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untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Would You Date a Women with 6 children? Posted: 11/24/2009 4:19:47 PM
My grandmother had 12 children...two died at birth. She maintained her firgure, her well being and her family...as well as keeping her husband happy for 66 years. So ...what is the problem with society these days?? Everyone makes 'excuses' for everything from how the sun shines to how the bed covers are pulled over another. IF...everything was just so simmpleee we would have no complaints. ANd life truly is simple, we complicate it!!!! I wish each enough....

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Dating a Single Mother - Advice Posted: 11/24/2009 3:49:04 PM
{{{{I'm at transitory stage in my life, finding my feet in one of the toughest industries and getting my head together. In contrast she's settled in a comfortable job, living in the suburbs with her son (who is her life, quite rightly!). I don't normally think too far ahead and just enjoy a woman's company but something tells me I need to think about this one a little more seriously before I meet up with her. What I'm wondering about is the differences between dating the average twenty-something foot loose and fancy free woman and a dating woman who has such a massive commitment in her life.}}} Well....first off, you stated the difference between 'you' and 'her'... You are finding yourself...she is already established...with a child. You do need to continue to discover yourself...just not at the expense of having a child envolved. Wait, 3 to 6 months before making an attempt at meeting her child...it may be hard but make this resolution before you decide if you wish to be committed to a single mother. You time and hers will be about changed plans, rain checks, and virus of the stomach, fever etc... IF...you are truly ready to accept her as she is with a child, you won't mind the random changed plans.... Do not RUSH into a relationship or ready made family until you are ready..women heal,void out an move forward, children find excuses and take years to overcome the leaving and the pain it enflicts within them. Be smart in regards to hearts, not yours or hers but the children involved...

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 494 (view)

I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 11/20/2009 7:13:03 PM
Does anyone ever truly need anyone? Has the difference between 'needing' and 'wanting' been in a state of confusion?...Everyone makes a choice in needing and wanting and most confuse the two. So, truly, how much do you need or want someone?> and for how long? and for what reasons? and what motives in your own mind perceive this need or want? etc... etc... Is any of this a true reality? Can anyone live without a 'need' or 'want' of another and just be happy living life????

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Whats it like being single over 30? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:19:36 PM
Not from a male perspective...but, it is wonderful!!!! I will be 40 next year and I don't have a problem with being single. There is the difference between being 'lonely' and being 'alone'...many confuse the two and have a hard time being in either catagory. I am happy with who an where I am. I am most times alone (an prefer it this way) to being 'lonely' and "needing" another to make me happy. I can have all this by myself, as anyone can yet, companionship with another to share it with is enjoyable but not a necesity, just a want. It isn't that hard to figure out just many seem too 'want' another to experience what ever...whether it be happy, sad, drama, intellect etc.... I wish you enough. spirit.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/10/2009 8:05:23 PM
Ya...it is also called 'VASECTOMY'....which is also amazing and no more unwanted child support!!!! Can you believe and acheive that"??? solves all your problems of no child too support, no ex mama drama and no unwanted munchkins to take your money away...be responsible...not just one sided in expecting the female to do so...Hello!!

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/10/2009 4:34:09 PM
Total honesty?...today's men aren't worth being monogamous too, neither. When I look at you...I don't see your father, grandfather nor great grandfather... I see, a man whom thinks woman aren't worth anything other than using for his s**ual needs and not providing anything in return. You don't carry the dignified character traits of your ancestors. Women can look at you and see...long hair, arms covered in tats, rotten teeth, attempting to pick up women in any club, profile pictures of your man hood and manly possessions (cars, ATV's, boats, etc)---all to impress and pick up women. We can also see you getting hammered at the bar, in your back yard, on the couch or where ever else you chose to drink away your lack of ambitions. No...you are not our male ancestors by a long short either...you never can be, it isn't in your character to be so. You may die to protect your grandmother but don't worry about us...we also protect in the military...for everyone...you included. Look at your face in the mirror... I wish you enough. spirit

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 95 (view)

Dating someone who`s a Cigarette Smoker and your not. Posted: 11/3/2009 6:54:42 PM
You 'crossed the path' into another phase of your relationship...odd...after the sex? She lit up a cig??? or something else in crossing that path? just curious... It is a 'deal breaker' for you ...why continue to see someone who lied to you? I smoke and state I do on my profile, yet I don't smoke in my house, my vehicle, restuarants or around people who don't smoke or in general, out in public. Does that make me a closet smoker? or a considerate smoker? I enjoy my habit but seldom subject non smokers to my bad habit. I have children, I step outside to enjoy that which I like, many may not...there milage may be different. Yes, smoking causes cancer, those of us who do smoke are aware of this but for those who wish to stand on the soapbox...do you also know, there are ingredients in your common toothpaste that cause cancer as well? The same ingredients used to clean motor oil from a cement floor are an ingredient included in the formula with what you brush your teeth with? Cancer comes in many forms...just beware when you 'think' you are extremely healthy...you find out later, you have cancer ...not from second hand smoke but from the sun or god forbid...the home 'canned' foods your mother put up while living in the depression era or something else.... Your gonna 'die' eventually and you can not predict what or when it happens but you do have the choice to avoid those of us who smoke. Happy fishing

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Successful Coffee Dates? Posted: 11/3/2009 5:07:26 PM
Meeting for coffee is a quick way to know if you wish to spend more time with that person. 'If' you click...casually suggest going to play minigolf, bowling, an amusement park, something fun etc..(dutch- of course) ...If you don't click, simply state ' it was nice meeting you, I need to go, happy fishing'. It truly is very simple to do. I wish you luck.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Is he stringing me along or is this goodbye? Or am I the ONE. Posted: 10/23/2009 6:53:13 PM
Gosh....I am going to apologize for being so blunt right now but.... He started dating other women without telling you. # 1. He seeks greener pastures and wants you to stay on the side he feels most comfortable with while he is out looking for better than you. He has a funny feeling you will be with him...while he explores for something better for him, all the while knowing you will be there for him to come too when they reject him. He can not sleep anymore, his heart is not at peace. HELLO-HE is being deceitful and wishes for you to allow it. If he knows 'exactly' what he wants, why is he dating other women? He makes it sound like you are his ying to yang yet his actions show differently. How is this? and why would you allow him to disrespect you in such a manner? Wonderful, he states you are always in his thoughts...is this also while he is attempting to date other females? IF he is so confused with his life...he would not seek out other females, but the conselor that will help him figure out his problems...and he would turn to YOU....the one he states gives him 'piece of mind' not a piece of ass when he wonders to greener pastures. He needs to forgive himself before you can. AND I hope you move forward from this experience. learn something. live something and enjoy your life without the 'written word' of let me keep you as back up when all else fails me type mentality. I do wish you enough to see what he is playing you for... spirit.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Gold-digger is just a term men invented to Posted: 10/23/2009 4:51:51 PM
To jcarr23: {A gold digger is a women who exclusively dates rich guys and looks to those guys to provide her with a lifestyle she would otherwise not be able to afford. } Yes, I have to agree with you on this. She is providing what that man wants/needs/and willingly pays for. He wants to pay for her upkeep into a certain image {{she is a 10 on the sexy meter}}, and some form of sexual control ... ironically, there are numerous wealthy older men seeking this type of female. They are usually around 50-ish or so and the females are half that age.... So what label does that give the man seeking this?

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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I gave my girl an orgasm..... through her nipple? Posted: 10/23/2009 4:03:12 PM
If only we could 'clone' windloverr' 1000's time and more, there would be so many sexually satisfied women in the world. His reply is so veryyy true!!!!!

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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How do girls feel when the guy can't finish? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:52:34 PM
There is a functional difference between a 1 minute man and a 45 minute man...his hardness while sharing those minutes. If he only stays hard 1 minute, then performs for 44 minutes-flacid or limp...it may be a wasted effort on both parties sharing. Who wants a marshmellow in their fire when there are so many roasted weiners that remain at least 92% within their compacity of function?

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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a young beautiful wife with a much older husband Posted: 10/21/2009 3:46:35 PM
{No, she was born and raised here but she seems not very independent type of girl needing someone who could take care of her.} She married him for financial security, she isn't sexually attracted to him. If she is thinking about cheating...bets are on, she will. (please keep us updated, I don't like to invest and lose money) It sounds like she doesn't 'love him dearly' but loves the sense of security he provides for her as well as her lack of communication in all aspects of the marriage. She should be telling the husband her needs of sexual fulfillment not thinking of cheating with another, it is bound to end with him being hurt and never trusting other women...geesh, and us other women will be blamed for her irrational behaviors.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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My gut Posted: 10/21/2009 3:27:03 PM
Did you catch her at home with this other guy during the time she was suppose to be leaving for her girlfriends house or was it a few hours later that you caught them? Did she act odd when you caught them? and what was their reaction when you did?

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Men's thinking about sex, money and relationships??? Posted: 10/14/2009 7:28:33 PM
{{{{{If it were not for the sex... do you honestly believe ANY man would put up with women's BS? Because that's the only thing we can't get anywhere else.}}}}} If you don't meet his visual needs, why should he meet your emotional needs? Once YOU realize and understand that HIS needs also matter, THEN you can build this "intimate relationship". Until then, you are not good for a "relationship", just for sex. Oh but men do have other options for sex without the BS from women: The hand. The blowup doll. The chicken. The pen$s pump. goats and sheep. Most listed above don't give you BS, some even don't speak and sound differently.. the list above is more suitable isn't it? Your options are open. Chose a few to keep your visual needs satisfied. I am certain a few on the list have no emotional needs. You don't need to put up with BS from us women you can get sex from anywhere you find visually appealing.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Virginity for Sale Posted: 10/14/2009 6:31:44 PM
Isn't it astonishing what some men or women will pay for? I think it sounds more like indentured sexual servitude for a period of time, with training in other areas of sexual service are taught and the word 'no' is omitted from the vocabulary of the person auctioning themself to another. I would not do it, but to each their own...

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal Posted: 10/14/2009 3:10:49 PM
{{In a current thread, many women have been jumping all over a man who had wined and dined a woman for awhile, because he was complaining that she didn't give him sex. Many of the women's replies told the man that if he expected sexual favors in return for dining and entertaining this woman, that he should get a Prostitute.}} He had 3 or 4 dates with her, it was not considered 'awhile'...He also stated she told him 'she doesn't rush into sex with a new guy' ===He is a new guy that has taken her on 3 to 4 dates and expressed 'if he was getting sex he wouldn't mind paying for the dates all the time'. He got bashed by these ladies and some men on the forums for being expressing his 'p* r* i* c* k mode' character. {{In this day and age, most men anticipate having sexual relations with a woman that they have been wining and dining, within a month or 2. They anticipate it, and most women probably do as well. SEX is part of a healthy relationship.}} You are correct, it is anticipation...but to expect it on the 3rd or 4th date does state the man thinks he is entitled to sex in exchange for dinner dates. Stop generalizing women, I would not be upset...I would turn him into the platonic friend and seek sexual compatibility elsewhere.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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How to end Sexual starvation after leaving a long relationship Posted: 10/12/2009 7:13:22 PM
Ya, that does relate...makes more sense than anyone wishes to face...sometimes, it has nothing to do with fear of adventure but fear of allowing one's self to become vulnerable to another. time truly does equal to time of understanding each other.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Should I continue seeing him? Posted: 10/12/2009 6:57:58 PM
Why would you allow yourself to become just a wet match with no spark to him? He doesn't ignite you..only suppresses you..and will do so with any woman that will listen to him...(laughs) he has no 'baggage' only women do, right? snirkles... Get away from him, he is dragging you down to somewhere he is comfortable complaining about and never fixing. You know better....move forward. Contact him two years from now and see what his complaints are towards his ex and his life then you will know for sure...move towards flames not smoke. i wish you enough. spirit.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Is honesty really the best policy? Posted: 10/9/2009 7:33:02 PM
Really? hummm...I disagree with your 'theory'. You must be attracted to the wrong types, those that are not within your range of dating or those not within your compatibility of living....Honesty is always the best policy.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Having the last say..... Posted: 10/9/2009 7:18:26 PM
^^^^^^^^ To You. Stop being so harsh, there is a difference in having closure and having the last word. If you would stop attempting to be such a concrete status being, you would understand many people need closure, maybe you don't. "you just shut the feck up and move on" never resolving anything and carrying that into your next relationship with another is a sure fired way of living in a glass house while tossing stones at your own windows.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Having the last say..... Posted: 10/9/2009 7:03:36 PM
I agree with you in needing to have closure, while I don't need to have the last say in anything, I believe in meeting to discuss, calling or sending an email expressing this in a cordial format is always best. As a matter of fact, I am in the process of doing this now...as sad as it is, but, at the moment (we are angry with each other and won't be meeting) he nor i are speaking on the telephone and there will be no meeting to share feelings to end it. So...I will send my well wishes for his happiness in an email. It is an end of closure for myself whether he reads the email or not...that is his choice. I disagree with your friends, everyone needs to share the why's and how's of why it didn't progress into something wonderful...there is no accusations simply the facts of why it isn't meant to be. Everyone deserves the truth....

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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What Are the Fundamental Tools of Building Emotional and Mental Intimacy? Posted: 10/7/2009 5:38:54 PM
The basic existance of emotional/mental intimacy begins with the inner strength of allowing and exposing one's self to vulnerability. People are meant to share life together but, most of us lack the ability to openly communicate this need to each other without hurting the other's feelings. etc.... It seems to be a 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' cliche. The face in the mirror spends more time with one's self, than anyone else.. {{Allowing myself to be vulnerable isn't such a horrible event..sometimes, it becomes the most memorable event in our current life to reflect upon.}} I wish you enough,

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****) Posted: 10/2/2009 7:29:53 PM
find it hard to figure out why most women in the world only like "Fit guys" {....it is for the same reasons most men in the world only like "Fit women"}. There is a whole following for plus size women so why not men ? {There is a following for plus size men too...just google it}. If you think about it all the fit guys will have a gut by the time they are 40 so why not date a guy with one now and get use to it ? {{Turn this around in the thinking of most women will have that flabby belly by the time they are '40'...so why not date one now and 'get use to it'?}} This way when you look back on your wedding photos you wont wonder "what happened to the guy that i married?" {{Geesh...what did happen?}} This is just some thoughts I have on a rain day downtown I would like to hear what you have to say :

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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women with a lot of male friends Posted: 10/2/2009 7:13:58 PM
You are correct!!! But, with you being correct...are you stating that 'men' would poke anything wet , warm an available with that statement? ....ohhh laughing myself to tearsss here!!!! spirit

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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She is barely legal, He is 48 Posted: 10/1/2009 3:57:57 PM
Yes, it is purely sexual. He usually has wealth and can pay for the things she wants...it is a trade off of 'sexual arm candy' for him and 'expensive gifts' for her. He pays for her and she pays her dues to him in the form of sex. I know several men in their 50's who have women in their 20's. It seems to be very common these days. These type of men do not want to 'reproduce', most already have children her age...when she becomes overweight, stretch marks etc.. while pregnant he has lost the interest in what he was attracted too...the young flawless body. It isn't rocket science.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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i dont get this Posted: 9/25/2009 7:01:46 PM
43 years old going to molest a 15 year old? AND you SENT HIM money to come HOME on ? What fresh new hell is this? He went off to take advantage of a child, left you...your kids. and asks for money to come HOME on? What type of person are you? You sent him money...he didn't arrive. Hopefully, the law put him away...and hopefully the law will place your children in a safe environment and you will seek help in understanding grown men are not to touch children...I truly feel for your children...with parents like him and you...geeeshh..

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Cyber cheating Posted: 9/25/2009 6:30:35 PM
Unbelievable!!!! So you have gave up who you are or was as a functioning person too become a private investigator? Two different subjects...one of which you feel the 'need' to believe, the other you KNOW you don't believe. Do you really think he is telling you the truth? Do you really think it is an obession with him? When you allow yourself to be so simplistic in your normal thinking patterns due too 'being in love, lust or infatuation'...you over look what is actually happening to and around you. Most of us seem to have that blinded sided outlook for a 'short' time period. You are 'NOW' depressed, can't function normally....AND this 'man' is your exact DREAM MAN in what ways? IS he keeping you from making 'much progress' with or without Him? Are you happy always having to check up on his 'stories'? So, the age old wisdom of 'actions speak louder than words '...is in play? You see the redundant action and hear the same ole words...What do you truly see/think about it? Is he showing you...that he doesnt want to hurt you, that he is unhappy with his bad choices? Is he making excuses that he KNOWS you will accept??? You are accepting this...and I wonder, Why would you? Has he given up the internet? His cell phone of texting other women? Girl....give yourself some time to IGNORE him and you will see...it isn't the life you wish to live. I do hope you see your future, spirit.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 66 (view)

Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's? Posted: 9/12/2009 4:30:32 PM
Hmmm...I was married in my early 20's and divorced by 29 years of age. I truly didn't have time to focus on dating (raising two small children, working and attending college) didn't leave any open slot in my time schedule for 'dating'. smiles. Now that my children are older, I have my ducks all in a row (just saying)....being 39 fixing to walk into the life of being '40 years old' ....I guess I could say...it is much harder too just slip into any relationship with another man. I am not bitter about my divorce, I don't hate men, I don't 'dog' them...I simply accept them for who they have become. I hope I am not judged by their past experiences neither. We all are who we are today by what we have grown up with learning/disliking/accepting/ and appreciating. so ya...dating now is much harder than before...I have noted that many 'want' that deep connection of a 'committed' relationship yet fail too actually involve some input in maintaining it (guess this just goes without saying). The internet offers many options of (being with another)..the first few months, it gets to the point where both involved have to do some "work" to maintain it and it becomes stale...many just move on to enjoy the initial enjoyments of the first few months. so sad, but just a fact. I wish you happiness in finding yours... spirit

untamedspirit009

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Grey Hair: Distinguished, or EX-tinguished? Posted: 9/12/2009 4:15:13 PM
Grey/silver... hair is a distinguished trait that I find very sexy on men. Many women as well, look very distinguished and sexy with grey/silver hair. I find it very attractive and sexy in a potential partner. As for my own hair having silver highlights... I have lived and earned them (smiles impishly). I prefer the natural look to enhancing it with dyes. So...will I change mine? No. I like it. I don't have one certain hair color..the colors I am blessed with are a shade of auburn-strawberry, brown-tawny-cotton top blonde and silver...it distinguishes me from others in that it is natural and I will keep it that way. Many people do fret over their hair color, it defines who they are in today's society, how they will be viewed by others and what others may think of them. You being in the film business...most likely understands this very well. Appearance is first and foremost ...personality/character/acting coming in second. by the way, you carry your colors of hair very well.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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How come single mothers don't want single fathers Posted: 9/8/2009 7:24:28 PM
I don't think it is the 'we don't want anymore factor', I would enjoy more children in my home. I believe we ponder over how all the children will get along...the merging factor of children all being happy in one home, if it comes to that. The discipline discussed between parents before that ever happens and how each deals with the others children in regards to treating them as 'our own'. factor. The brady bunch was wonderful to watch and learn from but, Alice the maid kept the family intact, sad as it is to omit but how many homes have someone like 'Alice' to fill in while the parents are both working to ensure their family has the necessities? A merging of families is complicated unless everything is discussed in detail...No one wants to reside in a drama induced house hold, there may be some drama but the parents need to be 'together' in the workings of how the household will run..etc., the boundries, the discipline, the family outings...it sounds complicated but it doesn't have to be with open communication between the parents from the very beginning. And guess what...there can even be time for just the parents to enjoy each other... Everything in life is workable, it just depends on how hard you want to work towards happiness within a family household. Good luck, spirit

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Hitachi Magic Wand Posted: 9/3/2009 8:20:25 PM
The magic wand is wonderful (you can also purchase a 'mybuddy' cushion that holds it for hands free enjoyment. But I must confess, being restrained on the Sybian is intensely pleasurable and makes the magic wand pale in comparison.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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The real problem with relationships today. Posted: 9/3/2009 7:49:31 PM
What is the root cause of the majority of relationship failures today? 1. Open, honest communications 2. Lack of being responsible for one's own actions.(example: the blame game)

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Why do women try to make men feel quilty? Posted: 9/3/2009 5:09:06 PM
If a woman feels hurt through something said or done by a man, why does she try to make the man feel guilty for it? Does she/he actually 'try' to make him/her feel guily or does she/he state facts and she/he feels guilt by association? If your feelings are the result of external circumstances, or what people say about you, how can you direct your life in a constructive way? A man might be totally clueless that's he's done anything wrong, yet he's given the third degree as though he's committed the unpardonable sin, is that fair? You ignore the gossip, and live your life as you see fit...not sure I understand the 'fair' question...humans are never clueless, they may play it off that way but they are not clueless. Many people accept or deny the feelings within them...that is human nature. deny or accept? which is easier to do? IF everyone took responibility for their own actions our world of living would be more acceptable wouldn't it?

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Unsure what he wants... Posted: 9/3/2009 4:42:26 PM
What are you to think?...well, for starters....He moved in with you, he was using you until he decided he is best being alone. Thank yourself for helping him discover this. Is there still a chance?...I would not think so but, that is for you to decide. Should I move on and forget about it?...Yess. He did move out of your house. He has used you and now sees there is nothing more to use to his benefit, (am sorry for being so blunt) but facts are facts. You should smile in happiness for the good and smile more for the greater of his self accomplishments of being on his own. You fulfilled your goal of helping him now savor the good and let him go. You deserve better.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 9/3/2009 4:30:48 PM
Yes, we do although we may be a bit more 'creative' in our thoughts than what you give us credit for. I do think about it daily, it is a healthy form of savoring this labyrinth of live we reside in. I do not 'act' upon it daily as some males may try to do but i do 'think' about it daily.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 8/31/2009 8:05:07 PM
You know you're getting old when... Your teenage daughter is practicing styling your hair in the latest fashion and she starts counting the silver ones and you remind her of what year it grew in while she was growing up... Your teenager is going through the photo album and sees a photo of you in parachute pants, a mid drift shirt and fluffy, winged hair..and she asks 'what are you wearing? and states 'you look like a deformed alien from another planet mom, Did you actually have dates back then?'. Your teenager sees your prom picture and starts laughing hysterically at the dress you were so proud of wearing that night.... Your teenager (while snooping in your hope chest) finds several old 8-tracks of classic rock bands and asks 'what is this thing and how does it work?' Trying to explain that one is still a mystery to her. Your teenager (views a photo of you by a car ) an asks "what type of a car is an Iroc-2"? She browses through your high school album and is constantly laughing an expressing how 'lame' that era was and how 'dorky' you were growing up....it is ironic how the fads recycle themselves..well, with the exception of 'parachute pants' lmao

untamedspirit009

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What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love Posted: 8/21/2009 7:27:37 PM
Wow, that is a loaded question...with an end result... For many it is the physical or emotional attachment...but in reality, the connection or chemistry as many label it always seems to be the end result, it is sex. Don't you think it is how that person or persons are feeling when they engage upon shared enjoyments of sexual endeavors? Sometimes, you care deeply for a person but you just have random sexual pleasures..other times you take it slow and share intimate moments. Even in not caring for them aren't you still sharing a need to partake in pleasing each other? The sharing of bodies meeting is always about pleasure, if you dont get yours while engaging in this act is it the other persons fault? No, I dont think so...You agreed when you stripped each other..no matter how quickly, slowly or not at all that it was about a 'shared enjoyment'....but back to the question...the difference is in how you share it or view it. sharing of bodies in considered sex...emotions can play a factor in it but how often does it? And are you both sharing on the same page while engaging in it? If your in a relationship of 5 years(persay...your milage may differ)...you have moments of having 'sex' and 'making love'. It makes your relationship wholesome and complete If with a stranger, it is just sexual sharing...and it appears internet dating is just that..a quick fix to resolve a need for 'sex'.... just saying....

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 277 (view)

Date a single mom, yes...marry a single mom....? Posted: 8/2/2009 3:15:49 PM
As a single parent, quite fulfilled with my lifes obligations...dating, seems to be more about sexual release than actually sharing life's little moments of having children. If you are 'dating'..just dating, why would this seem to be a problem? on the other hand..if you proposed 'marriage'..as the OP suggested...there is a 'package deal' in effect...,Are you ready to fulfill a 'father role', a person that a child can adore even when mom and you don't see Eye to Eye on occasion? It is a enormous responisibilty most men do not wish to step into too...altho, it sounds great...can u feel those shoes of being a parent without wanting too? Would this be a step towards your parenting skills if you did have 'one' child with her while she has several other children already? Its all about compatibility...with children or without.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 52 (view)

Hypothetical Question Posted: 8/2/2009 1:01:33 PM
I would keep the child, it is the best part of him, his lasting giving of life...for you to enjoy, even if the times ahead may be difficult, we as single parents do prevail under any circumstances.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 568 (view)

How are Men missing out, If they choose not to Date sigle moms Posted: 8/2/2009 12:12:25 PM
IF they chose not to date us, it is their choice. We do have more to offer than what they assume could be... being (them) considered 'second' choice in life. Compassion is one trait that seems to be missing in life when dating...Compassion for others, what they have experienced etcs.... All adults should consider...our children are the future, if you misguide them, abuse them or neglect them ..what are you contributing to the future? Doesn't everyone wish to be a role model in raising our children? As parents (men and women) we have made the choice to be their for our children, they will always come first...it is a choice, we are either responsible or not. In life, we have the option of omitting a pregnancy or the responsibility of raising our child/children. It does take two to conceive, only one to decide to omit or walk away from that childs life. I can say I am a much more blessed person from having my children, they do bring a constant light of joy to my life..those that don't have or are not blessed with children may not understand this. For those of us that do have achild/children...we are blessed.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 66 (view)

I love the way my child.. Posted: 8/2/2009 11:21:42 AM
I love the way both of my daughters express themselves in saying 'I love you, mom" spontaneously.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 64 (view)

The longer I am with him, the needier I become Posted: 7/31/2009 7:17:10 PM
Could it be you fear the emotional vulernability...of becoming dependant on him and placing trust in him to a level you haven't allowed in the past?

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 724 (view)

Do women mind single dads with kids Posted: 6/26/2009 11:22:01 PM
Thank you for your blessings on raising kids alone. I do it very well on my own, my children have a father, he wasnt a great husband but he is a good father. That lady posted it and had every right too, I have encountered men whom want children..."their own" and do not wish to 'raise' another mans child/children. Why should it be different for women to think the same way? I would embrace anothers Man's children as my own as that is my makeup of being who I am. She doesn't chose to raise another man's offspring as her own and why would you wish to pass judgement on her for it when so many men do the exact same thing? Tsk tsk tsk...

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 757 (view)

What makes a woman over 40 sexy? Posted: 6/26/2009 10:46:46 PM
So many views from so many people. What makes anyone sexy? Their own image of themself.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 23 (view)

things to bring for camping Posted: 6/26/2009 10:26:11 PM
wow...nowhere did I read a list that contained...'matches' or 'lighters'...I have forgotten them on occasion.

untamedspirit009

Joined: 6/10/2009

Msg: 26 (view)

Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply Posted: 6/26/2009 10:06:13 PM
Only you can 'allow' that person's words to have an effect on you...the best way is to ignore, ignore, ignore....why give that negative-filled person something to feed ego on? It isn't worth worrying over. There are plenty of fish

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