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 Author Thread: Are you RACIST?
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Are you RACIST?
Posted: 6/6/2009 9:34:30 PM
responding to the last few post's i think this is a complicated matter. even harder after a few beers.

it has to do with prejudice's and stereotypes. i will do my best to make it simple. i hate stupid people, 'all black people are stupid', therefore i hate black, white or green people. we all have prejudie's but when those prejudice's are based upon race, that's when it become's racism. good, bad or indifferent that's what racism is too me.

this is just my opinion.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Lip gloss
Posted: 6/3/2009 1:38:52 PM
they have chapstick that does that and doesnt bring attention to the lip area, which is a highly erogenous zone.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Girlfriends??? Boyfriends????
Posted: 5/31/2009 10:13:36 PM
prettier and shinier i think is what you meant to say.

we all are troubled with insecurities and even some real life fears. the only thing different in my opinion is the reality of these questions in the relationship.

so ask yourself, is the source of this question real or imagined? and then think about your answer again and again, then respond!!!!
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Are you RACIST?
Posted: 5/31/2009 7:24:37 PM
chris you cool, but unfortunately my experiences dictate otherwise.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Are you RACIST?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:17:04 PM
as a black/spanish man i would like to respond to this.

it is my experience that in this day in age people aren't openly racist butin my opinion it does exist.

if you see a white guy dance well, we may find ourselves saying 'wow im surprised'. why would this be so? is it because he is white? if he was a black guy dancing well, would you think ''they'' dance so good'? i think we all have subtle racist tendencies about us, but we tend to only complain about the bad stereotypes associated with racism. when we automically assume a 'white guy' is successful or a 'black' guy is well hung, all is well.

it is only when the 'white guy' is thought of as 'small' and the 'black guy' a criminal that we complain.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Friendships
Posted: 5/28/2009 9:52:07 AM
this is just my opinion. this is after all a dating site. but to give a more detailed opinion, i think this. it has to do with the goal oriented nature of a man. his goal is to get you, one way or another. i will speak of my experience. when i went after a girl and she rejected me i felt like the objective wasn't accomplished, i failed. i didn't want to relive that failure so freindship was out of the question. it is just like a girl who gets rejected. in my opinion it is only the ones who secrectly want to keep trying and lay in wait until another opportunity presents itself, who want to remain friends. it is tough. now if you guys were friends first and maybe fooled around a bit but i didn't workout i think it would be easier to go back to being friends since that was the basis from the beginning. but again this is a dating site. if you specifically just want friends, i respectfully say join an activity group.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Am I wasting my time?
Posted: 5/27/2009 11:32:03 PM
it's funny, i just read the last post and i didn't realize that i just looked at your pics and didn't realize that you had actully written anything. i still didn't read your profile, i am not that interested in you. take abc's advice, she is a girl and since you want a female's attention it is smart to listen to what they say.

in my defense that only shows why i need a female, we compliment each other with our varying perspective's in life.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Lip gloss
Posted: 5/27/2009 10:54:42 PM
to tell the truth, in my opinion i don't like the look of lip gloss or any other sign of 'please pay attention to me'. i prefer a woman of confidance, of knowing that her mind is the strongest part of her and although she has a body and is quite capable of indulging in it, she doesn't rely on it as her primary form of attracting a mate. that is what lip gloss means to me when i see a single girl trying to meet a guy. now as far as me and my girl going out, you want to wear that ***ty dress and shiny lip gloss, wear it with class and just know that it will be coming off. it will most probably be ripped off but nontheless, it is coming off when we get home!!!
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Am I wasting my time?
Posted: 5/27/2009 8:06:32 PM
hint!! go up to them
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Am I wasting my time?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:51:42 PM
i looked at your profile. i am not gay but i would say i would hang with you in a bar and not be worried that you are going to scare to girls away. to me it is just a matter that the girls here are in total control and they know it. they don't have to waste time with pleasent courtesies nor reply if not wanted. to me it is just a matter of plugging away. if it is meant to be it will be. the only thing i would recommend is not giving up in the 3d world. there is more to all of us that we can say online and i am sure there is more to you!!
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
COMMUNICATON IN A DIGITAL AGE
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:26:14 PM
i think whether it be a guy or a girl if they are interest in you they will let you know. nothing has changed, it is just a matter of you being able and willing to communicate on their level.
 nycman37
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Are you approachable?
Posted: 5/24/2009 5:06:04 AM
i agree. if you don't want to be bothered then people should respect that. of course there are always certain social politeness that we should abide by but it is up to you if you want to give someone that special attention. i have come to realize that some people don't know how to take rejection well, if they don't get the attention they seek then there 'must' be something wrong with the other person, there 'has' to be, why wouldn't they want a shot at you.
 
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