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landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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No sparks should I try again? Posted: 11/23/2009 12:37:15 AM
He rejected you. Why would you thank him for rejecting you then ask for another opportunity to be rejected again? HUNDREDS of emails, he meets you for one date and follows up with a rejection and you thank him for being so nice? Those are my thoughts.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Fanning the Flames.... Posted: 11/22/2009 6:21:36 PM
Fan em Dano. All the way. Make em hot. Make em burn. Spin them on their tail and let em beg for more.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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How Much Should I Disclose? Posted: 11/22/2009 6:19:30 PM
She's too chicken to talk to a man nearly old enough to be her father? How intriguing she must be! Mouth shut. If she grows up she can ask Dirk herself. Dirk's life isn't yours to share. It's his.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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sticking to your own 'kind' Posted: 11/22/2009 1:52:25 PM
As long as they're within a 40 mile radius, I'll connect with people from all over the world.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Would like your opinion Posted: 11/22/2009 1:50:20 PM
Babe, here's the thing-- most normal, healthy relationships do not go from o to 60 in 30 days. If things are moving too fast, and promises are being made it's almost guaranteed that it won't last longer than 90 days. It's like trying to BBQ meat on coals you've just squirted with lighter fluid. The flames are impressive but there's no heat. He could have gotten "scared" or he could have simply lost interest.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Selfish or natural? Posted: 11/22/2009 10:49:20 AM
You're 32 years old, babe. Isn't it time you cool the partying with a single girlfriend/going out partying /party night business? Try finding some more grown-up things to do with your time, where you'll meet grown men who've outgrown the party mentality and are looking for an adult woman for something meaningful

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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what does it really take Posted: 11/22/2009 10:42:11 AM
Depends... what kind of woman do you wish to attract?

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Wouldn't it be nice Posted: 11/22/2009 12:57:35 AM
Lmao LANDRA2, just cracked me up....nice. Do they come with any talking features? Love a cute giggle and sexy moans....lol... Yes-- you're in luck!! You can request the "sexual voice" with your order. (Additional charges apply

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Communication issues Posted: 11/22/2009 12:49:29 AM
You've only been dating a few weeks. How "deep" do you expect to get with someone who is still somewhat of a stranger? And at the "few weeks" point you have "issues" you need to "work on"? There are a trillion books on building relationships and communicating. Study some.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/22/2009 12:40:08 AM
I don't get your dumbfoundedness. Men have been trying to pull a fast one like that since I was in school-- high school. It's not at all surprising to me. Seems like this is much ado about nothing.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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if a guy claims he doesnt want a relationship.. will he pass up miss right if she comes along? Posted: 11/22/2009 12:29:12 AM
You'll have to define "when things start to get serious" Does "serious" mean getting physically intimate (sex) or have you been sleeping with him when there was no talk about making things official? If it's the latter, that's why you've been jerked around by a guy edit to add: If you've only been dating for 60 days or so, telling you he wants a future bla bla bla was a good way to get you into bed. He sold you an empty promise and got paid in advance. "meeting parents, making plans for the future-vacations, etc.." but dating only a couple of months? A tad hasty-- typical. Start a bonfire and it burns out quickly

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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advice to help a friend Posted: 11/22/2009 12:25:52 AM
She sounds nice! They've been friends for years. She's single. She's pretty, a good story teller, flirty and keeps in touch with her friends. She's saving the environment by sharing a car. Go green! She's educated, but not a career girl so she won't put her job ahead of her man. Are you jealous!?

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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if a guy claims he doesnt want a relationship.. will he pass up miss right if she comes along? Posted: 11/22/2009 12:06:11 AM
I'd have to agree with you.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Where do you guys get designer clothes for a reasonable price? Posted: 11/22/2009 12:00:36 AM
ebay for me. Last thing I bought was a brand new designer dress- retail $186 for.......only $5.50

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Shake my tree Posted: 11/21/2009 11:50:31 PM
Most people "learned" to date when they were teenagers. Many got married and later divorced yet haven't dated since they were teenagers. It's like high school math-- some stop at algebra, some go on to learn calculus. Dating like a teenager is all they know.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Is it common to be bothered by this Posted: 11/21/2009 11:44:31 PM
If he's interested, he'll call you and ask you to go out again. And again. He'll want to pursue you and see you as often as he can. If he's not very interested, he might call randomly when he has nothing better to do and/or respond to your emails without any real follow-up (i.e. respond to your offer to cook, but never set any date.) If he's not interested at all, he'll ignore most of your attempts to communicate, but will throw you a line now and then.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Interpret a text message Posted: 11/21/2009 9:25:05 PM
Ur too much = you're very funny/cute Ur something else = you're a jerk

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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How long is too soon or too long? Posted: 11/21/2009 9:19:49 PM
Four dates would total spending about 24 hours together, give or take? Sure-- ask for a commitment... technically you've been together a whole day!

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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What do I make of this? Posted: 11/21/2009 9:14:38 PM
I hate to break it to you but.... the truth is... you've been talking to my dog. She's been using the internet behind my back, getting on dating sites and professing her love for a host of other men. She does have issues (I found her at the pound- what does that tell you?) but the reason she hasn't met you is two-fold. One, she can't drive and two, she's really a b1tch. You can wait for months-- she'll never be "ready" to meet you because she lied about too many things. It just goes to show you that unless you meet someone in person, you just never know who's behind the screen. PS -- I hope you didn't agree to send her any bones. Rawhide does something to her stomach, but she can't help herself.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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met my 1st psycho ( might belong in the humor section)(Long read) Posted: 11/21/2009 9:05:47 PM
A 3rd date........... why??

landra2

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A Matter of Trust Posted: 11/21/2009 6:22:48 PM
and I promptly ate my dinner in silence so.. who cooked your dinner?

landra2

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Wouldn't it be nice Posted: 11/21/2009 11:23:16 AM
Id like a female, white, 135 lbs ahhh try 5 foot 7 um tanned i guess blue eyes curly brown hair shoulder length, pierced nipples. There are websites for that. Try realdoll.com They're very lifelife and you can order exactly what you want. LOL

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Met this girl few nights ago, found out we work next to eachother need advice. Posted: 11/20/2009 4:57:45 PM
chases me down, grabs me by my hand and puts a cigarette in my mouth and lights it up for me. ooooooooooooOOOOOOOOOooooo sexy that is! Here's what you do: when you go back to work and see her, stride right up to her with confidence and say " Hey babe...I want to know what happened to our drink. Was it miscommunication or did you stand me up?"

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Would a person who suffered a brain injury be a turn off for you? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:52:08 PM
There's a lid for every pot. Me personally? Probably not. I don't have that extra level of patience and understanding when it comes to dating . Others do. Within an established relationship-- that's a different story.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Hey said call me, if you want and no answer? Posted: 11/20/2009 3:11:38 PM
I'd say the ball is in YOUR court. It's easy to be "sweet" over the phone. Some people think cake crumbs are tastier than a full meal. If flirting via text messages work for you, then have fun. If you expect to meet and go on a date, stop responding to texts

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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couple arrested for not tipping.,, Posted: 11/20/2009 11:14:22 AM
managers offered to comp the food charged with theft for not paying the mandatory 18 percent gratuity That makes no sense. They were willing to give them free food for lousy service but had them arrested for not tipping for lousy service?

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Is this a sure fire way to get rid of someone? Posted: 11/20/2009 11:08:13 AM
har har How clever! Sleeping with a guy she doesn't like and lying to get rid of him. She's such a kick! But...if she didn't want him, why was she still providing him with good sex?

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Does class matter in online dating? Posted: 11/20/2009 11:02:14 AM
Im just wondering whether the online world can possibly eliminate pre-judgements of class? No in fact it makes it much easier to recognize differences. People post their personal resume-- no need to talk to find out, it's all there.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 11/20/2009 10:58:01 AM
Every conversation and/or email exchange does not a "relationship" make. You exchanged some emails. She either isn't interested in meeting you -or- hasn't had time to reply.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Regretfully didn't give him my number!!!! Now what?? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:25:19 AM
You met at an event- a chance meeting- he invited you back to his place and when you said no, he didn't bother to get your number or give you any indication that he'd like to see you again? Weird. I wonder why he wanted you to go home with him but didn't get your number when you turned him down.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Why would a man tell his friends all he did sexually with his new girlfriend? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:19:23 AM
Why would a man tell his friends all he did sexually with his new girlfriend? Because he's a pig?

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Was there ONE thing that made you want to meet? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:04:00 AM
Oh it was many things..... He said he was a former Green Beret and was currently a bodyguard for a number of A-list celebrities. That is, when he wasn't piloting his private jet around the world (he liked going to Fiji, where he kept his yacht moored next to his expansive home). The shirtless pose next to the cherry-red Corvette was mucho muy impressive but I think I was more intrigued by his stable of thoroughbred horses. But....hmm.... If I had to pick just ONE thing.. it was that he caused me to stop and think of things I would have never really thought about before ----and NOT the promise of lunch in Paris followed by a sunset walk on the beach---- which of course would have allowed me to wear both jeans AND an evening gown!! Oh yes... and he said he liked to laugh!

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/19/2009 10:28:04 PM
I saw something on TV where the guy said, when the check came "Let's team up on this one"

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Curious - mothers who don't have their kids Posted: 11/19/2009 4:03:12 PM
I only know 1 family where the mother did/does not have custody of her kids. First marriage she relinquished custody of her son because raising a child was a drag. Second marriage she relinquished custody of her son because raising a child was a drag. She found that being a typical suburban stay at home mom-- doing homework, packing lunches, getting up in time for school, driving to activities (etc.) interfered with watching TV and doing drugs. If you met her, you'd think she was a caring, doting mother (the mask she wears) but she can only manage to "visit" her son for about one day a week. Oh.. and she's been convicted of felony charges (assault) and recently spent a week in jail for beating on her ex-husband- a violation of her parole. Their 11 year old son witnessed it and was the one who called the police. But if you heard her tell her tale, you'd hear she was the victim of circumstance and an unfair judicial system... not a violent, drug addicted low life.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Confused by my hormones - having sex with boyfriend for first time Posted: 11/19/2009 12:20:21 PM
60 days of dating hadn't really talked about sex at all not on birth control NOT a "good opportunity" to have sex with a guy.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Should I hang in there Posted: 11/19/2009 12:04:36 PM
Classic case of Sympathy Dump He tells you his life is a mess so he must end it with you-- for your sake. Rather than see him as the prick he probably is, or the relationship for what it really is (over and dead), he twists you into feeling sorry for him, wanting to comfort him, wanting to "be there" for him. He's even got you thinking something is really wrong with him healthwise and you're BEGGING (BEGGING!!!) him to have the crumb of courtesy to acknowledge you. Classic case of manipulation. But honey, sweetie, darling... don't think too harshly of him.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Love and being in love Posted: 11/19/2009 11:52:02 AM
My opinion, since you asked, is this: Marriage vows say "to love, honor and cherish" and not "to BE in love, honor and cherish" for a reason. Love is an action, a behavior, a commitment. Real love is not a feeling you enter into or exit at random. Nor is it a phenomenon one "falls" into or out of.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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So this is your first time going out with her... Posted: 11/19/2009 10:27:45 AM
I wouldn't want to "date" or "catch up" someone who was in a relationship. Pointless, especially if I had interest in someone else anyway.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Why can't I just move on? Posted: 11/18/2009 11:44:11 PM
for some reason I can not shake him Think about what that reason is, rather than trying to pretend you don't know. You do know why you continue with him. Admit it and deal with it. Then you can move on

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Wants to know about past realationship Posted: 11/18/2009 11:40:19 PM
He Informed you that you Need to talk about your last boyfriend? What is he, the guy's parole officer? He doesn't need to know everything unless it's something that currently impacts your life or you helped put him in jail.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Regretfully didn't give him my number!!!! Now what?? Posted: 11/18/2009 11:34:37 PM
To clarify, we didn't discuss numbers at the time so I didn't reject him. I just should have given it to him! Well... he didn't ask for it either, did he?

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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do women really have a checklist Posted: 11/18/2009 11:29:30 PM
Sure- why not have a checklist? It's my life-- I want to spend it with someone with whom I'm compatible. I know what I want, I know what I need, I know what's negotiable and I know what are deal breakers. Some people think you "can't help who you fall in love with" but I happen to believe you can choose who you want to love.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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your opinion on our situation Posted: 11/18/2009 11:27:32 PM
Divorced men who have huge alimony and child support payments that leave them little to live on aren't appealing to me. Divorced men who live in empty bachelor pads because their wives got everything aren't appealing to me. Perhaps when they recover financially and establish a new life for themselves, they'll be more attractive. Married men who have not completed the divorce process have no appeal.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Obnoxious screennames Posted: 11/18/2009 5:06:58 PM
I don't know babe... that argyle sweater you're wearing doesn't exactly shout "GANSTA" to me. Nor gorgeous, for that matter.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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What should i do? Posted: 11/18/2009 4:41:33 PM
You agreed to play house with someone. Now you have to live with the consequences of your choices. At least for another 6 months

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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For Love & Odometer Posted: 11/18/2009 4:36:08 PM
My soulmate would live in a geographically desirable area. Although, I don't believe in soulmates

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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Whats wrong with people Posted: 11/18/2009 4:22:58 PM
The only way to move on is to figure out why you kept taking her back. Once you come to terms with that you can let it go. It's not only about her; it's about why you kept opening the door.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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2nd chance... yes or no Posted: 11/18/2009 3:51:04 PM
the one doing the duck lips thing in her photo was referring to me I believe. okay a couple ppl posted while I was writing the one right before me is not crazy i am talking about the lady whose talking about him only coming back because he is horny

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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2nd chance... yes or no Posted: 11/18/2009 3:12:36 PM
You already know the answer- No you have worked too long and hard to be ok again and this would only ruin things. He has shown how little he actually cared and didn't seem to mind sabotaging the relationship. Face it-- he's calling because he's bored and horny and will say whatever it takes to get what he's looking for.

landra2

Joined: 6/4/2009

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My date plans dates with short notice ! Posted: 11/18/2009 1:54:49 PM
Make your own plans for the weekend. IF he calls and his weekend offer conflicts with your already-made plans, then tell him you're not available and that you like to plan weekends well in advance.

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