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Why do women think..... Posted: 9/21/2008 10:32:24 AM
Come on,,, Men think differently then woman,, our minds are built different, we see things differently and our emotions are different. It doesn't mean that we feel less, just different. Its almost as if we both speak in a different language, you just need that secret decoder ring to comunicate or understand. Very generalizing here, but men like the three stooges and action films and women like chick flix with all the romance and Carrie Bradshaw.

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 8/24/2008 4:49:34 PM
Under Dr. Maslow's pyramid, safety and security (love) are primary to enable growth. So when someone that hasn't had that and has had that necessity denied and abused as a child they long for it and believe that because it was denied they aren't worthy of that love. They will always try to capture that missed love through different venues to prove they are worthy. It's insecurity to the 10th power +. That's why any sort of critisism, abandonment or playing with love will trigger the past and cause very negative behaviour. It’s sending them back to when they where a child and defenceless when their abusive parent were controlling them. That person doesn’t know any other way to behave until going back and relearning the reasons and behaviour. Cliff Clavin

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 8/10/2008 9:49:46 AM
Quazi how did you get this positive stage? Books, intervention, what type of therapy?

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 7/27/2008 10:15:49 AM
Now this thread has become a battlefield of ego's rather then a support page for help and information,,

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Weight Loss Surgery Posted: 7/6/2008 8:31:12 PM
Thank you,, I think your right about finding out as much as possible if considering surgery, but also trying to find help about self esteem. \

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Orgasms for Women using the 'O' technique Posted: 7/4/2008 11:47:25 PM
Oh well,,,,practice, practice, practice

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Weight Loss Surgery Posted: 7/4/2008 11:35:54 PM
Hi Everyone, To all the ladies considering weight loss surgery, I'd like to tell you what just happened to my sister. She was a large woman, approx 260 lbs, and had been heavy most of her life. She had low self esteem because of an abusive mother. For a short time she had lost 100 lbs through hard work and dieting, however statistics have found that 1 in 1000 people are sucessfull in long term weight loss, so she decided to try surgery. In BC there is a 3 year wait for any type of this surgery. She decided to try using one of the out of country medical services out of California who uses a hospital in Tiajauna, Mexico for a gastric bypass. Please note that there is a 2% morbitity rate with this surgery!!! That's 2 in 100,,and that's in the US. The rates aren't published in Mexico because they don't have to. Mexico is still a 3rd world country. Anybody remeber the couple that were murdered in Cancun and they arrested the wrong people and contaminated the crime scene. It's now a cold case. To shorten this story she died last week during the operation. I just got back from BC helping my niece look after all the arraingements. The Mexican authorities won't release the body untill they are paid, (the price went up 100% while going over other things), and we still don't have my sister yet. Not to mention all the paper work needed with the Foreign Affairs office, the hospital, airlines, ect. She's not supposed to arrive untill later next week. I loved my sister very much. If your considering any type of surgery, do all your homework and get the very best information and people. Anyways, work on your self esteem and love your self first. Your worth it.

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Anyone Ever Been To One of Those BBW Parties? Posted: 7/2/2008 2:04:37 PM
Hi Everyone, To all the ladies considering weight loss surgery, I'd like to tell you what just happened to my sister. She was a large woman, approx 260 lbs, and had been heavy most of her life. She had low self esteem because of an abusive mother. For a short time she had lost 100 lbs through hard work and dieting, however statistics have found that 1 in 1000 people are sucessfull in long term weight loss, so she decided to try surgery. In BC there is a 3 year wait for any type of this surgery. She decided to try using one of the out of country medical services out of California who uses a hospital in Tiajauna, Mexico. She recieved a gastric bypass. Please note that there is a 2% morbitity rate with this surgery!!! That's 2 in 100,,and that's in the US. The rates aren't published in Mexico because they don't have to. Mexico is still a 3rd world country. Anybody remeber the couple that were murdered in Cancun and they arrested the wrong people and contaminated the crime scene. It's now a cold case. To shorten this story she died last week during the operation. I just got back from BC helping my niece look after all the arraingements. The Mexican authorities won't release the body untill they are paid, (the price went up 100% while going over other things), and we still don't have my sister yet. Not to mention all the paper work needed with the Foreign Affairs office, the hospital, airlines, ect. She's not supposed to arrive untill later next week. I loved my sister very much. If your considering any type of surgery, do all your homework and get the very best information and people. Anyways, work on your self esteem and love your self first. Your worth it.

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How long for cunnilingus? Posted: 6/3/2008 12:45:01 AM
With an old girlfriend of mine, we used to play the alphabet game, where with a bit of pre cunl. play to find out wet she was , I'd start to spell out the alphabet with my tounge. I'd try to cover most of her sensitive area with my tounge, You know using "a" and making it as big as it has to be then go to "b", and so on,,, First time went all the way to"W" before she came, but after a while could get it down to an "m" or "o". I'd love it when she'd get so wet. If that doesn't work try large caps,

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The International Council for Man Laws Posted: 5/16/2008 11:50:29 PM
Those were absolutley brilliant but just so you know those are the old laws and because of the obsolete nature have been recently deleted however recently approved criteria is still under security lock from any type of woman without the ability to understand the difference between nascar and NHRA or 3rd in 4th and 3OT, bottom of the ninthn, and a lefty up at bat with a sore arm,

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Playing with her while she sleeps Posted: 2/1/2008 2:38:43 PM
Do you mean similar to an Incubus?

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 12/2/2007 8:17:12 PM
Were the NPD's you lived with or the ones you knew, similar to one or both of their parents? Do you think it was a learned behavoir or do you think they would learn to have empathy or feelings if shown?

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 10/17/2007 7:02:23 PM
If you believe the person your involved with is NPD I would suggest that you get the best possible help from the best professional you can find. Find someone that has had more then clinical experiance with the disorder but "one on one" successful experiance with the NPD or their survivors. It's very hard to explain to someone unless you've lived it. I would suggest too that if your having problems with your spouse who is NPD that you leave -"walk before you have to run" . If you have children get help for them too. Some of the help on these sites is BS. If you can look for someone that has experiance and success dealing with these people or their survivors, you will be closer to helping yourself. My mother is NPD and there are two suicides in my immediate family. They were caused directly by her. After they died she still bad mouthed them. My belief is that the disorder is caused by having at least one abusive parent and the NPD see empathy or giving love as a weakness. So if you see their parents as abusive and uncaring or playing at it, they may also have NPD. They are extremely insecure and "act out" on just about everything.

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 10/11/2007 10:00:29 PM
I know that you've met and delt with some very bad people but have you ever noticed good people? There are actually people with good character

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Guys - This is for you- Is this true??? Posted: 9/4/2007 8:06:14 PM
Why did I waste all that money on those books and charm school?

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Two Men Used the Exact Same Line on Me, Coincidence? Posted: 8/12/2007 4:18:07 PM
Don't you know that it's in the manual.

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Backburner Girl Posted: 7/31/2007 3:06:19 PM
The 3rdeditrion got it right. They just want a quick pick me up. Your nice and they know it.

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 6/1/2007 6:14:50 PM
Thanks Oxdrover, You have a great insight into this. For me the trick is trying to get over the anger, however, luckily I find it's happening less often. I like your reference to a rattle snake, because to me, when thought of it that way, it fits them and is easy to shelve or fit away without any loose ends.

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 6/1/2007 4:32:10 AM
oxdrover, Can I ask you if you have or are forgiving your son? I have a mother that is a full fledged NPD who has had a son and daughter as well as a second husband commit suicide. (he's the father of my step brother and sister and there is no signs of depression running in his side of the family but only fairly strong family support,) These were caused by her consistent harping on making someone feel worthless with her manipulation. I've noticed it stated in some anecdotel sites that NPD's do know right from wrong so where do you start to forgive them and get on with ones life? Do you have any ideas?

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Beware: eHarmony sucks... Posted: 4/19/2007 11:38:56 AM
I tried e-harmony for the same reason as some of the otheres here, thinking that if you paid more you'd get more. To be honest I found the majority of women (not very many by the way) were very close to what I was looking for. I felt that most could be a good friend if things didn't work out. The one thing that was missing was that even with a picture in their profile the chemistry still had to be tested only when we met. I met 1 woman that I became involved with for a year so I guess I'm the only one that thinks that they do what they say.

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Dating Someone With A High IQ Posted: 4/3/2007 11:09:20 AM
So where does character, emotional stability or EQ, the pursuit of your own happiness or the feeling of self worth come into effect with IQ?

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 3/10/2007 9:03:51 AM
These people are in a world of their own. They think that the sun rises on them and the moon shines on them. If you come along, your there for them. They know that they have to manipulate things to get that feeling they want. That may be love or affection, sex, money. It's up to their need. When approached about their inconsistencies or their falsehoods they either back up and smoose you or if their done with you or figure they have you they pounce and become verbally cruel to get you back to where you were before. Very controling. They don't know any different. They get into depresion when they find that they can't get their way or are found out. Sometimes when they get there, they have come to some realization of what they do or have done. In my experiance they have a very small chance of recovery or insite. My feeling is they become this way when their abused by an overbering, nonloving alpha parent. Their choice then is to be self sufficient and find a way to survive. That means that they pretend that they are a god, or a parent, or some one without reproach. That may be a hard thing for a 6 year old to do, but at that time their brian is "imprinting" their behavoir. As they grow older while living with that parent they realize better ways to cope but still using the same system they did at 6. Like other creatures that imprint, it is there to stay. They know that there is something wrong hence their acting to get what they want and occasional self depravation, but they will not become apathetic or giving. They will give if their parents did but not anything more. To them it's a weakness to care or love. "I didn't get it why should I give it" Stay away or if your around them learn ways to go around them. But don't show weakness or love for them. They will take this as a signal that they have control.

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 3/8/2007 4:28:47 AM
Thanks fom myself also. A couple of people from this site with experiance with this disorder have been very helpfull and have suggested getting counselling. However this disorder is rare and what would you say to a counseller to get help? What kind of a counsellor would you find? What has been helpfull in dealling with the havoc that this type of person leaves?

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 3/3/2007 7:20:13 PM
NPD can happen in women also. My mother is one. Her son (my brother) just commited suicide this summer. She hadn't talked to me for 26 years and when she came to the funeral she could only talk about herself. Then blamed me for everthing that was wrong or percieved wrong. Her father was very similar and abusive and from what I've read and what I've seen NPD develops in their late teens when they can't cope with the problems that arise from their abuser and the lack of love and affection they never recieved. I would think if you suspect that your new sig other has NPD ask about their relationship with one of their parents. If it was abusive and they want you to feel sorry for them leave soon.

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