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anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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honesty between the sexes Posted: 7/26/2009 8:39:48 AM
I'm with you about manuals...manuals for MEN, that is. If you think WE are hard to understand, relate to etc. be assured that it is just as difficult for us to get a handle on YOU guys! It is like visiting a foreign country without a phhrasebook. At first, we're all just circling around each other (no--not like shark coming in for the kill!) not knowing what to say, do, reveal and when if at all. Sometimes its more like stumbling and mistakes and , sometimes funny, misunderstandings result And it really DOES get worse with age, as we all get more and more gunshy. Stay with it and be patient and keep your sense of humor--it will start to make sense and work...even tho you're forced to work with that alien species called Women! Good luck!! Joanna

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 6/30/2009 12:32:23 PM
I did not post my pic when I first joined because I couldn't find one that said "me"--then I just didn't bother. I realized that I wanted to be regarded for myself rather than for how I looked (faulty philosophy--perhaps I'm just timid) But, alot of guys made the effort anyway--and I found someone really special. I appreciated his taking the chance--and I would do the same for guys without a pic. Running blind can work out...

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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The possible ripple efect of the TWO lawsuits against Match.com Posted: 6/30/2009 12:24:35 PM
I may be cynical, but I wonder if any loss in court will lessen the popularity of the paid sites to any appreciable extent. There are so many "success stories" floating around, even among our own friends and family, to bolster them up regardless of unsav ory practises. Then, there are the "you get (only) what you pay for" folks, who seem to credit these fee-charging sites with superiority over equally well-directed but free sites. Those who feel that paying the most gives them the most will most likely defend e Harmony, Match.com and True.com. I DO wonder where that leaves POF and other free sites though...

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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What Do I Seem To Do Wrong?? Posted: 6/30/2009 12:08:47 PM
I'm not a guy, and so maybe my advise is redundant with what you've already gotten from your girlfriends. But I have to tell you...your experience seems far too common for all of us for you to blame yourself. Don't even blame these clueless dates you've had--it may even be thne same for them (I'm in a generous mood just now!). The old saying is right--You've got to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your charming prince. Doesn't seem to be any way to avoid this process.

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Tricked again. Posted: 6/28/2009 12:28:48 PM
You don't need this--no one needs this. I'd move on...

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter???? Posted: 6/28/2009 12:24:45 PM
I agree--physical attraction is very important. Initially it can be the deciding factor. But, it is a mistake to use that 3 second gut feeling to determine where the relationship goes--or even if there IS a relationship. Maybe this is just a gal-thing, but things can change for the better as you know a person and physical attractiveness starts to grow as the person inside becomes more and more attractive to you. Not sure if this works for men, tho. Comments ?

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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The rules of the game, Dating demystified Posted: 6/28/2009 9:33:33 AM
These are all good observations and ARE applicable to both men and women (with a little variation). It can become a round dance of sorts, tho, when both of you are following thes rules (I'd rather call them advised behavior) with very interesting results., each different each open to various outcomes. Good start!

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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What Happened? Posted: 6/28/2009 8:58:29 AM
Hey, Jamie--I would have LOVED the care and concern you showed when this all too common disaster happened to me. In my case, I got cool nonchalance and that was devastating--especially when this "common problem" turned out to be a real problem. Don't turn off those caring romantic impulses, but test the waters first before you send them out. It didn't work in this case, but that doesn't mean it is a blanket bad policy. It's not.

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Is it possible to look past insecurities Posted: 6/28/2009 8:35:18 AM
Right--this is a sticky situation. A caring woman (or man!) can lavish understanding , sympathy and make allowances --and put up with some uncomfortable stuff--only to hav e it all backfire and be blamed for it!! Better to let the individual handle his or her own insecurities--more than likely, we have our own to contend with!

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 6/25/2009 4:47:35 PM
to fifi47: I, too, do not have a photo with my profile. I just hate the idea of being judged solely by appearances, so even tho I am better than acceptable I will not post one. The amount of interest I have received with only my overlong profile is still surprising me. Several men have traveled quite a distance to meet me, sight unseen--a real plus in my book--and I have had some great dates and met someone really special. Apparently, it does happen

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:32:01 PM
I agree with Moonchild: I see nothing wrong with coveting, loving, buying something--shoes are a PRIME example-- that has little or nothing to do with men. Nothing wrong with making yourself feel , well, prime either. A guy, not your girlfriends, will pick up on that!

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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The British Cuppa - is this the end of the road? Posted: 6/24/2009 1:24:51 PM
Not to worry--can't say for you, but the British cuppa is making a good start over here-- can't say the same for the British fried breakfasts. So far, just a gimmick in Irish and British pubs. Will it soon be the American cuppa??

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Where do your eyes wonder to when you first meet? Posted: 6/24/2009 1:12:38 PM
I think you've got it right--except for all the guys who couldn't tell you what color eyes or hair you've got--Too busy on the chest! That's tiresome. As for women vieing guys--yeah, you're on the money...

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Stonehenge Summer Solstice Posted: 6/24/2009 12:56:37 PM
There's always Avebury. You can still walk among the stones--and hit the pub right inside the circle. Try the Winster solstice there, too...

anglophile artist

Joined: 5/22/2009

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Define what a Good Woman is please. Posted: 6/22/2009 1:34:25 PM
Some really good answers, Steve. But, how about a woman who knows & accepts herself--and lets you do the same--two equals that like, appreciate and enjoy each other. With no tweaking!! (and I CAN make a mean whatever salad as well-- most of us can!)

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