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Msg: 350 (view)

Let's get naked Posted: 11/19/2009 2:16:00 PM
It's getting too cold for that. Unless, I move to a better insulated cardbox.

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 11/19/2009 2:14:00 PM
Some mornings - to remember my POF login and password.

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/19/2009 2:06:29 PM
Ahappygal You should really stop using those little emoticons after your pronouncements. They are true not emoticons. They started threads to talk about Asian women who were scammers; why can't I tell the truth? I don't care! Why did you care? Truth is good. Asian women? Sometimes, they can be good, too. Emoticons are plain silly.

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/19/2009 1:53:22 PM
^^^ Very astute observation. So how do I resolve that vicious circle? Should I respond in kind?

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I have zero experience with older men. Posted: 11/19/2009 1:46:18 PM
OP: 5-6 years older man is about right. If he is in the right shape.

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/19/2009 1:43:17 PM
I really don't meet that many older women. But occasionally, I get pizzed off by their pets - young or old, whenever they pee on my shoes or on my suitcase.

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Libido after 50 Posted: 11/11/2009 2:43:15 PM
^^^ Just what was it again, that makes someone over 45 (or 50 in this case) so sexy and hot? Clean genitals.

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 11/11/2009 1:51:55 PM
^^^ Since you are already in a bed, try to dance with a man. It's much more fun, and you can drop to down to all kinds of interesting positions.

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Precautionary measures Posted: 10/3/2009 11:05:51 AM
Recently, I was reading about the second wave of swine flu and a possible danger of infection especially for seniors / elderly people. Do you think it would be prudent to wear a mask when you go to a public place such as a shopping mall or a restaurant to meet someone on a first date? Would you go for the N95 type of mask or would a simple surgical mask be acceptable in such a setting?

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Last of the 50's.................. Posted: 9/22/2009 3:35:46 PM
I am 64, so a 59 year old woman sounds just perfect to me. Too bad, you live in a different country.

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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 9/15/2009 4:29:37 PM
Not so much intimidated as turned off. Some older horny women get really pushy and physical when showing their desire. I don't know if they are so desparate or used to younger guys who are more receptive to their overtures, but often these women are no ladies. They don't know how to make a subtle hint, and they assume that all men should be attracted to them. Sometimes they get really disgusting in their approach. I want to emphasize that some of them don't look bad, just their manners and expectations leave much to be desired.

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When is it appropriate to take the step of inviting new friend home for dinner/movie? Posted: 8/18/2009 1:20:38 PM
In fact recently for Sunday brunch this very good looking very tall blonde asked me over to her place after a couple of hours of rich brunch and too many bloddy marys. Well, I'm not unhappy to say that as she showed me through her beautiful new home, the last stop was her bedroom ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ I have to admit that I was offered and accepted also several invitations and home tours. Although I usually do not succumb to the sexual overtures on the first date, I enjoy being invited to the home of a nice lady. You can observe and learn a lot during such a visit. Having experienced a few unpleasant episodes with pets, I usually check for misbehaved cats and dogs. If a cat walks on the kitchen counter or a dining table, I leave quickly without eating anything in that house. And if the pets sleep on her bed, I keep out of that room, and attempt the steer the hostess to the kitchen table or her bathroom.

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When is it appropriate to take the step of inviting new friend home for dinner/movie? Posted: 8/18/2009 1:05:29 PM
To the OP: Fully agree that there is no need to brag about the frequency and nature of your services. I wouldn't suggest to proceed to quickly at the initial coffee meet, but a second date - dinner or vigorous walk, followed by a hot shower in her place, is a good opportunity to proceed with the more intense exploration. In my experience, an invitation for a home cooked dinner is due after having sex on a previous date. That way, when there is an invitation to a home cooked meal, there is no pressure and you can enjoy cooking and playing in the kitchen together. And you both know, that the dessert will be served in the bedroom.

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/7/2009 1:17:39 PM
cat said: One has to be careful not to blame their partner when they are suffering from ED. Unfortunately this does occur and makes the matter even worse. Perhaps you might check out eating foods rich in zinc and drink some pomegrante juice it may work wonders for you. Not quite. When presented with an unattractive woman, all the zinc and pomegrante juice won't help much. On the other hand, a brigade of well kept, sensual, stunning women would drive Pfizer Viagra division out of business in no time.

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/5/2009 4:38:31 PM
There are several causes for ED and ED-like symptoms. 1. Physiological causes – with the advancing age, the ability to get it up, keeping it up, and intensity of copulation get diminished. 2. When fully dressed (condomwise), the sensitivity and arousal are substantially reduced. It will get better in exclusive situation when you can dispose of all distractions. 3. For me – the biggest impediment is that it is harder and harder to find an attractive partner (most probably true for both genders).. The arousal level of many men (similarly to women) depends strongly on how attractive the partner is. Unfortunately, many women over 50 don’t look as exciting as they used to in their twenties or thirties. The effects of suntan, make-ups, and alcohol take a toll. Tattoos don't make them any more attrative. But the worst are the extra pounds. I personally, can’t get aroused by a heavy set or rubenesque woman. And that doesn’t include only the actual erection, but also any fondling, cuddling, oral, or other forms of sex.

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Differences between American and Colombian Women Posted: 7/21/2009 4:49:22 PM
capegardengirl said: topfind It sounds like you are saying Latin women are more honest and upfront with men about their feelings. Again, thats a generalization and Id have to disagree with it. Alot of American women are honest and upfront about whether or not they like a certain man. I kn ow quite a few who were able to be very kind yet honest about their feelings. Unfortunately this can also be interpreted by some men as being "too picky" or being a man hater. -------------------------------------------------------------------- No, I didn't mean that. What I meant, was the immediate behaviour when at it. I really don't think many American women are honest or upfront. Some are, but some are just very polite. Many are too rude, bitter. or distrusting. You may totall correct about the faked niceness and meanness of the Southerners. I don't have a deep knowledge of them and rather refrain from judging. Here is my real-world experience: On 3 consecutive weekends, I took 3 dates to a dance. One was a Latin American brunette, who at the end of the evening hugged me and kissed me, and said "I like you and I liked the dance - let's do it again soon". The second was a stunning Polish blond who polished all her meal, and half way through the night said that she was tired and she'd like to go home. The third was a transplant from Michigan, who was quite pleasant and nice all night, and at the end said "I hope you had a nice evening". I think I figured out the first two, but I 'm still trying to decipher the thid one.

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What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 7/14/2009 3:02:34 PM
Pictures of ladies kissing pets - undesirable and absolutely disgusting. I'd rather see them kissing a trophy fish (or a rubber duck as suggested in the post above).

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whack jobs! are they on the increase? Posted: 7/14/2009 2:59:33 PM
I gather, there are not on increase as a percentage of the general population, but with the increase of people on dating sites, the absolute numbers of loonies are increasing as well.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/14/2009 2:52:23 PM
No Excuses Please said: I spent the night at a lady's house that had an incontinent dog that she let sleep on the bed. The dog had an accident and I left after taking a quick shower (no...besides the one in the bed). The next day I got a call about how I had upset her dog with my reaction. I hadn't yelled or anything..I had just got the bed really quick and then got into the shower. I told her that I had never had a dog urinate on me before so I guess wasn't sure HOW I should react. Needless to say,we cut things short. She never apologized for her dog. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- My symphaties! This beats even my experiences. I think, I'll stick with dates owning dolls and teddy bears.

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What kind of man/woman do you think you attract? Posted: 7/14/2009 2:36:54 PM
In my profile, I listed that I prefer slender and taller ladies. And no pets. And what do I get? Either short and plump ones, or princesses with multiple pets.

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Differences between American and Colombian Women Posted: 7/14/2009 2:32:31 PM
^^^ You are absolutely right! 5 years in this enlightened world, and they get the nastiest lawyer they can find.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/14/2009 2:29:39 PM
SerenityCW said: ah, OP has found that the carrot, and not the stick, makes all the difference in the world -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Yes, the carrots worked great! And we still had some left for the horses.

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Differences between American and Colombian Women Posted: 7/14/2009 2:24:35 PM
capegardengirl said: I would question whether Latin women subservience to machismo in the Latin culture is more "natural". Some would see that as stupidity and ignorance. Are women who think for themselves and are their own bosses and dont agree with that "less natural?" Me thinks not. Also, alot of independent, highly educated women are very warm people. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I don’t know how many women there are subservient to machismo, and I never said that that would be natural. What I meant, was the art of conversation and manner when being together – whether it is sitting at table or at a dance. American women may be more refined and more politically correct, and they will thank you for the dinner and reject you extremely politely at the end of the evening, but Latin women will let you know right away whether they like you or not. These are hard facts, and you don’t have to get offended by it. There are many other examples like this. In Europe, the Italians are usually warmer than Swedes, and Russians are not as reserved as Swiss. Even in North America, the common knowledge is that Southerners are warmer than New Yorkers. And there is at least one female poster on this forum, who never misses the opportunity to point out that the Cubans are warmer and more fun than the Americans or Canadians.

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Why is it tough for men to say I'm sorry. Posted: 7/14/2009 2:17:05 PM
NorthernDreamer - are you in any way related to TrusteDiva aka Transition Woman? She used to get upset with poster comments, too.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/4/2009 1:51:15 PM
^^^ Actually, I went there this morning, and the horses were quite friendly. I took some advice from the other posts and invested in a bag of carrots. I asked for big carrots and when I told the cashier, I was taking them on my date, for some reason, she found it very funny.

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narrowed dating pools? Posted: 7/4/2009 1:38:35 PM
I have to admit, that after my "golden" experience with pets, I am now somewhat reluctant to get involved with someone who elevates their pets over her partner. I wonder, what is the percentage of single women without pets?

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/4/2009 1:33:38 PM
serenity assuming you are "not" a golden shower queen, ahem: your luggage may have a marker from a prior pet, they are sensing you as a threat, or your fear or dominance is worrying them, never leave your suitcase on the floor, for cats, and i believe dogs as well, get plug in pheremone mist to be changed monthly--stops spraying and also good for sick pets. if the horse pees on you, get a life jacket. in nyc, we had an expression that someone was a "pisser". maybe you are just innately funny? and the animals are responding "literally". hey OP, at least you are getting out. and into the bed, not the couch. sure you didn't stage this deliberately? Serenity, thanks for all the tips, you covered quite a few subjects. No, I'm not a golden shower queen, and I didn't stage it deliberately, but hereby I'm releasing this method into the public domain, so other people could benefit from this experience. I got the life jacket (just in case), and plan to use for another outing, where I'll try kayaking. That may be also a memorable experience.

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Conflicting interests Posted: 7/4/2009 1:21:25 PM
As another poster already said, the title of the thread should be "different interests" I think having some interests in common are good, but not all. One of the nicest things in life is trying new things, and having someone introduce you to new hobbies or interests is a very good way to learn about each other. In introducing new things to each other can only bring you closer, in most cases. This is what is happening right now in my life. My current friend is quite an outdoors woman, whereas I grew up in the city. She has a small hobby farm with two horses and she is going to introduce my to kayaking this month. As I mentioned in another thread (which I can’t find again for some reason), previously I tried a canoe but we didn’t get very far. I don’t think, I’ll dare to ride her horses, but I am already excited about the kayaking. She mentioned also something about a roll in kayak, but frankly, I can’t see how we could do it in such a skinny boat.

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What types of dating activities do you enjoy and are they different since you have gotten older Posted: 7/4/2009 1:18:18 PM
I always liked dancing, and I still continue to take my dates to various dances. I used to go out to restaurants, but after a few cases of indigestion, now, I tend to prefer the home cooked meals. Few years ago, I tried canoeing, but my first ride didn’t end too well, I managed to flip the canoe with my partner and the picnic basket in it. That turned me off the water sports for a while, but as of recently, I’ve been seeing a sportsminded lady who wants to introduce me to kayaking. We’ll see how that goes. I do more walking now than before, and also I find that I am drawn more to the outdoorsy type of ladies. They are usually happier, more natural, look better because of less make-up, and most of them have a better physique.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/2/2009 1:44:09 PM
^^^^^ Apologies accepted. And thank you for all good advice. I'll print out all your constructive emails and carry them with with me for distribution to general public on all my future trips.

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How far would you travel for a love affair? Posted: 7/2/2009 1:41:27 PM
Normally, I would say about 50 miles. But if I can kill two birds with one stone, I would extend it to 100 miles. And if the weather is nice and I could manage to arrange 3 meetings on one trip, I would contemplate even a longer journey.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/2/2009 1:33:18 PM
^^^^^ Fully agree with both posts above. But you are telling this to the wrong person. I'm just a messenger (and sometimes an innocent victim). Spread the word in the Venus world.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/2/2009 1:06:55 PM
^^^^^ Try to tell that to most of the women who think that their pets are in reality “little people” who understand their babytalk, need to sleep with them, and like chocolate bonbons. No wonder we get pissed off and pissed on – see OP.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 6/30/2009 4:54:57 PM
Thank you all for the advice. Some of the comments sound very scary. thecatsmeoww Well being that I own cats.. my bedroom is off limits to anyone but my children and myself. So where do you keep you bf? Cats will spray when they are aware of a strange scent.. The use of Feliway is recommended. Do you spray this stuff on yourself, or on the furniture? I think I’ll stick to the new lady with the horses. Janet4fever I'm just impressed you've had three lady friends taken with you enough to invite you to their home for sleep overs!! After listening to the no-luck lads go on and on with their complaints of no contact on other threads... I think rather than asking for advice, you should be giving it. I don't think I am qualified to give advice, but this is what I think: 1. The overall business climate (even in this business) was better last year. This year, the return on investment seems much lower. 2. It appears that the ladies with pets have been deprived of men for longer than ladies with no pets. So maybe, that’s why I got lucky. Twisted sister I dated a guy once who had 2 female cats and a male dog. The dog decided I was his new best friend and followed me everywhere. The cats peed in HIS shoes. I’m sorry, but I don’t think, I would put up with that. idoc_steve If I was over someones house and the dog started jumping all over me, I would firmly say "No", and remove the dog from my body by firmly pulling on it's collar until it was completely off of me; and repeat as necessary. And I would point out to the owner of the dog, that behavior such as that should be discouraged going forward. To be honest, at one point that night, I had to say NO, and remove her from my body.

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Bad experience with pets Posted: 6/30/2009 9:52:56 AM
I used to like pets, but last year, I encountered two unpleasant episodes that made me reconsider my preferences. The first lady had a large male cat that used to sleep with her in the bed. During our first night together in her apartment, we put the cat out into the hall for the night. Not only was the cat making terrible noise during the night, but the next morning while we were having breakfast, he came into the bedroom and peed over the bed. This happened three times during two months we were together. According to her vet, the cat was punishing her. I had a feeling that I got punished because those episodes created a lot of tension and ruined all the romance. Few months later, on another dating site, I met a new lady who lived about 3 hours away. She owned a large, somewhat scraggy German Sheppard. After a few telephone calls, the things were going great, and she invited me for a visit to her town, and graciously offered to me sleeping arrangement on her couch. After I arrived in her place, I left my canvass travel bag near the door and we proceeded into the living room. As expected, in the first hour, the dog was over me more often than my friend, but eventually he calmed down. After the dinner, I suggested to go for a walk, and take the dog with us. As we were nearing the door and my bag, the dog suddenly lifted his leg and urinated over the bag. I was really pizzed off, and since even my PJ’and other clothes in the bag got wet, the trip was almost ruined. The good thing was, I didn’t have to sleep on the couch, so I didn't need my PJ's.. I am now talking to a very pleasant lady who invited me to her hobby farm where she keeps two young stallions, but I am somewhat reluctant to visit her there. What would be a safe distance to keep away from the horses or do you know of any repellent that would avoid mishaps like described above?

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Differences between American and Colombian Women Posted: 6/30/2009 9:45:03 AM
When on vacation, almost everyone is more relaxed and outgoing, and it’s only logical that a friendly tourist would attract more interest from the locals of the opposite sex. However, it is indisputable that South American women are usually warmer, more natural, and more approachable than their North American counterparts.

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She seems independent, but around her dogs she is the low woman on the totem pole. Posted: 6/30/2009 9:39:20 AM
This is slightly OT, but still somewhat related to the pets. A friend of mine has a pot bellied pig. Should she worry about contracting a swine flu?

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