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Joined: 6/8/2009

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Christian Singles in New Jersey? Posted: 9/5/2009 7:54:02 PM
yay I'm so glad you posted this joslyde!! BA woman here looking for all the like-minded Jersey boys!! My mantra is ~I don't believe in coincidence, I believe in God and I am not lucky I am blessed!~

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Another think hard--Why have you never been married>? Posted: 8/19/2009 8:10:04 PM
I was married. Married to my high school sweetheart who I had known since I was 12. He died in 2001. It wasn't until the last year that I felt ready to date again. For a while I definitely wasn't sure if I could ever get married again but now I think I'd like that.

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Women only seeking Christian men Posted: 8/19/2009 8:05:28 PM
PS: being with a man that didn't love and have a relationship with Christ would be like being with a man that couldn't love or have a relationship with my children. If that gives it any perspective.

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Women only seeking Christian men Posted: 8/19/2009 8:04:24 PM
I have very good friends who are not Christians but as a Christian the point is that we believe that Christ was the final sacrifice for mankind. I for one, with the deep love and passion which completely encompasses my entire being could not spend the rest of my time on Earth with a man that did not feel the same way about our glorious Savior. I will not be unequally yoked. Ironically I find it quite closed-minded of you to accuse all Christians of "haven't progressed and realize you can be moral/virtuous without being a Christian. I find it extremely close-minded." ~I don't believe in coincidence, I believe in God and I am not lucky, I am blessed!~

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Good Girl? Posted: 8/19/2009 7:58:17 PM
I have often wondered that myself. It is quite different than saying "nice" girl. Good girl does it imply "innocent" because quite honestly I don't think a lot of the guys that say they want a "good" girl or a "nice" girl really mean it lol. I think what they really mean is "good girl with a really naughty side" lol. But that just my opinion.

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Ignorance is bliss? true or false Posted: 6/14/2009 8:27:47 PM
Because we knew what condoms are when we were teenagers. The correct vernacular would be "were" not "are' and what does using condoms have to do with being single?? lmao Well, Pinstripe, I will say one thing, I was blessed with a wonderful husband and 3 fantastic kids. I guess if I were your age and on here on a Sunday night because it really was my only option I'd be bitter as well. I guarantee you that you can try and bait me all you want I'll never ever become bitter and angry as are you....that is all the attention your going to get from me so I hope you've enjoyed it while it lasted lol. You are now dismissed.

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Ignorance is bliss? true or false Posted: 6/14/2009 8:03:50 PM
sorry i meant to post "this is an email i just received"

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Ignorance is bliss? true or false Posted: 6/14/2009 7:41:58 PM
Joining a dating site is irrebuttable proof that you need a man in your life. Apparently "God's love" is no substitute for something real. If I took this online business seriously I would actually feel sorry for you.... Bitter...bitter....bitter Cannot understand why you and others like you are STILL single lol

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Gentlemen: Any Suggestions on Improving My Profile? Posted: 6/14/2009 7:08:30 PM
I am getting a high percentage of younger men contacting me which I find curious and frustrating. Any suggestions there? You can go into your mail settings and adjust the age requirements for your prospective suitors. I have mine set 35-50 for that very reason. Unless you want to try the "Cougar" avenue for a spell lol.

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I get men looking at my profile but no one has sent an e-mail Posted: 6/14/2009 6:41:44 PM
Well you may have made changes since you posted this but I think your profile looks great!

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Ignorance is bliss? true or false Posted: 6/14/2009 6:34:57 PM
Thanks for your perpective goodguy dave. I know what your saying, it makes sense. I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on that last point lol. I think millions of people share that same desire. Notice you said "desire" not "need". Two completely different things. You can live a beautifully fulfilling life even if for some reason God doesn't bless you with that special someone. Anyway, we digress, I think the ultimate ace I hold in my pocket is that I know that I'm on God's time line and it just isn't about "if" I meet the person I'll want to share the rest of my life with its "when" and only God knows that! I'm pretty patient lol.

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Have you put your A/C on yet? Posted: 6/14/2009 5:44:24 PM
The weather has been kinda funky this spring here in Jersey. oops sorry thought I was in Jersey lol.

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Have you put your A/C on yet? Posted: 6/14/2009 5:42:49 PM
The weather has been kinda funky this spring here in Jersey. Then it occurred to me that one very small consolation is that I haven't put the a/c on once this year. Has anyone else gone this long without the a/c? I do have to admit, I tolerate the heat well and there were days when the thermostat read 83 and it didn't phase me or the kids. Oh well, I'm ready for the electric bill to go through the roof if it means the end of all this rainy, cool weather.

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Ignorance is bliss? true or false Posted: 6/14/2009 5:04:32 PM
What you don't realize is that over 30 with kids really limits who would date you. I'm a grandmom over 30 and yes I will be selective. Are you insinuating that because I'm a grandma over 30 I should just take what I can get?? No offense, but your entire post makes you sound like one of those embittered people that I aforementioned. Honestly, I found nothing in your reply to be constructive. It just sounded like a rant to me. Further more people who " need" a man or woman in their lives are seriously lacking their own self love and self fulfillment both of which I have a long with the love of God. that's just my 2 cents though =o)

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Matawn NJ... Meet and Greet then dance with your new friends! Posted: 6/14/2009 4:24:14 PM
Man, I'm missing all the get-togethers, keep me posted!

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Nothing excites me over 30 Posted: 6/14/2009 4:13:59 PM
Are there other people over 30 who still get excited when dating? i dunno, i haven't had a date in 21 years, i'll have to get back to you on this one lol

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 6/14/2009 4:10:35 PM
"so, why are you still single?" yea, why am I still single??? I've been asking myself that lately too!!

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What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 6/14/2009 1:30:21 PM
At first glance of a profile what are some of the things that would make you keep on movin'? Mine are: a) diff faith b) wants kids (because I am not having anymore and I am not selfish enough to try and get someone to fall in love with me and ask them to give that privilege up) c) height (like tall men, but balding men and men w/ "a few extra pounds" are not a deal breaker so I should get some non-shallowness points lol) d) extremely long, telling descrips e) guys who list all the negative things they don't want in their prospective dates (don't they see the irony in listing a bunch of negatives and then saying you want positivity??) f) pics of them giving the finger or making really disturbing faces or of them out drinking and looking hammered in the pic (especially at my age!!) This isn't really a deal breaker more of a pet peeve: What's with the guys with one pic of them and then 6 or 7 of their dog, not them w/ the dog, just the dog wth??

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Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles Posted: 6/14/2009 1:17:46 PM
I just read something in a woman's profile that I think is so wonderful I strongly believe ALL women here on pof should cut and paste into their profiles: * I'm not running a ploy to get free meals. I'm happy to meet at a restaurant and pay for myself, if you still think you'd like to get to know me. * Ladies, if you put this in your profiles you'll definitely impress a lot of men here. It would definitely impress more men than those "cut & paste" breast cancer messages. Sorry, I don't want those types of men to email me.

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What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You? Posted: 6/14/2009 1:15:22 PM
I think I'd go Scarlet O'Hara on him and splash my drink in his face and make an extremely dramatic exit.

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Is a kiss an invitation to have sex? Posted: 6/14/2009 1:10:46 PM
Is a kiss an invitation to have sex? Oh gawd I hope not! Or else I'm in big trouble or the guys I date are in big trouble cuz there won't be any kissing going on lol!

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Why is there so little dating between white men and black women? Posted: 6/14/2009 1:07:48 PM
I'm in Michigan and it's very segregated up here. Even in the classrooms, white kids sit together and all the black kids sit amongst each other ugh i hate to hear this. I am so blessed to live in one of the most diverse communities in the country. We do not have these issues here. There are so many interracial/interfaith couples in our area including white men/black women. With that said, and this is only my experience with some of my caucasian male friends, many of them would be open to dating black women but they are CONVINCED that black women do not want to date them. There is a cry from black women concerning the alleged "lack of" eligible, good black men. The emphasis on this would suggest to some white males that they aren't what black women want. I would suggest that black women interested in dating outside their race be open about it. Be firtatious and friendly with men you are interested in whether they be the same race/ethnicity as you or not. You may be surprised. My son is about as much of a white boy as you can get but he has no preference. He's crushed on mixed girls, spanish girls, indian girls, black girls, brunette white girls, blond white girls lol. You would never know it though by looking at him (all with his Pro Bass caps, faded jeans and AC/DC t-shirst lol). He doesn't wear a sign saying "open to interracial dating". That's just my lil' 2 cents tho.

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Ignorance is bliss? true or false Posted: 6/14/2009 7:59:26 AM
JW, what is better... (a) Being ignorant like I am (I have not dated since my husband passed in '01) to the dating scene, the presumptions, the bad experiences etc. or (b) Or for those having been in the dating scene for a while and knowing the in's and out's and having the negative and positive experiences? I mean for me, honestly, I have NO preconceived notions about men (a lot of women on here really dog them). I don't have my "guard" up and I have no expectations. I also do not have the pressure of rushing into anything because my biological clock is ticking. (Because I'm DONE lol) The other thing as far as I'm concerned is that I want to have a relationship because I want it, I don't need it. With my faith and my family if I stayed single the rest of my life it would be a bummer but not a catastrophe. Am I going to be changed once I seriously start dating again??? Or is it possible to maintain my current outlook and take it all in stride?

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When you turn 30 you better have a personality Posted: 6/14/2009 7:48:03 AM
Anyone else find the cute/firm 18-30 girls as amusing as I? We all know they're going to be nurses, artists, musicians, or actresses. And when they marry a guy based on looks and he turns out to be, shock, focused only on himself they peg all men as being this way. the only way you can make a generalized statement like this is if you've met all 6,917,650,309 ppl in the world and have spent any length of QT with them. Region of where you live has a lot to do with it as well. People are different in different parts of the country. Anyone who marries anyone (m or f) for looks is so superficial that they wouldn't even notice if the person turns out to be self- centered. just my lil 2 cents

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 6/14/2009 7:38:40 AM
haha this reminds me of something my daughter's bf's friends said, now that I'm a noni (grandma) and a young one at that, they said now instead of being a M-I-L-F I'm a G-I-L-F lol my daughter was mortified but I got a good chuckle out of it. But personally, the younger men that have pursued me have been extremely sweet and understanding when I let them down. Maybe it is the way I let them down. I do it with kindness and with humility letting them know how flattered I am. Not like I'm some snob who couldn't be bothered (not that you do that OP, I'm just saying) As for me my cut off would be 35 only because many (not all) men do mature later as far as settling down and living a slower paced life. They have also had more knocks and life experience at that age. But I would certainly never ever pass judgment on anyone else whatever their prefs are. It is a good topic though. The Cougar mentality is definitely alive and well!

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How crazy is it to get an apartment together within 3 weeks of meeting each other? Posted: 6/14/2009 7:28:00 AM
I understand most of you would be against this but how crazy is it if you met someone and got a place to live together within 3 weeks of first contact? C-R-AAAAA-Z-YYYYYYYYYYY When it all falls apart just make sure that both ppl have a place to go so that they aren't homeless. Don't sign a lease either otherwise, once it all falls apart, you'll also ruin your credit. -Jen

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Get together in NJ Posted: 6/12/2009 7:34:07 PM
POF is a good dating site but for meet ups you should have her check out Meetups.com. They seem to have a lot going on. I'm not all that far from Fort Dix, a bit north by New Bruns but a lot of the stuff is in central NJ and down the shore anyways. She may have to travel a little bit to get out. If she really wants to meet ppl right in her own area suggest to her that she go to the United Way website and sign up for some volunteer work. Its great to meet new ppl AND help others at the same time. Good luck to your sis.

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I am just curious if anyone here goes to Gunnison beach? Posted: 6/12/2009 7:29:27 PM
I go to IBSP. We buy our NJ State Park pass each year so that when we camp and swim etc. we've got the pass. It saves alot of money if you frequent the State Parks a lot as our family does. IBSP is protected wildlife/nature preserve and there are so many nice areas to walk and the beach areas have the snack shacks and shower rooms etc. I don't go to any other beach anymore with the exception of an occasional trip to WW that the kids make me take. We go to IBSP at least once per week.

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