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trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

what do you guys think about this? Posted: 10/3/2008 5:01:15 PM
I for one like your suggestion, or rather Mr Skinners. I noticed many dissagreed, even saying it was too much work. Maybe we should set it as a goal to become nice all along, treating our significant others with respect, dignity, love, both in heart, and bedroom, till it become us, not an effort, but the real us. If we were to try, and do that maybe there would be more success stories on POF, instead of why do I keep getting rejected, or all men are jerks. We can often choose to be what we want, not what is so natural if it is for our better. I for one am very introverted, but most people would tell you I am extroverted. Why, because I choose not to let being introverted handicap me. I prefer a book or movie to dance halls, I dont like large crowds, etc, but neither will I allow me to it to handicap me. The same effort can be applied to try and quit smoking, or other bad habits, or to become nicer. Dale Carnegie said Act enthusiastic, and you will be enthusiastic. Too much work one of your readers said, I think it is worth the effort, not maybe so much for the person you are dating, but for yourself, myself, etc because in our efforts to please, and be a good partner we become a better person for it. Am I wrong?

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 177 (view)

Is U.S.America Rasist? Obama is White Posted: 8/4/2008 6:36:49 AM
First of all Obama is the first black candidate only because Colin Powell refused the opportunity. We have been ready for a black president. Every person I ever talked to from either party would have voted for Colin Powell, myself included. Now Obama, lets start off with understanding racism can go both ways. Had a white person said my grandmother is a typical black person, they would have cruicified him, but Obama states his grandmother is a typical white person, he gets a pass. Obama attends a church for 20 yrs, and is close to the reverand, who is very racist, and makes claims about our government that our very outrageous, and Obama quits the church for political reasons. It didnt bother him for 20 yrs. I feel we need to understand racism is wrong, but putting a black person in the white house that is racist, just for whites to prove we are not is insane. He is also so liberal that he makes Hillary look conservative. Thats ok if you happen to be liberal, but for moderates, and conservatives his voting record is something the public needs to be informed on. He will probably get elected because for all of the above he is a great orater, and the public doesnt bother to be informed, what they see on tv , is what they buy into. McCain on the other hand reminds me of Bob Dole, honorable, but boring. Oh, and I love Obamas wife's statement this is the first time she is proud to be an american. Do What, she is Ivy league educated, she is married to a senator, she has riches, and blessings the average american can only dream of, and only now that her husband is running for president is she proud of being american. Come on America wake up.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 281 (view)

Been married for 20 years, feel empty. Posted: 7/25/2008 4:43:45 AM
Yes suck it up, and be a responsible mom to the 11 year old. If you still feel the way you do, consider a divorce afterwards. Poverty usually follows , the kids suffer. You end up wanting to date, which the kids wont understand, so first you take their dad away, then you leave them with a baby sitter. How about getting counseling? Oh here is a clue too, most all the friends you think you have will jump ship when you are single. You are not alone, but multiple wrongs dont make a right. Unless he is a danger to his kids, and I didnt read anything along those lines. If he is depressed it could be something physical, make him see a doctor, you sound depressed too. I doubt a divorce would solve your problems, No husband, I doubt most would find a freshley divorced, mom of four, that is depressed very attractive. After 20 yrs, and four kids doctors will tell you it will take you 4-5 yrs to emotionally be ready to date. Just ask yourself this are your kids better, or worse off with you married. Sacrifice, it is a word Americans have seemed to have lost, with the exception of our military men, and women, cops, and firemen. Good Luck, and be the best mom you can be, whether married, or divorced.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 240 (view)

So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!! Posted: 5/21/2008 8:12:56 AM
Hi CityKitty, I have had similar, but not as drastic experiences as you. Mostly just pics of someone when they were 25 yrs old, and they are not in their 50's. At first I was like you nice, and worked my way through the dinner, or whatever was planned. To be honest it hasnt happened often, and I have had good luck on dating sites unless you count not finding Ms Right permantly, but maybe thats my fault. In either case I finally decided a relationship that isnt based on honesty cant work, and when it is so blantent that they misrepresented themselves, I simply tell them there is no reason to continue with this, the picture posted was not representative of you, and I feel you did so because you didnt think I would be interested had you posted one that looked like you. As such I am not interested in pursuing this further. May sound cruel, but it has only happened twice, and I make no apologies for it. It is better to post a current pic, and if looks are that important then better be dismissed on here, then in person. And you are right, if he lied about the looks, then one can assume he read your profile, and gave you the answers he felt would make you interested in him, even if they dont come close to being representative of him. Good Luck dont get soured on this site because of one bum. I am sure with patience you will find some really nice friends on here, if not your special friend. Lou

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

Military men, should i date one? Posted: 5/14/2008 10:34:41 PM
I would say depends on what your fantasy with the military man is. A one night stand. Perfect. A long lasting relationship with a man who loves his country, and understands the meaning of honor, and duty. Especially officers. Willing to relocate constantly with little notice. long periods of living alone while they are in harms way. It is all part of the territory. I can tell you the upper level officers are some of the most intelligent, courteous, chivalrous men you will ever meet. I had the pleasure of touring the Pentagon once, and was totally impressed with the officer corps. Military men can vary depending on how long in, and rank, and maturity, and M.O.S. example you cant get more committed then Special Forces, Delta, Seals, Green Beret, etc. Then you have guys that joined for the adventure, and didnt know what they were getting into, and have to finish out there tour of duty. I would say you wont have a clue what you are getting with these. Could be anything from brilliant, to dumber then a box of rocks. Honorable to the judge told him military or prison. LOL, Good Luck, I am sure you wont have any problem getting them interested in you, one thing for sure they should by all accounts be healthy, and in shape. Proud to have served the Corps. Semper Fidelis. My father was in Korea, and WWll, and brother currently serving in Army.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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relationship torpedoed by kid's Posted: 4/21/2008 2:59:39 PM
The relationship wasnt torpedoed by a kid. You two had a conversation that shouldnt have taken place within earshot of the child. The child loves both her parents, and is not going to be receptive at such a young age to hearing negative things about either parent. Second it was the mothers place to try and soothe things over, and if she cared about you, she had the option of still seeing you without her daughters approval. The fact is your relationship failed due to gossip, and failure to communicate at a deeper level then just basic chitchat. I believe the reason so many relationships fail is one, or both parties refuse to look at the real issue, and place blame where they are most comfortable, which usually excuses themselves, or the one they want to excuse. Sorry, but I for one dont believe you can blame the child for loving her dad, and mom, and not wanting to here him/her put down. Next time save such conversations for dinner dates, in a quiet location , or in the car when you know it wont be overheard. Or better yet limit life to being positive, what you have to offer, not what her past lacked in the offering. Just one persons opinion, you can learn from it, and not repeat the mistake, or blame the child, and wonder what keeps going wrong. Good LUck in your search. Hmm how come Dc Phil gets paid so much, and I get nothing. LOL, seriously good luck

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 131 (view)

why do men think they can use women for sex? Posted: 3/6/2008 7:53:41 AM
Well it is funny if you look at POF list of postings, right under yours is my boyfriend wants to wait for marriage to have sex. Each relationship, and individual has there own reasons. I have gone with women that made it clear sex is all they wanted from a relationship. I gathered from your post that you were a willing participant. Could be many things, could be you lost his respect, even though that would be the pot calling the kettle black, or maybe he was dissapointed in the sex, and didnt want to continue. Either way count yourself lucky you got out early before too much was invested. You cant change him, so let him go, and hold your head high knowing you were making love not just having sex, and be glad when you find someone they hopefully will have more class then the guy who moved on. Also dont stereotype, people do things. all guys dont behave the same way, nor do women. Like I said at the beginning right under your post was my boyfriend wants to wait for marriage to have sex. Sound to me like she is willing, and he holds himself to a higher standard.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex? Posted: 2/15/2008 11:53:44 AM
I would say not, if the spouse is aware of the friendship, and one acts appropriately enought that no questions should have to be asked I would say fine to talk, or maybe eat lunch if they work together, etc, but going to movies without the spouse? Come on between both parties working, and choirs etc, time is so limited that I would consider someone spending time with an old flame a big red flag. If she was from out of town, ok to spend time with both man, and wife. I think just that you have to ask says it is inappropriate. Lou

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Just a question to put out there..... Posted: 11/16/2007 6:43:03 PM
Having looked at your profile I dont think you have to worry, any guy would be glad for you to IM them, and honored. Happy Thanksgiving

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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How do you know when a POF member posts a fake pic? Posted: 11/16/2007 2:15:00 PM
I have had women send me pics that were 20 years old. It is simple solution, I tell them when meeting that relationships are based on truth, and honest, and the ability to communicate openly, and based on the fact that the picture that brought us together was knowingly deceptive, I see no point in pursuing the relationship any further. So in truth I doubt you can tell prior to meeting if a pic is a true and accurate description of the person you are talking to, but if you decide to pursue it further you can end it if it isnt. Other thing you can do is get them on a webcam on instant messenger if it is that big a deal.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

It's not fair a million times over Posted: 11/16/2007 3:41:01 AM
Yeah give yourself time to heal, you arent ready for a serious relationship you are on the rebound. Truth is after 32 years of marriage you are looking at 4-5 years before you are healthy, and not on the rebound. Might consider some counseling, and the hurt does go away, I guess I was lucky I had two young children when I got divorced, and had custody so had too much to live for or I might not have held up. Stay active join a health club, or get involved, dont sit around moping, but dont rush into anything or you will either leave a trail of broken hearts behind you, or settle for someone you wouldnt have give the time of day because of temporary low self esteem. Prayer doesnt hurt either, though I can tell you womens support groups are great, men not so much. The church I went to, the women flocked around my ex, even though she was the one screwing around, and left the kids and I. The men acted like divorce is contagious, or something. I wish you well, and with the hollidays coming up it is not a good time, hope you have family, and friends you can spend time with.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Why women wont date seperated men Posted: 11/15/2007 6:37:10 AM
Well my internet friend depending on how long you have been married, and what tie ins you have such as children, and financial holding, it is pretty much understood that it can take up to 4-5 years for you to be over your partner. Now you may not love her anymore but you will be doing alot of comparrison, and you wont be mentally available for a meaningful relationship. So with those stats in mind I can understand. I dated a women who was recently divorced, and she was a class act, but she wasnt anywhere near ready for any kind of serious relationship. Do your homework, if you are seperated you might have better luck at a sex site cause that is all you are most likely looking for unless you need, not want a woment to take care of you. Not being harsh intentionally, what I am saying can be backed up in any bookstore. Good Luck and be patient you deserve it, and you will feel better if you dont leave a trail of broken hearts behind while you heal

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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Why won't you talk with married men??? Posted: 11/15/2007 6:31:42 AM
Guy you both need conseling, why do you want to spend time on the internet talking to women rather then talking to your wife, and why does she want to talk to other men. Most people on here when they say friends mean they dont want sex at least untill their is a friendship with possibilities of a future. It doesnt mean they want to chance getting involved with a married man, and if you play with fire you will sure get burned. I cant believe you are even asking this question. Just remember the old saying the grass isnt always greener, keep down the path you have selected and you most likely will find out. I wish you both well.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

what do you do when you find out your bf is married? Posted: 11/13/2007 1:46:41 PM
Hmmm what does this tell you about you. You are wanting to make him out to be a jerk, and in truth he is, and cannot enjoy the closeness of someone special, but the fact that you dont know what to do about it is sad. It doesnt say much for you either. Do you need to be told to end it. He wasnt your boyfriend he is someones husband, and you stated you never met the guy. Be glad how much more painful would it have been had you been intimate.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 11/10/2007 3:54:39 PM
She would have to be exceptional. Beautiful, intelligent, funny, the whole package, Ms average isnt going to get me to wait.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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Someone please respond fast! Posted: 11/10/2007 9:30:34 AM
Be yourself, if she like the real you great, if you have to beg, and plead move on. Lou

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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Are you old enough to be my dad? Posted: 11/8/2007 11:53:03 AM
Well I do stay in my age group just so can avoid immature girls like you. All you had to do is change your settings, and guys out of your range, or distance, etc could not contact you. But then you wouldnt be able to boost your self esteem by belittling others, but trust me finding fault with others will not make you a secure person. Good Luck in your search, but I think you will have difficulty as you look for the worse in people. And who said age is just a number, or its whats inside that counts? I dont know what possesed me to respond to this, more for the other readers I guess

trkdrvr330c

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Why do guys give cell phone numbers instead of home numbers ...is that a clue they are taken? Posted: 10/19/2007 8:25:41 AM
HI I cant speak for other guys, but I am totally cell. I have no home phone number. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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Ummm..I hope that this is the right place to ask this??? Posted: 10/15/2007 4:31:42 PM
Well he sounds like a nice guy. You say he is hot so I assume there is chemistry. You are not being mean to him, you have to do what works for you, and move at a pace that works for you. Just be honest if he is smothering you, but you like him explain you want to get to know him, but need some space. Find out if he is needy, or a stalker, or just a plain nice guy that you would be really interested in if it wasnt so obvious you allready have him if you want him. Sounds like you are in a good situation. Get some info on him, name, address, phone number so you can let someone close know incase things go bad.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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Women saying they r to busy to spend time with u Posted: 10/7/2007 2:04:52 PM
Guy we all have 24 hours a day, no one gets more or less. She is on the web site looking. Life is about priorities, if she was truly interested she would find the time, or why would she be on this site. The fact that she lives with her ex boyfriend, and is concerned with guys calling when he gets home, should tell you they may not be all that much of an ex. Even if they are no longer an item, I would say she isnt emotionally over him, which is to say she is not ready to get involved with someone else. Doesnt matter how special she may be, if she isnt going to enhance your life you are better off without her. Move on, you can always leave the door open to her calling you if, and when she is ready to give you her number, agree to seeing you on a regular basis.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 115 (view)

What are the deal breakers for you? Posted: 10/7/2007 12:10:39 PM
I think you made the right decision. Though it sounds like he knew where you work. If you havent met him, you shouldnt have given him that kind of personal info, just incase he is a stalker, etc. Best to meet at one of your Tim Hortons, or someplace where you can get a feel for each other, and not be committed to a lenghty time event. Deal breakers for me is the use of any recreational drugs. Good luck in your search. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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I have a question for everyone, all opinions welcome Posted: 8/25/2007 6:01:18 PM
Hmm I guess I am just not up on this, but I am sure their are many such sayings. Like dont go there, or bite me, that I didnt grow up with. That is without getting into Ebonics. LOL, I have never heard, or said a girl is so hot she could have my whole pay check. Truth is if a girl isnt financially independant I would probably not be interested in her. Notice I didnt say wealthy, but unemployed, and looking for a sugar daddy tells me that if I came on hard times she would be gone. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 255 (view)

can we change somebody Posted: 8/24/2007 5:10:15 AM
Hi, as to your post can you change somebody, I believe it depends on whether you are talking core values, or things like table manners. If you are someone for example who is has alot of integrity, and your friend has none, I doubt you will change that. If however your friend is lacking in social graces, in time I believe you can take the rough edges off of him. I will go even further, and say after 10 yrs with you, you will have the kind of friend you deserve in that you really should have impacted his life. Dont expect to take someone out of prison, and make a preacher out of them. Unless you are talking James Baker. good luck in your efforts. Lou

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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Men don't like TALL women Posted: 8/6/2007 2:59:04 PM
Wait did I read your blog correctly. Men dont like tall women. You get approached by guys shorter then you. What are they not men? I certainly cant make sense of your statement. If no guys showed interest might try to rationalize. by the way women dont like short guys> read the profiles, I cant tell you how many say must be 6' tall or taller, this often by a girl that is 5'0.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

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Is this inappropriate or am I being a prude Posted: 7/30/2007 9:28:49 AM
I wont say it was inappropriate, but it was a feeler to see if were interested in sex. Having said that, and by the way to feel about it, I think he would not be a good match for you, and you should move on. That does not make you a prude, it makes you a lady with morals that exceed his. I dont know that I would go as far as too say he was terrible out of line for a dating site. I am sure he gets plenty who answer him the way he wants, then wonders why he cant find anyone he wants to keep long term.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that? Posted: 7/15/2007 10:27:36 AM
I think women one tend to develop friendships more slowly, and are better communicators. We tend to move on if there is no chemistry initially. I have had women friends though. For the most part I have found that when a women says she wants to be just friends, it means she is moving on, and would like for you not to give her any grief. Just my perspective which if I was so smart I would have my own tv show like Dr Phil.

trkdrvr330c

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

sex, guys and idiots Posted: 7/15/2007 7:42:40 AM
Hmm so you are close to God, so did you take this opportunity to witness to this man. He traveled 2.5 hours to see you, he may have been interested enough to listen to you. You notice the type of person you described is the kind of people Christ hung out with. He didnt hang out in church all the time, he associated with those that needed God. Of course one does need to surrond themselves with other Christians to give support. Even if you felt this way the desire to post this, and put someone down, makes me question your true relationship with God. If the guy went home, and thought it through, and wanted to turn his life over to God, would he be able to call you, and feel comfortable letting you witness to him, or anyother person after reading this. I certainly would never open up to you, before or during a relationship. If it didnt work out, one could be assured all of Louisiana would know about it, plus plentyoffish. Hmm good job, a christian heart should be compassionate, Christ like. I dont doubt you attend church, but that doesnt make you a Christian. I am guessing you missed an opportunity to witness, to share Gods love, maybe I am wrong, maybe you did, but I know that I didnt enjoy this post. Your are very attractive, and should have good self esteem both from good looks, and if you are a christian as professed from knowing you have good morals, and values, etc. I usually associate people putting others down with those that have low self esteem, and think they can raise their level of worthiness by putting others down. I wish you well, I do think you need to look inside you for why you felt the need to post something like you did. I would be interested in what your pastor thinks. Jesus was about love, and compassion. Wonder how it is so many wars have been fought over religion? Again I wish you well, and I am sure you will get many opportunities to find someone that you deem worthy. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 107 (view)

Tricks for guys with a small tinkler, I know you're out there. Share Posted: 6/28/2007 8:33:38 PM
May I say that while I dont have an answer for your question, I am really dissapointed in the responses of the me, that rather then offer suggestions, want to brag on their own girth, and make fun of your question. Hmm maybe I am too serious, and didnt regonize a humorous post as intended. You might do better using oral, and toys. In either case good luck, and if I am too serious, then I apologize to all for my lack of humor.

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 98 (view)

Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks?? Posted: 12/21/2006 6:32:23 AM
I would give up the personals if I found the one I was in love with that appeared to love me in return. I would not just because we met, had a few drinks, and had dinner or a movie. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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why do men say things they don't mean? Posted: 11/5/2006 7:45:19 AM
Why didnt you just say why dont people say what they mean. Do you really think that men lie more than women? Actually I think women even if well intentioned lie more than men. They dont want confrontation, and are more into peoples feelings so they tell little white lies to avoid hurting the feelings that men read as ok a speed bump. I bet you have told a few. At least in the beginning of a relationship. Really no excuse if one if involved and wants trust to develop. I used to work in law enforcement. You would be surprised not only to both men, and women lie, women commit crimes too. I think it was Eve that talked Adam into the first sin. Surprise, surprise, surprise. LOL, Lou

trkdrvr330c

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Thanks POF Posted: 11/4/2006 3:57:16 PM
Good luck, analytically maybe it doesnt make sense, but hey the heart usually will out rule the brain, and in the end it may be awsome for you. I have met many girls that were nice, and smart etc, but no chemistry. So if you feel great, and are charmed you allready made the leap so give it everything and have no regrets. Hope it works for you both. I believe it will you have alot of enthusiasm and care for him obviously. Refreshing to see POF has worked for you. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 53 (view)

Guys...How do we girls know if a guy is into us?!! Posted: 11/4/2006 3:48:05 PM
You will know if he takes you places other than his house, or your house. Does he ever take you around family or friends. Take you places that are thought out, such as a Nascar race, or a cruise? Is he a friend, or just a lover. Around when convenient, or takes time to be with you even when not easy to do so. How about hollidays? Christmas, your birthday etc? I think you all ready know this, and probably have a guy that isnt into you, but are in denial. Just a guess. Good luck. Lou

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 71 (view)

THIS is why i DONT date Posted: 11/4/2006 3:38:38 PM
Hmm you had me sympathetic untill the part about ignorant redneck. Do you know where the term redneck came from? Lack of class is not limited to people that work in the sun instead of an office building. Most rednecks are family orientated, and believe in God, and country. Anyway he did show low class, besides who puts a lid on the cat box. How does a cat use it that way? Hmm maybe you should ask yourself why you are attracted to this type who is so obviously not the norm, instead of saying this is why you dont date. On top of that you endangered your friend, and her child by bringing someone you knew nothing about (nothing favorable anyway) into your home. Instead of tipping a few before showing up maybe he had done some drugs. Angel dust or someting that could have made him very unstable. Hmm if I were to stereotype like you did rednecks I would hear what you said about this guy, hear what you say about yourself, and think people from your area were losers. However I will say most people I have met from your area are educated, and friendly, so thats not it.

trkdrvr330c

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drunken fool--shoud I see him again? Posted: 10/15/2006 8:56:20 PM
Hey I read your profile, you are a history teacher. Isnt there a saying that if we dont learn from history, history is bound to repeat itself? Scary to think someone with your education doesnt know the answer to your question you posted. I do wish you well, you are attractive, and well traveled, and educated. I would think you could find someone you could be proud to be seen with in public, and take home to your parents.

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 33 (view)

drunken fool--shoud I see him again? Posted: 10/15/2006 8:48:18 PM
You all ready know the answer. NO, hell no. The guy says he gets like that when he drinks. Than you know, and he knows he shouldnt drink. He didnt respect you when drinking. Obviously you are one of the ones that looks at appearance, and not the inside. The guy obviously has issues. He gets in fights that he initiated, not self defense. I am sure you like the macho type, but the best fighters dont start fights. Do you think Chuck Norris starts fights, outside of the ring? Most the best fighters go out of their way to avoid a fight, as they allready know what the outcome will be, they know they will win. Your friend is still trying to prove himself. He eventually will end up in jail, or worse. You shouldnt ask should you see him again, but what is it (low self esteem, etc) that would make you even want to see him again. One think I have found about women that seems consistent is they always think they can change a guy. You wont change him, so maybe you should change yourself, your expectations, what you deserve. I do applaud you for walking out, now think analytically, and not emotionally, and leave the jerk behind you.

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 282 (view)

Why do men have affairs? Posted: 10/15/2006 8:39:09 PM
So what do you think should be done with women who have affairs. My dad served in WWII, and in his war stories he used to tell me how loose the women in England were. Hmm dont you have a Princess that was involved in the breakup of Prince Charles, and Princess Diana. Hmm yes we should all admire her. What do you suppose should be done with her? I love women who think they have the market on integrity. I have not forgotten that Prince Charles had an affair. The point is there are people of integrity of both sexes, and people who are low life scum of both sexes. I guess we should put a cherry bomb in a girls privates and light it off. Such violence from you when your country claims to be against the death penalty, and your cops dont carry guns. Hmm I did read where England, and Scotland are the leading country of violence. They use knives instead of guns. Maybe that is why you suggested cutting it off. For the record my ex was the one who cheated, not me. Hmm I can see why someone would cheat on you with writings like you posted.

trkdrvr330c

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Msg: 280 (view)

Why do men have affairs? Posted: 10/15/2006 8:31:37 PM
So Alison is that how you do your research, go into it with a preconceived notion. There are many men with integrity. Maybe the ones you hang out with have affairs, and while we are discussing it why do women sell their bodies? Why do women have affairs? Mine ex did. Dont even start to believe that one sex has an advantage over the other when it comes to integrity, or honesty, etc. Hmmm I could come up with the same nonsense saying why do women kill their children. Remember the women in Houston that drowned her children, or the women in SC that pushed her car into the lake with her kids in the car seat, or just this weekend the women who got mad at her boyfriend so grabbed her 4 yr old by the ankles and swung him around till she hit her boyfriend, and cracked the kids skull. Now I dont believe all women are bad mothers but taken out of context one can try, and make that point. good luck with your research, just try and be objective, and not try and make the research say what you want it to say. If all the guys you know cheat maybe you should look at yourself, and ask yourself why is it you are surronded by this type. Bars, alchohol, drugs, I dont know, thats for you to ponder.

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Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 893 (view)

Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 8/19/2006 9:44:23 AM
I have an usually I regrett it big time, try to meet someplace like a Waffle House where can have a quick cup of coffee. Having said that one of the most beautiful girs I have ever dated was a blind date. Hmm maybe it was because she hadnt seen me LOL, Besides what happened to the guys are so vain, and girls look for whats inside bit that we always hear? LOL, Lou

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Msg: 11 (view)

Your such a wonderfull person but I'm breaking up with you Posted: 8/6/2006 12:29:40 PM
Must be the cold, in Canada froze his brain. You are beautiful, if you are articulate, and personable just be patient. Heck be nice to him, just move on, maybe he will see the error of his ways.

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Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

mind games, why do guys play them Posted: 8/5/2006 3:02:03 AM
Well maybe you should reviese your subject title to mind games, why do people play them. I assure you women can hold their own. Lie, use pictures that are 20 yrs old, the one that ticks me off the most is the ones who think we are stupid, and give excuses that are so easily seen through. It shouts I think you are a retard. I am not saying guys dont do what you claim, but neither sex as a claim to bing kind, or nice, or being ugly. Good luck on your search, if you didnt live so far away I would have showed you some guys could be nice. LOL, Lou

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Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 112 (view)

Anyone have any good advice for dating SEPARATED people? Y or N? Posted: 8/3/2006 7:56:20 PM
My suggestions would be to avoid them like the plague. Depending on how long they were married, oh excuse me they are still married. So anyway as I was saying depending on longevity, and how intricate the finances, and whether there are any children involved, it could take 4-5 yrs to get their act together. Now if someone has only been married for say 6 month, and has no kids, and their finances are gonna be left intact, that might be a different story. Just my opinion, but I have read alot of research that has helped me come to this opinion. I wish you well, seems like with your profile, and pics you should be able to find quality match that isnt married. Seperated is married. It is a word to make it sound more acceptable.

TRKDRVR330C

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

why do I (+ most women) love assholes?? Posted: 7/13/2006 7:49:34 AM
Well generally I would say women like *holes, cause when the species survival was determined by size, strength, and aggressiveness, the women were attracted to the dominant mail. Too often today that is still the case, the life of the party being the one that gets out in public more, uses drugs, and as such is on a high, and funny, and big, and often relies on big, not intellect when something challenges them. This often means a guy that wont stay, or come home, hits if you dare argue with them, and is often in trouble with the law, or has trouble holding a job. However I must say in your case you stated nothing to make me think the guy is an hole, you described a person in yourself that is suffering from low self esteem, and unable to move on. He has moved on, and you wont accept it. I think your question is why are you tourturing yourself, if you got him back would he be worth it. He doesnt love you, wouldnt you be better off being available in case someone comes along capable of loving you? I have found it to be the case you have to love yourself, before someone else can love you. As is I think you will find alot of perceived **holes, that maybe really nice guys, but not attracted to you as long as you are needy. Counseling may be in order. Like you said , your own friends are losing respect for you, and you have lost respect for yourself. I wish you well.

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Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Bush would be out of office had it not been for 9-11 Posted: 7/1/2006 6:56:33 AM
Oh by the way do away with the electorial college. Do you really trust the likes of voters who keep putting Ted Kennedy in office. A murderer who would be in jail if not for the power of his family, a drunk, a fat slob, loud mouth. I liked John, and Robert, but Ted Kennedy would be a disgrace as a blue collar worker. We laugh a Archie Bunker, and vote in Ted Kennedy. Make a case for that pig.

TRKDRVR330C

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

Bush would be out of office had it not been for 9-11 Posted: 7/1/2006 6:52:50 AM
What difference would it make? Do you believe Kerry would be better? If the Democrats would find middle ground like they did with Clinton, Bush wouldnt have gotten relected. Most Republicans such as myself voted against Kerry not for Bush. Besides they all dance to the tune of those with money. I am afraid it is already too late for this country. Our jobs are going south, and if you recall with NAFTA all the presidents stood hand, in hand and said how it would benifit both countries. What jobs we havent lost to Mexico, they come up here, and take. We are losing all our factory jobs. Some deservedly so. Example Delphi going bankrupt, but union wont take a pay cut. Our congress, and senate spend way more than comes in, social security isnt there, we keep building on our farmland, which means eventually not enough food, and global warming as blacktop doesnt absorb the heat. Our next generation has nothing to look forward to, and it is all above the head of Bush who is a republican version of Jimmy Carter. A good man who hasnt a clue. If Republicans, and Democrats would do what was good for the country, and not themselves, or their party we would be better off. Give me a John Kennedy, or a Ronald Regan anyday. The Republicans are vulnerable due to their own stupidity, but if the Democrats try, and run another Kerry, or Hillary they will lose again, and deservidly so. Need a moderate like Liberman. I personally would like to see them all voted out, if the politicians dont scare you, the stupidity of people who will keep relecting someone like Ted Kennedy over, and over should tell you what shape the country is in. Ted Kennedy sitting on a panel deciding if a Supreme Court Judge is qualified moraly to serve. Does anyone remember Chappaquta. Hmm Vice President Chaney didnt notify the press soon enough after shooting a friend says Kennedy. Hmm how long before Kennedy drove off in the lake before he went home showered, and sobered up till he notified police. Kennedy is a large part why we have Bush, the democrats need to retire him, or at least shut him up, and lean towards the middle. Hardcore Democrats will vote Democrat anyway, it is the middle you need to cross over, and I will never vote for Kerry, or Kennedy, or their likes. I didnt say I wouldnt vote for a Democrat, but not the likes of communists like them. By the way it doesnt take a village to raise a child. Your parents, and mine did fine without a socialist governments assistance. Wish could be more positive.

TRKDRVR330C

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

Why do all men prefer brunettes? Posted: 6/19/2006 5:24:51 AM
I think it has more to do with numerically there are more brunettes, so when you throw in personality, and intellect, and kindness, compatability, it is more likely that we would find a match. Also maybe they are more secure, blondes, and redheads to me are truly more attractive, but they know it, and tend to look past the average guy always trying to get the guy with it all. Their the competition gets tough, and looks alone won't get it, actually all the girls at that point are probably good looking. Along with blondes, and red hair I prefer green eyes, or blue. So instead of worrying about hair color, read some good books, about politics, and religion, read the paper for current events, so you cant hold an interesting conversation, relax laugh, and have a good time. When the time is right you will find someone. Looking at your picture I can assure you, it isnt your looks. It is either something in your selection process, or something other than looks. I personaly like your looks. Lou

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Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 189 (view)

Men Are Jerks! Posted: 6/3/2006 5:08:27 PM
There is an old saying about a couple that moved to a new town. They asked what the neighbors were like, and a guy asked back what were they like where you came from. They replied they were jerks, and the guy replied thats how they are here too. Another couple moving in asked the same guy what are the neighbors like, he asked what were they like where you came from.They replied they were the best, the guy said you will find your new neighbors the same. The point is me are not jerks, no more than women are. There are people who are jerks, and you are either attracted to the bad boys, or your self esteem is very low, and you gravitate towards jerks feeling they are all you deserve. You wont find the answer anywhere but within. You may need counseling, especially if you intend to go into law enforcement. I wish you well, hmm by the way your dad is a man, is he a jerk too. Do you go to church? Is your preacher a jerk? The majority of the people in law enforcement are men, with the way you feel why would you pick that area to work. Maybe you should try, and get a job like nursing dominated by women. A women with phycological problems carrying a gun, sounds like a recipe for disaster. I wish you well, and God Bless. Ps I worked in law enforcement, so would be surrounded by people like me.

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Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO STAY HIS WIFE BUT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM TO COME BACK FOR SEX Posted: 5/8/2006 1:52:08 PM
Reading the responses it has all been said, so I just want to reinforce it. Why should he take on responseabilty when you are willing to love him unconditionally. Take a hard stance, he will either come home to stay, or you will know where you stand, and can move on. As it is now you arent getting what you want from him, and are not available to get what you want from anyone else. You are a nurse, you are educated. You know the answers to this. Everything we want isnt always what is best for us. Move on, there are guys out there who might appreciate you if you would dump him, or like I said he may come home to stay if he respected you. Of course it starts with you respecting yourself. That is the bigger question, why is it you dont have any respect for yourself? Lou

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Msg: 13 (view)

3 months Married and now getting a divorce Posted: 4/22/2006 4:18:35 PM
Hi, you didnt state how long you have known the man of your dreams prior to marrying him. The fact that you have never had a fight, indicates lack of passion. Usually when there is a divorce there are hurt feeling, that lead to fights. Also I would say if you have been having sex everyday for 3 months he needs a breather, but no man is gonna say you are more than I can handle. Give him his space, you are gonna lose him anyway, but if you give him his space he may come back. He either didnt love you (sex is not love), or he needs some serious help in the communication department, in which case you will tire of him eventually. Sorry not what you wanted to hear. There is a third possibility, and that is he has someone else. It would explain the going from sex everyday to nothing in a blink of an eye, and why he is uncomfortable talking to you about what happened. One as much sex as you had with him, he couldnt handle two of you, so something had to give, throw in you love him, and didnt deny him how can he tell you he moved on? He is probably embarrased and doesnt want to admit that he is seeing someone else

TRKDRVR330C

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 213 (view)

I wish men would understand this... Posted: 4/16/2006 8:10:00 PM
Maybe the internet dating scene isnt for you. Just dont give any personal information untill such time as you have chatted, and received some infor you can verify. Get a name, and job, phone number. Call the number using a calling card and verify it is real. Meet in a public place, with a friend. You dont understand men, anymore than they understand you. Only women always feel it is men that should understand them Example men disgusting things we are always forget to put the toilet seat back down. It is no harder for you to put it down, be glad we lifted it up, and didnt pee all over it. A good book is Men are from Mars women are from Venus, by John Gray. Hey you should like me I didnt fall all over myself sweet talking you, and saying things you want to hear. Oh yeah I used to be a cop, so have some experience with rape victoms. Like I said you may be better off meeting someone in church, or work, etc, but than again the the serial killer in Wichita was a elder in his church, and a compliance officer with no record. So maybe you need to trust in God to lead you, or learn the martial arts. Their are no guarantees though, because one of the girls that the mass murder Ted Bundy killed was a black belt. He had a fake cast on his arm, and she carried his books to his car for him, and he struck her, or so I read in a book about him. The fact is we live in a dangerous world. Hmm have you checked out the womens prisons lately? We have to worry about you getting our credit cards if we turn our back, or checkbooks. I have watched women beat guys up, they just dont report it. Macho thing. Good luck, really dont have any answers for you cause they dont exist.

TRKDRVR330C

Joined: 2/18/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Does he want me or not?? Posted: 3/27/2006 1:11:24 PM
Sorry to break this to you, but he doesnt want you. He wanted sex. I see it like this many guys put gilrs in one of 3 categories. One the girls they will have sex with, but dont want anyone to know about, 2 the girls they will have sex with and dont mind anyone knowing, and 3 the girls they respect, and consider keepers. You might have been a 3 up till you lost his respect by giving in to him without a friendship, and some history developing first. You know have fallen into either a 1, or a 2. A good clue was when he met you at your place, instead of taking you out to dinner, or movie, or indicated he wanted to spend time with you. Sorry for the bad news. Dont lose sleep over this guy, you are a trophy, and will only hurt yourself by wasting energy on him. Next time find out a little bit about the guy first. Or if you like sex, accept it as it is, and move on. Sorry I know its not what you wanted to hear. Lou

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