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TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 68 (view)

ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 6:13:04 AM
At least they were upfront with you about it. One of the problems I see with it is when they are not! Then when it happens, they act like it's the first time, or in some way, the woman's fault. I think any type of sexual dysfunction should be revealed, by either partner, at the beginning of a relationship. Then let the other person decide if they could be happy with that type of relationship.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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sticking to your own 'kind' Posted: 11/22/2009 7:25:42 AM
I think the ones who want to stick to their own kind are more apt to use the culture-specific sites. I don't think dating sites have liberated anyone, or caused anyone to date outside of their own race or culture. It may have enabled some who already had that desire, but just didn't know how to go about it, or they lived in an area where it would not have been wise to do so. People who prefer interracial dating, have probably always done it. Those who prefer sticking to their own kind will probably continue doing that.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/22/2009 7:05:08 AM
Message 118: So true! What some young men don't seem to get, is that it's not the age we're attracted to, but the person. I'm just as picky about a younger man as I would be if he were older. There has to be attraction, compatibility and chemistry. I can't even count how many younger men have let themselves go, but still think that because they are younger, I would be attracted to them! Again, it's not the age, but the man. That goes for older or younger.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 459 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/22/2009 6:55:16 AM
thecatsmeoww: I've been told basically the same thing and have had more than once, a man following me on my morning walks. I smile at them when they slow down beside me, and keep on walking. (Too many crazies out there!) However, I did meet one of my LTR's that way. (I saw how fine he was, so didn't brush him off the usual way. Lucky me!)He was younger and had thought I was around his age. After getting up closer and getting a good look at me, I'm sure he saw that I was much older than him, but that didn't matter. Msg 457: I have never stated that sex was not important to me. Don't know where you got that from! Just the opposite! And I hope I didn't sound like I was complaining about a lack of responses. Just making an observation.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 100 (view)

How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/20/2009 6:59:32 AM
Msg 104: Truer words were never spoken. Sad to say, but you are so right about the bitterness in some older men. I have not found that in the younger men who have been in my life, which is one of the things that attracts me to them. That and the great sex, (among other things)which has never been about just laying there.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/20/2009 6:45:43 AM
Acura234: I'm not intimidated by men who have aged well. I would consider him my equal. He would be a man who has taken care of his body, lived a healthy lifestyle and who would not be intimidated by a woman who has done the same. Neither would have any reason to be intimidated. But men like that are sometimes hard to come by. I'm sure men can say the same about women. Who has determined that a woman is sexy? Certainly not herself. But a woman or man knows what she or he knows, from the reaction of others. Who, by our age, doesn't know if they are perceived of as being sexy?? Of course sexy is in the eye of the beholder. I think we all know that, the same as beauty. All will never have the same opinion as to what is sexy to them.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/18/2009 7:47:39 AM
I feel the same as I do about a man my age or older. We do what we're comfortable doing together. I've dated and been in relationships with much younger men for over 25 years with no problems. I did get asked once if one was my son, (He was 22 and had lied about his age! I was 41)but now, at my age, younger is at least over the age of 45 (that's the lowest I'll go)and I haven't been asked that since that one time. I don't always involve my family or friends in my relationships. Some they have met, some not. In any case, they accept whoever I want in my life. They know how picky and choosey I am, so they trust my judgement, regardless of the man's age. Deep down I feel the same as I do on the surface. I don't do anything that I'm uncomfortable with. I've never considered myself to be a cougar, because I don't like that word as applied to women.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:10:24 AM
To Msg 441: No, but just speaking for myself. I like men who are not intimidated by any woman. I like men who know they still have it, no matter what their limitations. Men who really know how to make love to a woman, never lose that ability, unless from a physical disability.(At least I like to think so!) Some, because of their own insecurities, lack the self confidence to go with what they have, rather than what they think a woman wants. (They think that's a young "stud", which they can never be again, but neither can she reverse the aging process.) Little do they know that their experience and expertise can make up for whatever may be lacking. I do think that if there is a real lack of ability, that should be discussed before a relationship is started. (JMHO) This is not always age related either. Seems that more and more younger men are having this problem! So, a younger man is not always the answer. Danielle: My point exactly, in referring to some of the responses that were much appreciated, but didn't have much relevance from my point of view.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/13/2009 6:59:07 AM
Ismene, Msg 408: That is exactly what this thread was supposed to be about. Older men (over 60) who are intimidated by older sexy women because they are afraid they (the men)won't be able to measure up sexually. They automatically assume that if a woman is over 60, still sexy and attractive, she will go for the younger man. To those who are saying older can't be sexy, I disagree. I have seen older women and men, my age (69) and older who are still sexy. My views here are from a woman my age, not one in her 40's or 50's. Sexy is not just about looks. It's attitude, self confidence, feeling sexy, and knowing you are sexy. It's sad that some here think sexy ends at 40, 45, 50? It's not just about being pretty, skinny , fat, or ugly. Sexiness is something that shines through all of that. Some here feel that they are washed up already, while still in their 40' and 50's. Guess it's all down hill for them now! What a pity! Guess it all depends on what kind of people they've been around. Men have always made me feel attractive and sexy, not that I needed them to do that. But, yes, it makes me feel good that they still do. Guess I'm one of the lucky (blessed) ones. Feel sexy! Take care of your body. Live healthy. That will shine through and do a lot for self esteem. Spunky, Msg 426: I so agree! You knew exactly what I was saying because you've been there too! Many here got my point. Some didn't. But all replies were interesting.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Dating a couple people but not having sex at our age Posted: 11/6/2009 1:32:55 PM
Dating is just dating. I've dated many men during all of my years of being single. Only the chosen few, the ones who have been special enough that dating led to a long term relationship, got past that stage to intimacy. I don't care how many women a man is dating if we've not decided to be exclusive with each other. I don't care how many women he's having sex with if we're just friends or just dating. Only thing is, most men want to take it further than dating. After a few dates, if it doesn't become sexual, they move on. Which is fine with me, since it was just dating in my mind all along. If there is a mutual feeling of wanting it to be more than dating, we always know that from the beginning. So in that situation,dating, basically, is leading up to the next level.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...??? Posted: 11/2/2009 9:08:49 AM
But, marriage was nice too! I can be happy either way, but at this point in my life, I prefer single.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...??? Posted: 11/2/2009 8:35:34 AM
For me, there's no downside! I love being single and plan on staying that way. However, I also love having a special man in my life that I see on a regular basis, for sharing love if it happens, fun times and life experiences, without live-in or marriage. That's not easy to come by, these days. Most men seem to be looking for marriage or live-in. I felt that way when I was 50 and I still feel that way.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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what is with the phone number Posted: 10/26/2009 6:37:39 AM
After exchanging a few emails, I do prefer to get to the phone calling stage, if I've found the man to be one that I may be interested in. I would never meet anyone without talking first. I have found that so much more of ones personality comes through on calls, that doesn't from emails. It's from the talking by phone that usually decides me on whether or not I want to meet. More often than not, the phone calls have changed my mind to not wanting to meet, rather than wanting to. I don't mind exchanging phone numbers. But I never give mine if he's reluctant to give his. And that has never happened yet. Some even give it in the first email. Being old school, I prefer for men to call me. I'm trying to get away from that outdated way of thinking, but I'm still uneasy calling men.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 334 (view)

Liberal vs conserative Posted: 10/24/2009 7:13:26 AM
This is not quite the same situation, but similar. I talked to a man by phone last night , for the first time, after a couple of emails. Conversation went fine at first. We found that we had a lot in common, like types of music, places we like to go, things we like to do. Then he got into politics. Became very adamant with his conservative views. I tried several times to diffuse the situation by suggesting that we get to another subject. I even said that we could agree to disagree on politics. He became so aggitated that I feared he may have a heart attack or something, at his age.(65) Being a moderate myself, I can sometimes see both sides of the liberal vs. conservative thing. I just don't get that passionate about politics. I tried to explain that to him. However, I could not get him off the subject. He was yelling, making all kinds of absurd accusations about the currant administration, and acting as if I was somehow to blame, because I wasn't agreeing with him and his views! Needless to say, there won't be anymore conversations with him! Just goes to show how very important it is to talk by phone before deciding to meet someone. All kinds of personality traits come through while talking, that you can't tell from emails! Just glad I found out before actually meeting him. I've dated conservatives before, with no problems. But this one was off the deep end!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Let's get naked Posted: 10/23/2009 6:32:37 AM
I'm just wondering how any two people could be dating, seeing each other enough to have reached the stage of "nakedness", and not have any idea of what each would look like naked. Unless, of course they have been the whole time.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Shelf Life on profiles Posted: 10/23/2009 6:23:50 AM
Seems to be a very pessimistic attitude here! Sometimes you get what you think you will. If you have the preconceived notion that you won't meet anyone and find a mutual attraction, then you probably won't. If you have the attitude that you will, you probably will. I expect men to be attracted to me. I expect to meet one that I will be attracted to. In real life or on here. And I usually do. However, I never use dating sites as an only means to meet men. Sometimes it happens during my regular activities when I least expect it! My attitude has never been that I won't meet one who is interesting and attractive enough (and that he will feel the same about me) for us to find a mutual compatibility. In the mean time, I don't sit around waiting. I enjoy my life with or without a man in it. Having a positive attitude goes a long way towards finding whatever you're looking for. JMHO

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Shelf Life on profiles Posted: 10/22/2009 3:04:54 PM
Dating sites have become the premier easiest way to meet, aside from chance meetings in real life. As others have said, I'm on and off this site and others, and have been for a few years. When I'm in a relationship, I may leave and maybe not. Sometimes I'm here just for the forums.I always put "dating", but that does not mean I'm not open to a LTR. It still would have to begin with dating. Until recently I never posted a picture, so no one has seen my picture popping up for years. However, when I do post one, it is always currant. I would never leave the same profile up for years! But I see nothing wrong about doing that. Just because a profile is up for years does not mean that person has not been in and out of relationships. So, I wouldn't think of a person as being undatable because of it. I do believe that pictures should not be over a year old. I change mine every few months, when I have one up. There have been times when I was in a relationshp that I just plain didn't think to remove all of my profiles from different sites.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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I know I will get blasted for this but... Posted: 10/19/2009 7:15:30 AM
I dress for myself, for comfort and style. Can't remember when I've worn a dress! After dressing up for work everyday, I decided that when I retired I'd dress in jeans, shorts, comfortable tops, etc. That's what I do. No complaints yet, from men. Who says we can't look nice in whatever we wear, as long as it suits our style and body type? Especially now, when jeans can be dressed up or down, and with all the sexy boots and tops to wear with them. I can understand that men like to see women in dresses and that's fine. But with me, they always know up front that it's not my style. Men in my life accept me for me, not what I wear. However, if the ocassion calls for a dress, I can do that too. I actually prefer men in jeans, when they look good in them.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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The World Revolves Around Me and Don't You Ever Think It Doesn't Peopler Posted: 10/18/2009 12:55:54 PM
I'm here for the party. I enjoy each and every comment, even if it's not one I would have made. To those who get their panties in a bunch because of what someone said, what's that old adage about the heat in the kitchen? Take the remarks with tolerance and a grain of salt. If one takes them too seriously, or reads them wrong, just lighten up and have fun. I've been read wrong before, Probably we all have. Yet, here we still are.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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The World Revolves Around Me and Don't You Ever Think It Doesn't Peopler Posted: 10/17/2009 4:39:48 PM
I'm a good peopler, and I'm always right. We all are, in our own minds. I never try to get other peoplers to change their opinion to one that agrees with mine. But I've found that some just like to argue for the fun of it. When I post a thread, I find myself explaining over and over again that my opinions are just mine and it's okay to disagree. But the more you explain, the more complicated some seem to make it. But, sorry! My world does revolve around me and mine. Ocassionally I'll let a very special someone in, and the sooner he learns how my world turns, the sooner he will learn how not to fall off.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Lovers with benefits. Posted: 10/17/2009 2:22:51 PM
Lover with benefits. Since I'm not looking for a husband or a live-in, guess that's exactly what I'm looking for. The benefits being friendship, companionship, activity partner, understanding that I will not be dependent upon him for a life, because I already have a great one, and that I don't want him depending on me to give him one, compatibility, etc. So, I'm looking for a lover who will enhance, not hinder, the life that I already have. The "lover" part is the only thing I want from him that I don't want and can't get from others. That's what sets it apart from just friends.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 10/12/2009 8:57:41 AM
For me, younger means at least 10 years younger than me. I have been in relationships with men 17-21 years younger. Dated men half my age, but no serious relationships with any that young. When you look at my age, 20 years younger would be 48 now. 17 years would be 51. So I'm not robbing the cradle by any means.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 10/12/2009 7:32:34 AM
I've dated and been in relationships with much younger men for many years. I don't seek them out. They find me. It's not that older men are not attracted to me, but I just seem to get along better, be more compatible, with younger men. I don't go into any relationship thinking about how long we may stay together. My motto about relationships is "As long as it's good, as long as it's fun, as long as it's positive." It's all about enjoying our time together and not looking at the end before it even begins. Therefore, age doesn't matter to me, to a certain extent. If I meet an older man who can keep up with me, is on the same level when it comes to being healthy and active, I would not reject him just because of age. The same with younger men. I'm always just myself, no matter what age the man may be. They already know they're getting an older woman who's in great shape, but is still not a 25 year old. So it's not age that I look for, but maturity and compatibility. However, I don't think I would go for one under 45. Too wide a gap.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Do you know what exactly what you want from life now? Posted: 10/12/2009 5:07:04 AM
I want exactly what I have. I don't project way into the future. I live my life in the here and now. On faith. Now I have a wonderful life, a great family, exellent health and the energy to do the things I've always done, happiness and contentment, no money worries. I have many blessings, and as with anyone, I hope all of this will continue for the rest of my life. We can't see into the future. Mine is in God's hands, and I'm good with that!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/11/2009 11:23:34 AM
I didn't go back to read exactly what he said. But if I'm not mistaken, he said he often gets told that he looks younger than his age. There's a difference in one saying what they are told by others, and saying "I look younger than my age". Until you see this man in person, no one should be disputing that! As far as him needing to take a realistic look, how do any of us know his reality. We can't help how others view us! Some have told him he looks younger. So, we have to assure him that he doesn't? Have you seen him walk, heard him talk, know his personality, know what vibes others get from him? I don't understand the attacks, but they were to be expected. Sadly. How can anyone say he is delusional? I don't think he should listen to any "underlying message" on here! What gives anyone here the right to think they can change anyone else's reality. People have been mean to all of us (probably) on forums, but I would hope that I would never think that gives me license to be mean to someone else. What is wrong with people, that they go into attack mode so readily?

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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long term Posted: 10/11/2009 8:29:12 AM
Restrictions are good! Why waste time corresponding with those who you already know are not what you want? Restrictions are about just being honest about what type of person you will accept into your life. Unless you're willing to settle.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:50:25 AM
RiverKilt; I get the same reaction from people meeting me for the first time. If people are constantly telling you that you don't look your age, believe them! As I've stated before, one can't really tell much from a picture. It's not always a plus. For instance, in some cases, if I don't ask for the senior discount, I don't get it. At the movies, there can be people in front of me who are in my same age category, and they will get the discount without asking. But when I step up, they will invariably give me the regular fare ticket. I know now, to always ask. I know you're not as old as me, but when I was your age, it was the same, with some not believing my age. The plus side for me is that people use me as an example of what being a "senior" can be like. Not just because of outer appearance, but because they see how well I get around and live my life, and they admire my energy and attitude. That's what it's all about for me. Staying healthy and active. And knowing that I inspire some to start a healthier lifestyle means much to me! So, not seeing you in person, when people here say you don't look younger, ignore. There are many here who look younger than their actual age. I don't think for one minute that you were serious about wanting to fake it. At least, I hope not. Honesty is always best. And I do get a kick out of the "WOW!" factor when I tell my age. That's more fun than lying would be.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Big women vs Little women Posted: 10/10/2009 7:51:47 AM
Wonder why it has to be big or little women? What about medium sized women? But on topic, it is my belief that BBW try harder than little or medium sized women, because they think they have to. I don't know about lower standards, but they seem to have less self esteem than the rest of us. Not all of them, but some. On every dating site, there are threads about BBW. It's like they need more attention. However, I disagree with you on the "more action". From the threads I've read, they seem to get less attention from men, thereby, less action.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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long term Posted: 10/10/2009 7:40:53 AM
I don't know about "normal". Don't even know if I'd want a normal guy, since I'm not quite the norm among people I know. (Wouldn't want to be!) But it seems to be true that it's harder to find a compatible partner as we get older. Are we too picky? Maybe! But I'm not one to settle. Until the right one (for now, since I'm not looking for marriage) comes along, I'm happy. That's the trick. Be happy wherever you are in life at this point. Good things will come! At least, that's been my experience. Hope that happens for you and all here!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Let's get naked Posted: 10/10/2009 7:14:56 AM
If I'm in a relationship, I have no problem with it. I've taken pretty good care of my body and am not ashamed to show it. And it WOULD be within a relationship. I don't do casual. By the first time he'd see me naked, we would have a pretty good idea of what we each looked like naked anyway. Anytime I get to the point where I'm not happy with what I see when I look in the mirror, I do a little extra exercise, cut down on my food intake, whatever is necessary to get me back to where I like to be. I have a whole mirrored wall in my bedroom, and I wouldn't like looking at myself if I were too out of shape. And I certainly don't want to have to cover my mirrors.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/9/2009 7:35:17 AM
Thing about aliens (from another planet) is that all of us may have already dated one! They are among us, and they know how to disguise themselves to look like us. SO HOW WOULD WE KNOW? (Excuse the screaming. That was for effect. Sorry!)

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/9/2009 6:48:44 AM
I took the OP's idea as being tongue in cheek, not a serious observation at all. I would never think of trying to prove something that isn't true. Liars always get found out. On the other side of the coin, I have shown my ID to prove that I'm as old as I say I am. People think I'm kidding when I tell them my age. As is the norm here, I know some will tell me now, that I look as old or older than my age. That's okay. I know what I know. And that's about real life and real life observations from real people seeing me for the first time, in real life. Not from a picture. I can't say if the OP looks older than he thinks, not having seen him in person. But it's not always about looks. Attitude, demeanor, personality, level of energy, etc., has a lot to do with people sometimes thinking we appear to be younger than we are.I see every year as a blessing. No need to try to discount any blessings!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 10/5/2009 6:03:33 AM
I agree with Exciting. I don't seek out younger men, but if I waited for one my age, I'd just be without one . I'm not saying they all go for younger women. I don't know what the reasons are, but younger men seem to be what's out there. Younger to me are those who are in their 40's and 50's, which are the ones I usually end up dating or in relationships with. I have no complaints, since I've been dating much younger men for many years now. Some are more mature than older men. That's what I look for. Maturity and compatibility. I long ago did away with my "rule" of not dating younger men.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 39 (view)

I can act like a man - You make me feel like a man Posted: 10/4/2009 8:38:15 AM
I looked it up online, and found that Carole King wrote the song specifically for Aretha Franklin. I'm not sure who recorded it first. I've never heard Carole sing it, but the lyrics were so well done! I'm sure the renditions by each of them were great!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 68 (view)

Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site? Posted: 10/3/2009 7:25:47 AM
Absolutely not! I love the fact that we (women) now can actively participate in choosing who we do or don't want to date. Of course, we always could, but personals dating, whether by Internet or placing printed ads in a paper (which was popular before the advent of the Internet) has made us equal to men in that area. My friends do tease me about my escapades in the world of dating, since they all think they're too old (and they think I am too) to still be interested. To me, dating sites are the best way to go, aside from meeting people during real life activities. I do both. I don't go to bars or singles dances, or other "meat market" venues. I am not embarrassed nor ashamed of anything I do. My family and friends know I am on dating sites, but I see no reason to tell them which ones! What I say or do here is my business, not theirs. They don't need to know my views on dating, sex (which is sometimes discussed on these forums) or any of the other things we discuss on here. I don't discuss my dating life with them, so why would I make it a point to tell them where they can read about it? They want me to live my life and do what makes me happy, but I'm sure my family is not interested in reading about my views, etc. on dating and relationships.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 78 (view)

Confessing Your Needs Posted: 10/2/2009 10:00:25 AM
I haven't read the other replies yet, so I may not be understanding what you're asking. Needs? I think people should go into dating or relationships, not because of needs, but because they want to. I can't remember ever confessing any needs to anyone that I was dating or who was a potential relationship partner. We may discuss likes and dislikes, what we may expect of each other maybe, what we are looking for in a partner, maybe even things we will or won't do sexually, at some point. But I'm totally unfamiliar with the aspect of confessing needs to each other. What needs? By using the word "confessing", makes it sound like you would have "needs " that were way out of the ordinary. Or wrong in some way. JMHO

TruGold

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WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/2/2009 9:45:55 AM
I thought you meant aliens from other planets! But yes, I have and would. I find people from other countries fascinating. I'm intrigued by foreign accents and usually find them sexy. If I'm attracted to a man, doesn't matter where he's from. Religion, customs and traditions have not mattered to me, so far, and would not. Unless it's something extreme to my nature. Cultural differences sometimes make for an interesting relationship, and can add a bit of spice. I would not willingly date a cannibal! That would be a major turn off.

TruGold

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Msg: 331 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 10/2/2009 9:31:23 AM
Soldier; Brad Pitt can only wish that he looked as sexy as you do! And that's the truth! I'd choose you over him any day of the week.

TruGold

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I can act like a man - You make me feel like a man Posted: 10/1/2009 4:41:02 PM
I get what the OP is saying! Widowsdesire's post reiterates it from a woman's point of view, and the lyrics she posted spells it out for me. The right man certainly does make me FEEL like a natural woman. Of course I always feel like a woman, but I become so much more aware of those feelings which are intensified when I'm with the right man. Like she said, being with the right man makes me so glad to be a woman. (I learned something. I thought Aretha Franklin made that song famous. Never even knew it was a Carol King song, nor that she had recorded it.)

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 326 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 10/1/2009 10:30:12 AM
WOW! Paul.W! What you said totally blew me away. I thought this thread was dead, then here you come with that. So glad I checked back in. What a wonderful attitude you have. Actually, after looking at your picture, I'm not surprised. You look like a man who is confident, sure of who he is and in his "abilities" to please. I doubt if much of anything intimidates you. Good for you! Gaddflye; Never trust a woman who tells you how sexy she is. If she has to tell you that, it usually means she's not. It means she's trying to convince herself that she is sexy. You will know "sexy" when you see it. 48; I know exactly what you mean! Sometimes women try too hard and come off just looking cheap and ridiculous. Not true sexiness at all!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

Downsizing and Dating? Posted: 9/23/2009 5:19:29 AM
I can't see how any of that would have any effect on her dating potential. But, not being a man, what do I know? I do know that I wouldn't want a man who would see any of that as a deal breaker.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 110 (view)

Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what? Posted: 9/21/2009 11:05:05 AM
I see each new age as a blessing. Each year has been, so far. Enjoy!! I'm coming upon my 69th, and still enjoying, loving, laughing, living.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 73 (view)

Older women wanting caves? Posted: 9/21/2009 7:38:02 AM
I love my alone time! So, if that's what caving means, guess I'm guilty. Even when I'm in a relationship, there are days when I insist on enjoying my home alone, with me, myself and I. However, I never hole up for long periods of time. The outside beckons. Grandkids love coming over to be spoiled by Grandma, and I never turn them down. Friends interrupt by calling and events happen that are just a "must go to!". So while I cherish my alone time, I would never be too happy with "caving" excessively. I'm not the hermit type.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 443 (view)

celibacy in late life Posted: 9/21/2009 6:44:47 AM
I think we all go through periods of celibacy, between relationships. Just makes the sex all the more exciting and rewarding once we do find someone with whom to become exclusive. Casual sex is not my thing. When there is no man in my life, I have no problem abstaining. However, I am not at the stage yet, where sex is not important to me. But my desire has to have an object. I'm willing to wait. It's only important to "get back in the saddle" when I find a man who is more to me than just sex. Waiting a month or two, once I find that man seems a little extreme. But to each his/her own. Warmth, companionship and true friendship are good in a relationship, and important. But, having that without sex would be "just friends" in my opinion. I don't consider sex between two willing participants who are in a relationship, as "gooey drama". Thecats; Wonderful for you! May it be all that you hope for.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 319 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/21/2009 6:06:50 AM
So true! Nothing sexier than a man coming over and fixing a nice dinner for me! The sexiest man who has been in my life did that a few times for me. However, what followed the dinner was even sexier..... Nothing kinky, mind you!! I still have visions of him (with that sexy body! WOW!) standing at the stove and the heat in the kitchen becoming almost unbearable.... It was not coming from the stove.... I specifically remember one Valentines Day, and he asked me "What do you want first? Food or me?" I digress! Sorry! But Rearguard's post made those memories come flooding back. :

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 312 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/20/2009 5:16:24 PM
Any woman who would tell a man that she is sexy deserves whatever she gets. How would that go? You meet a new man and say, "Hey, I'm sexy." ??? Maybe that would work with a blind man. But any man I've ever met can see for himself and make his own judgement on that.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 310 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/20/2009 5:10:51 PM
What woman would tell a man how sexy she is??? This thread is getting crazier and crazier.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 307 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/20/2009 4:37:47 PM
jbogie; I'm not looking for help. How very odd that you would get that from all that I have said. I think you're posting without reading. Or you're not understanding what you read. Explain to me where I indicated that I need help, or that I'm blaming anyone for anything? Or that I have anything to blame anyone for?? Sounds to me that you actually are intimidated by women having the unmitigated gall to be self confident and whatever else that seems to be ticking you off about this thread. I have no problem with you saying you're sexy. So, whats the difference? You can say it, but if women do, they're saying "look at how sexy I am?" I am taking it in the spirit it was intended. But it didn't work! I still stand by all that I have said. You sound like a man who hates the fact that an older woman would dare to think of herself as sexy. I wonder why? Not one single time have I said that I am so sexy that men are intimidated by me. I posed a question. I removed my photo so that no one would get the idea that I was saying that, or trying to show myself off as a sexy older woman. So, what can I say that would make you happy? That there is no such thing as a sexy older woman? That people are never intimidated? What? Thanks for your opinion.

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 299 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:05:16 AM
No such thing as being too sexy for your age. I did a thread once about "Should older women try to de-sexy-fy themselves?" What prompted that thread was when a couple of teenage boys were flirting with me, just from seeing me as I was walking, not seeing my face. They had no idea of my age. It was embarrassing! I had on my usual everyday warm weather outfit of shorts and tank top. That got me to thinking that maybe I should start wearing old lady clothes (sweats/baggy shorts,jeans with the elastic waist, fat shorts, etc.) Then I thought, "Nope". I will not try to play my sexy-ness down. I don't try to look sexy. All I know to be is myself. I will continue to be me and dress comfortably in clothes that I like. Because the fact is that no matter how much we cover up, there are those who will find us sexy. It's an attitude, an air, the way we carry ourselves, and not something voluntary that we do. Go sexy ladies!! Of any age. Wear those sexy jeans, shorts, or whatever! I do. The kind of men we (at least I) like would not be intimidated by us. Go sexy guys! Of any age! I see this one man, sometimes coming from the gym, who must be at least 70, and he is sexy! WOW! I say, Go sexy guys!!

TruGold

Joined: 5/25/2009

Msg: 294 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/20/2009 5:04:34 AM
Is it safe to peep back in here yet? I agree that I can't see why anyone would want to be intimidating in any way, in a relationship. Doesn't seem like any good relationship could survive that! I would not want to intimidate nor be intimidated by a partner in romance. It should be about love, respect, and equality.

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