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LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Just re-vamped my profile. Would appreciate comments please. Posted: 11/24/2009 11:48:04 AM
I like it, ya did good! Dog photo isn't necessary, but probably won't hurt. Great main profile pic. Should be an example for others. Look - he is attractive and looks happy when he smiles! Yay! You'll do fine, but good luck anyway

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Hows my profile? Posted: 11/24/2009 11:45:24 AM
You're not making much effort, and not getting results. So try harder. And no shirtless photos, wait to impress the ladies with your shirtless self - later in the relationship. You work, you go outside, you have a family. So does everyone else! Advertise yourself, read the profile writing tips - at least the main photo is pretty good- kudos! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Little help please Posted: 11/24/2009 11:42:32 AM
I like it, the second picture isn't really necessary but other than that I like what you say and your pics are good. AND...I'm so tired of guys who say "I'm funny" when nothing in their profile indicates that might be true. You sound like you'd be fun to hang out with and meet, and that's fantastic. Reach out to women nearby, email more than once, stick with it...I think you'll do fine. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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been on here a while but not meets yet? Posted: 11/24/2009 11:38:49 AM
Post better pictures, talk more about why you're looking here and what for. Your description sounds like a zillion other guys. However, you are having contact, just no one serious enough to meet you yet. Perhaps you should converse by email longer before meeting - or what for the woman to suggest it - that way you know she's ready. It's just vague, would be my overall impression. Nothing really BAD about it. And don't get into back-and-forths with the male reviewers, it's a waste of everyone's time. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Updated profile...please review! Posted: 11/23/2009 4:58:27 PM
Too long, too complicated. Don't tell us everything, just catch our interest. And you make the first moves, dont' wait around for emails. This is a preview - not an epic - or should be (to use some movie lingo)! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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I must need some help Posted: 11/23/2009 4:55:43 PM
Lose the bathroom pictures. Make your main pic one where you are smiling - that makes you look happy - which makes you seem approachable. Don't post pictures of your car, motorcycle, house or kids. You. Just you. A full body shot (or waist up) flattering picture of...you. And no negatives in the text, read the profile writing tips - they're great. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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What could I be doing different? Posted: 11/23/2009 4:52:23 PM
Post only recent flattering pictures of only you. Spell check, which actually won't catch an error like "high heals", that you have to fix yourself. This site is for meeting people, so just give enough info to catch someone's interest. You should look at reviewer's profiles and see if they do what they say you should do! For example, mine is brief and truthful, and I do tend to hear from nice guys. It works for me. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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review my profile please Posted: 11/23/2009 4:23:09 PM
You're not really trying, so you're not really getting results. If you're serious about changing this then do the following: Read the profile tips for guys, spell correctly, post a current picture of yourself smiling. Since you say you want a family, don't put "undecided" about kids. And don't wait to be approached, make the first moves towards women nearby in your age range. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Help an old coffin dodger? Posted: 11/21/2009 7:30:48 PM
Usually don't check back on these but in this case - I'm glad I did. First - I'm all over the photos on every review I do. Blurry, in disguise, with kids, pets, cars, can't see your whole face - I just dont' get why people use those. Like it or not, it's internet dating and the photos matter. I only point out that profiles are long when they ARE - male or female writers - some are just too much information. If you want to give a lot of info here that's fine, it's your choice, I'm not trying to insult the guys' attention spans. I just think the profiles are for attracting attention - not telling us everything about yourself you can possible think of. Coffin dodger - look at the profiles of your reviewers, decide what you like and don't like, apply new knowledge to your own info. And do initiate contact with the guys, they usually love it. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Reviews wanted. Posted: 11/21/2009 7:21:07 PM
This is not atypical for guys; your profile and pics are all about what you do - not about who you are. Pics say: I drink, skydive, wear Hawaiian shirts (- just kidding a little) not necessarily in that order. Who are you? What are you looking for? Why? And if you're really interested in someone here, email her twice. Can't hurt. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile review please and honest feedback (mostly) appreciated Posted: 11/21/2009 7:16:26 PM
You sound like fun, I'd think a guy would like your profile. If your son is over 18, why mention him at all? I only say that because if someone thinks you have a kid at home they may not want to get serious with you and do the step parent thing. No one should be making that particular judgement here, but they might be doing so anyway. I'm a single parent too, I think we're all fantastic, it's just the only thing about your profile that might make a guy go "so, is the little gentleman still at home - or not?". Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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could use a little bit of a review... Posted: 11/21/2009 7:10:15 PM
You don't remember swing dancing? Why - because you drink too much? That's what I thought when I read it. And I'm a photo fanatic - yours look like they're of 3 different guys. Take the previous advice and lose the one with the girl. And the goofy one with the motorcycle. And the one with your shirt off - those aren't allowed. Take this just a little tiny bit more seriously and it might actually work for you. And guess what - everyone likes to laugh. So many people say this - it just doesn't mean anything. What are you looking for and why? Tell us! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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help with it.. Posted: 11/21/2009 7:04:55 PM
You're a pro-level photographer? Then how about posting a photo of yourself smiling with no glasses or head gear. Can't hurt. And everything else seems fine... Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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I don't understand this at all, help please! Posted: 11/21/2009 7:02:18 PM
Lose the party pictures, narrow your age range, keep emailing ladies nearby. You do come off as a big kid, but maybe you are a big kid and the right lady hasn't seen your profile yet. Your main pic is great, you're a nice looking guy. Maybe email a girl more than once (no whining about no response the first time). No, not a hundred times, but I dont' see how twice could hurt and then she knows you're interested. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Could you look my Profile over Please. Posted: 11/21/2009 6:58:02 PM
It's too long and lose the pictures of your shoes. Guys post pictures of their cars and speedboats, now you're posting pictures of soup and shoes. Jeez. Read the profile tips, lose the negatives and email guys nearby don't sit around waiting. Be brief, be clear, be positive. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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changed profile does it need more changes? Posted: 11/21/2009 6:54:33 PM
I'm not going to look at the profile, because it's already obvious your main picture is terrible. It's dark but just light enough so we can see you look miserable. Why do men think these mug shots are attractive? For all I know you're a perfectly nice looking young man. But I can't tell from the photo. When you don't put any effort into the first thing anyone sees, readers wont' put any effort into reading the information.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Why do men want to see revealing pics right away? Posted: 11/21/2009 6:43:13 PM
Well I've never had anyone ask me for revealing pics and if someone did I'd just ignore them. Have you had your profile reviewed? If so, take the advice. If not, take some now. Don't ask men to spell correctly and then fail to do so yourself. Lose the whole "over you already" comment - for some reason no one is attracted to negativity. I'm gonna guess the guys aren't into creative eye shadow either - and that pictures of you smiling might work better. Good luck - and keep your shirt on!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Newly Single- Want to start right... Posted: 11/21/2009 11:52:37 AM
I'm going to do this gently, I hope. In your main pic, which is a bit blurry, your hair is messy and your skin looks uneven. Since YOU are actually a nice looking woman with a great smile - I think you could look better with a bit more effort and post a better picture. Brush your hair, use a nice foundation, a bright lip color and that great smile - it's what I would suggest if I were taking a picture of you, for you, for this purpose. Have someone take at least 10 in natural light and pick the best,that's how I got mine - one of the few pictures of me I really like. And I think you could me more specific about what you want and why. You're being very general, which is much better than coming off as incredibly picky, but if that were working - you wouldn't be asking for help. Good luck!!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Help an old coffin dodger? Posted: 11/21/2009 11:42:45 AM
The thumbnail version of your main pic is great. The actual photo - a bit much. Same can be said for the rest. It's too much info too soon. You're only too old for something if you say so, which you do, which I don't get. Lose the blurry picture post a nice (dressed, standing up, not in bed) picture. And edit. A lot. Keep it brief and intereting, I'm sure attention spans on the UK guys are no longer than those of the Americans. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Here you go... Posted: 11/21/2009 11:36:25 AM
Congrats, it's the most pointless profile I've ever read and is pretty much guaranteed to get you zero results. Everything about it, from your name to the date section, says "run, run away fast". But you don't care, because you're not really trying, which you told us, so you won't be disappointed when this doesn't result in some fantastic woman digging past all this crap to get to the grand prize which is.... you. Jeez, I feel lousy for even wasting my time on this. Fellow reviewers, have at it!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 11/21/2009 11:28:57 AM
Lose all the pictures. Dont' take advice about pictures from guys who are shirtless, or wearing helmets and bleeding (!) ( Majic what are you thinking! He usually makes a lot of sense) or hats and sunglasses in their pictures. Read the profile tips. Be positive, we're not here to cheer you up or fix you or drag you out of your cave (or off the sofa). You say very little, about the very little you do. Why are you here? What are you looking for? Why? Give us something to catch our interest, since the photos will not.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Need opinions/advice/review Posted: 11/21/2009 11:25:13 AM
and one other suggestion - surprises on first dates - I find that scary. Save those for when you know someone well, not when they most need to feel secure and safe - like when meeting a new man for the first few times.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Need opinions/advice/review Posted: 11/21/2009 11:22:27 AM
Which of these pictures is a current picture of YOU? And why the "big bad wolf"? And frankly, people who tell me that they have a great sense of humor, and I'm required to endure it, turn me off. If you're funny (which takes many forms, sarcasm and humor at the expense of others being the lowest form) I'll figure that out soon enough, and I'll laugh. Until then - there's just nothing funny or humorous about what you've written here so you've created an uphill battle for yourself. I'll let other reviewers deal with the rest, although I find posters here who say "be brutal" are usually the most defensive of the bunch.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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profile Review - Just for the fun of it Posted: 11/21/2009 11:15:18 AM
Nice photos anyway.Tip 1: The first paragraph is a total turnoff and by that I mean most people (reviewers and men too) won't get past it. We don't need to know how reluctant you are to try this. We'll read the entire profile if it's brief, interesting and positive. Read the profile writing tips at the top of this forum's threads. Tip 2. The all caps section at the bottom? Lose it too. Tip 3. Look, it's the internet. You're just supposed to MEET people this way. When you meet people in real life do you hand them a cutesy picture of yourself and a list of your disclaimers ("too good for this") rules and expectations? If not, don't do so here. If so, good luck - here and elsewhere. Prepare for inundation. You've posted attractive pictures of yourself, you will get emails. I predict most of them you won't respond to, since most of them won't read the lengthy profile and know how picky you plan on being. And listen to Lion of Ireland, if he returns here to help you out. He always has great comments on profile reviews.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Hi...can some people review my profile...thnx!! Posted: 11/19/2009 2:29:40 PM
Read the profile writing tips forum, lose the pic with the sunglasses and the one with the girl. We dont' read the captions. Even the headshot is bad - you're not smiling. All we have to go on is the pictures, if you won't make that much effort this simply won't work for you.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Anyone dare to care? Please share. Posted: 11/19/2009 2:20:08 PM
well, apparently you'll do almost anything - except take good advice. Good luck, you've made this more difficult than it needs to be.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile review Posted: 11/19/2009 2:16:54 PM
Change the main profile pic (to the second smiling one) this takes 2 seconds, no one is attracted to the overdark, nonsmiling ones taken in mirrors with cameras included! You're not giving yourself a chance here. In person someone is attracted to you, your expression, your eyes - at first. Works here too, if you work it!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Ok...go! Posted: 11/19/2009 2:13:18 PM
Read the profile writing tips forum, and then get rid of these photographs. Sprawled on your bed? Please, no. Smile, look friendly, post a good main profile pic and one decent full body shot (shirt on, or it will get deleted). I'll let others here tackle the text and content, my thing is photos!! Good luck, and make the changes asap.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Ladies, your opinion please Posted: 11/18/2009 3:04:04 PM
Use the second picture, it's more clear - IF the facial hair is current. If not - lose it. 18-36? Too wide a range. I like the humor, but it might be too much for some. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Scaring the fish away? Posted: 11/18/2009 3:01:47 PM
Well...all we have to go on here is the info you provide. Pyrofun? Hmmm. Spell correctly, and whatever is going on with your "first email"- fix it or you're just wasting people's time. Your picture is GREAT, but the second one is not needed. Women are here to date, not hang out, I really think that's true even in your age range. I'm sure you'll hear from the younger women here too. This is a great way to meet people if you take it for what it is and put some effort in. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Ladies what's wrong with my profile?? honest reviews please Posted: 11/18/2009 2:57:05 PM
It appears you've taken no advice. No spell check, no better pictures, no editing of negative stuff. One bright point - this apparently who you are. One reality check - this isn't attracting the ladies. You have more to work on than a profile, and being defensive when people take the time to give you good advice won't work either.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Ok give it to me... Posted: 11/18/2009 2:51:44 PM
I looked at the "I'm a smartass" main pic, read the first sentence, and bailed. Start over, be positive, read the tips, take the advice. Or, waste some more of your time. This can work if you give it a chance and present yourself well. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile review Posted: 11/18/2009 2:49:14 PM
You're giving the ladies a lot to get past. It's negative, and you're not using your best photo or putting your best foot forward. Lighten up. And it sounds like you're waiting for the ladies to contact you. Doesn't happen, you have to get things started. If you want this to work, try harder - as in all things your effort matters! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Opinions Wanted Posted: 11/16/2009 4:41:40 PM
Get rid of all pics that arent' of you alone. No kids. No shirtless (not allowed). No girls/drinking buddies/goofy faces. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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OK, I've had a read and an edit... Posted: 11/16/2009 4:39:49 PM
It seems ok, I would lose the vampire pic, why post it and then say "I'm not scary"? Pretty minor comment, but hey. I even think vampires are a bit sexy, and I still don't like the pic! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Its that time Posted: 11/16/2009 4:36:29 PM
I like it. It's funny without being goofy. I think you'll do fine.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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It's still not working Posted: 11/16/2009 4:32:19 PM
Just that you can't tell who you'll be physically attracted to without meeting them in person. I mean I have my "no way" moments too, but be careful with that one. You have to be persistent, not a pest, but persistent. If someone really interests you and is nearby - email her more than once. DO the chemistry tests, see who is recommended to you, follow up on those.

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Any help would be appreciated Posted: 11/16/2009 4:27:47 PM
I'm going to be a bit of the scairdy-cat chick here and say - I would never drink with anyone, and then get on a motorcycle or in a car with him. Just sayin. And it's nice you love kids, but you could be more clear on whether you want any of your own or not. And just cause it bugs me - I saw a profile here the other day,some 48 year old wants a woman that has no kids of her own and has never been married. Apparently, he's now ready to be a dad. Give me a break. We know when we're too old to have kids. Men should too. Anyway, good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile review Posted: 11/16/2009 4:23:54 PM
Well, the main pic is a bit blurry, and you say you're just looking for friends, but I'll bet you get attention despite these things (if a guy did this it would cause him problems, I think). You could always make it a bit longer, I suppose - talk about what you're looking for and why. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile review please - am I ready for prime time? Posted: 11/12/2009 4:41:10 PM
You sound funny, smart and thoughtful. Use the last pic of you smiling as your main one, and reach out to women in your age group and nearby. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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It's still not working Posted: 11/12/2009 4:38:59 PM
You've had a lot of good advice, so I'll be brief. Don't post pictures of your motorcycle (truck, Mustang or Corvette or any other boy toy). Don't post pictures of your kids (ever - no good reason to, lots of good reasons not to). You talk a lot about what you like to do on your own, but other than a few things that might be date "material" in your interests, you don't say anything about what you need a woman along for. Other than to be friends which is...not what we're here for. Why do you want to date? Do you love to dance and want a partner? (Dear God if that's true definitely say so). Do you miss having someone to talk to? Travel with? Enjoy camping with (or whatever)? Make some changes and keep trying. Just like in real life. Keep the mustache, or lose it, I think women are either neutral or negative about them - I think all facial hair makes men look older, just my own take on it. GOod luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Open to suggestions Posted: 11/12/2009 4:27:21 PM
Lose the group shots with the girls, captions don't matter. Why do guys post these? If you were great at dating those ladies, you wouldn't be here. If they're your sisters, or whatever, why are you using those pictures? Everyone else has gone line to line so I'll let the text go. 3 good pictures of you. Period. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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please help with a profile review? Posted: 11/12/2009 4:24:26 PM
How is "pretending to be a baller" working with attracting the ladies? You just want a buddy, apparently, and you'd like this new buddy to be the first to start contact. Wow. At least the main pic is clever! You're not being serious about this, and so no one is taking you seriously. Just a guess. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile Review-PLEASE PLEASE? Posted: 11/12/2009 4:21:42 PM
Well the main pic isn't flattering, and I never understand why people post group shots. It's very brief, but at least it's funny. Just be straight on what you're looking for right now, which should just be dating, and don't elaborate on your current status or how you got there. IF you try harder (meaning better pics, elaborate on what you want right now) you'll get better results because women will get it that you're serious about this. Oh - and the age range? Too wide. If you think a 25 year old is as right for you as a 40 year old, you havent' thought about this enough! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Help this profile not be boring! Posted: 11/12/2009 4:15:58 PM
I don't think boring is the issue here. The pictures aren't good, especially the main one. What you do have in the text is brief, and negative. Nobody's perfect, as you say. Neither are you. You don't really expect this to challenge women to write you more interesting emails, right? Frankly if you're expecting them to make first contact at all - you are totally off base. And single moms are not the sole source of drama while dating, believe me. I think most people with kids here are pretty upfront, heck we can't keep them from posting pics of their kids - which is so inappropriated. You'll find this out at the absolute latest on the first date. So. Change the pics, don't be negative, make first contacts. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile to long Posted: 11/10/2009 3:04:55 PM
It is too long, half the pictures are unnecessary, if what you want is a drinking pub buddy you would have found one - in a pub - already. Come up with another first date. Coffee, then a walk, then a meal. Anything. Be serious or don't expect to be taken seriously and absolutely do not expect to be chased - you must initiate contact, here same as "real life". Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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I think I might be long winded Posted: 11/10/2009 3:00:42 PM
Just glanced at it, several comments. Too long. Lose the goofy/scary/too far away pics. Save all those expressions for meeting in life. Main pic - great. And, 18 to 30? Really? I'm way out of that range and fine with not being in everyone's but if I were your age I'd wonder why you're still into teenagers. Just a detail, but all we have to go on is what you provide here. You're nice looking and seem interesting. Save something for the first date (and second), and make sure you reach out to women nearby - don't wait to be chased. Good luck1

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Profile reviews plz Posted: 11/10/2009 2:57:06 PM
Seems like the other posters here have it covered, but a pet peeve of mine - group pictures, dark ones, and ones where we can see the camera. If you're a photographer, and writer, there's no proof of either in your profile. And my main point - do NOT wait for women to contact you or make you a favorite. You must show some initiative by making first contacts, here as in "real life". All we have to go on when we do see your profile is your pics, and what you write - make sure you represent yourself well. And by that I mean better than this. Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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c'mon, give it to me!! Posted: 11/10/2009 2:52:08 PM
As long as Miss Right is a party animal, this is fine. If you want something a bit more serious, then make this a bit more serious! Good luck!

LSBF

Joined: 6/21/2009

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Would appreciate any help - Please Review Posted: 11/10/2009 2:49:01 PM
You're not making much effort here, or getting results apparently. Post the last pic of yourself as your main profile pic, it would be better if you were smiling but at least we can see your face clearly in that one. I really don't know why so many people post group shots here, they're just not helpful other than showing us you have friends! Good luck!

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