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Joined: 6/19/2009

Msg: 265 (view)

Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 7/11/2009 1:12:13 AM
I'm wondering to myself why all these women NOT interested in men half their age are leaving their mail settings open so they can be contacted by them, maybe they enjoy the attention? I thought (probably too much) about filtering by age and decided not to. I've had the same crazy email from both very young and naive or old and potentially unwell. I decided to leave it open because I can handle it. I don't necessarily want it. I just don't want to miss meeting friendly people that have something valuable to say outside the realm of sex. The ratio for that is pretty low. Still, there are topics in the forum that transcend sex. When I participate, I don't want to block email just because of age. I block solicitations for 'intimate encounters' whatever that means LOL. I use the setting that says they must not have contacted members for that purpose. I assume that's a good balance. I don't know.

Joined: 6/19/2009

Msg: 261 (view)

Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 7/6/2009 6:56:58 AM
I'm not sure any of this matters at all. A cougar is a cat in the wild. Take it or leave it. Love it or hate it. It would take a tremendous effort of unfeeling attitude to wipe them off the face of the planet. One would be vilified for it too, since they are living things that many believe are capable of having feelings like you and me. The adventurous youthful vitality of men that are capable of finding them in the wild, capture their beauty. Either you appreciate the images as a coffee table book in your domestic environs, or you can hide your eyes from it all in favor of a vacuum cleaner and dishes, or backyard grill and a lawn mower. You get to choose! I'm more like a Snow Leopard myself ::growls::

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Msg: 191 (view)

Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink? Posted: 7/6/2009 6:45:24 AM
Wow. This board devolves so quick it's amazing. So glad I don't really care!

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Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink? Posted: 7/5/2009 6:37:14 AM
I keep hoping in Batavia (just outside Chicago), the accelerator known as Fermilab cracks the puzzle of time. I'd love to take my 'je ne sais quoi' knowledge and wisdom with me Back to the Future. I'd love a drive-in date. I spend hours getting the look, just right before he arrives. He sweeps me off my feet, impressing me with his impressive jacket and car. We'd both be romantically rewarded for it making out with the top down. Wouldn't that be hot? Godzilla (the film, not stalker ex-boyfriends) in the background? ::sighs:: These times are tough. Godzilla.

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Msg: 184 (view)

Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink? Posted: 7/5/2009 5:18:41 AM
Anyone calls me a gold digger, I say: "I'm a regular 49er." I reminisce about my old cheerleading days ::sighs::

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Making assumptions about girls over 30 Posted: 7/5/2009 5:14:42 AM
I never thought that. Now I know where to go to get kids. The local nursery, of course. Hide your kids, quick! I'm out on the loose. Spider plant kids sound fun.

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Making assumptions about girls over 30 Posted: 7/4/2009 4:58:50 PM
Remind me never to ask for feedback around here, except from eschec_mat

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Making assumptions about girls over 30 Posted: 7/4/2009 9:29:17 AM
Some of us can't have children if we tried. It's kind of sad when we also get people making assumptions that we should settle down after 30. I'm 40. Mixed signals about what we should be when, make we want a peppermint lest I should barf.

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Something I've Been Pondering Posted: 7/4/2009 9:16:03 AM
I still believe you get what you're willing to give in relationship. I don't take it for granted what is freely given to me. I definitely value what I freely give. When I think I'm not loved and respected? I'm gone quicker now that I'm older, wiser. I don't believe in hanging on out of a sense of stubbornness, or morbid fascination about watching a failing relationship of mine. Not anymore. I'm such a liar.

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Are men on here really interested in marriage Posted: 6/25/2009 2:45:38 PM
Well, I'm independent. I hope that helps clarify my attitude. If you're speaking purely as a US Citizen, then the state views marriage as a contract, not a business deal. Those are distinct. A contract between individuals is what a vow is. When you get married, you make those vows and the state recognizes it as a contract between individuals and gives each partner certain new rights regarding the other, for care when incapacitated etc. If you fall utterly in love with someone, you want these things. Otherwise, you're lovers without rights.

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Are men on here really interested in marriage Posted: 6/25/2009 6:32:41 AM
I write 'independent' in my own profile. It means more than independent from a parter. It means I can think for myself and not just repeat what others expect me to say and do. It means I'm not going to be a parrot for your own musings but rather, that I would have my own creative thinking which should excite a suitor for me. I'm creative. I'm smart. I'm independent. A veritable treasure trove of thought behind blue eyes. If you assume the use of the word 'independent' means that a woman is ready to flee marriage at the first sign of trouble, as you have essentially pointed out here, you should beware not to generate your own forgone conclusion. That's true even if in response, you recite that it already happened to you, that you are just expecting it again. What you bring is what you have in relationship. Is that what you intend to bring? I hope this helps you to reconsider marriage if you fall utterly in love with someone independent. Scary. Worth it.

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Are men on here really interested in marriage Posted: 6/24/2009 10:28:55 AM
Thank you FunkyMonkey. I appreciated your response.

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Are men on here really interested in marriage Posted: 6/24/2009 5:01:02 AM
I want to be utterly in love with somebody that truly deserves it. It's a one step at a time issue with me. I've actually never been married. It's a cliche but my heart has been broken from a long term relationship breakup. Now I am cautious about who I even date. I still throw myself in at the risk of my feelings when I find someone I'm interested in. Short-term heartache is worth it if I eventually find the right person for something that lasts. If it ever happens for me again, I hope I will be more goal-oriented regarding marriage. So, I understand why women want to talk about marriage early. I've been emotionally hurt by throwing it all in only to be eventually set aside. I just know I can't go straight to marriage. There has to be risk at first from both sides. I really don't know what to expect anymore. At 40, I'm just plodding along hoping for that romantic happiness that eludes me.

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Embarassing yet unavoidable Posted: 6/23/2009 1:14:27 PM
If I perfect my talent, I might just write a book about it then: The Yoga Queef Starlet.

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Embarassing yet unavoidable Posted: 6/23/2009 1:06:48 PM
Has anyone else queefed at yoga? Silent but deadly? Mine smell like chocolate. I sweat chocolate too. Milky white chocolate yum! Out of this world. Taste of Chicago, coming right up - yay!

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Embarassing yet unavoidable Posted: 6/23/2009 7:18:34 AM
In between positions? Yay! You want some jam with my queef? ::smiles:: !

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Embarassing yet unavoidable Posted: 6/23/2009 6:55:20 AM
I love the more salacious or socially uncomfortable subjects like this. A moment of embarrassment is nearly always great for a riotous laugh. Bigger guys make these 'farts' happen more often just because it's a simple matter that air gets trapped during sex. Other guys will also make it happen if the position accomplishes the same thing. Sounds of sex are usually a huge turn on for me! This is one that is decidedly NOT a turn on for me, LOL. That's why it's embarrassing, in my opinion anyway.

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Msg: 47 (view)

Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum? Posted: 6/23/2009 6:44:22 AM
Honeypie, that's easy. She could tell when how she felt about the sex that the relationship was going downhill. In fact, it reinforces what I say above. Love and relationship status affect the goodness of sex, not the other way around. She was just saying that bad sex broke her suspension of belief and she then recognized she no longer wanted the guy.

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woman in uniforms VS men in uniforms Posted: 6/23/2009 5:12:42 AM
I'm LOL at skeptical87 above. So true!

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sex change operation Posted: 6/23/2009 4:58:04 AM
I just don't understand the question. So, they regret it? Then they want a relationship with whom? I am confused. My understanding from legitimate statistics is that incidence of regret is extremely low. I should add that it's close to home for me. I'm bisexual and I can't classify myself that way here. In my opinion, that's not fair to me. I prefer men so I can deal with it. I just think homophobia is sooo last century. People should learn to be good people, good to people. Let love rule. Allow for diversity. That's my opinion. I won't change it.

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sex change operation Posted: 6/23/2009 4:29:38 AM
I am actually confused about the question. I have no idea what is being asked. I do, however, think more acceptance regarding gender and switching is necessary in our dark universe. I've had and have very close gay family members, one who died. I think extremely poorly of anyone who insults LGBT, especially someone without a clue about it. It's like making fun of a sports fan's obvious lack of sophistication. I would look completely judgmental about something I knew nothing about if I said watching sports makes someone automatically unfit to date me for their stupidity, wouldn't I? Same thing in reverse when I see people down on LGBT. Stay open-minded and accepting of diversity. You can see by my profile I'd go so far as bring you hot wings and a cold one if you're watching sports. I might even go 'yay' at the right times to impress your friends. I expect intelligent and empathetic remarks about LGBT issues from any suitor of mine in return. I don't expect anyone to dwell on it just to get with me though LOL. That's a hint... I hope I've helped in some way. I don't know.

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Msg: 43 (view)

Do women get more attached if a man makes them cum? Posted: 6/23/2009 4:02:12 AM
My first POF post. I had to do it with this thread, didn't I? I have never had a problem with orgasms. Just lucky, I'd guess. It's too easy to train a guy to finish the deal with me. If he loves me, he'll comply every time I need the extra attention if he's already finished. That means just about every guy can satisfy that part with me. It does not mean I fall in love so easily. I orgasm easily, they are completely different things for me. Just because I have a great time, doesn't mean I'm smitten at all, not at all. Sometimes complete jerks have good sex. Guys that are crass or pedestrian can be repulsive or boring people to be with, (which ruins the sex too). My advice is, don't assume great sex equals influence in love and relationship points. You still have work to do to please that part, love.

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