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sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

Msg: 16 (view)

My ex-husband cheated = The sex was bad Posted: 10/18/2009 11:54:45 AM
Sex is a two way street...... so if your cheating because the sex is bad, you clearly should of man-ed up and made it better.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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A little profile help? Posted: 9/10/2009 1:15:09 PM
I dont like your first picture. The second is much better. Infact in a weird way it almost looks like two different people. The whole " you can message me first comment" ... just seems a bit lazy. Now this is probably just me but its a turnoff when i see guys put video games under interests. Not that I have a problem with video games at all. Perhaps im making a snap judgement but it just makes me think your one of those people that spends hours and hours playing.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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profile review Posted: 9/10/2009 1:08:32 PM
I think you need new pictures. In the third one you look drunk and in the first one you look like an ax-murder.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What someone does that really turn you off? Posted: 9/5/2009 12:53:08 PM
- bad manners, hygiene, - overly picky, or unnessecarily rude to people around them - Bad drivers. - Talking to much about themselves. - Lack of eye contact, and poor conversation skills - really bad grammer. - homophobia. - lots of excuses, lies or general dishonesty

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Dating deal-breakers and cardinal sins Posted: 7/29/2009 7:43:41 PM
Bad manners, Inappropriate dressed, bad hygiene. Guys that are shorter than me.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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The Five Minute Date Posted: 7/29/2009 11:32:00 AM
She raised her finger to you in silence???? How terribly rude. I would have wanted to cut it off if someone did that to me.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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How bad is to yawn while talking to your girlfriend on the phone? Posted: 7/26/2009 5:25:11 PM
I once had a guy fall asleep while we were on the phone. Except all I heard was this horrible dieing noise and then the phone went dead. I trully thought he had died. Anyhow, he eventually called me back and apologized but in all honestly I wasnt mad at all... I laughed about it. Yawning is nothing.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Would you date someone still living with their Ex? Posted: 7/25/2009 7:45:30 PM
No i would not date someone living with their Ex. Major turn-off. They can wait to date until the living situation changes.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Keep her interested Posted: 7/24/2009 10:50:15 PM
Personally I talk to someone on msn after a 4 or 5 pof messages sometimes less. I find its easier to communicate that way and there is less chance one side might loose interest because its a flowing conversation. Alot of times I can tell people are different over msn and I eventually give out my number after a few conversations. I prefer they ask me out after a phone call or a few phone calls.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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From Hello to Hell Dating On POF Posted: 7/24/2009 10:45:00 PM
Ive never encounted this problem. Facebook is an extremely valueable tool. If you type in someones email... you may be able to see there facebooks. The other day I was chatting with a guy who got out of a relationship the day before.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Worst Date. Ever. Posted: 7/24/2009 1:58:37 PM
lol o dear. You poor man, thats horrible. But extremely funny. Thats why I would prefer to meet someone in like a bookstore with a coffee shop or something. That way I can hide behind a bookshelf and scope them out if i want. haha

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What do you think?? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:48:04 PM
Yeah my webcam is messed up sometimes. It also doesnt help that im really pale. But thanks for the advice!!!

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What do you think?? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:20:21 PM
..... nobody has anything to say??

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What do you think?? Posted: 7/22/2009 8:30:22 PM
What do you think about my profile and pictures??? I was trying to change it up by doing something different. Is there something you think I should change??? I admit I get alot of messages but its not the quantity its the quality. Im not sure im attracting the right people. Any help you can give would be great!!!

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What are the top 3 things women look for in a guy? Posted: 7/20/2009 8:44:13 PM
1) personality 2) shows interest, honesty , morals and manners. 3) appearance

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Female attitudes to older men... Posted: 7/20/2009 8:42:56 PM
Im 21 and no im not into older men at all. Infact if your over 28 I think it is... you cant even message me. Old men do creep me out.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Quick poll Posted: 7/16/2009 8:23:23 PM
Ummm A or C. I figure if he likes me, hes going to call. But I see no problem with texting the next day explaining how much I enjoyed it.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What to do with her stuff Posted: 7/11/2009 6:19:34 PM
Just drop her stuff off. You dont want her showing up out the blue or something. Its your call whether you want to call her beforehand or just leave it at her house. just make sure if you leave it and dont say anything, that its going to be in a place where it isnt going to get rained on, stolen or something bad happen to it.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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She's religious, I'm not. How do you balance this?? Posted: 7/11/2009 6:15:05 PM
I would just ask her what topics are touchy ones or issues that are really important to her. I went to catholic school and did all the sacraments... now I personally wouldnt really call myself a religious person... I dont go to church. But so many catholic people that I know are completely open to discussion on topics that you might think they wouldnt be. For some people, religion consumes there lives and for others its to a lesser degree.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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POF Profile vs. RL Personality Posted: 7/10/2009 7:53:43 PM
You should have bailed the moment you knew she was 16.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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How to contact her again. Posted: 7/9/2009 10:10:15 PM
....just spill.... what did you do

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Is it all about the profile or the initial message? Posted: 7/9/2009 7:16:40 PM
Its about your profile and a message that has something to do with her profile. I delete messages where guys just talk about themselves.... it makes me think they are sending standard messages.... which alot of people here do because I have recieved the same message from people several times.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Cant get past email! Posted: 7/9/2009 5:27:17 PM
This does sound weird. I think you should defiently talk on the phone before you agree to met. Make sure your actually speaking with a women.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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What women want. Posted: 7/8/2009 10:39:35 PM
Manners are nessecary. Opening the car door is nice, but not a requirement. No one has ever done that for me so I may die of shock if it occurs.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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And why is it so hard that.... Posted: 7/8/2009 10:35:04 PM
Im not sure it would be a dealbreaker. But I would defiently feel like I was stealing time away and that would defiently bother me.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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First date kiss Posted: 7/8/2009 8:21:25 PM
No. Doesnt bother me at all. Just do it whenever it feels right.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Serious question for you ladies out there Posted: 7/7/2009 10:14:06 PM
To me... anime just makes me think your going to be childish. In the past anyone I have ever met that was really into that stuff just seemed really young.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Serious question for you ladies out there Posted: 7/7/2009 10:07:55 PM
I would take it out. You can tell them about it after they get to know you.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Long Hair on a Man Posted: 7/7/2009 9:43:03 PM
No, Im not a fan of long hair on a man. Its just me.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Read, Not Deleted Posted: 7/6/2009 9:00:43 PM
Personally, I delete ever message instantly if im not interested. However... sometimes if i get alot of messages, its just easier to let them die in my inbox. Honestly.. its simple.. if they dont reply.. they arent interested.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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public pickers are on pof TOO Posted: 7/6/2009 8:20:28 PM
um ew, gross. Lack of manners is a big turn off.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Question for the ladies Posted: 7/6/2009 11:00:18 AM
I have long think somewhat unique looking hair that seems to make people look at me. In all honesty thou, I dont really enjoy it. People rarely come up and approach me but I think that is because of my body language. I hate that everywhere I go I feel like people are starring at me and it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Honestly, I would actually prefer they come up and say something instead of just looking at me.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Getting stuff back from an ex Posted: 7/5/2009 9:04:44 PM
This is really dumb. get over it. Its a shirt. Value Village is the answer.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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First Date Posted: 7/5/2009 8:29:27 PM
have you called him? Why dont you just ask him?

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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First move? Posted: 7/5/2009 7:50:34 PM
maybe your message was lame, or boring.... How much did you write back?

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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for girls that went to college.... Posted: 7/5/2009 7:49:26 PM
Nope, it doesnt matter. So long as they are well spoken, its fine.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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somebody who doesn't drink .. a turn off? Posted: 7/5/2009 7:36:05 PM
Not at all, so long as they are still whilling to go out to places where drinking might occur like a pub or university event.... they dont have to drink at them.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Very Excited ... Until The First Date Posted: 7/5/2009 7:25:29 PM
Maybe your boring in person. What did you guys talk about?

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Profile review would be greatly appreciated. Posted: 7/4/2009 7:47:08 PM
Well, your pictures are alright. The no stalkers comments seems a bit odd. I would cut that. You might want to write a few more things about your interests. What you do for fun or life in general etc.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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How long do you wait to delete that number. Posted: 7/3/2009 7:33:02 PM
Good thread. I have absolutely no idea. I admit, im horrible about keeping numbers in my phone. Its not that i even expect to talk to these people agian. I even have a few friends from highschool, whos numbers I still have in my phone.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Why do men assume all women are like thier ex? Posted: 7/3/2009 12:01:05 AM
The last man I dated spoke about his ex alot. At first, I wasnt bothered because I knew that they were together for a while and that was a big part of his life. He more just mentioned her in stories that pertained to past experiences in his life. However, one day he brought it up at a completly wrong moment and I knew it was starting to become a problem. It ended shortly after, for reasons that had nothing to do with his ex but anyhow.... looking back sometimes I think he brought her up to see how I would react to certian situations.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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whats his problem???? Posted: 7/2/2009 3:07:00 PM
Why dont you just ask him about it? But honestly, i wouldnt blame him if he didnt want to meet your kids so quickly.... thats pretty intense.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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When do you ask the girl out? Posted: 7/2/2009 1:29:47 AM
Whoa call me crazy, but I dont like it when people want to meet so quickly. I need to figure out they arent crazy first. That could take a few days.

sleepb12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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opinions needed plans broken Posted: 7/2/2009 1:24:39 AM
Dont sweat it. But its up to her now to make plans. Wait until she calls you.

sleepbreath12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/1/2009 12:03:08 AM
I never date more than one person at a time. I cant do it. Im fairly picky with who like so if I like someone they usually have my attention. Besides, I have a life beyond that and I dont have the time or the ambition to date more than one person.

sleepbreath12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Can Someone Tell Me If My Profile Is All Wrong?? Posted: 6/30/2009 11:34:33 PM
I agree you should take out the " you dont want to play games part" Your profile should be positive, not talk about past negatives. You can share that in person if you want. Also, I think you should change your photos. I dont think they really show what you look like. With the exception of the second picture, that one is lovely.. that should be your first. The rest have been cut in weird ways that dont really show you.

sleepbreath12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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hi, I need some advice maybe some help... Posted: 6/30/2009 11:28:12 PM
I think the picture of you in the suit is your best photo. Personally im a bit put off by men in your age range that have long term as there status. Even if thats what you want, I would still set it to dating. You can figure out where people stand on the issue after you have met them. Typically if you ask the right questions you can find out who is going to be a serial dater. Also, I recommend adding the Things before I die list. Its worked out good for me. It gives people an opening on what they can talk about. It also shows my interests, ambitions without just writing them like everybody else.

sleepbreath12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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He brought his Fanny with him... Posted: 6/30/2009 9:47:12 PM
... if I showed up to a date and the guy had a fanny pack. .... words would not describe... how completely wrong that is. Or a murse for that matter. Briefcase, sidebag or even backpack would be more appropriate.

sleepbreath12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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Appearances & Money Matter? Posted: 6/30/2009 8:46:29 PM
Appearance is what draws you into a person that you dont know. There personality is what keeps you around. Money isnt as important... I have enough of my own.

sleepbreath12

Joined: 5/29/2009

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The First Message Posted: 6/29/2009 8:43:39 PM
The first message is key. I personally like the longer, more thought out ones. I dont respond to hey how are you messages. Thats boring and unexciting. Dont have a standard message, maybe it specific to each person. Go off something you see in there profile.

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