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Joined: 5/20/2009

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why is the younger gen so hard?? Posted: 7/16/2009 4:17:11 PM
The fact that you labeled them "the younger generation" shows that you realize you are looking outside of your own generation, which can be difficult. Of course many mixed age relationships work, but it seems you are looking for something that may not exist, a younger woman who can relate to a 30 yr old man with a lot of life experience. Try to see past numbers, realize that looks change, and start searching for someone who you can connect with. It sounds like you make a connection, then decide the numbers aren't right(you would prefer a younger, hotter body) then you walk away from someone who you can relate to mentally. Twenty somethings are in a different place than you, and most are not interested in dating older any more than you are.

Joined: 5/20/2009

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How should I procede? Posted: 7/16/2009 3:48:36 PM
I think giving her a business card or something with your number on it, and letting her know that you would like to get to know her better would work ok. That way the ball is in her court. She can call if she is interested. Of course it would be nice to be able to chat with her a bit when you stop in there, might help her feel more comfortable calling you if she feels like she knows you a bit. I guess it just depends on the dynamics of the office. Good luck!

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Ladies!! Can a man be too neat? Posted: 7/14/2009 1:32:26 PM
I think you can tell if your crossing the "too neat" line by looking at why you are cleaning something. Like RaiderFan said, are you going to bed dirty? I don't think so, so WHY do you need to wash sheets that often? Just because twice a week is your rule? If you are showering because your dirty, fine. Showering because you haven't showered at least twice. Not fine. Cleaning because things are dirty, fine. Cleaning because they might eventually get dirty, sounds a bit OCD. Bottom line is how you treat those around you. If your cleaning rules are more important than others feelings you may need to tone it down a bit. Or find someone as compulsive as yourself.

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Is this stink bait??? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:28:43 PM
I'm still pretty new to the forums, but that was a great review! Good job Canam Miles! Hope the OP takes some of your advice!

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Like nails on a chalkboard Posted: 6/30/2009 1:49:04 PM
OP You have gotten alot of parenting advice! Some I agree with some I don't. I feel you are on the right track, kids need responsibility and are very capable of helping out. What doens't seem to have been addressed is your frustration on her new favorite saying. "IT'S NOT MY FAULT". My kids picked up words, sayings, excuses, etc. over the years that drove me batty too! Would you let her continue saying it if what she was saying included profanity? No. That saying has become profanity to you, so don't allow her to say it. Use the same tools you have been using to put a stop to it. There were words or phrases that we DID NOT say in our home. And there were consequences of choosing to say them. It is debatable as to whether you should set the consequences or let her help set them. Explain that it is not ok to say IT'S NOT MY FAULT and when she does BLANK will happen, then be prepared to follow through every time, immediately. She is definately in a power stuggle with you and now is the time to really follow through! Good luck!

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Does this happen to you? Posted: 6/30/2009 10:21:08 AM
You know the old saying that opposites attract. Perhaps the girls messaging you see things in you that they would like in their life, even if it isn't one of their interests. You don't list in your profile what you are looking for. Maybe by saying that you are looking for someone with several interests in common you may weed out some of the girls your not interested in. Be sure to take note of what most of the others have said in regards to complaining about being contacted. Sounds like your lucky to be getting messages even if they don't have alot of obvious similar interests. Chat a bit, one of them may be the "one", don't limit yourself in your fishing! Have fun!

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Need help Posted: 6/24/2009 4:01:59 PM
When adding pics you don't need to avoid all that have you in uniform! That is a big part of who you are, and women do love men in uniform! I agree with Ron that your last paragraph needs a few fixes, and spellcheck should take care of the rest. Good luck

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Permission to rip to threads ;) Posted: 6/24/2009 3:41:52 PM
I like your pictures and your profile ( at least the update one I saw). I, too like the fact of knowing your profession, but for some reason I am bothered by "Man-sseuse". Perhaps it is because it made me look twice to see if you were looking for a woman or a man. The earlier suggestion of a name change sounds like a good idea to me. Good luck fishing

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Is this stink bait??? Posted: 6/24/2009 3:20:03 PM
I think that you may be having some trouble getting responses because you are separated and not divorced. If a woman is looking for something more than an intimate encounter she will probably stop reading at that point. The drama and difficulty of finalizing a divorce are not fertile soil for growing a new relationship. You will probably have better luck once you are actually divorced.

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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better??? Posted: 6/19/2009 2:09:51 PM
I am not against mixed age relationships, I've dated younger and older, but a word to the older men out there... Most of the younger women that you are looking for have only one thought in mind. Free ride! Now girls, don't get mad at me, there is the exception to every rule, but this is sooo often true. Women are attracted to good looking men that are their age or younger, just like the guys. They don't dream at night of an older man that they will end up nursing while in their prime. All they are really thinking about is how hard they have worked and how nice it would be to sit back, be worshipped by an older man, and not have to work anymore. If a man is retired, or close to it, has a home, etc. they figure they will have it made! He will dote on them because they are young and pretty, and he will do what is necessary to keep them looking good. Letting them spend their days at the spa etc., so that his "arm candy" is in good form for a night out in front of his pals. Please don't judge me for these thoughts, they are just a thrown out to encourage discussion and to remind men to protect themselves and the life they have worked for. I think most people who marry much below thier own age will come to the realization that they don't have alot in common for the long late night talks that become the basis for our loving relationships.

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