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 Author Thread: THOUGH YOU HURT ME SO.........thoughts appreciated
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 50 (view)
 
THOUGH YOU HURT ME SO.........thoughts appreciated
Posted: 5/29/2009 7:00:04 PM
When GG speaks his words cut me so deep, yet I am thankful for they remind me that we are not alone as well as yet still alive. It is often in the darkest of hours we feel as if we are or are not, yet if we could only see with our hearts and not just our eyes. We would see the dark and shadowy wings that our cast around us and sheltering in their deep embrace.
If we never learned pain how would we truly ever come to know love, if we never learn loss, how will we ever learn what really to cherish.
You see by finding this page tonight on this site you gave me something back, I had dared not touch for years. It was my own selfish pain that kept me from it and made me forget its name let alone my own.
I swore long ago to live not only for myslef but for another much like you, but she did not have a choice on her death. So what shall you and I do let their deaths be in vain. I think not for myself for that would truly be putting them to death.
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
betrayed..
Posted: 5/29/2009 5:17:11 PM
I think you need to face it head on and you will come out better than you were when you were with him. This can do one of two things make you stronger or destroy you. The choice is yours. If you do not have to talk to him then fine do not, however when you run in to him face it. Do not run from it because to me in the long run, you end up running from it the rest of your life. Just choose your battles wisely and the reward that awaits can not be written into words.
Last but not least there is a saying among some freinds of mine. When you can not run, you walk, when you can not walk you crawl, when you can not crawl you find someone to carry you. From what I have seen here you have plenty of people trying to do just that.
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 388 (view)
 
do any girls actually want nice guys?
Posted: 5/29/2009 12:01:03 PM
I like that and on the flip side as someone once said do not mistake my kindness as weakness.
Also I am drawn to say if something is not broke why try to fix it lol For maybe the whole bad boy thing they do not see themselves as being broken. For they get what they want no matter the cost to others and or themselves. As well can be said for the nice guy theory. They can be an often do view themselves as not being broken and that just means you are even more than you realize. For are you not being similar to the girl trying to fix the bad boy. Are you trying to fix somethign as well Hmmmm.........
Hey anyone got some duct tape and super glue I can borrow I saw some more things I need to fix on myself as well today lol :>) If you can not make fun of yourself who can you make fun of hehe
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why do women love the BA$TARD$?
Posted: 5/29/2009 11:52:02 AM
I Second the Emotion SARL ! :>) It is voted on and made into law and a bill. You desreve better and need to look at your mistakes too. Looking in the mirror at ones self often causes us pain. So much more when we realize how we hurt ourselves and allowed someone to have that control over us. Best of luck to ya and keep your chin up!
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
breaking up cause someone told you to.
Posted: 5/29/2009 10:43:14 AM
I have a friend who had to overcome not only religon, but nationality as well and they both lost their families for a time. They decided that their happines is what mattered more. They have been married for over twelve years now and most of the family is there for them now. Sure it hurt, took some healing for all parties, but if you love someone as the Beatles said " All you need is love" bum bum bum or something like that. lol So there is hope for you hopefully you all will be one of the few who make it and have found true love! Good luck !
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 1162 (view)
 
Why Do women dump men who are nice to them.
Posted: 5/29/2009 10:18:53 AM
Near the end of your post you said something that caught my eye, so to speak. "I think nice guys have this idea: "Okay, now I've shown you that I can treat you better than any man has ever treated you, so now you owe me your love because let's face it, I'm awesome."
I beileive a true nice guys (gentlemen) do it for no other reason than they believe in treating people how they would like to be.
As for another sidebar of what you said, to me you described how alot of women second guess nice guys actions. What I mean by this is that you are always waiting for the shoe to drop so to speak. Or that this is too good to be real there has to be something wrong. You keep second guessing yourselves. In the end of that realitionship if you can trust your own judgement, how are you ever going to trust him?
Words all are open to interpatations and I am not say or inferring you meant any of the things I described above. If it appears that way I am sorry, just trying to share a diffrent view.
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 207 (view)
 
Nice guys finish last is a sad truth...
Posted: 5/29/2009 10:03:56 AM
You are most welcome, the least one of us guys could do after bruising your feet all these years hahahaha. Yes one day at least thats what I keep telling myself hahaha
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 205 (view)
 
Nice guys finish last is a sad truth...
Posted: 5/29/2009 9:32:09 AM
First off *hugs* and 2nd off I am not saying you are but do not beat yourself up too much. It takes two to tango :>) and hopefully someday and I am sure you will find some one to dance your life away with. It hurts though when us guys step on you ladies toes I know lol
 neoroy
Joined: 5/26/2009
Msg: 203 (view)
 
Nice guys finish last is a sad truth...
Posted: 5/29/2009 9:13:25 AM
I am not saying this to sound arrogant and or what not although, I am afraid it will none the less. Oh well! The one thing I noticed after reading about this recent fiasco if you will is this. I looked at your profiles and one says seeking ltr and the other says to hang out. Now while I do not know if one of you or the other changed this as of late. This to me would have put a red flag in my book. While we all overlook things and choose to see the best in a situation. We are in the long run hurting ourselves to a degree, because we are not seeing or hearing the truth. Only seeing it as we so desire to.
Now me myself I am a risk taker and far from perfect, so I am aware of the fingers pointing back at me. Another note is do not let this scare or scar you, either one of you. Live and learn and carry your scars, scrapes, bumps and bruises proudly. Foir in the long run it will believe it or or not despite the pain make us into who we are meant to be.
In other words and on a lighter side to quote one of my fav movies " Hoist The Colors"
 
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