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something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 35 (view)

Bring up difference in age? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:31:15 PM
I had this 24 year old with a very outgoing personality walk right up and ask me for my phone number. Said she would like to get to know me if I'd give her a chance. "WHAT! I wasn't crazy, sure I'd give her a chance." LOL I told her, "I should tell you I am 42 years old." She smiled and said, "Age means nothing if you like someone." Best 3 months I had in a long time. And no, I never took her to bed, nor did I ever kiss her. Well I did kiss her on the forehead when I said goodbye. I didn't like partying every night of the week since I won't drink while I am out on the town. Only time I got drunk I had my son picking me up. But I learned from her age isn't always a factor. So just be honest and if they don't mind, go with the flow. You'd be surprised how many don't care about the age. And if it does matter, you should get it out of the way and finish it before someone gets their hearts broken.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 42 (view)

Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:24:57 PM
I have big issues. LOL I can't figure out how to date. Go out and sit in a club? Who do you ask out, you don't know any of those women. Walk up and ask wrong one out? Might take years. And in some clubs all the women you walk up to are extremely young. One night I asked, "Hey where are the women my age?" Figured they were probably home wondering where to find men my age. Internet makes it easier. Well would if women ever replied in emails and took a chance to get to know everyone, even if it was for just two emails and go, "Yuck." But here you can read about the person before sending a letter and before replying. Few emails back and forth you can get a feel for the other person. Then if it seems right move on to the, "Hey lets meet" stage. Thats just my reason I came here. I like to know people before I ask them out.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 617 (view)

Are women marketable after age 30? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:19:31 PM
Heck I'd date women over 30 a lot faster than those under 30. Maturity is always best.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 121 (view)

who recovers faster after a breakup men or women? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:17:14 PM
I'd say they are about tied. I seen two men who were still mentally upset over losing a woman 4 and 6 years later. Yet I was over mine 3 months before I left her. There is a trick to that, I got privat counseling 2 years before leaving her. Told her that private marriage counseling did me a lot of good, pity she didn't come to. LOL But heck she was remarried within a year. I've seen women 4 years later still brooding over their ex. So I'd say its about even.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 36 (view)

How far should you go once it gets to the bedroom? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:13:03 PM
I like to take things slow. Explore and look for her likes or dislikes. Two people should be very willing and comfortable about expressing themselves if it goes that far. Taking your time makes it more pleasurable. Wouldn't pull a whip out or something, that might scare either party. I sure would be ready to run. Anything rushed isn't worth having. Thats my philosophy.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

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Whatever happened to morals, respect and old fashion? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:07:29 PM
Those things are out there. Men and women just do not open the right doors. Think of all the ones you pass up. One might have been a doorway to just such a person.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

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why wait? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:04:31 PM
They got what they came for. You just made them work harder to get it than some women do. Sad to say there are men that way. I had a friend that dated close to 100 women in a years time. We were teenagers at the time. He asked me why I haven't dated much. 2 girls and 3 blind dates. I asked him, "out of 100 women you seen how many would you marry if you had to?" He says 5. I said out of my five if forced to do so I'd marry 4. It was all about numbers with him. Sad enough it is so with a number of men. Unfortunately it makes it harder for men who aren't that way. And some men will end up leaving because you made it too easy. Just think there was a time in history women didn't give it up until marriage.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 79 (view)

Is being faithful a thing of the past? Posted: 8/3/2009 9:21:55 PM
I was faithful to the last one even after I learned she was cheating on me. I was faithful all the way until the day I left her for good. I would like to think I will always be faithful to the woman I am serious with. Though I will not predict what futures may bring. But I do not see myself ever crossing that line. Not because of respect for a partner, but because I'd have to live with my own dishonesty. See, I have never had a good woman that didn't cheat on me and I don't ever intend to treat another person in that manner. Doesn't feel good and people are evil to consider their own desires without considering their mates feelings or hurt emotions. Fortunately I know there are good women out there.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 51 (view)

You have an Amazing way with Words. But can you hold a Conversation? Posted: 8/3/2009 9:15:16 PM
I am gifted enough to hold a decent conversation. Am good at listening too. I knew 2 friends that complained that men couldn't even do a decent email conversation. You have to express interest you know. Unless there is none. But I don't think I can write a decent profile, I keep changing mine. Nothing sounds right on it. Now I hear one should read profiles with care and then gather information from it and use it within the initial email to let the person know you actually read their profile and wasn't going just off of pictures. I dislike phones for talking. I don't recall ever having any conversations that I didn't like. I do know a few conversations made me realize I didn't want to meet or be with the woman. But that is why conversation is encourage so you can learn things and if red flags go up, you know to politely back away.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 159 (view)

can you stay friends with an ex? Posted: 8/1/2009 9:34:57 PM
I happen to be very good friends with my Ex. We have been extremely good friends for the last 10 plus years. Its real easy, She never calls, comes around or sees me and as long as she keeps that going, we will forever stay friends. ::Grins:: I myself would not make my Ex a "Friend" if we had never before meet. I am picky about my friends and she was one of those, "Me" type people. Very few of us wants a friend who is inconsiderate of everyone and wants everyone to do for them. So no I would not ever want to be her friend period. Though I have on rare occassions seen it done where a man and woman turned into Just Friends and got along with ease even when they were either married to or dating others. Naturally they also say you should remain on friendly terms with your childrens other parent. This is for the children. I did this by never again seeing my Ex. I'd let her and him meet elsewhere. Of course when I got custody he was 13 or so. And I never talked bad about his mother. Unfortunately she often talked bad about me so now he is alienated from her and he is 23. This is another reason you should not bad mouth your Ex and at least give the impression of friendship. Of course mine was made easier with her living over 1,000 miles away. ::grins::

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 49 (view)

Do u believe in love at first sight??? Posted: 7/29/2009 9:56:49 PM
Sort of, Kind of. Might have occured in her mind or eyes as well. Immaturity made it fail. I was 16, she was 18, but she didn't know how old I was. I had just started noticing girls, but was one of those types too shy to talk to them. She walked over and stopped at my table. I stood up like a gentleman and smiled as she asked if she could have a seat. She sat and we kind of talked. More like my friend would say something she'd turn to me and ask me a question, I'd kind of answer her. I remember watching her as she walked off thinking, "Wow, now that is one really great looking lady." A few other guys came over and sat asking who the woman was. Amusingly I had not thought to ask. So I said, "Foxy Lady." Foxy came back a few more times and my heart just raced while she was near and would sink when she walked away. My heart was broken on that last day she and I spoke. Somehow grade came into the conversation and she learned I was in the 10th grade. She was a Cheerleader and in the 12th grade. There was no lust involved at that time. I didn't even know what sex was. I just liked being with her. To this day I recall how nice it felt that she took notice to me. Just little me. I was never popular in school and always felt below average, but she made me feel special for that one brief week of my life. So do I believe in love at first sight? I believe on a very rare occassion it can happen. Though for the most part I don't believe it happens often. However, I can say my Sister and her Husband fell in love at first sight. My sister dated only him for years. They've been married for about 30 years now and they are still very happy. But they knew from the first time they went out. Kind of makes one wonder I suppose. Because we all have heard of similar things I am sure. Just a pity it don't happen to all of us.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 56 (view)

Question about Favorites Posted: 7/23/2009 7:49:46 PM
Heck I never understood those Favorites. Maybe that is what I should been doing for last 4 years. Sure saves time writing 40 people and getting no where. LOL Of course I am only a bit shy in person myself. Online I don't have to worry about seeing a woman's face frown. But it makes sense for someone who isn't good at emailing someone to use a thing like that. I got over my inability to write emails after my first 3 months. After all I was always taught, men approach the women first. Though I find the women often don't like that idea. They only want to be approached by certain men. I keep wishing we could create a way where women could hold up signs and say, "These four men may talk to me. Rest just to play." So I wouldn't worry about that Favorite stuff. I could see where it would be useful to women who believe men should act first. And those Ice Breakers you mentioned. I liked those myself. Something soft like "Hey there." But heck I spent over $1000 on those sites when I first started trying to meet folks. So I guess you get what you pay for and this is what POF gives us to work with. ::smiles:: Its all good though.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 194 (view)

Does Anyone Actually Look Like Their Pics? Posted: 7/22/2009 7:01:20 PM
I've meet 4 people from POF in last 4 years. All four said I looked better in person. So I figure I must take bad pictures. But I'd prefer to look better than worse. Out of those 4 none of them looked that much like their picture. 2 looked better and 2 didn't look as good. I just feel some folks take good pictures and others don't. Kind of makes you wonder if that person you passed up due to a picture didn't actually look nice in person.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 46 (view)

Whatever happened to morals, respect and old fashion? Posted: 7/22/2009 6:53:20 PM
I'd like to believe I have all three still. When I first trying to get back into dating market 4 years ago. I heard of Friends with Benefits. To me that just isn't moral. People using people for sex just isn't right. Seems to take away that idea of two people being in love. That age old argument that love doesn't really exist. So now I guess folks look for lust in a relationship. Sure it feels good, but does it warm the heart? Of course a lack of morals to me goes further like cheating, stealing and lying. But this is just my opinion and I am sure hundreds will say I am wrong. Respecting each other is also a hard thing. Does it exist among the younger generation? I once heard my son say to date more than 1 girlfriend would be a lack of respect for the women he'd be seeing. I couldn't argue with him, even though I wanted to tell him he should have more than one fishing pole out there. To me you don't respect the ones you date if you are sleeping with 10 women. Also respect means the idea of respecting the other person's ways. Its hard to fully explain for me. Old fashioned? What is it to be Old Fashioned? I enjoy tipping a hat, opening a door. I like the old values. I prefer to pay for every date, seems some men these days prefer a woman paying their way. I like to lead on dance floor too, unless she is teaching me a new dance. It goes more with values though. What means most to you? I feel a lot of men and women are more into lust. They gave up looking for love and took the next thing sitting there. We start forgetting what we desire most and settling for what is easier. We start to lie, but on false faces and start to seek lust because it makes us feel better. But it never eases our needs. Then when we get older each of us start to once again looking around for Morals, Respect and old fashion. Now we are tired of the lust and bad boy/girls we once chased. If a man/woman looked us directly into the eyes we wouldn't see it. Those who don't believe it exists has given up. Some will never turn back to seek that dream. Why should they? Lust is such a pleasure in their lives. It is a tempting place for most people. Even myself. So don't get discouraged, its out there, just have to find the one that holds the same values as you and the one who seems to have a chemistry you like. I've learned chemistry is important to both parties.

something rare

Joined: 6/16/2009

Msg: 142 (view)

What do you drive or ride.......We want to know............ Posted: 7/22/2009 6:04:57 PM
Well my old pick up that got like 2 miles per gallon blew up on me some time ago. So I have this tiny blue car sitting out front claiming it belongs to me. Think it followed me home. I haven't a clue what year it is and not going to go out and look yet again. But it is a chevy. She gets good gas miles so I won't trade her in for another old truck, not just yet anyway. And when I am in a really strange mood I drive an old 85 cargo van around. Learned there was less of a chance to lose something or for it to get wet than it was in my old truck.

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