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jumpypants

Joined: 2/20/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

Where do guys like this come from? Posted: 4/4/2006 12:31:23 PM
I will probably catch some flack for this, but :) My patience really would be geared to the sexual past of the woman in question. If you are a virgin, or very limited as to sexual history, I would probably be inclined to be more patient (this assumes you somehow convince me the wait will be worth it). If you have had sex with a long line of men, sorry, I am not going to be the sucker you decide to make wait in an effort to reclaim your long lost virginity.

jumpypants

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is it ok to be picky? Posted: 4/4/2006 11:00:35 AM
Being picky - wise. Being too picky - meowmeowmeowmeow

jumpypants

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When a woman will not commit to a man Posted: 4/3/2006 1:34:52 PM
No you will not always love her. Don't be ridiculous.

jumpypants

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Where do guys like this come from? Posted: 4/3/2006 1:06:23 PM
sassy, I agree. If she wants to - cool. If not - also cool. I would never get mad about it or feel entitled. Also, I know women where if the guy does not at least politely try, they are going "whoa, what is wrong with him?"

jumpypants

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Where do guys like this come from? Posted: 4/3/2006 12:29:58 PM
larissan, I guess that makes sense, although, I do have some thoughts on that one. If I were dating just you, then basically the more people in your past, the less patient I would be. If you have had 50 lovers, me being 51 is not such a big deal. If I were not just dating you, then I just like your company, so take your time, although, by the time you get around to saying "ok!" to sex, I am sleeping with other people. So, by then it will just be for fun. Yes, I do realize this is a messed up way of thinking, but it kind of is how I think.

jumpypants

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Where do guys like this come from? Posted: 4/3/2006 11:08:09 AM
larissan, Easy one. In my experience, most women will sleep with me on the first date. If a woman did not, depending on how she expressed it, that would be fine or not fine. Not fine = she has me in "friend mode". Modern women are pretty much spoiling men sexually. I have a friend who used to go to another dating site, pretty much dated 5 women at any given time, and some of them, when going to a movie, were trying to blow him in the theater alanis morissette style. I think that were I dating, I certainly would give it the ole college try, and if she said no, it would depend on how she said no. I actually respect waiting, but I am fearful of too many rules or possible sexual issues, so it would have to be couched in the right way or I would probably move on.

jumpypants

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Why wouldn't a minister marry a couple who have been previously married ? Posted: 4/3/2006 10:16:07 AM
Technically the bible does not permit divorce. There might be some exceptions, I forget, but in general, while she is legally divorced, some churches still maintain that she is married.

jumpypants

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The one you thought was the one can be decieving Posted: 4/3/2006 10:13:38 AM
evil, I think in my case my luck was better with the two or the three than the one. Once you find the "one", it is easier to find the same thing with other people afterwards.

jumpypants

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Have You Ever Breaken One's Heart !?! Posted: 4/3/2006 10:10:36 AM
Summer, Man, been there twice. Constant fighting, and after awhile, my flight reflex just cut in and I was out of there. I think I would rather be dumped than to dump. When I get dumped I do not have the guilty feelings and can sit around and write bad poetry or whatever :)

jumpypants

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being push in a pool is a relationship breaker? Posted: 4/3/2006 10:01:46 AM
jagg, You know the voice you use on your son to make him stop when he runs towards a street? You know - the dad voice. Use it on your girlfriend. She will likely stop. If not, you have a crazy woman on your hands.

jumpypants

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girlfriend say's she loves me but!!! Posted: 4/3/2006 9:58:22 AM
oy. Then I guess you have to put up with it for 18 years :)

jumpypants

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girlfriend say's she loves me but!!! Posted: 4/3/2006 9:53:36 AM
She is your ex. Why are you even talking to her?

jumpypants

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Living with but not loving it! Posted: 4/3/2006 8:56:28 AM
I personally am a little repulsed that this woman is being advised to enter the life of a single mom and break up her kid's world simply because she is bored.

jumpypants

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if a woman says that sex is not of prime importance Posted: 4/2/2006 10:48:33 PM
spice, some women are just not into sex.

jumpypants

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if a woman says that sex is not of prime importance Posted: 4/2/2006 10:47:33 PM
course of action, RUN FORREST RUN, unless you are not into sex. that simple, just run.

jumpypants

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Believe in that spark Posted: 4/2/2006 4:14:49 PM
IJUST, Not sure when it is that I "detect it", for me it is kind of when I meet them I feel this absolute comfort with them, as though we had known each other for a long time. I can get this to some extent with a lot of people, but every so often, it is really strong. I give it a bit of time to make sure I am not kidding myself though :) With my fiancee, it is 3+ years now, and frankly FAR stronger than anything sensed initially.

jumpypants

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do you prefer people who have endured some hardship in their past? Posted: 4/2/2006 2:55:36 PM
I think I do. People who have never dealt with hardship tend to be very judgemental (beyond a reasonable amount, that is). I have noticed that people who have dealt with and overcome hardship tend to let small things be small things, whereas people who have not dealt with hardship treat small things as HUGE things.

jumpypants

Joined: 2/20/2006

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Why is it? Posted: 4/2/2006 2:06:06 PM
The answer is to learn to fight. If you say hateful things in anger, guess what? You just did irreparable damage. If you cannot learn to calmly discuss issues, you cannot have a viable long term relationship. I will not even get into the implications of "thick headed male". My fiancee holds the opinion that women are innately irrational (I do not necessarily agree) and takes a great deal of time before bringing up something that is bugging her. Trust me, I listen, because she always has a point, and does it fairly infrequently.

jumpypants

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me my boyfriend and his family. Posted: 4/2/2006 1:05:05 PM
Why are you not married if you have a kid and he is calling you a family?

jumpypants

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Believe in that spark Posted: 4/2/2006 12:32:06 PM
I hate the term soul recognition (AOL just ruined that for me) but it is a good way to describe it. If you come across it, you are very fortunate. You have to tend it a bit, and make time for each other, but the benefits are well worth it. I could not even consider a relationship without that, too much trouble and ultimately doomed.

jumpypants

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 3/23/2006 12:13:27 AM
Ill, Are you responding to me? I am a guy. A guy who has to go shower if you are responding to me.

jumpypants

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Being put in bad situations Posted: 3/23/2006 12:09:06 AM
^^ Glimmer is right. But you will be there for lunch and do it anyway, JUST LIKE WE ALL DID :)

jumpypants

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 3/23/2006 12:03:48 AM
Glimmer, What happens in PoF, STAYS in PoF :)

jumpypants

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y cant a booty call stay a botty call Posted: 3/23/2006 12:01:48 AM
I just want to be the first to respond.

jumpypants

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Why do men think that after only 2 dates..... Posted: 3/22/2006 11:59:44 PM
When I was younger and dated, the 3-date rule just used to perplex me. I remember once I was really into this girl and we did 2 dates, and she was pretty darned chaste, and then at the end of date 2, she says something like "next time something something about lingerie". I remember thinking what the heck, she is barely making out with me, and all of a sudden she is talking about lingerie? It weirded me and I never arranged date 3. And yes, I was stupid.

jumpypants

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Being put in bad situations Posted: 3/22/2006 11:52:23 PM
pulse, Seriously - good luck. Who knows what might happen?

jumpypants

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What Would You Do If You Found Out Your SO Was Gay? Posted: 3/22/2006 11:48:49 PM
Felinessa, I agree. I would have to think any woman whose husband admitted he was gay would, amidst the pain, start thinking back and go "WELL HELL, THAT IS WHY HE DID THIS AND THAT". I think the "honey I am a 100% lesbian" thing is far more rare. Why is that?

jumpypants

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 3/22/2006 11:42:41 PM
Ill, Never admit to being married until after the sex. Sheesh!!! jumpypants, NOT married.

jumpypants

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Being put in bad situations Posted: 3/22/2006 11:20:14 PM
You are making sense. We have all been there. Go talk, but really, watch the movie "Hi Fidelity" first for tips. You will get advice to just move on, but you cannot until you find out the alternative for yourself :)

jumpypants

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New Fish, Please Read Posted: 3/22/2006 11:14:17 PM
OP: Your original post is classic stuff.

jumpypants

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What Would You Do If You Found Out Your SO Was Gay? Posted: 3/22/2006 11:04:02 PM
You mean, like, if I were with a girl and she wanted to have sex with women? (Answer: marry her)

jumpypants

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Why do men think that after only 2 dates..... Posted: 3/22/2006 11:02:02 PM
In Los Angeles it is more like the 3 minute rule.

jumpypants

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Maybe I'm Too Sensitive Posted: 3/22/2006 10:57:56 PM
^^^ The nice guy brigade arrives to save the day!

jumpypants

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Maybe I'm Too Sensitive Posted: 3/22/2006 10:44:14 PM
98476234726, Seriously, it is not like you are asking for a threesome. She needs to get over it and learn to like making out.

jumpypants

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the love molecule Posted: 3/22/2006 10:42:58 PM
It had its positive points :)

jumpypants

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 3/22/2006 10:39:59 PM
1inamillion, I go for psycho lesbian witches mostly. This place has literally covens of them!

jumpypants

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does this drive anyone else crazy??? Posted: 3/22/2006 10:35:19 PM
veedub, Make a cutout yahoo or hotmail email account. They are free.

jumpypants

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Maybe I'm Too Sensitive Posted: 3/22/2006 10:31:41 PM
MDC, GOOD POINT :)

jumpypants

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Maybe I'm Too Sensitive Posted: 3/22/2006 10:30:01 PM
098784263478623, Maybe point out that if she asked you with a good makeout session, you would not be saying no. What does she do? Just flip up her skirt and say take me?

jumpypants

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the love molecule Posted: 3/22/2006 10:23:53 PM
Liz, She just about drove me crazy the first year. She was in wild mode * 10. Thank god I was not here then. I would have been frakking pathetic.

jumpypants

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Msg: 36 (view)

do young women cheat or have somethin' on the side very often? Posted: 3/22/2006 10:20:00 PM
Eight Ball says: Mystery Penis

jumpypants

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risk not, gain not, or... Posted: 3/22/2006 10:00:38 PM
Brazen, I think there is a happy medium. The crazy kind of love, is that really love? I am not so sure in hindsight. I would die for my fiancee, but if she for a prolonged period of time lost interest in the relationship, I would not stick around to be a punching bag.

jumpypants

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accused me of lying? Posted: 3/22/2006 9:50:55 PM
I have had exes pull that on me. I always fell for it though.

jumpypants

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 3/22/2006 9:48:17 PM
1inamillion, Then all the women would move to that island, to escape the reign of boredom and nice guy mania!

jumpypants

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the love molecule Posted: 3/22/2006 9:45:20 PM
Falling in love makes me feel sick and terrified. Pass :)

jumpypants

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narcissists Posted: 3/22/2006 5:20:48 PM
carrie, Was his name Gaston?

jumpypants

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Men Who Cheat and Then Make You Feel Like It's Your Fault... What Now? Posted: 3/22/2006 5:09:19 PM
eye, Dang, ok, he sucks :)

jumpypants

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Men Who Cheat and Then Make You Feel Like It's Your Fault... What Now? Posted: 3/22/2006 4:32:12 PM
eyce, But rough as hell on a marriage in hindsight, right? Were you gone for a solid 50 days? How did you stand that?

jumpypants

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Men Who Cheat and Then Make You Feel Like It's Your Fault... What Now? Posted: 3/22/2006 4:25:32 PM
If my wife spent 2 months at a time away, I would not only assume she was cheating, but I definitely would be cheating. Caveat: unless she were deployed to iraq or something.

jumpypants

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To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF Posted: 3/22/2006 2:36:37 PM
I have a god given right to trick girls into sex. PS: I like to tell them how nice I am and trustworthy to boot. BOO YAH!

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