When we DO do things together, we have a good time.

He drinks with his friends about 3X/wk.

Though he is intelligent, he is bad with money. He has had three serious altercations with money that I will not go into.

His desire to hang out with his parents can get annoying. His parents like me, which is great, but when he comes to visit me for a weekend, we can sometimes spend up to 10 hrs. at his parents’ home (I live close to his parents).

I do not mind hefty boys at all. When we started dating, he was a chubby guy. However, his food addiction (not officially diagnosed, but he does spend his money on food, eats it and lies about it) has put him at near 300 lbs. This has made sex uncomfortable as I am one of those wispy pixie girls (think Olsen Twin type of build and stature). We don’t have intercourse that often, however, for people in our 20s. He also pretty much refuses to get healthier

When we are together, we seem to not have much to talk about and he will usually watch TV and I will just read/be on the computer. But I can also see that as us being out of “the honeymoon phase” so I don’t know if that is a negative or just how life goes.

What's your opinion on how she chose to end our relationship? After how things were between us for over six months, don't you think I deserved a bit more than a one paragraph email? Personally I feel it was a pretty lame way to go about this, and I told her so, to which she has taken great offense. I actually think it's ironic that she dumps me, and she's the one who gets angry.

you socialise with a small group of friends, and gradually one of them starts to get themselves a bit of a bad name over their choice of sexual encounters...mostly people who are innapropriate..ie, married, much younger, etc

you find yourself in a bit of a dilemma, as you're starting to hear little snippets of gossip about your friend, and you're also starting to feel a little bit uncomfortable with the fact that it's likely you're going to get tarred with the same brush, just by association.

you really want to sit down and talk to your friend about what you've heard and about how it's starting to affect the way you interact with people.

what would you do?

would you be straight with them and tell them what you'v heard, knowing that it could be really hurtful and put your friendship at risk?

would you just distance yourself from your friend?

would you say nothing?

as i said, if it were just a case of my friend enjoying a harmless (to her or others) bit of 'how's your father' then i wouldn't take a bit of notice...i'm pretty non judgemental as it goes....but it isn't harmless stuff, and it's made my partner (believe that i must be behaving the same way just because we're friends...

He told on many occasions how he wants a serious relationship and how he hates being lonely and single

However, on occasion he makes cutting jokes . For example, I told him I ate a big mac today.........

Well like I've mentioned, she does come from a very wealthy family (of French diplomats) so I wouldn't know why would money even be the issue. She is pampered as it is..with her parents paying for her very expensive apartment in central Paris and so on. She also bought me such an awesome laptop for my birthday and that was really nice of her

Just so CONFUsING

I have gotten to know a little about him and grown to really like him but I don't know if he feels the same towards me. Sometimes I feel like he responds to my emails only to be polite but then he always throws in a question at the end which compels me to respond.

...hopefully someone will be able to help me off my feet again

Some are probably downright scary. But I am not the "typical guy"...I am
mature yet extremely fun.

I can guarantee you that if you meet me for some low pressure fun such as bowling, drinks, coffee, or just a
quiet walk in a park, that we will have a great time and feel relaxed.

If you want to enjoy life and be with a man who will offer you a lot of excitement, then look no further--here I am. I enjoy life, have a positive outlook, and surround myself with goal-oriented and positive friends.

No need to worry about me "bringing you down" or slouching around... life has too
much to offer to waste time doing that.

So lets meet for some simple fun and see where this will go.

He says i should relax...but, how can i?...with him being married still?....

and I feel he does love me. Or he would not have stayed in the relationship this long

Ok...you have no right to judge anybody! You were not there and you did not know the circumstances behind the situation. So please keep your mouth shut if you dont know the situation. Thanks!

I also know that it would have to end someday when he finds someone else to be that kind of a friend to him but in the mean time, it seems like we both benefit from the friendship if I could sort out my feelings over it.

I guess a glimmer of hope keeps coming back everytime he calls and we have great talks

Try this--tell him not to call unless he wants something serious with you....believe me you won't be hearing from him again...he is assuming you are accepting his friendship offer by you listening to him about how his day was

She broke up with me three times during the year; each time because of religion. Each break up came out of the blue with no fights or arguing preceding it.

In the meantime, I've done A LOT to address my insecurity: counseling, seminars, talking with my pastor, etc. It has seriously made a BIG difference. I've also become a member of the 7th Day Adventist church...so we're now the same religion. That had been our one huge issue while we were together.

She said she forgave me and some other nice things but then said she thought it "probably" wasn't a good idea to be friends since we'd been so close. I don't know if she's dating anyone now or not. So, that didn't sound so good, though I did key on the word "probably" and what she might have subconsciously meant by that (leaving the door cracked open a little?).

I thought the best thing to do since the last thing she thought of me was that I was too clingy, needy, and insecure was to not answer her for a little while. So I waited. The next day, in the afternoon, I got a text from her saying "Happy Sabbath to you, thanks for the letter, just checking to see if you got my reply..." To me, her sending me that text was very significant because if she had wanted to close the door completely and if she had NO interest, then what was the point of texting me? She could've left it with her initial reply and she wouldn't have cared that much whether or not she heard anything from me or that I got her reply.

Another important point about her, she's one of those girls who responds well when she is ignored to an extent or when you don't give her your full attention and she hates it when she gets too much attention.

So, I'm wondering, what does this all mean??? Any insight would be greatly appreciated

So is it wrong of me to think that spending valentine's day/weekend with him meant something more than it did? Or is it just wrong of me to think that this dude will ever give me what I want from him, which is a relationship.