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lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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I just think we have all become too fussy Posted: 10/6/2007 8:50:45 PM
I just think we have all become too fussy. I think it's a combination of things. One, we do become a bit more exacting as we grow older. Experience (hopefully) teaches us what we require and what we can work around in a relationship. Then there's the fear factor. We've all heard some version of a horror story based on meeting someone from the net or at a party. Lastly, we seem to have forgotten how to talk to people outside of work, church or our own little "group".

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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The Three Item Express Lane at Walmart Game.... Posted: 9/4/2007 8:34:08 PM
1. leather straps 2. ping pong balls 3. small spring clamps

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Has this happened to you? Posted: 8/29/2007 11:00:52 AM
All she wrote was that she thought my main photo was silly and that she was blocking me because of it. Oh and that she'd found another guy with the same kind of shot on his profile so she was blocking him also. Ah well, regardless of her evident issues, she's at least good for comic relief.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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THEY CRIED WOLF! Posted: 11/14/2006 4:55:32 AM
So when do you walk away? As soon as I begin to see the emergence of a "pity party" pattern. I try to be supportive, but I never, ever get in the "middle" of whatever is going on. They are the only ones who know the problem and; while I will offer suggestions, emotional support and (if needed) a safe refuge, I can't fix it for them. Whether they need to communicte better with the other person involved, seek marriage counciling, or (as in cases of domestic violence) call the authorities; that is something only they can do. When it becomes clear that their idea of "taking action" is trying to get me to "take" it for them, I'm done. I have lost a few so-called "friends" this way, yet I have no regrets. Taking sides in a "he said/she said" situation is emotionally exhausting and usually an effort in futility since; unless one plans on being a "white knight" who will suddenly become "the epitome of evil," nothing is going to change. Other, of course, than your own emotional well being.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Jokes of all kinds Posted: 11/11/2006 9:47:54 PM
A wealthy man dies and goes to Heaven. He brings with him all of his earthly belongings when he meets St. Peter at the gate. St. Peter says: “Oh, my… you know, you can’t bring any of that in here.” The man pleads his case, he worked so hard for everything and can’t bear to leave it all behind. Finally St. Peter agrees to discuss the situation with his boss, who says, “Fine, let him bring in just one suitcase.” The man is overjoyed! He goes through everything and loads up one of his largest bags and presents it to St. Peter for inspection. It is filled to the brim with solid gold bars. St. Peter looks at his quizzically and says: “You brought pavement?”

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Negative People Posted: 7/18/2006 5:12:44 PM
HorseLady, I love your humor. Don't stop posting just because a few want to take your posts seriously. There's nothing wrong in "celebrating differences" using humor and, yes, even using stereotypes.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Southern Born and Southern Bred Posted: 7/10/2006 7:01:31 PM
How do you tell a Southern Methodist from a Southern Baptist? The Methodist will speak to you in the liquor store. I heard the same joke Kountryboy, but there was one more phrase: The Southern Baptist is the one hiding behind the Bud Light display.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Types of Boyfriends Posted: 7/9/2006 6:50:22 PM
Thanks HorseLady and Capt Joe. Those were both hysterical.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Am I to conservative? Posted: 7/2/2006 5:03:35 AM
I love it!!!! 81 posts and they can be consolidated into one sentence: "There's no accounting for personal tastes." We all have specific notions as to what makes an ideal mate. I, for one, won't date a non-smoker since I don't care for the nagging I'll be subjected to. Nor will I date someone who has no room in his world view for differing opinions. Body size doesn't really bother me, however, body odor is a definite no-no. So, I won't date the "unwashed." As I have no desire to be a "suga mama" he would have to be able to pay his own bills, I can't afford a deadbeat. Drunks just annoy the hell out of me, so I won't date one of them either. If it weren't for the fact that I'm "round", a smoker and would be unlikely to enjoy living in South GA (it's hot as hell here in Middle GA and SG is worse) I'd probably get along just fine with the OP.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Being Grown up Posted: 6/24/2006 4:46:26 AM
I always act my age. At 48 I'm old enough to know better, yet I'm also old enough to do it anyway.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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being appreciated Posted: 6/20/2006 3:38:45 AM
Being appreciative or appreciated means you or your SO will be less likely to take each other for granted. Being taken, or taking someone, for granted is a quick way to end a relationship.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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What do women look for in a man after 40? Posted: 6/17/2006 5:23:55 PM
Hmmmm, I thought my er.....list was fairly reasonable: I'm looking for a gentleman with an excellent sense of humor (dry, witty and sarcastic preferred), who is well grounded, ethical and likes the simple things in life. Who can stand by his beliefs yet accept that not everyone will share the exact same beliefs and opinions. While I enjoy a spirited debate, I find arguements require more effort than I'm willing to put forth.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

Stalker or just unloved? Posted: 6/17/2006 4:25:50 PM
If it were a really good looking guy giving a girl unwanted attention, she would roll her eyes and move on if she didn't like him. When he's fat and ugly, it's creepy. (It can be creepy with the good looking ones too, but you have a good point.) Unfortunately we're often "programmed" from childhood to think of beautiful/handsome as good and ugly/fat/not society's norm as bad. It's not true, but thanks to various fairytales, the media and probably other things as well, it's how people's perceptions have been molded. Takes a lot of "will power" to get over that conditioning, and sometimes it takes being hurt (or worse) by one of the so-called "beautiful people" before one realizes a jerk is a Jerk is a JERK, regardless of their looks.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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How people age differently Posted: 6/16/2006 3:55:03 PM
Although a large part of aging is genetic, your life experiences will also take their toll. Hard living, no matter the cause, will show up in your face, joints, skin and every other part of your body. No genetic predisposition will fix writing too many I.O.U.'s to your health.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Sex in the woman mind after 40. Posted: 6/13/2006 9:18:40 PM
Lynlin - don't say "urges" OK - ooops I feel it now .... here it comes Sorry Horselady, perhaps I should have said "power surges" instead????

Lynlin1957

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Are you paranoid about fidelity and money Posted: 6/12/2006 4:43:31 PM
I'm with you Whispers. As long as I have enough to keep food, clothing and shelter intact I'm happy. A little extra for fun would be nice, but I just want to keep the basics covered. I plan to hit my kids up for the "little extra" they'll soon realize that "if Mama hasn't a life, they won't have any peace" As to fidelity, I will trust a person until I'm given a reason to withdraw that trust. I'm a firm believer in monogamy, especially in this day and age.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Sex in the woman mind after 40. Posted: 6/12/2006 4:32:38 PM
The answer, plain and simple, is; YES, we are just as horny as the next person. However, I've noticed from reading the posts that most of the women, like me, control their "urges" instead of letting the "urges" control them. Sex, just for the sake of sex, may be what our hormones are telling us, but our minds and emotions want and need more. So, if one just wants sex, why go hunting, there's always BOB.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Does their sun sign affect your interest level? Posted: 6/11/2006 6:25:11 PM
Never, I was married 22 years to a Cancer which shouldn't have worked at all since I'm a Sagitarius. I dated a Gemini for two years which, although it didn't work out, had nothing to do with his sun sign. Now for fun, like Horselady, I'll check the compatability of signs, but I've found the results to be meaningless in reality.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Do you believe there is a POW-MIA issue? Posted: 6/11/2006 6:15:58 PM
To me the greatest heartbreak is that they must believe by now that we've given up on them. I can think of no worse feeling in the world. Why our leaders haven't insisted that our men be returned I'll never understand. We can spend all this money and energy on "the war on terrorism" but cannot spare a little for those who have given much more than their lives and so much more than we could ever imagine for this country. Makes one feel ashamed of the freedoms we take for granted.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Men reaching age 50 + Posted: 6/11/2006 6:05:11 PM
To paraphrase a song from Shari Lewis and her show with Lamb Chop and Hushpuppie: "This is the thread that never ends, it just goes on and on my friends, some people starting posting to it one day just because and they[we] continue posting forever just because this is the thread that never ends.................."

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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How long does it take to really know..love or infatuation Posted: 6/11/2006 2:57:02 PM
Chemistry, lust or infatuation can happen almost immediately but, are not good bases for a relationship. I would think six months would be about right to find out if liking, trust, respect, mutual interests, and on and on and on will also be present. One should always have a lot of like to go with that "whole lotta lovin."

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Sex in the woman mind after 40. Posted: 6/11/2006 2:40:11 PM
Hey anal-boy...REAL-DEAL...can we use our strap-ons on you? Oh Lordy Shell, I'm so glad I wasn't eating or drinking anything when I read that, I'd still be cleaning my monitor and keyboard. As it is, I almost fell out of my chair.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

Msg: 160 (view)

Sex in the woman mind after 40. Posted: 6/11/2006 2:33:48 PM
Amen Cheryl!!!!!

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Men's clothing question for women Posted: 6/10/2006 2:51:24 AM
I notice if his clothing is inappropriate to the setting. I mean, a suit and tie to an outdoor barbeque? I'm thinking "Someone needs to learn casual and probably how to lighten up." Or jeans and t-shirt at a more formal occasion? Here I'm thinking "One can find a halfway decent pair of slacks and a shirt at Wally-world without breaking the bank." Extremes I know, but I've seen it happen. It's just as bad when women do the same thing. I know that sometimes one may be coming straight from work, but then...sheesh....bring a change of clothes. There's bound to be a restroom, a clump of bushes or the back seat of your car.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Why Bothering Posting No One Ever Responds Posted: 6/8/2006 4:38:39 AM
It is just common courtesy. Unfortunately, the term "common courtesy" seems to have become something of an oxymoron.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Men reaching age 50 + Posted: 6/8/2006 3:49:42 AM
So, this whole thread boils down to: 1: There's no acounting for personal taste (wow what a profound and, evidently, entirely new thought) 2. Lies will eventually be discovered and the consequences will then have to be paid (another new but profound thought) 3. Too many people take things out of context and then harp on them past all point of reason. Gee, isn't it lovely knowing that we are all waaaaaaay tooooooo human?

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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A litmus qualifier Posted: 6/7/2006 5:58:35 AM
Sheesh, I've never been asked, nor have I asked those questions. At least not until further down the road in emails, phone or whatever. Seems to me those questions and answers would eventually occur in casual conversation. Personally I think asking certain questions that early is jumping the gun. If they are that important they should appear on the profile(s) in question.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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So Many Choices Posted: 6/4/2006 10:06:14 AM
When dealing with the responsibilities of home, hearth and necessities of life I usually have some sort of plan working (if only this bill is due now, that one next week). In my lifestyle, however, I just go with the flow. Although here lately it seems to be a bit sluggish, I'm hoping for a somewhat swifter current in the future. Aimless drifting is beginning to bore me

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Does Anyone ELSE Feel A Bit Inhibited by the fact that our Forum Posts are shown on our profiles? Posted: 6/3/2006 9:56:55 PM
Half the people on my favorites list are there because I like to keep track of their posts. They are either insightful, delightfully sarcastic, witty, humorous or all of the above.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Thought of the day about relationships Posted: 6/3/2006 7:31:04 PM
It's been showing up on some of the newer threads. People can...er.....vote on whether or not the thread (in their opinion) abides by the posting rules and whether or not it should be deleted.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Thought of the day about relationships Posted: 6/3/2006 7:03:51 PM
Who knows how the "powers that be" think Shell. I love the thread, it's nice seeing something positive.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Dolls on the Horizon? Posted: 6/3/2006 4:10:25 PM
$100,000 for a doll??? Nah, even if I had that much to just toss away, I can think of better things I want/need.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Thought of the day about relationships Posted: 6/3/2006 3:20:46 PM
Now that's pretty awesome Sue

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent? Posted: 5/27/2006 8:10:21 PM
I took care of my mother and the women I talked to online when they found out they just stoped talking to me. What are your thoughts on this? I'll bet the didn't share their crayons in kindergarten either. That you were even willing to take care of a parent shows what a caring person you are. Seems a case of total selfishness or foolishness on their part.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Act Your Age?? What the heck does that mean??? Posted: 5/25/2006 5:30:50 PM
I just realized something, we are acting our ages. Those other people are just cranky because we aren't acting their perception of our ages. Nor are we acting their age.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Act Your Age?? What the heck does that mean??? Posted: 5/25/2006 3:13:32 AM
Too old for heavy metal, too old for rock, too old to talk about sex, too old for long hair, too old for this and too old for that. I don't think so. I always ask 'em to define old. That green thing in the back of the fridge???? Now that's too old. Me?? I'm neither green, nor do I hang out in refrigerators. I might hang out in a pool hall, preferably one that has no country on the juke box. Yes, I garden and do various needlework, but I did those things at 20, so I don't consider them "old" just hobbies I've had for a long time. Too old.......sheesh, people need their own lives so they can stay out of mine.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Has your taste in men/women changed? Posted: 5/24/2006 7:29:25 PM
My tastes haven't really changed. I've always paid more attention to what the person was about rather than how he looked and since I was widowed, not divorced, I guess I don't really avoid any one particular type. Well, maybe the bossy, I know it all and you don't type. But then I avoid that type regardless of the person's gender. For the rest, I look for similar ethics and attitudes (not too similar though, otherwise there would be nothing to "make up" from).

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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do people turn to the same sex more after reaching 40? Posted: 5/21/2006 4:28:16 PM
Oh, and just because I'm in my 40's I don't see me switching from sausages to tacos. Nor have any of my friends switched either. Must be something in the water where you are OP.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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do people turn to the same sex more after reaching 40? Posted: 5/21/2006 4:25:02 PM
Hmmmmm......^^^^^HeeHaw Fan????

Lynlin1957

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T (Aretha style!) Posted: 5/20/2006 5:44:37 PM
Maybe it's just me, but I think respect has to be earned to be given. I treat everyone I meet with respect unless (or until) they give me a reason to treat them differently. That being said; I love me, my family and friends love me and my [insert diety of choice here] loves me. So. for the rest of the world.....your loss, not mine.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Why it's great being single.... Posted: 5/19/2006 5:57:00 PM
Relationships requre that a person give up himself/herself and become what ever the SO wants them to be. While a relationship requires compromise, I don't understand why one would require another to submerge his/her sense of self. I never did (require it or do it). Nor can I blame anyone for getting out of a relationship that involved losing their "sense of self." Horrid thought, makes me claustrophobic thinking about it. That being said, the greatest thing about being single is keeping my own schedule without having to compromise with someone else.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Women that wear too much makeup at our age.... Posted: 5/15/2006 6:08:00 PM
Amen, Maggie you've a wonderful way with words. All I can do is agree hmmmm...A standing ovation emote would be nice

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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does it matter Posted: 5/13/2006 7:14:16 PM
One person's kink would be another's norm, your "I can't believe you'd do that!", his "Ohhhh, now that sound's interesting." and hers "Ewwwwww, that's the nastiest thing I've ever heard of." It all boils down to, how open-minded or adventurous you are. Disclaimer: All pronouns were used only to keep the "another's" to a minimum. They refer to no specific person

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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are u too picky? Posted: 5/13/2006 4:45:52 PM
1.You call that a flaw? I'd consider it a flaw if this man was recently deceased or jailed. Bald is no problem! Works for me. Now that "daughter" thing, that's just scary. I'd have to run from that one too

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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I know I will get blasted for this but... Posted: 5/13/2006 4:40:35 PM
I think we should let the next man who complains about women who don't wear dresses - don a bra, girdle, dress, panty hose, and high heels for a week and then come back to us with his findings regarding suitability and comfort of this attire. Too funny Whispers I wear dresses, hose and heels when appropriate. Work, however, requires slacks and very comfortable shoes. I have never, and neither has my Mom, worn a dress, heels and stockings (a la My Little Margie and Father Knows Best) while doing housework. Nor did I "dress up" to take my girls to ball practice, the park or to other places of that nature. Women did dress and act differently 40 years ago, but the norms of society were so very different. Women knew their place, and if they didn't some man would be sure to put them back where they "belonged." Personally, all thoughts of dress aside, I don't really want to return to the "good old days." At least not some aspects of 'em.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Who wants to live forever? Posted: 5/13/2006 6:51:38 AM
After my post, as I was getting ready for work, I remembered a couple of SF stories I had read. Both had societies in which death (physical death) had been defeated. Yet, the societies themselves were dead as there were no new ideas, no birth and nothing to "live for." I remember thinking at the time "I would rather die than become such as they." If we do away with death, will we not also have to do away with birth? Once that happens will we not become static and unchanging yet constantly searching for something that will make us grow? Horrid thought, I wouldn't wish such and existence on my worst enemy.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Who wants to live forever? Posted: 5/13/2006 6:34:17 AM
I think one would become jaded and overly cynical if one could "live forever." A good, long life is a wonderful thing, but after a certain age, what would be the point? I would like to see a world wide upswing in "quality of life" and a definite downswing in greedy, power-mad despots, but I'm not holding my breath as that would defeat the purpose Besides, I'm too tall to be a Smurf.

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Doggie Bait? Posted: 5/12/2006 7:04:43 PM
It may also depend on the breed of dog. Ours is house trained and crate trained but not very leash trained. He's also more elephant than dog. I don't walk him, he walks me

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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Experience ... Posted: 5/11/2006 4:51:24 PM
Dating too soon, and dating the wrong person after I was widowed. Now it's not "too soon" anymore and I'm not dating. Go figure

Lynlin1957

Joined: 2/21/2006

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What age would you be?? If you did not know what age you are?? Posted: 5/11/2006 4:25:47 PM
Me - I would be totally ageless. I don't feel as old as my birth certificate says I am, some days I feel much older than the sand BUT most days I don't even remember what age I am That sounds about right. Although, I do like claiming 29, since I feel that age is "old enough to know better, old enough to do it anyway" Lynn (who had been 29 for the last 19 years)

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