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Joined: 5/14/2009

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Thirty and not married Posted: 6/27/2009 8:05:04 AM
I'm 32, never married...no children. Spent 8-9 years working on my career. 6 years before that going to school. Graduated at the top of my class and then went back for a masters and graduated with an even higher GPA. I also believe that strong, independent women are still a threat to SOME men. I'm 32 have a great steady job, own my own house and car etc...... It's scary for SOME guys to look at a woman and see all her success and then try and measure up!

Joined: 5/14/2009

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 6/27/2009 7:53:07 AM
I have to be honest, I used to date older men. Not looking for a father figure but thinking that the maturity and stability would be there. Wouldn't ya know it, I'm 32 and still single. After my last bf, who was 15 years old than me, proved to be no more stable and mature than one of HS students, I decided that perhaps I was looking the wrong way! He also wanted to shut me out from my family and was very controlling! And that's when I started to date younger men! The first younger guy I dated was 25. That's a 7 year difference. He was more mature than the 45 year old I dated. Of course, he wasn't ready to tred down the path that I was and so we broke up. I was really sad because I liked him very much and he had a lot of the qualities I was looking for in a partner! The next guy I dated was 28! He is still working on developing his career, but he is definately thinking along the same lines I am. To be honest, I won't date someone more than 3 years older than me or 7 years younger. I think if you go to old, the father figure problem comes into play. If you go tooo younger then they aren't ready for the same things you are. I think you have to find what works for you.

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waiting for the bottom to drop out Posted: 6/2/2009 3:51:59 PM
I think the girl really likes you....I think that starting out slowly and building a relationship with a good solid foundation is important. Trust, honesty, integrity, those are the qualities that you learn about someone over time. Just because you tell the truth once, doesn't make you an honest person and just because you show up on the job day after day doesn't make you a hard worker. Those highly valued qualities, my friend, only can only be revealed with time, effort and energy. It takes two to make and break a relationship. Even if you are dumped, or you are the dumper. It always takes one to walk away and the other to let go. HOWEVER....... Everyone's made poor decisions in relationships in the past, or we all wouldn't be on here. Sometimes you're the bug, sometimes you're the windshield. That's the way life is. I think you need to talk to her, and stop posting on here getting everyone's opinion. I don't think anyone can speak for her but her and I don't think anyone can tell you how to feel. Only you know what is in your heart and what you really want. If this girl is still talking to you, then chances are she likes you and wants to give you a chance. So give her the chance. Don't just take it for granted that anyone should just give you anything in life. All the good things in life come after a lot of hard work and perserverance. As for all the speculation as to why she is, it's just that. Speculation. We all are just the sum of OUR experiences and can only speak from OUR hearts and OUR lives. No can say how she feels. No one knows her past....do you really know her past???? And you certainly aren't going to get any good advice from anyone on here....if you want the truth, go straight to the source. When people say communication is important, they mean with your partner, not with a chat room.

Joined: 5/14/2009

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Men, Does It Disturb You If... Posted: 5/22/2009 4:48:28 PM
I am sorry...every post from GoneSailinBabe...is just down right hysterical. That woman cracks me up. This is definately someone who has lived life to the fullest......... LOL!

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