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iamtheone39

Joined: 2/11/2006

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Tallahassee, Crawfordville, Sopchoppy N. Fla??? Posted: 1/20/2008 10:15:41 PM
My family is all from this area,my Dad is buried in Crawfordsville...I am also kin to alot of current people living there...hopefully I can participate in anything you have planned. Wayne

iamtheone39

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why do so many divorced dads want to be part time dads? Posted: 1/20/2008 9:53:54 PM
I wonder is these Dads really WANT to be part-time or FORCED to be part-time Dads? There is a difference ya know. I have looked at this very topic for years and still come to the same conclusion. Divorce is tough and Dads just don't want to tango with their ex's even though they love their kids. There are exceptions,my Dad was one of them. He chose the bottle rather than taking us more often,but there are some Dads out there who do love their kids,but don't love the ex. With this in mind,the ex's whether man or woman should do whatever it takes to make visitation as smooth as possible. I challenge any parent who disagrees with this.

iamtheone39

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why do so many divorced dads want to be part time dads? Posted: 1/20/2008 10:12:34 AM
Fighting isn't good for the kids and that in itself is a form of abuse friend.

iamtheone39

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Msg: 28 (view)

why do so many divorced dads want to be part time dads? Posted: 1/20/2008 9:29:29 AM
Believe it or not,there are actually some valid/legal issues with some Dads who don't see their kids. First,get to know their ex,then you will maybe have a change of mind about that particular single Dad. I am not making excuses for the Dads that have chose to not see their kids for other reasons,but sometimes there is more beneath the surface. I actually will try to look into any situation with women who have FULL custody and the kids never see their fathers. I know I can't take it for granted that he is an "uncaring" Father. Divorce is tough for both parties and sometimes the Father gets the short end of the deal.

iamtheone39

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Instant Messenger Help. Posted: 1/20/2008 8:42:16 AM
I live in Florida,but as of yesterday they people displayed at the top of my emails are people in the southern part of the state,not like previously as they were all from my local area...Is there an error occuring in the POF system causing this or can I adjust something to change the area these people are in that are displayed at the top? I wouldn't mind emailing different women from Florida,but these people are over 8hrs away.

iamtheone39

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why do so many divorced dads want to be part time dads? Posted: 1/20/2008 8:12:08 AM
I can answer your question...Unfair of course to the children,dealing with the ex is extremely difficult sometime. I do really believe that this is the case in many instances where the Dad has only "minimal" contact and relations with his kids,either fearing to going to jail by the ex calling cops for idiot reasons or making it so difficult for the Dad to see his kids that it isn't worth it. Believe me,I love me kids more than anything in this world,but if I was to lose joint custody and she was pulling the strings,I would be better off just contacting them by phone than deal with her visitation schedule...only on HER terms. It is truly something to consider in meeting someone is to find out REALLY how the Dad feels about his kids rather than just looking at HOW much he sees them.

iamtheone39

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Double income families complaining about childcare expenses Posted: 1/13/2008 4:28:54 PM
So true,my ex complaining about taking off work for taking my son to his Dr. appts. and school meetings yet her and her new hubby have NOT only two incomes,but also my support...yet,I am a single father and ONLY have my income to support my kids 42% and if I take off work the rent won't get paid...Single parents do what they have to do which means sometime we might just have to schedule their appts. when we have some time off.

iamtheone39

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Is the solution single mum meets single dad = happy family Posted: 1/9/2008 8:29:54 PM
You being 35 should keep most guys from seeking a woman to have more kids with. I know from info I have read that women can safely have kids til about 43 or 44,but most guys in their 30s or 40s usually don't date women in that age group to have children. Like others said in this thread,just put it up front from the start and everything should be O.K...then again,you can always adopt...hehe.

iamtheone39

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Drinking.. Fire.. and DONT TELL MOM! Posted: 1/9/2008 8:23:25 PM
Hmmm...sometimes our kids(my son will also be 10 this Saturday) can exaggerate alot of what happens with our ex's. Now I am NOT saying this didn't happen as your son told you,but PLEASE take anything your son did with your ex with a grain of salt because OUR poor kids are as you know,IN THE MIDDLE ALREADY. I am not sure what it will accomplish by taking your ex to court. Remember, the courts isn't JERRY SPRINGER,so unless you have more evidence than your son's testimony,it won't help and it will actually hurt the situation. Sometimes,as much as it hurts,we have to take alot of what happens at our ex's and just "grin and bear it",thanks for the thread.

iamtheone39

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medical issues with children. [LOCKED FOR REVIEW] Posted: 1/2/2008 9:22:44 PM
Nevaehs_mom,it is good that your going forward...unlike others who dwell in people's mistakes that they have made. I am glad your doing everything that you can for your daughter. I know I won't ever marry another woman 14yrs younger,but that is another story...

iamtheone39

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medical issues with children. Posted: 1/1/2008 6:29:40 PM
nevaehs_mom,it is going to be up to you to make that difference. Just my opinion,but do your best in making the Mom to Dad transition as smooth as possible for your daughter...sometimes YOU and I are the only ones that CAN make a difference since the other only thinks of themself...good luck girl.

iamtheone39

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Trying to Share The Kids At Christmas.... Posted: 12/28/2007 9:40:18 PM
brandiw,I read your post and got really sad...I am so sorry your kids had to experience this sad event. What kind of present is pillows and blankets for such small kids? I'm sorry,I would have called and acted like I was a fireman and said the house was on fire and when he brought the kids outside,I would have drove by and gotten them...What is the worst your ex could do,but take you back to court with a "blanket and pillow" "case?

iamtheone39

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Trying to Share The Kids At Christmas.... Posted: 12/27/2007 9:24:26 PM
I should get a medal for my ability to read the future...I didn't get to see my kids this Christmas and I am not going to see them until 12/30...Some things are just sooo predictable!

iamtheone39

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New Years Eve ideas Posted: 12/26/2007 10:09:54 PM
Thanks fairmont,I didn't read the first post very well...we are never STUCK at home with our kids. Hell,if you want to go out,there are babysitters that are open 24hrs you can drop your kids off at,but for me,I want to share the New Year with the ones I love.

iamtheone39

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New Years Eve ideas Posted: 12/25/2007 9:50:12 PM
Thanks for the thread and I will being looking for the comments. I also have my kids and won't be going out drinking,so I would love to hear some ideas also.

iamtheone39

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son been picked on... Posted: 12/21/2007 10:03:56 PM
sweetthangtoo,thanks for the thread. My son has problems like this also at his school and I think sometimes that as kids these kinds of issues are amplified far more than they are. I mean,now that I look back at the names I was called,it makes me laugh,but at the time it was detrimental. I also know how you must feel about his friends thinking of him being called a snitch. Unfortunately,this a by product of only having a Mom to defend him and he is trying so hard to fit in with the guys. I can only just see empathizing with him the best you can and try not to take it so hard,the more you make out of it,the more detrimental it will appear to your son also. Hopefully the kid will get tired of the childhood games and go on to something else. Good luck.

iamtheone39

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Unaccompanied Minor on flight screw-up. Posted: 12/16/2007 3:11:45 PM
In this day and age,any age boy or girl isn't safe. It is hard being single parents and having to take care of so many things by yourself. I understand why you put your son on the plane by himself,just have many backup conditions in place.

iamtheone39

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My daughter's friend... Posted: 12/16/2007 3:06:03 PM
"Attention" is the word here...if the parents are giving her any,she will get it elsewhere. Put a little "insecurity" in the picture and if a girl is from a divorced family, and it spells "TROUBLE"

iamtheone39

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Christmas all alone? Posted: 12/3/2007 9:50:04 PM
I am with the OP,sometimes we just can't control what the other party does with their visitation time. Unfortunately,sometimes we just have to bite the bullet and try to go on. My ex always makes the decisions when it comes to changing the rules of visitation,even going so far as to not give me my kids back at all...juvenile as it may seem,we just have to rise above it all with an optimistic attitude. I am also going to spend Christmas alone. The kids would love to spend it with me also,but the ex will do her own thing as usual. I can definitely look back to last year when I had a one of a kind Christmas with the kids,better than all the ones put together I had with her while we were married. It was even hard then spending it with just yourself and the kids,but going over my sister's house with all her food and presents made it an unforgettable year,even the best Christmas yet. Just look forward to your time with them next year,and remember it will be the ex's turn w/o the kids.

iamtheone39

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Does anyone else raise two kids completely on their own?? Posted: 12/2/2007 4:10:13 PM
Thanks for the thread. I share custody with my ex for my two kids,but I just had them three weeks straight during the Thanksgiving break and I agree with you. It is very hard to raise two kids on your own,and it gets harder as the kids get older. God gives me the strength and also the power to do it. Sometimes we just have to sit back and get our bearings together and take it one day at a time.

iamtheone39

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Are Single Moms Hypocritical When It Comes To Dating Single Dads? Posted: 11/22/2007 5:55:45 PM
At least alot of honesty is coming out in this thread...single moms don't want more kids,single dads would love meeting another single mom,hypocritical,maybe. Like Pucks said,I am definitely NOT looking for another Mom to care for my children. I do a fine job on my own,but it would be nice to meet the special someone for dating/possible relationship.

iamtheone39

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Are Single Moms Hypocritical When It Comes To Dating Single Dads? Posted: 11/22/2007 7:20:31 AM
topazgoddess,I knew there was a reason for wanting to live in Canada! Huggabunny,this thread is devoted to you,women with kids wanting single men who don't like kids...

iamtheone39

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It takes a village to raise a child Posted: 11/21/2007 10:50:36 PM
This reminds me of a time at a waterpark when a preteen girl who was fairly large up top had her bathing suit top slip going down a waterslide...my ex saw it first and let her know about the slip up,but no one else seemed to even want to tell the poor girl about it...she thanked the ex and went on her way very red- faced,but thankful we had told her.

iamtheone39

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CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN! Posted: 11/21/2007 10:18:01 PM
I don't think God intended a woman to have to play a Dad,but under the current circumstances in today's society it is happening. I mean I can't teach my daughter how to put on makeup any more than a mother can teach her son the manly things. All we can do is use our resources,whether it may be friends or family...they are there. I also think getting him into a church with other male role models is a good idea. Good luck friend.

iamtheone39

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Are Single Moms Hypocritical When It Comes To Dating Single Dads? Posted: 11/21/2007 8:49:54 PM
C.Nutt,I remember when I was single guy w/o kids in the dating pool years ago...a date of mine had two little girls who insisted on putting their dirty feet on the back seat of my car. I said something about it and she immediately stood up for her daughters bad behavior,so I understand what you are saying there. But now I look at some of that stuff as so petty compared to what my kids are capable of!

iamtheone39

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Does anyone else raise two kids completely on their own?? Posted: 11/20/2007 6:41:06 PM
I am raising two kids on my own,no second half helping me with the bills. It is hard,but I definitely depend on an higher power. I remember having my kids when they were 8mo. and 1 1/2 years old and not knowing if I could do it. I prayed for the strength and everything ended up O.K...We are definitely given extra strength during times we need it.

iamtheone39

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Are Single Moms Hypocritical When It Comes To Dating Single Dads? Posted: 11/18/2007 5:35:13 PM
My personal opinion on the reason behind not dating single dads is only one...sharing attention. Women on the whole do not want to share attention. If you have kids,they will have to share your attention. Now the hypocritical part comes in because in most cases they are a single mom. Now,I have never complained about a woman sharing her attention with me and her kids. I expect her to give attention to her kids especially if they are younger in age. All I can say is,a single dad has soooo much more to offer a single mom and if it is just the attention you are seeking,then just get a dog,they will always be in your lap,on your bed and be there when it is dinner time.

iamtheone39

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Are Single Moms Hypocritical When It Comes To Dating Single Dads? Posted: 11/17/2007 6:50:19 PM
"Blacklisted"...interesting term. Everybody at my workplace knows I am a single Dad and they seem to choose the guys in front of me and the guys in back of me,but me? No way! I have been blacklisted as you say,Limeguy...and I am not whining about it at all. I chose this path and I will remain in it. I know that there are some women out there that are still looking for a good father figure and would still love to date a single Dad...sorry,I am trying to be optimistic.

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 11/12/2007 9:17:31 PM
I agree,just God had to pick one to deliver the little guy/gal...

iamtheone39

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is it okay for kids to see you naked? Posted: 11/10/2007 8:42:58 PM
Another thread full of flames to the OP...I am just curious the idea of this thread to begin with...the OP should be expecting plenty of flames from the readers about a touchy subject like this one. Accidents happen all the time and well,we can't be any different with affection with or w/o the kids around or how will they even know about affection. Couples have taken showers before together w/o doing the nasty all the time. In fact,if you lived in Tennessee right now,you would HAVE to take showers together if you even wanted to get one with the huge water shortage they are having. I mean if the door is locked then I don't see a problem with the two taking a shower together and the four year old isn't thinking the same as we do. She is just a four year old that accidentally walked in and no other thing about it should be addressed. Things like this happen all the time especially if your living in a smaller place. The important thing is to try and always keep doors locked and don't make an issue out of it or it will make it worse.

iamtheone39

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Parents who just can not get along. Posted: 11/9/2007 9:43:08 PM
Wow,metempsychosis,I had to check your profile to see if you were my ex...All I can say about this is to be very gentle with your son. Put yourself in his shoes...just because his mommy and daddy couldn't get along it isn't his fault. We can't fight or argue with our young kids(and yes,my son is also 9,so I completely understand),they are the only losers in this turmoil. As hard as it is,we have to bite our tongue sometime. I am definitely no angel when it comes to dealing with the ex,but the fighting has to come to a stop or someone else will step in like in my case. You don't want D.C.F. or whoever the child workers in British Columbia are called to call the shots. The funny thing is,all people my ex has been in contact with,including friends,school nurse, and doctors...all say the same thing,she is rude and impolite. I know I want to shine compared to her,no matter what it takes. If your the beacon any judge will see the difference. Good luck with that.

iamtheone39

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question-u want your kid to be a straight a kid/are u a straight a parent Posted: 11/8/2007 7:52:35 PM
Good to know that we can agree on something,Crane...I wish I had a trade,I feel crippled in this town not having one. A degree isn't good for anything except wiping your a** in this town. A trade you can carry anywhere in the world and make money with it. I would give my left arm (actually rt. one,I am left handed) to be a welder...that is some good money around here. I respect anyone that has a skill because I know it was twice as much work to get it than sitting in a class in front of a teacher.

iamtheone39

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question-u want your kid to be a straight a kid/are u a straight a parent Posted: 11/8/2007 6:51:45 AM
I would like to ask the members a question. What if their child isn't college-minded and wants to pursue other occupations,are you going to look down on that child? I have a friend who went to work with the garbage collection company,Waste Management, when he was only about 19yrs old...well he has been with Waste for about 20yrs or so,but never had more than a high school education. He has enough experience to go with any company(like BFI or the county) he chooses using his experience from Waste. I would never dream of making the money he makes for Waste Management or having his retirement. I have 5years of college and a four year degree behind me.

iamtheone39

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question-u want your kid to be a straight a kid/are u a straight a parent Posted: 11/7/2007 8:52:29 PM
Some kids are better for Vocational School with a trade in mind rather than forcing them to go to college. I know in this town,unless your a lawyer,doctor,or politician,a college education won't do you any good. I am going to at least help my son get thru high school,but beyond that is up to him. He can make more money here being a foreman on a construction site. The military is also a good option for some kids. I knew a principal once that made his kids go for at least 2years in the military service just to get a good discipline. Each kid is different though,push their strengths,not their weaknesses.

iamtheone39

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When a teen decides to live with their other parent. Posted: 11/6/2007 8:49:51 PM
Good to know you feel that way,dreamNman...that is a good attitude.

iamtheone39

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When a teen decides to live with their other parent. Posted: 11/6/2007 5:39:31 AM
I've heard stories that the judge in my county won't let the kids decide until their 18yrs old...I hope he is wrong and for the kid's sake continue to choose the both of us.

iamtheone39

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Sorry, just need to rant! Posted: 11/4/2007 7:26:06 PM
I went thru this when my ex was telling me to put my kids to bed at 8pm instead of the 9pm time I chose. I mean,every household is somewhat different even if your sharing custody. I don't have that someone waiting in the bed for me,so why should I go put my kids to bed at 8? Unfortunately,it was differences like the T.V. thing that might have caused your divorce,I don't know. I mean,what if your ex didn't like your drinking? It is a hard pill to swallow sometime,but swallow is what we must do on occasions. Those are the minor things compared to what kind of friends he should hang out with and what kinds of stuff he should be taking in school...the best thing is to do is stay on topic,the important ones!

iamtheone39

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Single Parent Forums Posted: 11/4/2007 12:04:01 PM
Sometimes I wish I was a "stronger" man,but ya know,not growing up with much of a father and a step dad,I have to work with the person I am...a caring,but sometimes emotional man. Maybe I have more feelings than most men,but does it make me less of one?...I don't think so ,but maybe others do. It is too late to change that about myself and maybe I wouldn't want to. I do see it having a great effect on my son,he is caring,and a true gentlemen deep down within his heart.

iamtheone39

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What time does your kids goes to bed? Posted: 11/3/2007 6:38:57 PM
Around 9pm on the weekdays and later on the weekends...I always went to bed at 9pm when I lived with my parents and I thought it was a good time and I turned out o.k. ...If I had a gf or wife,the kids would go to bed earlier,but being only me here,no use in sending them to bed,I want to enjoy my parenting time with them.

iamtheone39

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Single Parent Forums Posted: 11/3/2007 6:29:50 PM
Rivergirl...you just wouldn't look right with "bigger balls of steel"...

iamtheone39

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Single Parent Forums Posted: 11/3/2007 4:51:07 PM
Here's my two cents,I agree somewhat...I used to post feelings on another site call cs...(leave it to the readers to guess) and I love the support I always got. It was so excited to tell them the results of any court cases. I am actually scared to do that on pof,in fear of crane man accusing me of whining again...

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 11/2/2007 8:41:55 PM
Me,Me,Me... Who else had the time when they were screwing another guy in another trailer?...jeez,just like there are women who fix their own cars,not just men...there are men that have done a great job taking care of babies.

iamtheone39

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Msg: 128 (view)

Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/30/2007 8:42:08 PM
Cheers to you,daltrouble for taking the responsibility that most men shun. I look around me,the women,don't even look my way because when they think about dating me,they only see two kids in the way of them not getting their full attention. I know I would get more dates if I didn't have my kids,that is a given. But what are dates w/o an end purpose? I mean,really,do I want a woman that doesn't want a man to fight for equal visitation? To me,the only woman I would ever want to be with would be one that respects my sacrifices for my kids. Thank goodness I already had my share in my earlier single days. Now is my time to commit to devoting time to things that will carry on for generations even after I am gone. I look at a best friend that died unexpectedly a few years ago and how he always put his son and his wife above all. Now his son will carry on that memory rather than a father who took to booze or women. My kids don't have any question about who I put first in their lives. That is my code,that is only reason for being a " real" man.

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/28/2007 9:55:57 PM
Trish,I got on this forum to relax,not to try and play lawyer proving my points...I am not getting graded here or paid. I don't believe you are either,relax girl...maybe then,that catch will come...most men are looking for fish,not sharks. It is the norm to always expect single moms to get the kids. In the last decade things have changed a little. Fathers have wanted more of a part in their kids lives. I do believe that is a change for the good. Unfortunately, the reason why there are more single Fathers isnt really because of the increase in the father's role,but actually a DECREASE in the interest in mothers wanting to take part in their kid's lives. No,Trish,I can't copy and paste my evidence,but read any Newsweek or U.S. News for the lasted stats on that info. I am just glad that there are still Moms and Dads that want to play a role in their kids lives.

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/28/2007 11:48:28 AM
trish,the mods would prohibit me from "cutting and pasting" all your posts,I apologize...have a nice day and get a hobby or go outside and play a little

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/27/2007 11:57:59 PM
Trish,your anger in your past chimes in every word you say...you still have issues with your ex while I have continued on with my life...it all comes from me raising my kids on my OWN. If I had hopped in bed with another woman before rising up from the ashes of my marriage,then I would have had issues like you...bantering on and on about how good you are and how everyone else is wrong. I was just putting in my opinion like others on this forum. A thread is made up more than just two people,so move back and let others post my dear.

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/26/2007 11:03:32 PM
trish,why are you trying to run the show here? I am not a newbie to this site or to this particular forum...You have just said,"blah,blah,blah" and not stated any facts or any stats to back you views one bit. I mean you are just a raccoon in a corner with it's fur sticky up trying to defend itself. Of course the men want to get along with their ex's for the kid's sake,but the problem is that is why we are divorced...we don't live in an imaginary world like Willy Wonka and eat the petals of flowers like they are chocolate. I would love to be able to communicate with my ex concerning problems with my son,but there is not respect there and respect has to be earned...I am not going to call anyone when there is yelling and screaming on all her messages she leaves on my answering machine. I also can tell you probably are yelling and screaming at your ex all the time also by the posts you have on this Forum. Most men are into drama,most women are...yeah,it would be good if we all could get along,but then it also would be good to not have to work and win the state lottery.

iamtheone39

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Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/25/2007 10:32:56 PM
Sorry Damages,the way Trish was copying and pasting your posts and her replies led me to believe that she might have been your ex,but then again the att. she is giving you might just mean that she likes you! Trish,my posts were covering alot of people's posts unlike yours,just ranting about Damage's feelings of what he is going thru. I mean,jeez,anyone would have thought you two were a couple by your harsh remarks back and forth,but then again,seeing that your a manager,no wonder.

iamtheone39

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Msg: 76 (view)

Why is it most women automatically think the a child is better off with the mother vs. the father Posted: 10/25/2007 9:08:14 PM
Thanks for the post,spongebob,many many infants use formula from the time they are born without any side effects. I know my sister adopted two boys as soon as they were born,explain how she was going to breastfeed them? There are the proven facts about breastfeeding,but believe it or not trish,nowadays feeding newborns formula instead of breastfeeding them is the norm. I know I had my daughter when she was eight months old and my son at the same time when he was only a year and a half old. Sometimes you just have to do whatever you can to give your kids the very best. I mean my ex had my daughter in a car seat for many many hours at a daycare and her poor little head had hardly any hair left on it from my daughter just being able to move it from side to side in the car seat restraints. My ex feels the guilt because every time we are at the same place she responds with phrases like:"I know you hate me..." I don't hate anyone,"hate" is a very strong word to use,but sometimes it just is hard to forget these things. If she just said,"I'm sorry" it would heal a thousand wounds. Maybe that is what you need to do Trish and Damage just to start the healing. We have all done wrong,but coming to grips with it and confessing it to one another is really the answer. Otherwise,we will carry it over to the next relationship.

iamtheone39

Joined: 2/11/2006

Msg: 68 (view)

I want shared 50/50 custody Posted: 10/24/2007 8:14:07 PM
I agree,to get 50/50 a Dad will have to hire a lawyer most of the time...50/50 doesn't ever come automatically. But I have a judge in my county that truly believes in 50/50 and even gave my ex and I a study showing the advantages to joint custody. I am so glad to have a judge that is the District Judge to push the joint custody. I do not want to see the side effects in the future of just Moms or just Dads raising our kids,their are alot of negative results from both of these living situations.

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