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Joined: 2/15/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

Asians and the race factor Posted: 10/4/2006 2:55:42 PM
Once in a while, a clueless, whiney moron gets on here and complains about his nonexistant love life, then, blame it all on his RACE, not himself. Look, if you send out 100 emails to random women on a FREE internet dating site with a male to female ratio of about 25 to 1, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that the odds are against you geting any reply at all. Some of you idiots never even bother to read a person's profile before emailing her. Moreover, if you look like Long Duck Dong or Vijay from Bombay or Carrot Top, but, you want to date Beyonce, then, you need a good dose of reality check. Race and/or color plays only a very minor factor if you've got your sh!t together. In my home town, Asian guys who are successful, in good shape, well-dressed and utra -confident don't have any problem geting dates with women from all races. Sure, there are a small minority of women who prefers to stay within their own race. It's their personal preference, respect it and move on. Playing the race card once too many time like a broken record will get you no sympathy. Grow some backbone, take a good look at yourself, and make some changes before runing off and cry about your race, idiot. Sorry folks, but, these morons really irritate me.

Joined: 2/15/2006

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Gender approach to relationships and love... Posted: 4/19/2006 4:49:15 PM
I think that women love the idea of being in love and all the highs that go with it. Men, on the other hand, are more practical and realistic. We know that the giddiness and rushing adrenaline of being in love are short lived in a lifetime of commitment. True to our ingrained, evolutionary instincts, we, men, want to find someone worthy of the greatest gift that we can give, love. To us, to love someone is to GIVE happiness, comfort and peace (both of the body and of the mind), in return, we only ask for respect and loyalty. Through out history, women traditionally played the role of the care-takers. They selflessly gave themselves to the happiness and comfort of their family, in spite of, all the disadvantages of living under mostly patriarchal societies. The "me first" attitude is a recent development in our modern society. Is it just a backlash from centuries of "male domination", or is it the true nature of women, finally comes to light with recently gained financial and social independence? Only time will tell. Unfortunately, men are still operate under the same rules; thus, the discrepancy that you've described. Or, perhaps, as pointed out by another person earlier, it is just simply the law of supply and demand.

Joined: 2/15/2006

Msg: 117 (view)

unresponsive women Posted: 3/9/2006 6:37:49 PM
To be completely fair, let's take a look at both sides of the coin. In an ideal world, an email sent to someone that we are interested in is simply just a way to test the water, nothing lost and everything gain. Unfortunately, we don't live in an ideal world and along with each of those emails enclosed our unspoken hopes and dreams. We hope that our interest would be reciprocated and dream that it would be the beginning of something good. No matter how we try to salve our egos by making light of rejections, rejections hurt. A little part of us died each time we are rejected. With that said, let's look at the other side of the coin. Since most of us innately realize that any form of rejection is a horrible thing, we tend to avoid inflicting it on another person. Face it, there is no nice or tactful way to reject someone. Thus, most of us would just rather avoid the whole unpleasant situation if we can help it. As adults, we realize that it is discourteous to ignore someone, yet, the urge to avoid confrontation tends to overrule our civil instinct. As a result, we are at an impass: on one hand, not knowing is absolutely terrible; on the other hand, silence is much more preferable than out right rejection. Like my mother always says: if you have nothing good to say, just keep your big mouth shut. Have a good night.

Joined: 2/15/2006

Msg: 117 (view)

Do Women realy have the 'Upper Hand'? Ladies? Posted: 3/2/2006 5:52:16 PM
sddude, I feel your pain, man. However, I really don't think that the Net or any venue in which the ratio of men to women is so unfavorably skewed is a good place for you. So, as previously suggested by another poster, you should get involved in activities that women like to do. Volunteering is a great way to meet women while doing something worthwhile for those less fortunate. Attending classes at your local community colleges is another option. Besides, it never hurts to learn something new. Try a Yoga class. They are always full of good looking women. Believe me, Yoga is not an excercise for sissies as most men seem to think. It is very challenging and will help you with your posture and flexibility. The point that I'm trying to make is that you really don't have to go out of your way to get involved in activities that have a male/female ratio more in your favor. Keep an open mind and you may even enjoy those activities. Really, if you haven't had any success in all these years with your old approaches, what have you got to lose by trying out something new? Good luck, my friend.

Joined: 2/15/2006

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Why is this Web dating thing so difficult? Posted: 2/28/2006 6:00:34 PM
Hey, WS6TA, buddy, think of it as going fishing. You don't expect to catch one every time you put your pole in the water, do you? If you don't have any success, then, you have to either try a different bait or a diffterent water hole or both. Well, fishing for women on the Net is even tougher and required a lot more patience and savvy. I believe that people tend to get a lot pickier online than off; so, first impression is paramount to success. Moreover, since the only way for you to present yourself is through your profile, you should put some thoughts into making it as possitive a reflection of you as as possible. I know that it is not an easy task; but, by keeping at it, making changes and improvements when it is not working for you, you will eventually end up with something that at least one person of the fairer sex finds appealing. For most of us, that would be good enough, right?. Also, as pointed out by the good Joe Schmo, the Net is an intensely competitive environment for men (more so than the single bars and clubs, in my opinion); thus, women do have the upper hand when it comes to the picking and choosing. Therefore, you shouldn't take rejection very seriously. Just shrug it off and keep on fishing. I think that it takes a big man to admit that you need help. Don't let the haters bring you down. Good luck, man, and don't give up the search for happiness.

Joined: 2/15/2006

Msg: 122 (view)

Approaching women in bars Posted: 2/23/2006 3:04:08 PM
I completely agree with asweet1974. I've also spent a few years as a bartender and a bouncer in my younger days, thus, I, too, am quite familar with the flirting rituals being played at bars and clubs. First of all, in a noisy and crowded environment with a typically tilted male/female ratio, your look and the way you carry yourself (with confidence, not****ness) will open a lot of doors. If you are good looking, you can get away with the cheesiest lines or the most lewd compliments. It just seems that a "typical" (notice that I'm not making a gross generalization here) woman will just shrug it off as being funny or cute as if your good look can let you get away with murder. Alrighty then, for the majority of those who did not win the genetic lottery, you have to be a bit more subtle. Cheesy lines and risque compliments only work if she is 3 sheets to the wind. Try to make eye contact with the one you are interested in and see if she returns the jesture. If she holds your gaze or quickly looks down and smile, you are in. Just march straight up to her and introduce yourself. If you are really nervous about meeting her, tell her. I'm dead sure that she will adore you for it, since it is the nicest compliment that you can give her. However, if she looks away or looks past you, wait a few minutes, then, try again. If she completely ignore your gaze or gives you finger , move on to the next one. What ever you do, don't send her a drink or offer to buy her one as your opening line. It doesn't reflect well on you. Use your sincerity and confidence to win her, not your money (unless you have lots of it ). I personally know a lot of women who make a game out of seeing how many drinks they can get guys to buy them. Please hold on to your hard-earned money and not waste it on these she-devils. Good luck to yall and thanks for reading.

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Msg: 116 (view)

8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid Posted: 2/21/2006 4:18:53 PM
Let's face it! Men or women, none of us are perfect and it is our imperfections that make us human. I'm sure that if put to the task, each one of us can list dozens of undesirable traits that we find unappealing in the opposite sex. Yet, that wouldn't stop any of us from putting ourselves out there and doing whatever it takes to find the one who believes in us and whom we can believe in. Those of us who had lived and loved and surfered naturally would develope some sort of screening process to avoid repeating past mistakes. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as we remember that unless the perceived negative trait (or traits) is a deal-breaker, we should give the person a chance to win us over with his/her more redeeming qualities. Easier said than done, right? I believe in putting one's best foot forward, but, not to the point of being deceitful. I'm sure there are other threads in this forum that address that particular issue. G' evning to yall

Joined: 2/15/2006

Msg: 76 (view)

Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ?? Posted: 2/17/2006 3:00:45 PM
Hi, I'm new here, but, would like to pitch in my 2 cents. I want yall to picture a stool. A stool needs at least three legs to stand on to be stable. If one of those legs are missing, then, that poor stool would just fall over, no matter how strong the other two legs are. Now, like a stool, a well-balanced person needs to put equal emphasis on his or her physical, mental and spiritual well-being. when one of those "legs" is too over-developed compared to the other two, sooner or late, he/she will fall flat on his/her face. Thus, we have the "muscleheads with no brain ogres", the "pencil neck geeks" and the "scumbag politicians" So, ladies (and gentlemen for that matter, especially those who are intimidated by an attractive woman), why should you be intimidated by a handsome face or a shredded body? Look beyond the physical shell and determine for yourselves if the person you are interested in possesses the other qualities that make him a complete person, not a cartoon. So, he may have the physical goods, but, you may have other intangibles that make you as attractive as he is. Besides, different folks, different strokes, you just never know until you try. Thanks for reading.

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