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~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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when you reply just to be polite Posted: 11/24/2009 1:16:08 PM
I used to as it seemed only fair as they had made the effort in the first place but then the majority get abusive so now i don't bother.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Funniest First Contact Message. Posted: 11/24/2009 12:41:59 PM
I got one earlier that just said 'hump' i don't know if they were offering a hump or asking if i had the hump! and i daren't ask I just got this one.. I bought some fillet steak today & it cost nearly £12 wtf???????????? lol

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Getting used to being single. Posted: 11/24/2009 12:00:38 PM
Yes i do think that the longer you are single the harder it is to change that and be in a relationship. I am pretty happy being single, but always open to the fact that one day someone may blow me away enough for me to want to change that but the longer i stay single the less likely it becomes as he would have to be someone pretty amazing.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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hard to be single - social events Posted: 11/18/2009 11:27:52 AM
It doesn't bother me at all, there are still plenty of people to talk to so you'r e not alone at events.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Matchmaking Posted: 11/11/2009 6:06:26 AM
I wouldn't say i matchmake but i do tend to introduce friends that i think would get on well and sometimes romance blossoms. My friends and my kids tend to try and matchmake for me but their idea of the perfect guy for me isn't mine!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Going naked In Public Posted: 11/9/2009 8:10:49 AM
My friend took part in the art podium thing in london the other week and did it naked, the artist got clearance from the mayor for someone to do it and when someone complained and asked the police to remove him they were informed that as long as they didn't touch themselves they were perfectly ok to be there naked. But surely if someonewalked down the street startkers they would be done for indecent exposure? or is it just if they touch themselves? I wouldn't feel comfortable with seeing someone naked in public, but thats only because its not the norm and we are conditioned from a young age that the naked form is a private thing. It's sad really.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Are mens lives complete with out a woman? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:38:23 AM
I thought that everyone were more or less at the same place when you hit 30+. Male or female you are going to be more settled, own home, social life, friends, hobbies, life! Aren't you?

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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How soon do you give your number out? Posted: 11/6/2009 8:30:56 AM
If you can't block them buy a whistle and blow it down the phone if they start bothering you

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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How soon do you give your number out? Posted: 11/6/2009 6:53:57 AM
Hunni i think you did the right thing, i don't give my number out unless i feel comfortable with someone, certainly not after a handful of messages. Only once did i give my number out very quickly, never again!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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join the army and go to Afghanistan Posted: 11/4/2009 7:29:00 AM
It takes a certain mentality to want to join though Des, my son and others like him see joining up as a chance to gain a good career, protect their country and be all that they can be, but for others such as myself don't understand this war at all, why our troops are there, what can they achieve? All i see are politicians playing god and using our troops as playthings to prove a point. Every day there is news of more lives lost in the fighting, but my son just says that he isn't worried, he stands as much chance being killed in a car crash or a freak accident as he does being there, if he loses his life there it's been lost doing something positive, i wish we could all see it that way but some of us just can't.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Really Ugly Kids Posted: 11/4/2009 7:08:06 AM
Two of my friends are both gorgeous yet their little boy is ermmm very odd looking i guess you could call it, even his mum says that she hopes that one day he grows into his face.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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join the army and go to Afghanistan Posted: 11/4/2009 7:01:38 AM
My son was accepted a few weeks ago but has been told that he shouldn't start his training until April, maybe sooner if someone drops out. I hate the fact he has joined, he is only 17 and far too young. As a parent i have mixed emotions, i feel so proud of him yet also terrified. Why did he join? He showed no interest in joining the army until earlier this year, he then tried to find work as he was staying on at school but hated it, noone are taking on apprentices now, he wanted to join the police but was told they aren't taking on for a few years now unless from ethnic minority groups to make up the quota numbers needed ( their words) he was completely disheartened, he has a couple of part time jobs but nothing with prospects and wanted to get a trade so this was his choice. We discussed it at length, i tried to talk him out of it, even looked myself into jobs for him, got him on a college course for it to be axed due to no funding, he is adament this is what he wants to do, he knows it's not what i want for him but as a parent all i can do is support him, love him and hope nothing happens to him. Hopefully by the time he has completed his training our boys will be coming home.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Beauty and the inflitrated gene pool. Posted: 11/3/2009 7:59:47 AM
I think that there are certain traits that you link to certain nations that are attractive, oriental women generally have wonderful figures, small and dainty, italian woman have thick luxurious hair, english have lovely pale skin. I don't think there is a certain nation that are above others for beauty. How many people can trace their ancestory back and be pure to one gene pool anyway?

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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The lets just be friends! Thread Posted: 11/3/2009 7:51:38 AM
JTFN thats not true ! It is possible to be friends with an ex and not use them when the need suits, yes it can be easy to fall back into whats comfortable when you feel needy/lonely but out of respect some of use don't play games like that! If someone is a friend then respect for them is the most important thing.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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The lets just be friends! Thread Posted: 11/3/2009 7:36:02 AM
I don't see the problem with being 'just friends' with past lovers, i would never be lovers with someone that i didn't respect and like as a friend and that basis can still remain even when that sexual spark has gone.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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He forgot my name!?! Posted: 11/3/2009 6:05:10 AM
I'm terrible at remembering peoples names so i wouldn't take it personally, unless it was forgotten in bed ;)

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Other parents badly behaved kids! Posted: 11/3/2009 6:00:14 AM
Be blunt with him, explain to him that he is welcome to play at your house with your children if he treats you all with respect, your home and kids, your rules. I feel kind of sorry for him to be honest, his parents have split up he is recieving no guidence by the sounds of it and is reacting to that. By showing that he is welcome as long as he behaves may help him to learn, praise him when he is good just like you would your own, he probably doesn't have much praise as well as disipline.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Enthusiastic or desperate? Posted: 11/2/2009 8:32:42 AM
I personally wouldn't want to meet someone after just 3/4 messages, it takes longer than that to get a vibe about someone. Don't you end up as a serial dater if you just meet everybody you share a couple of messages with? I'm in no rush to meet anyone, if i feel attracted to them after many messages then i will if not then i won't, if someone nags to meet after just a couple of messages it makes me back of though.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Proper dates please Posted: 11/2/2009 6:56:53 AM
Personally i would be happy to go for just a walk to get to know someone, i don't see it as a sign that they are looking for a secluded place to have sex..not on a first date anyway! Everyone has their own preferences it's just a matter of finding a comfortable middle ground if you can't decide on something that you both want.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Fatalism on dating sites Posted: 10/29/2009 9:16:36 AM
A friend of mine joined here before me, the first guy she chatted to here she went on to marry so anything can happen.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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CSA Have Reared Their Ugly Head Posted: 10/29/2009 9:01:34 AM
The csa completely confuse me, my husband died back in 94, i claimed benefits for 3 months and that is the only time i have made a claim, yet i had a letter from the csa last year saying i needed to provide information where my husband was so they could chase payments for support or i would have to pay back the benefits i claimed for 3 months! When i called them they said it was a mistake their end and apologised but how did they choose to contact me after all this time trying to claim money of a dead man just because i claimed benefits for 3 months! i have since had two more letters saying the same which i just ignore. They should spend their time working on real cases!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Turn off or turn on jobs Posted: 10/29/2009 8:50:47 AM
I have to say i find men who have physical jobs sexier than office workers.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Dating people you haven't met online Posted: 10/29/2009 8:13:16 AM
I get asked out still despite being an oldie, in bars, supermarket, work, but none that i fancy sadly. I find talking to people online better than when out in a bar to be honest, as when out the majority of guys are just drunk and looking for an easy lay, at least online they can pretend to be interested and you don't have to put up with them looking down your cleavage

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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When do we stop looking Posted: 10/28/2009 9:54:22 AM
Gucci i don't get it? Why cancel a date with someone you really liked just because he was on here, you was too! lol It was before you had met up, if you were in a serious relationship with each other i could understand it but he should stop using the site before you have even had your first date? Not having a go just don't get it at all, hope you haven't missed out on someone special.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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When do we stop looking Posted: 10/28/2009 8:52:14 AM
I have been here on and of for over a year, i'm not actively looking but if someone came along and blew me away i wouldn't object. I think this site is good as a distraction and chatting to new people is nice and more fun than watching coronation street on a cold wet evening. There are good people and bad here Trixie Doo just like in any walk of life, but it's easier to ignore the idiots online than it is in a pub ;)

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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School Children and Respect for Teachers. Posted: 10/22/2009 11:48:23 AM
I worked in a primary school as a classroom ancillary and was often attacked by unruly children, spat at, kicked, bitten! we cannot even hold the children back as if we do we can be charged, we just have to let them do what they wish, how can they respect someone who can't even restrain them to stop them inflicting harm? Being told by a 10 year old, 'touch me and i'll sue you' just sums todays world up!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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fat-ism, the next one for the pc brigade? Posted: 10/19/2009 11:26:14 AM
Pigeon.... You are wrong, my friend is overweight, due to bad diet and lack of exercise? no! She has a health problem that caused her mass weight gain among other things! And i was at the other end of the scale...the skinny ones you talk about, it wasn't due to not eating it was due to illness! But in both cases, fat or skinny people judge and point fingers, jump to mindless conclusions and punish us for it. Personally i think that any person should be taken on in a job for their own merits, their size should not be an issue, if the job calls for a level of fitness then everyone should have the same tests done to see if they are up to it, if not fair enough.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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What pets do you have. Posted: 10/1/2009 6:33:23 AM
2 cats, one full time and his brother part time as he only pops home every few months, a rabbit and 3 ducks, they aren't mine but have taken residence in my garden for the last couple of years and followed us when we moved as it's next door to our old place.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Moral Dilemma - she should tell him or not? Posted: 10/1/2009 5:59:54 AM
I understand her not wanting her ex in their lives and protecting her child when he was younger but as he has grown and started to ask questions she should have answered him truthfully, especially now he is at an age to understand more. The guy has the right to know he has a child, but without knowing the extent of his abuse to the childs mother its hard for anyone to judge her choice to keep it from him. The childs welfare comes first, now he is old enough he deserves the truth so he can make his own choices.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Personal Happiness. Posted: 10/1/2009 5:47:54 AM
I think that is a good question crucified. Personally i'd say that i am very happy and content now, my life compared to what it was a few years ago is fantastic, so i would on impulse say yes i am very happy and content, but when i look at the big picture i know that i could be ' happier'. As humans we all strive for more than what we have, we do tend to fall into that 'comfort zone' occasionally but it's natural to have times when we want more than we have at present.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Stress and Chocolate Posted: 9/30/2009 8:36:44 AM
Joneeboy....I'm a morning person so go for a run each morning as chocolate at 5 am is a bit bad!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Stress and Chocolate Posted: 9/30/2009 7:43:19 AM
I love chocolate but never associate having it when stressed, i always fancy it if i am feeling horny for some reason but never stressed. I agree with the poster above i find physical exercise such as running or swimming a great way to combat stress and better for you than a huge slab of chocolate.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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MSN Posted: 9/30/2009 6:53:40 AM
I got rid of my msn a couple of years ago, mainly due to how men can change when conversing on it, you can be chatting away have the cams on and it all be innocent and fun, go and make a drink come back and he has his tackle out giving it the five finger shuffle!!! Not nice! Plus i am usually multi tasking when online so find a 1 2 1 conversation pretty impossible. Life is alot easier now i don't use msn, some prefer not to talk at all as messages via here or facebook ( which is a recent thing for me) are not as easy and free flowing but they suit me so tough

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Pre-nups agreements in the UK Posted: 9/30/2009 6:27:16 AM
I'd have one. I have worked hard for what i have and if i remarried and anything happened i wouldn't want to be left with less than i brought into the marriage, but i wouldn't want his money if he had any either. Are they legally binding though? I personally believe that spouses should not be entitled to the others money if a marriage goes wrong, only money earnt during the marriage should be taken into account and although i do believe that a mother/father should support their child if a marriage goes wrong i don't think that they should financially support their ex when a marriage ends.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Can you talk to your children/parents about sex? Posted: 9/30/2009 6:11:57 AM
No i could never talk to my parents and yes my children talk to me about sex very openly, sometimes too openly, i'm sure they have bets going on who can make me blush the most!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Worrying About The Future Posted: 9/29/2009 6:08:47 AM
The only thing i worry about is my children, what the future holds for them, but thats just a normal parent thing. Other than that no i don't worry, life is too short to spend it worrying.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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bad habits hard to drop whats yours Posted: 9/28/2009 7:43:18 AM
I can't think of any bad habits, more character flaws that i wish i didn't have but i don't class those as bad habits despite following the same pattern time and time again.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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perfume or not? Posted: 9/28/2009 7:01:03 AM
It depends on the man, i have a male friend who smells devine without any help yet others who definately smell better with aftershave. I feel more confident when i wear nice perfume, but what i wear depends on my mood and where i am going, scents can change a mood instantly.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Friends with Benefits.....What are the benefits? Posted: 9/28/2009 6:32:28 AM
An FWB arrangement can work very well if both parties are on the same page. To have this arrangement for me means that you have to have total respect and trust for the other person. I had this with a friend for 6 years on and of, i was at a place in my life when i didn't want a relationship, but i'm a red bloodied woman with needs, i'm not into one night stands so this worked well, communication is very important, when he went into a relationship we would stop. It can work but it can also get complicated if someone wants more than the other person. For me the benefits were purely sexual, there are no more benefits as far as i'm concerned but thats what it is about, if we wanted more out of it then we would want a normal relationship!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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dirty kichens Posted: 8/24/2009 12:59:34 PM
My house is open plan so the kitchen is on full view so always spotless, my friend wanted to cook for me the other night and he is a slob but he knows i am a clean freak, i checked his kitchen and it was so clean and tidy! i was so impressed until i went to put a bottle of wine in the fridge..i'm sure that something was alive and moving in there!!!!!!! i made him order takeaway

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Is sat nav dumbing down? Posted: 8/24/2009 12:44:11 PM
I think my sat nav has become possessed! I rarely use it but i went to a coastal town i haven't been to before a couple of weeks ago so decided to use it, it led me to a stone mill up a lane in the middle of Bath and said i had reached my destination!! then on the way home it took me into Birmingham! I am terrible with directions anyway and they do come in handy sometimes but mine shouts at me for going through a field when it's a new road!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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When should mum stop being so much of a mum? Posted: 8/12/2009 12:26:56 PM
How you are being is fine, it doesn't matter how old out children become we will always be 'mum'!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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For those of you with cats!! Posted: 8/11/2009 12:02:10 PM
My cat will only eat dry food, if he has meat he is sick. He refuses tap water and will only drink water from the water butt in the garden, he also pinches cheese if he can, loves the froth on cappaccinos and white wine and hates fish. He is a strange cat but i love him :)

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Silly driving mistakes! Posted: 8/11/2009 9:34:40 AM
I drove down the local town centre one evening not realising that it had been pedestrianised, i decided to go down the kerb to get to the road not realising it was one of the high bus kerbings, my car got wedged half on and half of the road!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Are Alton Towers right to ban men wearing Speedos at its theme park?! Posted: 8/10/2009 12:04:37 PM
They are offering complimentary male waxing??? I bet they have alot of takers for that! all wanting a big thrill! Men in speedo's make me shudder...ban them, burn them!!!!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Do you look good for your age? Posted: 8/10/2009 11:46:48 AM
I look good for my age on a good day but i look my age the rest of the time. I feel younger than i did 10 years ago though, i think thats due to life being easier and not as much stress so i don't think i look as haggared as i did. With age comes contentment and inner youth

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Debt Posted: 8/10/2009 10:34:01 AM
I don't have any real debt and always shied away from having anything on credit, i thought this was a good thing and thought in doing so that i would have a good credit rating, this wasn't so! I needed to owe money (ie credit card) and pay back on time to recieve a good credit rating. It wouldn't bother me if i met someone with alot of debts, sounds heartless but they would still be his debts, i certainly wouldn't pay them of for him but his debts wouldn't be an issue over if i liked him or not.

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Should high heels be banned in the work place? Posted: 8/9/2009 1:25:35 AM
I almost always wear heels but if i have to go on site i change to wellies or flat shoe. I think us women are perfectly capeable of deciding what shoes are better for us. If i wear flat shoes for a long time my legs hurt, heels are much more comfortable for me, plus i'm only a shortass so they help a little or people forget i'm there!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Forget big willies Posted: 8/9/2009 1:13:10 AM
Can i have a devilzwishbone for christmas..sounds like a man who knows what he is doing!!!

~*~Aella~*~

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Full English versus Sunday Roast Posted: 8/9/2009 1:05:48 AM
I don't eat either, i can't even think about eating a huge breakfast, though i have cooked one this morning for friends before they left, the best hangover cure apparently. I usually do a roast on sunday for the kids but today my son said he is cooking so i guesswe are having a bbq

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