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 Author Thread: My Friend Is Cheating On Her Husband
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
My Friend Is Cheating On Her Husband
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:57:13 PM
Cheating is never the answer to any problem. The grass is not greener.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Whats a good place for a first date...
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:16:42 PM
Find some common ground, and maybe take her someplace you KNOW she would be interested in. It would make for a good impression.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Some one asked Why do Men Bash Brad pitt
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:15:25 PM
Looks don't mean crap if he's a tool. And well, they are tools.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is a single guy at church a turn on?
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:14:29 PM
That is the best place in the world to meet the right type of people. AFTER church of course God comes first. He made you.

Since your a believer, refer to your bible. God first, spouse second, kids and others last. If you have children issues, you have a marriage issue. Fix it.

God may have opened a door for you, you are trusting him with your needs, and he is opening your eyes.

GOOD LUCK!
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
My Friend Is Cheating On Her Husband
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:11:18 PM
Real friends hold friends accountable. Put her in check. To a degree it's none of your business, but if she was stealing would it be any different? If you don't, you're just as guilty. Talk to her and find out what is really going on and be a friend, not just someone watching on the sidelines.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Where did this come from?
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:09:19 PM
People forget what the definition of love is. IT IS NOT A FEELING FFS.
Love is what you would do without expecting anything in return and willfully accepting responsibilities that have to do with the both of you, sacrifically. It's called AGAPE.

Examples of 'marital love' called agape: Doing PITA things without being told, going the extra mile to make life easier on the other person, taking on additional responsibilites and showing how much you appreciate them, not finding faults and causing arguements over things that don't matter, praying for each other, everything should be a 2-way street, including giving in to personal needs even when you don't feel like it.

Emotional feelings are just that, emotional.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Broken heart and wedding vows
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:01:37 PM
People either have or do not have moral standards of any kind. When they don't, it ALL goes out the window. Men point it out in women, women point it out in men.

You can't control people, but you can influence them to be better. Friends should hold friends accountable. Husbands and wives should keep vows. That is my belief. It is the way it was meant to be.

I have defended people's freedom so they can have the right to make a right choice. It's their fault they don't make them. It isn't your fault either what someone else does either. But sometimes we have to sit back and look at ourselves as well, and humble ourselves.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Finding your ex on POF
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:56:21 PM
This sounds good. Give her a little surprise and send her an email ROFL. Say something witty that would put her in check about herself.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Rebound Guy?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:53:50 PM
Sounds like bad juju. Move on. Liar, cheater..blah blah. Would you really want a friend that is all that? I don't think so. 'Friends' could mean "Hi, I don't want to burn any bridges the next time I get horny."
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Is she really happy
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:52:06 PM
Women can only take being neglected for so long. If you don't take care of what is at home, someone else will. Remember that. Relationships are meant to grow, and 2 become closer, 'as one'. Sound familiar?

The bad thing is people say what they don't mean. She may have meant to say that she supported you in you doing your thing, but what she didn't probably say is that I need you too, and maybe you should have noticed that you were spending more time with others and other things than her. No one wants to constantly feel left out.

It sounds to me she was trying to fill that gap. Of course, it's not the smart decision. Relationships must have clear and common communication to survive. When you lose that at any point, expect issues and drama. She has needs, you have needs. But both of your eyes (you and her) need to be open. People give up before trying to find a resolution to a problem.

I have met a few people across the fields of life, and have found a few interesting things. I met (including a relative) who have divorced each other, and actually remarried each other again after time. Sometimes people do the right thing and resolve bothersome issues from the past and in the process mend old wounds and restore relationships that should have never been lost.

Maybe it's time to clear up on some issues and at least get some things off your chest (both) so you at least have the peace of mind and can either mentally move on or have it restored.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Meeting Men Is Hard
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:42:34 PM
Any man who doesn't shower and put on a clean shirt for a first date is retarded. You should have just shut the door.

That goes the same for women.

These walks of life come from home towns as well, not just the internet...Believe me.
I have lived in my town for over 4 years and haven't got a date from here because I have yet to find one to my expectations of basic cleanliness and integrity. The next town over wasn't impressive either. I just think someone forgot to clean the 'fish tank' and some of the descent fish are just hidden in a cloud of dirty water. It has nothing to do with free sites either. I don't want to have to pay someone just to meet people. It's retarded. I would rather look around here, fish here, than find some sorry **stard who calls the local tavern home with the rest of the bar flies.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 46 (view)
 
How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:36:04 PM
I lost the love of my life a few months before I got deployed my first time. During that period, I also lost my brother.

It took a few years for me to even think about it because I had hit a major depression after I returned. I only focused on the mission and would not allow anything else to enter my mind. It was hard. Some things in life just take more time than others.
You need to be busy, and force yourself to think on positive goals in your life. Go out and do something you haven't done in a while. Re-open old doors that made you the person you are today, like an old hobby you gave up or work on something you neglected because of him.

Don't put yourself in a position you aren't ready for, like looking for a replacement. Once your head is on straight, your soul will be ready to move on. Your heart will always be in the same place you left it.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
wow was I shocked
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:30:40 PM
I am also a 2x combat vet. Post traumatic stress is a serious thing, and it can be overcome quickly or it can take a long while. Give him some space, and offer your support regardless of the relationship. There are a lot of variables when it comes to this condition, and that includes depression, anxiety, low self esteem, bad memories, guilt, insecurity. Combat and high-stress environments are not for everyone. Including men. You would be surprised at what I saw...But anyway, time is what he needs, and you and the family need to support him in getting help and making sure that he knows regardless that everyone he cares about is there to help him see through this. Remember, mental health is priority.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
How do I go on after a devastating breakup?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:21:24 PM
When people do this,(from my experience) they did something bad and regret it and don't feel like a confrontation of the mistake. It's selfish to do so and they don't want to think about admitting a screw-up.

Another reason could be cold feet, or someone is talking them out of it. (Seen this too)

If she was your 'friend' she would tell you the truth.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Single Fathers .....Men do it to ya know :)
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:18:12 PM
I applaud fathers that take the responsibility of their children. They are human beings that have a heart and soul just like the rest of us.

Whether it be a man or a woman who abandon their kids, someday they will pay for it on earth and in heaven. What goes around comes around.

The children will grow up knowing who their real parent is, who took care of them, and who did not. You are a part of them as they are a part of you.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Prenant & Seeking Male for Long Term Relationship
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:14:45 PM
I believe that most people in that situation would be looking for a father replacement.

Personally, I was in a situation where my husband left me while I was pregnant with my daughter years ago. I had to live on the streets (literally) until I was able to find a job that hired pregnant women. BTW, at that time, it was common practice not to hire of that due to insurance reasons. I just wanted somewhat of a normal life, and also couldn't get a date to save my life. But I did eventually, and it wasn't for the reason of finding a father. I just wanted someone whether it was a friend or otherwise I could rely on from time to time. I was in a new area and knew no one. Things just vary, but don't just make judgements without knowing facts, it gets people in trouble. Assumptions are always bad, no matter what it is about.

The majority of my life consisted of being alone and raising my daughter. So I guess it just depends, it is still about the other person. You just have to find out. Some people wouldn't mind, some do.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 71 (view)
 
The Teflon Man....
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:08:17 PM
1. Sex was never free and it has been preached since Jesus. Hello. There is only one right way, and for a REASON. No one is perfect. The day I become perfect, the end of the world will come.

2. You also can't fix stupid, there will always be stupid. You can only participate in helping someone be less stupid.

3. Responsible parents make responsible children, mostly. It isn't always the case. HOLDING PEOPLE ACCOUNTABLE FOR STUPID AND SELFISH ACTIONS HELPS.
That's why there are laws, to make stupid people accountable.

4. If it's just about you, your wrong.

5. Don't be a wimp. Man up to the ownership of your children, and do the right thing. The kids are the innocents, and a blessing. People forget who they are or where they came from until they have children and their eyes are open.
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Asking for some help, Ladies Only Please
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:00:06 PM
Just say exactly what you mean, and exactly how you feel, have a friend proof read it so they can try to see if there are any conflicts in wording.

Think of it as a real vocal conversation, not one you are actually typing.

Over-all, it sounds go0d, you have expressed yourself and needs, but make sure that words don't conflict with each other.

Sometimes it is just hard to get the right words out. Take a minute and think about it. Don't feel bad, sometimes I do it too, feeling the need to rush things that don't need to be rushed.

I wish you luck in your future endeavors!
 EO1
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I get viewed, but never get a message?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:33:58 PM
Personally, I think your profile is just fine. Remember, like me, some people click on people's icon's because they have a hard time seeing it whether the picture be fuzzy or distorted. Hell, I clicked on one because I thought it was someone I knew.

You seem intelligent, and motivated. That is a good trait, and you can actually put information on your profile unlike some.

Just keep your head up, serious people will respond. Men typically make decisions quickly, sometimes too quickly, when it comes to choosing someone to talk to or date. Women like to think about it a bit before responding. This isn't a grocery store. I read, re-read, and think about people I think I may be interested in talking to. No one wants their mailbox full of random material that isn't close to what they are looking for. Just be proud that someone checked you out! Someone might be interested but maybe they got cold feet and at the moment are too chicken to send you a note. Heck, they may not even know what to say.

Be postive and a little proactive yourself. You're not a piece of meat for sale on the cattle market.

I wish you luck !
 
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