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babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

West Chester Get-together Posted: 4/8/2007 4:26:36 PM
Wish I could come, I'll be in Germany. Oh well may be next time....

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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How can I really get past being cheated on? Posted: 3/15/2007 4:24:44 PM
The first thing you need to do is trust yourself. Trust that you will make the right decisions on who you should and should not continue to date. If you've learned a lot from this prior relationship take what you've learned and watch for the red flags. But by all means, if you do not put full trust in yourself, you will not be able to trust anyone else. Keep on moving forward....

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

what is the difference between dating and long term? Posted: 3/4/2007 5:05:39 PM
I just posted it in my profile. Long Term Goal. But there is nothing wrong with your profile as long as your happy with it. Just an FYI dating doesn't necessarily mean you would have to part the red sea to anyone. It is a personal choice whether or not to part the sea lol. Well, why didn't the person seeking exclusivity ask for it? Afraid of rejection, perhaps? If you were to ask and get rejection, In that case you save yourself time, waiting for something that is probably not going to happen, no matter how long you wait. You've probably had fun, and got to meet someone, you wouldn't have met otherwise. The upside, is you can ask for exclusivity, and may get what you bargained for.... I say, have some fun, live life, keep your friends, they will always be there.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

what is the difference between dating and long term? Posted: 3/4/2007 4:00:15 PM
I feel that it is ok to date whoever you want, with a long term goal of dating exclusively. How can you possibly know that you want a long term commitment with someone that you have never even met? I obviously don't believe in love at first sight, and a lot of people will not show their true Karma until well into the third month of dating. Please save the long term until after we get to know each other.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 211 (view)

Long hair on older women Posted: 2/25/2007 12:55:22 PM
I have below the shoulder "somewhat long hair" I love it because I can wear it up, and wear it down and long it all depends, on how you view it. Oh and I happen to like long hair on men too. Or short hair or no hair. it's the package that comes with it that matters.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

What would you do? Posted: 2/25/2007 11:37:08 AM
I have done my share of stupid things, while drunk, but sticking your hands down his pants, is definately not an accident, did you think you were running your hands through his hair, and there was big lump in the middle? OMG to funny

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

What are your first date killers? What's a big no-no? Posted: 11/2/2006 4:33:56 AM
I am going to take a chance and go off topic here: I have read a lot of the posts about never settling.... Which is fine when your talking about getting married. Just my 2 cents I think we "myself" included could be passing by some very delightful people, and maybe at the very least some solid friendships as well when we apply all of the standards we are looking for perfection, which in my mind doesn't exist.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

What are your first date killers? What's a big no-no? Posted: 11/1/2006 5:39:56 AM
Blowing you nose at the table, for godsake excuse yourself to the men's room...

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Am I the only one? re: Possessive dudes. Posted: 10/30/2006 6:10:45 PM
Either you are suffering from very low self-esteem or you may have just come out of a relationship where no attention was the norm. In any case, Possessive is a big RED FLAG. Usually when a person is trying to posess you it means that the person who is trying to posess you needs constant affirmation. My advice, get help, my advice to the guys

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Men Bashing / Women Bashing / Generalizations Posted: 10/4/2006 10:18:07 AM
Things have been this way since I have been the workforce. Whatever your way is, if it makes you happy that's all that really matters. What I am trying to say is that if you keep the attitude that says woe is me all the time that's exactly what your going to get another person, be it male or female that says the same exact thing "woe is me". Every company has a Quota to fill and it's derived straight from the government if you really want to changes things, then 'we' need to start looking at who is in the political power. Who put's them there "us". So if we keeping thinking with our heads inside a vacuum nothing is going change.... oh poor me My vote is woe is us.... we put them there let's change it. doh..... Just noticed your in Ontario

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Men Bashing / Women Bashing / Generalizations Posted: 10/4/2006 7:37:59 AM
Message 77 are you sure it wasn't your attitude, that stopped you from getting the job you wanted?

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

Men Bashing / Women Bashing / Generalizations Posted: 10/4/2006 3:01:52 AM
OMG Oneluminosity, I hope we are doing more than just doing time on planet earth. Your right, in that we should be cleaning up our backyards before btching at the neighbors. And to the the Donut Lover you go girl, find us that fat free, taste good donut, I'd buy them. Or we can stay pssed off at the whole world, make-up some more sit to be angry at and we'll see each other in Hll next week. Wonder if they have computer's in H*ll? We have a lot more to be worried about like if our kids are coming home from school tonight..... Let's get a grip people

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Men Bashing / Women Bashing / Generalizations Posted: 10/3/2006 2:49:41 AM
This is just my 2 cents.. I think that some of you are obviously not over the previous hurt from a prior relationship Therefore not really ready to date anyone. It takes time to get over the hurt heal yourselve's and move on. It's a really good feeling to realize that you have let "anger/hate" go. Your then ready to move on. When you have stopped boo hooing over the priors in your life your ready to move on. So I say let's get with the program...... and move on......

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 137 (view)

Holy crap... my first honest to goodness nutcase Posted: 9/29/2006 4:18:19 PM
Ikusa runnnn as fast as you can.....

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Can we stop the Madness?? Posted: 9/29/2006 12:01:19 PM
I beginning to wonder if were here to meet somebody or are we just here to b***h about each other's shortcomings.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Do Women really avoid Scorpio's??? Posted: 9/28/2006 1:50:05 PM
The upside of Scorpio's are once your a friend your a friend, they are very passionate lovers, and they are great business partners as well as fathers and for the ladies great mom's too. It's just the other stuff that gets me down......

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 337 (view)

Do Women really avoid Scorpio's??? Posted: 9/28/2006 1:17:59 PM
I do... I do... I was married to one, they tend to be moody, quick to lash out, not very outgoing almost reclusive.... Oh please can I have a Gemini, an Aquarius, or a Leo .

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Journey down a new road Posted: 9/25/2006 9:47:09 AM
I think it's all relative to the length of time you were in your last relationship. I don't put a clock on things lifes to short.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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How would you respond to this? Posted: 9/23/2006 4:49:52 AM
I in no way agree with the Happily ever after statement.... But it is a choice to continue to work at a relationship, or to dump it. I would hope that it is a concious decision to either continue to date someone or not. She chose not to continue into a relationship with him. Which by the way was a good choice. You can't possibly believe in the Happily Ever After ....It's a fairy tale and it has to be a choice. Sounds a little needy to me....not attractive.:

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

women complain that guys only want sex Posted: 9/23/2006 4:17:49 AM
so be gone with your bad self..... Ok sorry a little rough, But I got to ask? Would you rather us just say no, or perhaps use you for a great evening out and have sex with somebody else?

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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How do you cope with rejection? Posted: 9/22/2006 8:03:15 AM
OMG What handyman said.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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everyone needs a good laugh during the day.... Posted: 9/22/2006 2:17:51 AM
being a farting cartoonist, and the police said, "You ain't seen nothing" , wait I feel one a donut fart. and out it came.......

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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everyone needs a good laugh during the day.... Posted: 9/21/2006 11:50:19 AM
and after the explosion there it was the purple haze shaped just like a volkswagon, and I said holy crap it wasn't a volkswagon at all it looked just like Barney......don't do that I exlclaimed, "your not supposed to make gas out of BARNEY he is to be on a childrens TV show" so off I walked in a huff and went straight to

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 357 (view)

Would you sign a prenuptial agreement? Posted: 9/21/2006 5:24:02 AM
No prenup..... NO MARRIAGE Seriously a lot of guys out here saying they have to much to lose. What about the women?

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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everyone needs a good laugh during the day.... Posted: 9/21/2006 2:09:34 AM
Oh my god look at that......

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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everyone needs a good laugh during the day.... Posted: 9/20/2006 11:33:56 AM
every time you walked

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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You might be a redneck if????? Posted: 9/20/2006 10:37:37 AM
you have inflatable furniture in your living room

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Phone numbers in the first message! Posted: 9/18/2006 10:31:22 AM
Your right I did go through the same thing, but it was shortened by a phone call. and he can't contact me other than e-mail. I like it that way. It's just one or two e-mails, I would never expect anyone to continue on and on with emails for weeks before talking on the phone making a plan and going out. Usually, the first 2 or 3 emails will let me know enough, so that I can make a good decisions, for example whether to meet that person or not.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Phone numbers in the first message! Posted: 9/18/2006 9:58:21 AM
Wakedan, I agree with you for the most part. Except there is a lot you can tell about person within 3 or 4 well written emails. I have actually found out before giving my number out that 1 guy was unemployed and had no drivers license, but still wanted to take me out. On what his bicycle? Sorry but at least lets chat for a moment. Because I presume that you just didn't walk up to somebody and say hey can I have your number. I would imagine it more to be like you probably danced a little chatted a little, and went from there. I am not about wasting time either way.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

How to cross the line without getting burned... Posted: 9/16/2006 5:08:13 AM
How about there's a lid for every pot

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 208 (view)

Why do married men masturbate? Posted: 9/16/2006 4:59:37 AM
here is an easy answer....Because he can

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

why so many 3 months relationships??? Posted: 9/12/2006 5:20:36 PM
A lot of guys do put challenges in like perhaps your introduced to someone who is there ex-gf just to see how you react. I don't have a jealous bone in my body so I don't react, which is what they look for. Needy is not attractive! I think it's true that a relationship will either take off in three month's or fail. I don't think it's when the honeymoon sex wears out. I think it's because trust takes time, so the little "things" start to come out more and more over time. People either accept or deny the issues. I have been through many of crisis including health, and death with ex boyfriends all of who I must say saw me throught them. Even though our relationship was failing. I think the 3 month mark is when guys start to get scared that you may be looking for more than a 3 night a week thing, and they run like heck....Some women do the same thing. It's when sometimes the L word slips...oops run .... Guys see lights out lock down and take off. So ladies don't let the L word out!

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 9/3/2006 5:31:13 PM
I have some very very close single male friends. We are friends, nothing more we talk and give each other the support we need from the opposite sex questions and the like. Hopefully adults can be adults I have no problem with it. The way I figure it is I trust you, you have to look at you in the mirror, not me, and I will not fade away, because someone chooses to stray with a friend.....

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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X wont go away is it wrong to meet new people? Posted: 4/11/2006 1:27:50 PM
Well speaking from personal experience they go away, and then they do prey on the next women, some women catch on quicker than others and kick them out sooner rather than later and then they come back. I ended a relationship like this 2 years ago and just this past Oct. was harassed yet again. Pressed charges yet again, theses guys are like a summer cold that just won't give up. What happens is they get distracted for a while but they know who there targets are and where they had it good. These men will always go back as soon as attention the next woman gives, slacks, even just a little bit. These guys are con men, and are dangerous. They plead suicide and the whole nine yards. My advice is get mad and stay mad, it gives you the strength you need to keep him out of your life. Hate him if you have to, but get him out of your life do it through the Courts. Also, be aware wherever you are of who is around. By all means tell your dates, it has never distracted any date of mine, even the one that I was stalked on. Tell your family and your friends, stay safe. Also, if you do not date in his eyes he is controlling you, that is the name game for these people. There is a fine line between Love and Control, only you can decide what it is for you. Don't let him BS you into thinking he has changed, years of therapy might change it, but since these people don't see it as an issue, and tend blame everything on everyone but themselves, they will never get the help they need. Do not feel sorry for him, he knows exactly what he is doing. If 7 year olds know not to hit or abuse then grown men and women do to.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Frustrated with the whole dating after turning 30? Posted: 3/8/2006 6:24:01 AM
Why are grouping people again? This is simply not true for everyone. I thought I had a nice guy who told me everything I wanted to hear. Your beautiful, your sexy, I love you , I miss you blah blah blah. And you know what out of the other side of his mouth came you’re a *lut, ho, blah blah blah for absolutely no reason. I couldn’t understand what “I did “ to cause this behavior and put up with it for two years. There is a very fine line between love and control, and when I found out the difference (I still thank god everyday for this) I threw him out of my life. I to this day still have minor problems with this person re-appearing, but I have grown stronger and continue to keep him out of my life. I would not have considered him a bad boy and not a good boy either he fell somewhere in the middle of the two. I don’t want to be treated like dirt. At this point in my life I would settle for being treated as an equal. Respect me as I will respect you. Any man who is attentive, and “SINCERE” about it is OK in my book. Thank god for secure with yourself, as I am too.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 1048 (view)

What do women over 40 want? Posted: 3/8/2006 5:37:24 AM
Well said HawkDream.

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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What do women over 40 want? Posted: 3/7/2006 12:34:45 PM
First of all you can’t group all women over 40 together just as you can not group a bunch of over 40 guys together. We are individuals from very different walks of life in some cases. Lumping over anything in one category is stupid and just asking for trouble. What makes me happy may make another woman sad or angry. Some women may need financial security, other’s are independent and are not looking for that. Some want companionship, some a relationship, some want friends, read the profiles! Get a clue. Show some genuine interest. Oh here I’ve got a novel idea how about someone taking the time to ask me, or here’s a better idea take a look at my profile, it lists lots of things that I like to do. If you don’t like it fine I realize we are individuals with different wants and needs. If you are what I don't want, “a couch potato who can’t hold conversation” then please don’t apply!

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 123 (view)

What is the most important part of a relationship to you? Posted: 3/6/2006 11:29:40 AM
Communication, Trust, Honesty, Freindship, Sex

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

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People who can't hold a conversation Posted: 3/2/2006 1:26:20 PM
maybe you can give me some tips, before I give up! This hankerchief thing was the last thing that happened to me just last week, I quit dating What's next passing gas and blaming it on the waiter?

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

People who can't hold a conversation Posted: 3/2/2006 1:15:31 PM
You know what else he must have washed it with his jeans because the white wasn't white anymore

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

People who can't hold a conversation Posted: 3/2/2006 1:10:11 PM
I mean really tissues are a buck a box for crying out loud, and go to the darn mens room to toot your horn

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

People who can't hold a conversation Posted: 3/2/2006 12:04:46 PM
How about on a date??? How's this for a I was another site the kind where you post your profile and wait or contact someone yourself and then you go through a series of guided communications, and finally open e-mailing. Everything went well with that, and a lunch date was set up. It was the longest 45 minutes of my life, notice I say 45 minutes not an hour. Getting more than a one word answer was like pulling teeth. Left me nothing to go with, couldn't even think of one more question, because I was so appalled by the one word answers. Gosh I know we are all nervous, but this guy took the cake. Not to mention he carries one of those gross hankerchief things, ew..... and used it at the table gross blah barf

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 198 (view)

are all the guys on here looking for sex? Posted: 2/24/2006 9:00:57 AM
I didn't say that it was the only thing you were looking for there's a big difference. But let's face it your not going to have a meaningful relationship with someone that you are not going to have sex with unless your related to them, or you had a relationship and they fell ill where they couldn't have sex then you might. You could have a friendship with someone that your not going to have sex with. Have a great weekend, not having sex

babyblues302

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 194 (view)

are all the guys on here looking for sex? Posted: 2/23/2006 1:08:52 PM
I have to agree with TEXSAS, I don't think we should be asking is sex what men is looking for Of Course it is people have been having sex since the beginning of time and will be doing it long after I am gone. The real question is when do men really think it's appropriate to have sex? When do women think it's really appropriate to have sex? And then can we meet in the middle some where?

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