumed you two were dating because you went out a few times. (What? Is it not dating?) You assumed she is not interested because she didn't call. Apparently, for you phone conversations constitue a big meaningful part of dating. Apparently, for her they don't.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Why would a man tell his friends all he did sexually with his new girlfriend? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:36:22 AM
He does it cause he's a pig, but a better question is why do they keep listening to his stories. Just say 'Too much information" and change the subject.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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what advise i give my friend Posted: 11/19/2009 5:06:04 AM
last time he got mad because my friend dint make coffe for him in hte morning, Maybe your friend needs to find a man with whom being a maid is not part of the deal. she text asking him if was ok for her to come, As a woman, just don't do it, OK? Don't degrade yourself to the level "is it OK for me to come over". Wait for him to contact you, when he has time and desire to give you the attention. If he wants to see you he knows where to find you. Until then, exercise other options. Cause while you keep chasing him with "is it OK for me to come" he'll look into those girls who act like they have options.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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obsessing over women a turn off? Posted: 11/19/2009 4:57:55 AM
it isn't really a choice, people who have obsessive thoughts about someone really don't want to have it..it really sucks and takes the fun out of getting to know someone-dating is supposed to be fun..women will only know if a man is obsessed if he acts out compulsively on it iotherwise there is no way of knowing Yeah.... I know... Just as alcoholics not having a choice. Same deal. But I have a choice of not having anything to do with them.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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do women really have a checklist Posted: 11/19/2009 4:43:57 AM
I do have a checklist. I also call it standards. Some points are required and non-negotiable, some poins are desired. willing to cuddle LMAO. I'll be the one to decide if I'm willing or not.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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your opinion on our situation Posted: 11/19/2009 4:29:08 AM
My approach is "What you see is what you get". I'm interested in a man, I'm no longer interested in his potential or his story. Divorced? Boo-hoo, mee too. Living arrangements suck? Too bad. It's up to you to improve it. Supporting a child? Well I'm sure your former partner is doing her part too. If she's not - find an attorney and take care of it so that it's more fair. No sympathy for "victims" here.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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What's your take on agressive ladies? Posted: 11/18/2009 8:55:26 PM
Allow me to kindly re-phrase your question. Let's ask "Why some ladies won't initiate contact?" (And this question's been done to death BTW...) It depends on what the lady wants and what she wants to be when their relationship grows up.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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If it goes well why do I never get a second date? Posted: 11/18/2009 8:45:46 PM
...but if she suggests it, and I think we are connecting, I'll go along. And then she thinks "Ugh, what a big load. I even had to suggest the second date MYSELF! Bleh..." Not always, but let's say 50% of the time. Then there are cases when she won't suggest it at all (I wouldn't) even if she liked you. I suggest you do the asking. And do call the next day (no call ---> no date). And confirm seond date plans one day before. (no confirmation ----> "i've got other plans" even if I'm home watching TV)

alwaysexpectmiracles

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obsessing over women a turn off? Posted: 11/18/2009 8:36:33 PM
There is no way with dealing with obsessed. If it is on the same level as drug addiction I don't want to deal with him at all. He needs professional help. Seriously. Reassuring needed to be done when he was 1 or 3 years old. I'm not qualified to help him.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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school first or relationship first? Posted: 11/18/2009 1:32:45 AM
As somebody who just got her Ph.D., I can tell you - sorry sister, but we have to make out choises. If you were to ask me, I'd say forget about him, go for the best school. Pre-grad shool relationships usually don't lastthrough grad school. Even if we imagine for a second that logistics magically worked out, you will be a different person when you get your Ph.D. You will be a different person 5 years from now. Chances are, you will not want him in your life anyway. He will look cute but small. Not only I saw my ex in that light, he also saw me the same way. He got his Ph.D. a couple of years before I did. Ironic, huh? Virtually all my classmates who were married/in a relationship got divorced/split up by the end of the shool program. Not just us. Go for the best school possible, have no regrets, do your best. You'll never forgive yourself if you don't. Why can't he build a new client base at a new city? Slowly, one client at a time?

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Why do men seem distant? Posted: 11/18/2009 1:17:06 AM
Why do men seem distant after telling you how they feel about you? What do they usually tell you? If they are telling you that they are not ready for a relationship - duh - that's why they become distant. They just made it all clear and they no longer need to put effort into being close anymore. When people take back everything they said they need to grow up. It is more adult to say "I no longer feel that way" (which happens) than to say "I never felt that way".

alwaysexpectmiracles

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How long do you keep fighting? Posted: 11/18/2009 1:10:21 AM
You say that she doesn't know what she wants.... But it sounds like you don't know what you want either, and how much you'll put up with, and what is OK and what is crossing the line. How do you want your relationship to be? If you were to tell her "here is the deal... boom boom boom... either you stop all communication with that guy, you stop dating other people, we both give us our best shot OR we go separate ways." you'd probably get somewhere. Most likely, at the curb, cause she has an attitude. But if you don't, you'll keep losing your self esteem one drop at a time, until eventually she loses all respect for you (happens when you have no self esteem left) and dumps you for good. I know you don't want to uin things, but some things in a relationship should be non-negotiable.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Dumped/Back together advice ??? Posted: 11/18/2009 12:52:49 AM
1. Either way, since you were both on the same page about not loving each other. 2. Did you ever ask her what did she learn from her experience in terms of "issues of breaking up/cheat/get back together"? 3. Up to you. It's your choise. 4. Yes.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Complicated Girl Question Posted: 11/18/2009 12:46:05 AM
I just don't get why it takes so long to reply to simple texts. Maybe she doesn't like to text, as simple as that. And if she has a job, maybe she doesn't look at her phone unless she needs to and unless she has a break.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Do you ever think about how much time you have left? Posted: 11/18/2009 12:38:32 AM
Short answer: in your forties, if you don't want children, you have all the time in the world to find the right person. I don't suggest you spend another 10 years digging and nitpicking. But i also don't recommend trying to make a half-failing relationship work. For the exact same reason - life it too short to waste it on failing relationship. And I think as we mature, we get better at making failing relationships work. So I'd watch out for that. When I was in my mid-twenties, i got it in my head that i have very few years left of looking good. Turned down several opportunities of modeling, simply because I was planning to get "old and ugly" in a couple of years. Now I look in the mirror and say "Duh? What made me think that?"

alwaysexpectmiracles

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/18/2009 12:26:21 AM
The main problem I see with the advise "just be yourself" is that we are complex, we have many aspects of ourselves. "Be yourself...." I can be playful of I can be serious. Either way, that's me. Beatiful and seducting or sharp and sarcastic. Still, me... I can be direct or indirect. I can comfortably do both. Neither style of communication really defines me. I can wear fabulous dress and makeup one day (and look like I wear them all the time, too!), and I can be in jeans, nails trimmed and hair in the ponytail on the other. So... How do you propose for me to be myself? Which side do I show first? (The answer is - whichever I feel like at the moment, lol) I don't think other people are any less complex.

alwaysexpectmiracles

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kinda confused i guess and girls seem to be the best for advice ;) Posted: 11/17/2009 11:24:12 PM
You can go as fast as you want, but don't mistaken whatever you feel for love. You can't feel love towards the person who you only know for a couple of weeks. (Let's not talk about unconditionalal Christian love towards all human beings, that's irrelevant.) The only thing you know right now is whether or not you want to see her again. You want to see her again. That's really all you know. About this weekend - I suggest to not attach first sexual experience with a person to a calendar date or an event like buddy's party (I'd say, awekward setting, but that may be just me.) Do it when you think is right, not when you think she expects it out of you. Discuss it with her. This things are actially up for discussion in a healthy adult relationship. Tell her what costitutes "right" in your opinion. I know everybody wants to be romantic and spontaneous, but there are good and bad times to be spontaneous. This sounds like one of the latter. And you still can be spontaneous after the discussion takes place. As for her being cheated on in the past - if that drastically changes the way she acts it's not a good sign at all. She needs to learn from that and move on rather than dragging that experience around with her for the rest of her life. Many of us had been cheated on before, so what? I commend you for being understanding and gentle with that woman, but don't let it be an excuse for accepting whatever you're not ready for.

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what am i doing wrong? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:59:40 PM
Northen guy, heh? Try being a foreigner speaking with an accent and writing with mistakes no matter how hard you try. I rarely felt rejected because of that. No, I don't think you being from north is where the problem lies. Look elsewhere.

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Why do men lose interest so easily? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:44:14 PM
Boys, they are boys.... not men.... Maybe they go like "OMG, she texted back! Now what do I do? (Runs around in panic.) How do I approach her? Does she even like me or is she playing with me? (Posts a few questions here) OMG, OMG! (drops on the floor exhausted)" The answer is simple: texting is just that- texting. Not necessarily a singn of great interest or undying love. Don't put too much meaning into a meaningless activity.

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Why ask a woman for her number? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:41:54 PM
Maybe he is collecting phone numbers. Maybe he's palying the game of how many numbers can he get in one month. Maybe getting a number is his final goal. Maybe he got a number from someone else who he liked better. Bottom line: don't expect a call. And then you might be nicely surprised one day.

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The Right apporach Posted: 11/17/2009 8:35:29 PM
I'm afraid you'll lhave to man up and take a picture of yourself. You don't have to look perfect, you don't have to like yourself in the picture. Try to get used to the folowing thought: whatever you are, you are enough. Good enough, interesting enough and so on. Even if you get hickups from being nervous, try and do something. Cause if you do nothing, nothing will eever happen.

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What do you make of this? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:27:27 PM
I'm more concerned if the guy is been single for a very short time. If he's been single 2 years it's not a problem. If he's been single 2 days it is a problem. I don't mean to sound condescending towards younger people, but at 21 being single should be normal rather than abnormal.

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am i missing something Posted: 11/16/2009 11:16:44 PM
Excatly how would you like to help her? It doesn't sound like she is eager to help herslef. She complains about her situation, but what does she do to change it? She lives with her ex (?) as a roommate of sorts. I don't know if she shares rent. She probably doesn't, otherwise she'd probably move out, but maybe she's too lazy to do even that much. You want to help her? Offer her money to pay her rent at a different place. Offer her a job, perhaps. I don't see how else can you help her.

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A friend sugested I ask out her friend Posted: 11/16/2009 11:02:43 PM
I mean she wouldn't have just suggested to ask out her friend unless she already knew that her friend likes me? Uh-oh... "You either do or not do... There is no try..." --Master Yoda. I agree with master Yoda. If she can't lose him it means she is somehow enabling him to chase her. You're right. Dont' get in the middle of it.

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