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tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 25 (view)

Unsure about church singles Posted: 11/24/2009 6:22:40 AM
I had a co-worker who was LDS and she used to always try to get me to go to chuch singles stuff with her...I wouldn't go though, because I questioned her intentions. I think it depends on the church...it probably wouldn't hurt to go once and see what its about...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Success, then utter disgusting failure Posted: 11/24/2009 6:14:54 AM
She's bulemic. I feel really bad for her.... Um, she should never have taken laxatives before going over to your house...those things have a habit of being unpredictable... Again, she has an eating disorder and that's serious business. Best not to get involved. I hope she someday gets the help she needs....

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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where do you draw the line Posted: 11/24/2009 4:56:36 AM
That IS funny tracy, bet that's what he's thinkin too. It really was. He was so egotistical...I beleive to this day that he has narcissistic personality disorder. For someone to actually believe that all they had to do to get a date with Jennifer Aniston was jusk ask her... Pure crazy talk

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Can anyone advise on this? Posted: 11/24/2009 4:52:27 AM
Players will try and draw you in by suggesting something you might enjoy and then at the last moment switch plans. Yeah...he drew you in by suggesting something romantic and 'couple-y'. OP, when he switched plans with you at the last minute, were you dissapointed?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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so confused! Posted: 11/23/2009 12:29:36 PM
It was a mutual agreement to not date other people, in both of our opinions it made the sex better . Better then what? you had two dates... I still say that it was too much too fast, he got freaked and bailed.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 11 (view)

What went wrong Posted: 11/23/2009 12:17:09 PM
Cut off any and all conversations where people start planning dates (Ex. Christmas Party) months in advance before meeting, that kind of personal interest usually sends my BS meter into overdrive. Teaching his kids to ice skate? Sounds like a complete BS artist to me. . Bingo!!!

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 57 (view)

met my 1st psycho ( might belong in the humor section)(Long read) Posted: 11/23/2009 11:21:48 AM
I think the whole thing is made up. I doubt any of it happened...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 123 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/23/2009 11:19:34 AM
Just curious, how long do you pay for a women before realizing one of two things... 1. She wants to be with you long term 2. She is just getting free dinners . I don't care how hungry I am, I could never use someone for a free dinner....

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Can anyone advise on this? Posted: 11/23/2009 11:14:35 AM
He was after sex. You gave it to him. He moved on. Bummer. Your first clue should have been when he changed plans for your third date and invited you to his place instead of taking you to fireworks.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Added a bit to my profile Posted: 11/23/2009 10:58:44 AM
I don't like it. I don't like your pictures either. You look sad...very emo with your dyed black hair and your sword collection...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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so confused! Posted: 11/23/2009 10:13:16 AM
Wait - you only went out on a "date or two" and then decided to date exclusively? Too much, too soon, too fast... Sorry OP, but next time, take your time and let things develop ...you scared him off, so to speak...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Alright Brutalize My Profile Posted: 11/23/2009 9:48:06 AM
OMG! You're like, 12! What are you doing here? Go out and have some fun!

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Review my profile, be extra harsh Posted: 11/23/2009 9:46:48 AM
You don't have a profile. There's nothing there but a few lame sentences and a poor cam pic in horrible lighting of you with 1/2 a beard

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Tell me if I'm doing it right? Posted: 11/23/2009 9:45:27 AM
Ahh... Leave it to a lady to help the ignorant men out! I didn't think so either Tracy, but WTF do I know? LOL...I know...I have no idea what guys consider 'fat' or 'skinny' but in my opinion, the OP is definitly not fat...she might not be a size 6, but she's not fat, either

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 15 (view)

Tell me if I'm doing it right? Posted: 11/23/2009 9:39:02 AM
emma - I agree with the posters who suggested changing your body type. You're not a BBW by any stretch of the imagination.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 91 (view)

Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you? Posted: 11/23/2009 9:30:20 AM
When I was in my 20's I often dated guys 10 years older then me, but now in my 30's I won't...it just seems 'too old' now...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 116 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/23/2009 9:08:14 AM
she told me she was bored of men who come up with just "dinner" she said she wanted to be "suprised" (her exact words)...so with that said I took her to the batting cages. I will admit I love the batting cages, I have played baseball and softball all my life. She struggled with hitting the ball, was trying to teach her, we had fun(at least I thought) What she should have said was ...."go ahead and make plans, suprise me, but make sure you read my mind and make sure I like it" . Well, you chose something that YOU enjoyed. You didn't take into account something that she might enjoy....maybe skating, a picnic in the park, a drive in movie... Meh, at least YOU got some ball practice...although she probably felt like a fool trying to hit the ball...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 113 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/23/2009 8:33:35 AM
I took her to the batting cages on a first "date". I left her two messages after the date..nothing. She finally sent me a text saying the following...."You honestly expect a women to call you back after taking her to batting cages on a first date?"...I give up.... Did she ever mention that she liked playing baseball? I enjoy the sport, but can't play for $hit so if someone put me on the spot like that I wouldn't be too thrilled either-lol

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:11:14 AM
I prefer anything from 4 years younger to no more then 6 years older...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 110 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/23/2009 8:03:39 AM
In the end it is best to just communicate w/ your date. But that seems to be sommething so many have a problem doing. . Herein lies the problem...is there a tasteful way of bringing this subject up without coming across like a cheapskate? Discussing finances with someone you don't know all that well can be pretty tricky

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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where do you draw the line Posted: 11/23/2009 8:00:19 AM
He must have went bat shit crazy when Kanye stole her limelight. . Probably...I'm sure he's excited that she's now of legal age - I'm sure he thinks he has his chance at her now... lol Back to the original topic...in my case it just so out of control...everywhere we went, everything we watched on TV he always saw someone he wanted to 'be' with. Funny thing is that he actually thought he had a chance with these people. He would look me dead in the eye and say "what? you think Angelina wouldn't want me? you don't think I have a chance? Trust me -if she ever met me she'd be all over me!"

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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What are these guys doing? Posted: 11/23/2009 7:17:10 AM
For some reason these women are losing interest in you. Only you know what you're doing wrong. What are you saying to these women? What are these women saying to you? What do you mean by "messaging and calling all the time"?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Tell me if I'm doing it right? Posted: 11/23/2009 7:13:19 AM
I think your 2nd photo should be your primary photo...it's a pretty picture. If it's an old pic and you don't look like that anymore then you should remove it. We all like music and movies, so why not tell us your favorite bands and the films you like?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 105 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/23/2009 7:01:42 AM
He's making a big deal out of the fact that she appears to have some sense of entitlement over him Then he should not continue to date her. Perhaps she's too "high maintenance" for him?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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where do you draw the line Posted: 11/23/2009 6:53:54 AM
My ex used to do this all the time...at first I just let it slide, but after a while it went from annoying to just plain mean...he wanted to 'be' with everyone from the check out girl at Best Buy to Taylor Swuft (um, she was a minor at the time so that was pretty creepy)

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 94 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/23/2009 4:51:07 AM
I have went out with guys who get offended and say so when I pay. So true...I was out on a date with this guy last spring (I believe it was our 3rd date). When the bill came I reached for my wallet and he said to me "Tracy, please don't insult me like that..." OP (if your still around), if you really like this woman and want to see her again, how about inviting her over for a home cooked meal? It's much cheaper.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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OK - Have at it - I can take it! Posted: 11/21/2009 1:25:00 PM
Must agree with Lion. Do not just say Hi or something lame like that. . LOL :-0 You guys know me better then that :-) After all of my forum posts, please tell me you don't think I'd send someone a lame message like that...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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OK - Have at it - I can take it! Posted: 11/21/2009 11:39:24 AM
Oh, when I message someone I always put thought into it. I comment on a common interest and mention other things in their profile that I liked...I've mentioned in other threads about the dating 'pond' here in NJ...it's pretty small, and their aren't t too many PoF members that live around here. I will take your advice into consideration regarding my photos...but all that 'racy' stuff really isn't me at all. I don't want to give the wrong impression or try to be someone I'm not...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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OK - Have at it - I can take it! Posted: 11/21/2009 10:41:49 AM
I haven't messaged too many people... but so far only a few have responded and it hasn't led to anything. I guess I'll have to kick my pics up a notch...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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OK - Have at it - I can take it! Posted: 11/21/2009 10:29:35 AM
Well with that mirror shot you ought to be struting your stuff like a peacock!. I might have to! I don't know what it takes to get a man to notice you on this site. I would hate to have to lower myself and post cheesey bikini pictures, or pictures of me wearing revealing clothes...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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OK - Have at it - I can take it! Posted: 11/21/2009 10:18:33 AM
^^^^ Oh my goodness!!! lol

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Could everybody check out my profile and feedback it please? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:10:11 AM
Too little, but don't add anything until you fix what you have there already.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Could everybody check out my profile and feedback it please? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:05:58 AM
Well, you definitly need more and better photos. I thought it was hard to read...I think you have to check your grammer, punctuation, etc.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 114 (view)

Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him? Posted: 11/21/2009 9:52:00 AM
To answer the original question: Yes, I would. As long as he was financially stable I don't see what the big deal is. I mean 'stable' as no debt, lives on his own, is responsible with his money. With the economy the way it is, many people are taking massive pay cuts or taking jobs they're over-qualified for just to keep their head above water. I don't think someone's salary should matter, as long as they're happy.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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My profile Posted: 11/21/2009 8:44:14 AM
Hey Tim! I think you should break up that little "wall of text" into a couple of paragraphs so it will be easier to read. And you should get some better photos...you look like you could possibly be a nice looking guy, but I can't quite tell...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Profile Review, Por Favor? Posted: 11/21/2009 8:41:26 AM
I agree with the posters above regarding Body Type. There's nothing wrong with 'A few extra pounds" and yuo're quite pretty so go for it. I think the text is fine. You sound pretty cool to me -lol PS - I read the Twilight series, too

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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I would appreciate a profile review. Posted: 11/21/2009 8:24:56 AM
Your main photo looks kind of like a mug shot...get better pictures taken. Your last two paragraphs are quite nice. You should also include a brief description of who you are looking to meet. Your first two paragraphs need some work. Thrash metal? PS3? You should have something in there that a woman could related to...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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ok Im wondering what I did wrong here lol Posted: 11/21/2009 8:21:03 AM
Get better pics, add more things to your Interest section, and spell out your words completly ('lil' should be 'little')

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Honest profile review please. Posted: 11/21/2009 8:09:40 AM
I don't see what's so "odd" about liking rock, club or jazz music...you might want to rethink this paragraph...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Review please Posted: 11/21/2009 8:07:04 AM
Wayne - You're a handsome cat, and have a nice profile, so I don't know what the problem is. I guess the best advice I can offer is that when you message a lady, keep it light, friendly and mention what you liked about her profile. If it makes you feel any better, I don't get a lot of messages either. Best of luck to ya!

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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OK - Have at it - I can take it! Posted: 11/21/2009 7:13:29 AM
I made some changes, so once again your opinions would be appreciated. I'm still not getting messages. I'm working on getting more photos, but how does the text look so far?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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What to do Posted: 11/21/2009 5:13:12 AM
I heonestly think you should wait until your divorce is final before getting involved with someone. I also think that although the 9 year age difference isn't much of a big deal, it can end up being a big deal. I know from the older guys I dated when I was in my 20's...she wants to go out and party (as she should) and just have a good time. You are in your mid-30's with a broken marriage under your belt. You're at two different places in life and probably won't have that much in common. At least that's what my personal experiences have led me to believe.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Variations of the Average. Posted: 11/21/2009 5:03:15 AM
OP, your profile says you are just looking for someone to hang out with so I don't see what you're point is...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Please give me feedback Posted: 11/20/2009 1:02:04 PM
Deb - On account of the fact that you use drugs, you might have a problem here. Although I see some that are 420 Friendly, most are the young folks...not too many at your age.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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PROFILE VIEWS Posted: 11/20/2009 12:58:18 PM
Can someone please translate this for me?: from OPs profile: to be a saiyan lol to much dbz growing up there. What does this mean?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Is this a sure fire way to get rid of someone? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:45:41 PM
I think the best way to get rid of someone is to tell them nicely that even though you think they're a great person, you just don't want to see them anymore. I have tried this method and it is proven to work...just be prepared for a few nasty texts, emails and voice mails for a couple of days. Oh - you might have to un-friend them on Facebook as well...

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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My profile review Posted: 11/20/2009 12:40:24 PM
First off - you need better pictures. 2nd: You have no profile. Just a couple of generec sentences... Got to the Profile Writing Tips section, re-write - then come back for a review

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

Msg: 64 (view)

How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/20/2009 12:26:49 PM
You've set the tone for your relationship by paying for all the dates up to this point. Now what you should of done from the beginning is to let her know that you don't like paying for all the cost of dating, but you did not do that so now you have this situation. Only thing to do here would be to tell her that you no longer want to be paying for her share of the dates. I think she will probably not want to see you anymore since you have set her up to believe that you are the type of man who believes in paying for a lady's way. Next time you start dating someone let them know from the very first date that you believe in each person paying for themselves. BINGO! You don't want to pay for her anymore then you have to tell her. You can be nice about it and say "I really like you, and want to spend time with you, but I can't afford to pay for you anymore" or you can be a jerk and say "Listen, I'm not paying for you." In a million years, I could never imagine anyone saying that to me...but probably because I offer.

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Would appreciate a review Posted: 11/20/2009 12:04:11 PM
You have 5 sentences!! . LOL - gotta love how you say that you are looking for someone with similar interests, but don't us what your interested in. Are we supposed to guess?

tracyannk

Joined: 5/20/2009

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Must be doing something wrong Posted: 11/20/2009 11:33:05 AM
OK...I need to walk away from this thread now. The OP is a class A jerk... he PMd me asking me why I wasn't coming to him...I thought he was joking and kidded around and called him 'kiddo' and he blew a gasket...pretty much told me I was an idot and that I was going to live a lonely life, and a few other insults that I won't bother mentioning. All I was doing was trying to help...I don't get it, but whatever....

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