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lovestocook41m

Joined: 6/1/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

would you? Posted: 6/28/2009 1:48:33 PM
If I found her attractive and she had a great personality, I'd definitely go out with her. Look at my pic...as if I could judge. ;-)

lovestocook41m

Joined: 6/1/2009

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proper words for first encounter Posted: 6/28/2009 1:45:03 PM
I agree with something_witty. Thankfully you didn't waste any more time on this loser. Believe me - chivalry, respect and common courtesy are not dead. The good ones are out there. This wasn't one of them. Time to dip back into the pool, but wear your lifejacket and look out for the sharks.

lovestocook41m

Joined: 6/1/2009

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Is dating at 40 just a bad idea? Posted: 6/10/2009 1:57:21 PM
Miss Contemplative, Amen sister. My sentiments exactly.

lovestocook41m

Joined: 6/1/2009

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Would you mind reviewing my profile? Posted: 6/10/2009 12:27:27 PM
Thanks everyone. I did change up my profile a little bit, although those are the only pictures I have for right now. A couple of you are right when you say it sounds more like I'm looking for someone to hang out with. I'm not that long out of a serious relationship and I'm definitely open to a relationship developing over some time, but I don't want to pretend that I'm more emotionally available than I am at the moment. I want to take things very slowly, and if that means friends first with the possibility of more later, that's exactly the tone I'm trying to set. Is there a better way I can phrase it?

lovestocook41m

Joined: 6/1/2009

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Would you mind reviewing my profile? Posted: 6/10/2009 7:32:06 AM
I'm getting a lot of views but not much in the way of response. If this were a night club I'd have to check my appearance or my breath to see what was wrong, but since we're online maybe it's something I said. I'm looking for objective reviews, even if they're brutal, as long as there's something productive I can get out of them. I'm definitely being myself, everything in the profile is the truth and the pictures are recent. Feedback is appreciated. Thanks!

lovestocook41m

Joined: 6/1/2009

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How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard... Posted: 6/7/2009 8:52:48 AM
I've been searching for the same answer myself. My girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me 2 months ago and I can't break out of the depression to this day. Of course it doesn't help that she has left me a couple late night "drunk dial" messages in which she says she misses me and wants to hear my voice...and then says it was stupid for her to call and to disregard the message. She says she fell out of love with me, but honestly because there was an incident two years ago in which I made a difficult decision that favored my kid instead of her during a difficult time, I think what's really going on is that she's too afraid to be hurt again. Of course she feels like she fell out of love because she can't get close again and her intuition tells her not to trust me. I would never, ever hurt her on purpose, but sometimes parents have to make tough decisions that are better for their kids. I think the fact that she's never been married or had kids makes our perceptions much different, and there's nothing I can do to change it. She has asked me to move on, and I suppose I have to, but it makes me sad because we were so perfect together and I'm pretty sure that the reason she fell out of love is because of this huge emotional wall she built. I wish she'd give me a chance to stay here and be her rock, but she's already convinced that I'm not. I miss her so much. I can't seem to find anything that keeps me busy enough and the things that used to make me happy just don't anymore. I feel empty inside. I've gone to a counselor, I've tried antidepressants, I'm exercising, I'm trying to make plans when I can...none of it is working. I wish I knew what to do or how long it will take to get over this. I've been divorced before and even that doesn't compare to this - I can't even begin to describe how great things were with my girlfriend, but apparently she doesn't fully share that feeling. I was also "in tune" with her feelings and interests and needs, and romantic to a fault...maybe I was just too much of a nice guy. I don't know. I feel lost without her.

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