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What changed your mind? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:56:56 PM
Ok, women like to believe they are great at communication. But oddly many women seem to suddenly go mute during sex. Personally love to go down on a woman but seriously women need to speak up, moan, grind their hips against you, anything to let you know they are enjoying it. Dated a few women that were virtually silent until they came. I'm all, wtf is going on is she even close? That sucks, big time! If I'm on the recieving end I'm letting her know what I like and don't like, in a tactful manner of course

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Piercing question Posted: 11/22/2009 7:39:59 PM
Huh?! Actually the info I've been looking at clearly states that infection rates are the same as any piercing with the exception of navel piercings which have the highest rate of infection. Mind you this has to do with the actual process of piercing it. Like whether or not sterile equipment was used, etc. and how well you are taking care of it while it healed . Passing on an infection to a partner would only happen under those circumstances and I would assume if you had an infection in said location YOU WOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX, lol! Then again there are some crazy peeps out there so what do I know. . .

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Piercing question Posted: 11/22/2009 7:30:44 PM
Texas, why what? Why get one? I guess for the same reason anyone does anything, no? Why do women get their ears pierced as a baby? Not sure I understand why it's acceptable to pierce one part of your body and not any other. I appreciate you being honest though, even if your response sounds judgemental (leak like a sieve, come on)

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Piercing question Posted: 11/22/2009 7:06:09 PM
Ok, I was wondering how women feel about men with genital piercings. If you were starting a relationship with someone and you really liked the person would a piercing scare you, or would you be cool with it? I personally wouldn't care if a woman had one, or some, but I am curious what you ladies think about it. And yes let's assume it's a piercing that could be enjoyed by the ladies

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Do you like to like be the Pursuer or the Pursued? Posted: 11/21/2009 7:10:08 PM
I feel the same as a few posters, I like to be asked out. Or even just shown interest. Sometimes you really are interested in someone but you can't quite get to that next level and then she does something to move things forward, like come up with something that you can do together that you blanked on. Not that I don't ask women out myself, I do it more often than not. Lol, yeah sometimes it's hard to get creative on first dates. Look at most people's profiles, they say the same things over and over. Dinner, or a drink, or a coffee.

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Would you have sex with a machine? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:02:30 PM
This thread makes me laugh!

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Condoning Atheism. Posted: 11/10/2009 2:02:57 PM
Thanks Val, I caught that, lol!

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Condoning Atheism. Posted: 11/10/2009 7:00:34 AM
Huh? What does being in the US have to do with anything? There are a multitude of countries that allow people the freedom of religion. And what's with this smug response to everyone about "can't wait to see you on your deathbed" garbage. Guess what, you could die today, you know that right? I do. I live everyday trying to make the most of things and working towards my goals while accepting that this may be it. I don't need another few decades to make this decision. I've had the experiences that shaped my beliefs and shaking in my boots cause death is around the corner isn't going to change them, cause death has been around the corner my whole life! Peachez, I may be misinterpreting what you wrote but are you implying that people WANT to do good only if they have religion (or a supposed relationship with JC or God). That implies the mistaken belief that people who reject religion have no morals or ethics, which is ridiculous. When I do something that is "good" I get all sorts of responses that make me feel good about doing what's right. A thank you, respect from others, a good feeling inside that I was altruistic and genuinely care about others and my environment and the legacy I am leaving my children with. Religion is not required for me to have morals, but ironically religious people always want to paint others as not having any. It's that same arguement your people have used over the years against gays. And before that it was a million other groups of people. Whatever, the woman wants her child to understand there is a belief other than the ones she's known than that is fine and it's just as acceptable as turning to any of the major religions.

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Condoning Atheism. Posted: 11/9/2009 10:26:48 PM
Amazing and wonderful, both words are subjective opinions. Just like religious debate is based on subjective opinions. Since nobody can prove anything to each other they put others ideas beneath their own. Religious debate is almost always a way to massage ones own ego. I notice the two people that clearly believe in God rolling their eyes (contextually) at any difference of opinion. The sarcasm and online smirking is burning through my screen. So what, you are closer to death so you rethought your perception of reality and chose to believe in God to make your impending death more tolerable. . . The comment about light and the sentence ending with, "or whatever" clearly shows you know a lot about science in the first place,lol. You are one to talk about knowing your subjects, or was it just knowing the subjects you actually care about and dismissing every other explanation.

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I broke up with you - dont contact me Posted: 8/31/2009 1:49:19 PM
Well, let's be honest, if you spent years of your life with someone and cared about them, even after a rough breakup most people would hope their ex moved on and is happy and you'd hope they felt the same way. This is a generalization and it assumes most people are generally decent to begin with, so you can disagree all you want, some arguements will definately be valid. However, I have very few ex's that I'd freak out over if they contacted me. I miss ex's from time to time because of something we enjoyed together or just miss the good times we had. That my be reason to say hello, but a rational person will keep the reality of your situation in the back of your head. You don't assume they changed. They either have or they haven't. After years away from an ex I would have no problem saying hello and catching up. Doesn't mean you are jumping in the sack with them, just means you are being adult enough to communicate.

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Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated Posted: 7/7/2009 8:43:51 PM
Well, I'm glad a few other separated people posted so I don't feel the need to go into any detail. Someone wrote this though "If you are a person that is seperated then you should be trying to work on your marriage instead of looking for someone else" LOL Really, thanks for that you made me laugh, no really, I cracked up when I read that! Some of us have had to acknowledge that a relationship(this one happens to be a marraige) is not working and is not going to work so we've moved our lives forward, without each other. When there is a mutual decision to separate, no offense, but who the **** are you to tell us that we need to be fixing it? The whole point is that we tried and it didn't work. Some of us have been down the marraige counciling/therapy road and it didn't help so we (mature adults) realized that marraige was not going to work for us. I won't speak for others but I have a child with my soon to be ex-wife and we are in contact regularly. I am friends with the in-laws and visit for occassional family events, as my son is there for them. I was friends with my wife since I was 17, just cause our marraige isn't going to work doesn't mean I won't be friends with her anymore! The notions I read on here about people needing to be totally removed from their ex to be "dateable" is ridiculous. You don't know someone until you try to get to know them, and their situation, even single people have things going on, duh! Whatever. . . .

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Why is everyone so afraid to think for themselves? Posted: 7/5/2009 6:37:00 AM
Uh, I think Mister Logic doesn't like rap music or sports stars. Hated hippies back in the day, is a global warming denier and is probably a republican. But that's a quick judgement on my part, I didn't look at his profile so . . .

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Circumcised vs Un-Circumcised... Posted: 7/2/2009 6:34:27 PM
Wishes, my comment WAS towards the parents. I was asking why non-religious people would even consider doing it to their children. A baby being defenseless wasn't the point of my comment. Not that that shouldn't be looked at in regards to the issue, just saying.

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 7/1/2009 3:29:56 PM
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication : Leonardo Da Vinci

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Circumcised vs Un-Circumcised... Posted: 6/30/2009 7:34:49 AM
Wow, just wow. I never thought I'd actually read guys insulting each other and claiming they have a better penis because of the forskin(or lack of it) Oddly enough it's mostly the uncut guys on this thread claiming they are some kind of sex gods, really all the testosterone is getting to your heads(that's for all of you) Dude who said us cut guys are angry bomb droppers, really? Do you know me? Do you know if I support war in any way? I'd love to hear your feelings on current world events, or your opinion on Hiroshima. Most people I meet justify most world conflict, I am anti war and have vocally opposed funding any "surges" of troops in any other peoples sovereign nations. What do you support, eh? Oh, wait I'm sure your comfot level would go down if you didn't have cheap ass fuel so that is reason to murder millions in the middle east right? To the guy saying us jews are drug addicts trying to get everyone hooked. **** you. No really, go tie a noose around your neck and jump off a bridge. I don't personally care if you like or dislike the medical procedure if you are a racist or anti-semite you shouldn't be posting on a site that has people from all around the world on it. To the OP- yeah it "seems" to be abnormal in the US to be uncut but the trend has been changing. Personally, my oldest is not cut but my youngest is. He had medical problems with his forskin right off the bat and needed something done about it. He was actually in pain from the tightness. I felt bad having it done but I felt worse knowing he was suffering and couldn't be comfortable in his own skin. He actually had a half circ, just enough to release the tention. I will never understand why people get their kids done who aren't religious. Here is the part of the bible requesting his people to enter the Covenent: God [then] said to Abraham, 'As far as you are concerned, you must keep My covenant — you and your offspring throughout their generations. This is My covenant between Me, and between you and your offspring that you must keep: You must circumcise every male. You shall be circumcised through the flesh of your foreskin. This shall be the mark of the covenant between Me and you. 'Throughout all generations, every male shall be circumcised when he is eight days old. [This shall include] those born in your house, as well as [slaves] bought with cash from an outsider, who is not your descendant. [All slaves,] both houseborn and purchased with your money must be circumcised. This shall be My covenant in your flesh, an eternal covenant. The uncircumcised male whose foreskin has not been circumcised, shall have his soul cut off from his people; he has broken My covenant. (Genesis 17:1-14)[1] If you follow the biblical text then you clearly believe that this isyourway to keep your Covenent with God. If you don't even believe in God thenwhy get cut?!

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The Big O Posted: 6/29/2009 7:45:32 PM
No, it doesn't sound dumb sex stuff IS silly sometimes! So, I guess you need to get a towel under you and try again and this time don't stop!

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The Big O Posted: 6/29/2009 7:34:50 PM
I think you can make it happen yourself easier than with someone else, I could be wrong, lol. Seriously though, a partner needs to be communicated with so they know what to do to help you get what you want. We are generally happy to help but the communication is key as one thing (position, particular motion, dirty talk,whatever) may be perfect for one woman and totally wrong for another. So, I would assume doing it yourself would be easier. Have to ask though, why stop? Really though, you are masturbating and you feel the rush and you stop?! I don't get it ..not trying to be rude I just don't understand.

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Why don't men and women -- by and large -- like male-pattern baldness? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:19:34 PM
Sidewinder: Love the list, lol!! Started going bald at 21 here and just decided by 22 or so that it had to go, I wasn't gonna be one of the millions of dudes desperately trying to hold onto their hair. I bic every couple of days and that's that. So easy and quick and no hassles! Will some women find me unattractive because of that? Sure, who cares?! Ultimately it's about me and not whether I want a woman to notice me. I like the way I look, more now than in the past even! Hey, some women like hefty guys and some like thin, some like tall and some like short(no really):P, I guess some like guys with hair and some don't! I know it's amazing! You are right though, eastern cultures find it common and attractive in general but western culture is all ****ed up. Really, our culture wants so badly to get us all to hate ourselves so we can buy products to make ourselves look as close to the cultural "perfect" as possible. That's capitalism at work there. Someone wants to make money off you so they find ways to get the population as a whole to believe and "buy" into their image. Then you beat it into your children thanks to the media and the way people are in general and they "buy" into it too. Soon, generation after generation thinks that the created "perfect" image is some kind of normal that they can achieve if they just buy enough facial creams, skin products, make up and now surgery! Guess what, you've been punked!!:D

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flaming liberal and a staunch conservative, can it work? Posted: 6/25/2009 4:58:22 PM
Forget the titles and ask yourself questions about where you and your potential partner stand on some polarizing issues. For example: Do you believe in the right to get an abortion, does he agree or not? If he doesn't agree canyoulive with someone that feels this way. Would you be ok if you were watching the news and he made a rude comment about people that generally have your view points? If you felt abortion should be every womans' right but he didn't, and you didn't discuss it, but he went to anti-abortion rallies and picketed in front of clinics, would you be ok living with this person? Obviously, this is an example you may be the opposite, it's really not important. The question isn't about what label you prescribe to it's the actual issues and actions people take. Some real middle of the road people may have a few trigger issues that they feel the need to stand up and do something about. This is not fanaticism, some issues hit people like that. It's totally unfair to label them staunch, flaming, or any other intended insult. Feel the person out and decide if you can deal with each others' view points and most importantly find out if there are issues that motivate this person to take a stand that maybe counter to who you feel you are, it probably won't work in that circumstance. Ok, Ihope that didn't come off as rambling, it made sense in my mind, ha! :P

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How do you end a relationship that can't go any further when you truly love the man? Posted: 6/24/2009 5:21:35 PM
Interesting, honestly I agree with another poster, don't live together. Continue your relationship and keep your separate lives (children, family). Maybe in this situation your children can grow up and move out eventually opening up the opportunity to live together. Lots of parents save certain plans for after the kids move out maybe this can be one too. Just a thought. Another thought, if you want a man to live with and take on that traditional role then this guy is not that guy. Or it seems that the issues you have are preventing him from being it. There are plenty of people on the planet and there's bound to be someone that would suit your needs and would fit your expectations of what being a parent means.

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Threesomes...why the bias? Posted: 6/18/2009 3:35:25 PM
Lol, you people are crazy. First off some perspective from science, I recently read an article about studies done on the effects of MFM in terms of sperm and competition. The men who are involved actually ejaculate many many more sperm than normal, indicating a genetic level competition to impregnate the woman. So, yes in said circumstance from a subconscious (dna) level men are actually competing while making love to a woman at the same time. To the people saying MFM is good if the dude never touches you you clearly haven't watched groupsex porn in your entire life! The dudes quite often do things together to women, entering the same hole is one example. Holding the girl in the air for his buddy is another. They are by no means sucking each other off but please you people really should not be in a MFM ever if you are that homophobic! I mean really, "he stays at the other end", wtf is that?! Under the right circumstances with teh right people involved I would have no problem DPing a woman, and that doesn't make me gay in the least. I think it's hilarious all this bias and judging going on. Let's get one thing straight (ha get it?) openly gay men would not be involved in this, you know why? They like men!! They don't want to have sex with women!! Hello! This reminds me of the homophobic comment, "I don't mind gay's as long as they leave me alone." Shit, ever think maybe gay guys wouldn't look at you anyway, you ugly ****? Ha! Anyway, that's my rant, carry on the homophobia! Oh, wait just thought of one more thing, to the guy that doesn't find the male body to be attractive, including his own. Really?! You have that low of an opinion of yourself? You arethat disgusted with yourself? That's so sad it's pathetic! The cosmetics industry has fought hard to get women to HATE themselves and buy their products so they can finally like who they are and you just loath your body cause your a guy?? Dude, get a sex change. . . . will you love your body then? Doubt it. .

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Cash For Sex Posted: 6/16/2009 9:21:05 AM
Ahh, the self rightousness in this thread makes me want to throw up . .

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they say you are wonderful and everything they dreamed of Posted: 6/10/2009 10:42:21 AM
I'm confused, you dated someone that said these things and now you need to end it? If that's right all I can say is why? Your profile says you want a long term relationship but you get one and it scares you? I never understood why people do this. Maybe it's that, get what you want but not what you need thing? I don't know. If you really are scared of someone telling you that they accept you and care about you then you need to look for more casual relationships.. . If I missread your post, ignore my response, lol.

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Pix of Women with Puckered Up Lips (Kissy Face) Posted: 6/9/2009 7:22:04 PM
Not that I care about the kissy face but there are a few women that I've seen with a good number of pics in their profile, say 7 or 8, and 4 of them are kissy faces, lol! My ex called it Americas Next Top Model pics

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Gamer girls do you exist? Posted: 6/3/2009 8:39:06 AM
Lol, some of you people are funny, gaming is not a babysitter, but thanks for posting, I'm 33 I don't need to be babysat. 123032(or whatever I can't see your post as I'm writing this) You missed my second post where I clearly stated I am an active member in a gym. I'm 6' and 177 pounds, I'm in good shape and work out 3 to 4 times a week, it is actually great because between that and not smoking my job gives my family free health care!! I'm also an avid hiker and cyclist so not moving for a few hours is hardly going to clot my arteries :P Also, I have kids yes and they enjoy gaming too so it's a non-issue. My oldest son actually has a nack for computer stuff so it could be a good career for him, or not. And yeah I could easily spend more than 2 hours playing but I also try to limit my game time to after thekids are in bed so honestly even if I do play longer than I intended it isn't interfering with my family responsibilities. Everything is a time sink by the way, I am retardedly busy and I always find time to do everything that I want to. shrug Asheron's Call I never tried but I was a rabid Everquest player way back and I stopped after a year because I really was spending more than 2 hours a day on it! I can't wait for FF 13 whenever it comes out rolls eyes Anyway, thanks for the posts everyone I will have to keep my eyes open the next time I'm in the game shop, lol.

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Gamer girls do you exist? Posted: 6/2/2009 10:25:47 PM
lol, silent I hear you. I spend a decent amount of time at the gym and there are plenty of amazing women there too. I just have been realizing I'm tired of having a "strange" hobby to most people and would love to find someone that is totally down with me taking two hours on one of my days off from work to play Killzone or Gears. I seriously know a ton of guys that play but the only reason they won't come on on a regular basis is because their significant other "tolerates" their hobby. Now make it sports watching and they "tolerate" that as well but it's much more socially acceptable. It was a huge issue with my ex wife. If I was making a damn quilt she would have been all about it (I'm blowing this out of proportion but you know what I'm saying), but gaming oh no what is wrong with me that I'd want to do something so wasteful with my time? :P I know the in-laws thought something was wrong in my head but I don't care I've been playing since Atari's Pong. Yeah, Rock Band is great but why is that the only game girls like? Ok, maybe shooting shit is not the most feminine thing to do, but still. Anyway, nice to know you ladies are out there I think maybe I should look harder, watch for conventions in Boston maybe?

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Gamer girls do you exist? Posted: 6/2/2009 7:39:21 PM
Dang it there's someone already asking this question. . . . my bad sorry .

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Gamer girls do you exist? Posted: 6/2/2009 7:38:17 PM
No, seriously, I almost never meet girls that play online games or are avid PS3,360 users. Ok, there's a ton of you that will play Wii, that doesn't count, lol. I've just met one woman that is into her 360 but that's just one. I've even looked online for an actual dedicated site for that stuff but nope. Most women my age think games are childish and stupid, I really hate that. Most games are made by people my age! sigh Ok, lemme add anime to this question, I am a former Art student and anything artistic interests me, so of course I find Anime to be great, hell even the plots and stories are almost always interesting and thought provoking, but again, never meet any women that are interested. I must be in the wrong country or something . . .

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blue text Posted: 6/2/2009 1:28:47 PM
Ok, so apparently I am slightly color blind. News to me as its never been an issue before. So, I tried to respond to an email the other day and guess what? I can't distinguish between the blue and black text it tells me I HAVE to enter to send the email, wtf! I tried like 8 times before I finally got it. Seriously, can't your site use a different set of colors, this is really killing me. .

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Right website ? Posted: 5/31/2009 8:47:56 AM
Thanks for the other site idea! Package, I am aware of the time sink it requires to find someone special and yeah I haven't been on here long, but I've been on other sites and I was commenting on the lack of an ability to specifically find people that fit my , um, "special" circumstances. It feels like these sites are geared towards people that don't fit my situation, so I asked if anyone knew one that did. I don't need years to search the database to realise that the majority of profiles don't fit what I am looking for and vice versa. The last site I was on was a pay site and honestly with two kids and the economy total crap I watch my dollars and pick and chose what I want to spend money on. I regret signing up after almost a year on that one and virtually nothing to show for it. Don't assume I am not proactive, I still have made no connections and have wasted money in the process. I am merely questioning if the medium will ever produce a result for me, maybe online sites are meat shops and I am simply not capable of "selling" myself. Oh, well. Thanks for responding in any case! The one thing this site has going for it that I like is the forums. Maybe I'll just stick to reading posts and someone interesting will pop up. . .

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Right website ? Posted: 5/29/2009 4:06:15 PM
Hi everyone, just a question. I am running into the same problem I've run into on other sites before, no clear search options for single parents. Not only that but I find I have to scroll down to the bottom of every profile I look at to find out if they have a problem with someone with children. . . .needless to say, even in my age group most single women don't want anything to do with a guy with kids. I'm just wondering if there is a better site with single parents or people that don't mind their partners having kids. Hell, I'm not looking for another wife I am just getting out of a marraige I just want to hang out and get to know new women, but they are all bent about the kid situation. I'm not even sure I'd want anyone meeting my kids. grumble Thanks in advance to anyone that has any advice :)

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