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Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

Msg: 61 (view)

told myself I would never do it Posted: 11/23/2009 6:21:50 PM
colt[[[basically my friends never know who I'm dating, I'm not into the social "circle" thing it leads to problems, such as being nosey or gossip, like you probably do in your "circle".]]] If you can't trust your SO, and your male friends around each other...maybe pick new ones on both levels. So, if I know his friends, I must be a nosy gossip?

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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How do YOU stop loving someone Posted: 11/23/2009 4:13:34 PM
Pirate [[[Almost 18 years later and she's on my Facebook friends list and we even chat once in a while. ]]] After all those years i can understand that. I recently went through a break up, and in my anger, the first thing I did, was de- friend him from my list. As soon as I hit the remove button, I regretted it. I was thinking, "Oh no! Now, I can't see what he's doing, saying," etc. and the only way I could get him back on my list would be to send him a friend request. Well, that's not going to happen ( pride can be a good thing)...so it turned out to be the best rash decision I ever made. Because it really was the only way I would know anything.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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How do YOU stop loving someone Posted: 11/23/2009 2:06:01 PM
In the beginning, I think it is best to focus on the negative things that happened. It's hard to move on, when you are thinking about the good times, since those are what you are missing at the time of the break up. It's hard, OP. It takes time. Certain factors can make it take longer, such as in cases of divorce, and kids are involved. That forces the parents to continue communicating, which is tough.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Are there some men who really DON'T like women but need their sexual needs met? Posted: 11/23/2009 2:00:09 PM
I think HATE is a pretty strong word. There are alot of men who sleep with women, as if eachone is just a random piece of ass. But that is not hate..it's disrespect, callous, indifferent, etc. I'm not willing to say they actually HATE us.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Finding relief in reading the forums. Posted: 11/23/2009 1:55:21 PM
I like the honesty here, that is often held back in real life. Even if someone is being stupid.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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told myself I would never do it Posted: 11/23/2009 1:50:21 PM
colt [[[[I just find it funny that you are actually justifying, why you slept with your boys wife, this is why I keep my women estranged from friends period.]]]] WHOA...this response caught my attention, more than what the OP said. Do you keep her locked in the closet?

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Cheating Posted: 11/22/2009 7:34:16 PM
Regarding the technology: It can be easier to cheat with the technology available...unless your SO has an iphone. I don't think watching porn or going to strip clubs is cheating...but I do think they are both things that can ruin a relationship.If someone gets more enjoyment out of those things, than being with the person they are in the relationship with, hmmm....not good. I wouldn't stay with a cheater. Too many reasons to mention. The biggest would be self respect.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

Msg: 198 (view)

Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/22/2009 10:59:54 AM
I don't believe in soulmates, but I believe that it can feel that way. And I'm an idealist.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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He is not in to me or dont want anything serious??? Posted: 11/22/2009 10:56:56 AM
Cheryl [[[He's Just Not That Into You - Read the book. ]]]] I would marry Greg Bernhardt ( the author) in a minute, if he wasn't already taken. I adore him.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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pic on first date Posted: 11/22/2009 10:54:02 AM
I think it's noce to ask the person, no matter how many dates you have been on. First or hundredth. It's just common courtesy. I may not want ANYONE taking my picture at certain times, even someone I know real well. It reminds me of when I was walking through Macy's and a woman selling perfume sprayed me with it, without asking me if I wanted to try it first, like they usually do. I felt like I had been assaulted.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Married woman becoming pregnant as the result of rape - does husband stay or leave Posted: 11/21/2009 3:36:08 AM
It's more difficult for the husband to accept this baby, if he sees his wife unable to accept it. You said she is having trouble, because of who the baby looks like. I think if she can get the help she needs, and love this baby without having this problem, it would help him get over it too. Just my thoughts. I have known women who had babys from rape, and loved the child, with no problem. In the case I knew of...the women were not married at the time of the rape, though. I hope this couple can get over it...or else give the child up for adoption. Otherwise, this poor kid is going to be rejected on an emotional level, twice! I feel bad for this child.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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strange signs?! Posted: 11/21/2009 3:27:50 AM
When some is into someone...they will never be too busy, to at least call you. The sooner everyone gets that through their head, the better.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/20/2009 6:48:33 PM
central [[[[win. You wore me out.]]]] I'm glad I could do that somewhere tonight. Happy Friday! This one's on me.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Would a person who suffered a brain injury be a turn off for you? Posted: 11/20/2009 5:08:33 PM
Mr. Travis...it was supposed to be more on the self depreciating side, than a gender basher. But o.k, since you asked for a serious answer: I think I can actually handle something like this, if this condition does not efffect his ability to act with loving actions. If just saying things is the problem, then I can deal with it. You never know till you are in the situation, if it will work. I guess I am saying I would be willing to try it, and go from there. It wouldn't turn me off, but other things would play a key role here. Is that better?

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/20/2009 5:02:49 PM
Central...I don't think being more attentive to your date as compared to the butcher, baker, candlestick maker, is not being yourself.Whoever you spend more of your time with, is going to see more of the good and bad parts of you.The first date I go on with you (speaking in general terms) is not going to show you my faulty side, because there most likely will not be any reason to tap into that side of me. But I am still beingmyself, because the usual me is still what you are looking at. Now, if I was a moody, cantankerous **** most of the time...and was sweet as pie on our date, then I am not being myself. I would think you would rather know the moody me right off the bat, if it was my usual self. Does that make any sense?

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Would a person who suffered a brain injury be a turn off for you? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:53:47 PM
It's the story of my life. I didn't know there was a name for the men I date.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Love and being in love Posted: 11/20/2009 4:53:23 AM
Love is a decision. Often one of sacrifice. It's about what you are giving. Sometimes to love someone, is to put someone elses needs before your own, for a time being. Being in love, is self centered. (which is not a bad thing) it's about what you are getting. Either way, the word "falling" needs to go. JMO

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/19/2009 11:17:24 AM
There are pros and cons to both sides...having someone, and not having someone. The pro is that I agree it is better to have that special someone when certain life changing events, (both good and bad) are occurring. There is also something to be said for not having anyone to answer to, or the fancy free decisions we could make all by ourselves. And not having someone is a bummer, when horniness sets in. shrudge Just being honest.

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/19/2009 5:59:42 AM
onmyown [[[[Anyone want to borrow my hand mirror and have a look down there to see if you are sporting balls ... ahhhh for those who don't and wish they did I know where you can borrow a pair. ]]]]] I'd like to try a pair, just for a day. Balls, Balls said the queen...........

Yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Why do men seem distant? Posted: 11/18/2009 7:30:11 PM
Serenity Sam [[[It might be better not to expect from men what you get feeling wise and emotionally you can expect to get from a women, men are just conditioned differently. ]]] This why I wish I had the guts to turn lesbian.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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2nd chance... yes or no Posted: 11/18/2009 6:35:10 PM
I'm not a believer in recycling relationships. Once a ship has sailed, let it keep sailing. And you keep fishing. A better one is out there 4 u.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

Msg: 86 (view)

honest answer... Posted: 11/18/2009 6:32:59 PM
I would say you are asking us a question that needs to be directed to your FWB. Only he can answer that one.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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If you could change one day in your past, what... Posted: 11/17/2009 7:07:33 PM
Barby, if that's the worst thing you have done as a mother....you are waaay to hard on yourself. I guess I don't need to ask where you stand on spanking? lol

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Emails with EX Posted: 11/17/2009 6:48:14 PM
I don't see the point in frequent visits from an ex, unless there have been kids born between them. People who have carnal knowledge of each other, can easily go back to that level of closeness. I realize this is not always the case...but when you are in a new relationship, I just don't see why your ex needs to be anywhere around. Maybe after the new relationship has been established, and is on solid ground. That could work.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:32:00 PM
Central...let me re phrase it. If you are a selfish jerk, don't pretend not to be, even for a minute. If you are not, then just be yourself. Of course this pertains to the way you behave. For the record, I wear very little make up, and have been known to skip it altogether.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Are tall men more likely to cheat? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:25:35 PM
Well if I'm going to answer it, I would have to say short men will cheat quicker. It deppends how short he is. If a womans boobs are always at his eye level, how can we expect the poor **stard not to cheat? Like that answer better, Vanilli?

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Are tall men more likely to cheat? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:11:23 PM
What a retarded thread this one is.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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You're 'not ready for a relationship'? What does that mean? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:08:16 PM
browneyesboo[[[The longer I look, the less I'm ready. Strange how that worked out. I was ready before.]]]] Ditto. And EL OH EL!

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/17/2009 6:04:56 PM
Yes, it is good advice, even if you are a selfish jerk. I want to know that up front. Please people, don't advise anyone to put their best foot forward.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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If you could change one day in your past, what... Posted: 11/17/2009 5:55:50 PM
-The last guy I dated. I knew the relationship was over. But the parting words on my part were all wrong. I wish I had said things differently, even though it still would have ended, but I would have left with my dignity.**sigh**Oh well..

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Complicated Girl Question Posted: 11/17/2009 5:33:59 PM
I hate texting. If any guy determines how I lie him, by how often I text him...we are going nowhere. But I do call. If she's not even calling you, then you may have a problem.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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How long does it take for you to get sick of people? Posted: 11/15/2009 11:28:45 PM
When I am in a relationship, I can't wait for the chance to talk to that person, during my breaks or whatever free time I can get. If I don't do this, then I have lost interest. I do see quality time as an imprtant factor in a relationship. I don't think that's clingy. Clingy is when the person says they are busy at the moment, and their SO doesn't respect that, and keeps calling.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Roses or chocolates? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:26:21 PM
Spunky, I know that book. I'm a quality time girl. Nothing tells me a guy loves me, more than when he makes time for me. But I wont turn down the truffles.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Is being nervous on a 1st date really a turn off? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:24:03 PM
If I am smitten with a guy at first meeting, there is a very good chance I will say something real stupid. I mean, dumb ass "what was I thinking" stupid.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:16:29 PM
Too much, too soon. It's starting a relationship in the middle, instead of the beginning. JMO

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Roses or chocolates? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:08:10 PM
Chocolate...even partially eaten on your way over is o.k. Save me the darker ones, that's all. Roses are red, Violets are blue, allergic to flowers, they make me achooo O.k, so I'm not a poet. Just bring on the truffles.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/12/2009 5:59:51 PM
Greg what's his name also says that to women. He is the one who wrote the book "He's Just Not That Into You." He tells us women, that if a man is interested (into) you, he will call you. The only reason I am mentioning this, is because some of the men here , who want women to ask men out, are using Gregs book/movie to back up their positions on other topic matters. But they seem to forget that Greg is a big NO on the women calling men for dates thing. Just saying.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Living expenses and pride.. Posted: 11/12/2009 5:39:38 PM
I'm feeling bad for the kids in this situation, on so many levels. OP...nothing should be more important to you than your children, and their upbringing. Think about how this can have an effect on THEM. What are you teaching them, as they witness this arrangement? And folks, this is an example of why I am sometimes in support of marrieds staying together for the sake of the kids. Divorce doesn't always improve things does it?

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Engagement rings for men? Posted: 11/12/2009 5:20:24 PM
I don't see any problem with both having engagement rings. The reason this wont fly, is simply because women like jewelry and most men could care less about jewelry. Her engagement ring is just the beginning of what will be a lifetime of investments. Men like toys, women like other stuff. Like the others here have mentioned, the guys would rather have a noise making, smoke blowing toy anyday, over jewelry. Women have tons of shoes, and purses...men have more noisy toys. Women have cosmetics and perfume, and clothes...men have more fast moving toys...and the beat goes on.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Engagement rings for men? Posted: 11/12/2009 5:01:37 PM
Justnotthatintoyou....LOL! And love the username you chose.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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One for the widows/widowers Posted: 11/12/2009 4:58:09 PM
Thanks CaptainDad. And it was good to read the rest of this thread. Sounds lile everyone is doing pretty well, all things considered.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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One for the widows/widowers Posted: 11/12/2009 3:04:07 PM
It has been 15 months since I lost my husband. I did attend a grief share group, which was a 10 week class. I took the class twice, because the first time, I was in so much shock, I didn't absorb hardly anything. It helped me so much. I made some wonderful friends. I have since been asked to be a facilitator, and am having trouble withthis. I want to move forward, but at the same time, it is selfish of me to not want to do it. I say that because what if nobody wanted to be there for me, when I needed it? So, I feel it is a way I can give back. But I don't feel I could do it, over and over again, like some widows can. As for dating, I feel I am ready to move on with my life. Holidays are still something I just don't get excited about. That is when I feel like an outsider, even with my own family, who I am very close to. Last year I was a complete drag. Grinches girlfriend, all the way. This year, I will try to be more like Cindy Lou.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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What's the difference between affectionate and clingy? Posted: 11/11/2009 1:59:56 PM
I am very affectionate, but I don't like PDA's from someone who wants to make out with me in public. To me, this is juvenile.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Could use a bit of advice. Posted: 11/11/2009 10:41:27 AM
OP, there is nothing like having a man that you never have to second guess as to whether he is into you or not. Relationships are complicated enough, without having to be unsure about this basic concept. Sorry it didn't work out. I always have a soft spot for someone being rejected, unless they are an idiot...which you are not.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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i wanna know what you think of this?? Posted: 11/11/2009 9:26:41 AM
Well, at least she didn't leave you for another woman. This is something you can actually compete with, if your desperate enough.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Texting while on a date Posted: 11/11/2009 5:48:58 AM
I hate texting in general. But on a date, there is simply no place for this. Only a complete clod is going to do this without knowing any better. The rest do know better, and don't care. Either way, it's a date gone bad.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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Men, tell me whats the attraction Posted: 11/11/2009 5:43:20 AM
Chitown[[[Men who seek out damaged women usually do so because they see them as emotionally vulnerable and thus easier to get into bed.]]]] Somehow I believe this. And it makes sense. When one person gets transparent with another, the chances of sex happening are only going to increase.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/11/2009 5:32:04 AM
Chances[[[We aren't suggesting something such as wrapping your arms around some guys ankle until he agrees to go out with you. Years ago it could mean something as subtle as dropping a hanky to bring attention to ones self. ]]]] Ah, I forgot about that. It's a classic. LOL!

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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How much is too much? Posted: 11/11/2009 5:27:55 AM
I've lost track of how many people here have been ditched by the Houdinis of the dating world. I think what makes this the worst is because it always seems to happen when things are going good, not bad. In other situations, we can see the breakup coming. But when you have been on what seemed to be a successful date...whether it is one or several dates, and nothing went wrong or bad, no horror story to tell of...yea, it can be a kick in the teeth to be dropped in this manner. I guess I sound like a broken record since this has been said on so many threads. OP, just try to learn something from this experience.

yew4ic

Joined: 6/22/2009

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My girl friend and I have been seeing eachother for 3 months now Posted: 11/11/2009 5:12:38 AM
OP....I know how sweet first love is. But how many people stay with that person? It just doesn't happen like that, except in the movies. She was your first love, but you both are young. You are going to go through this many more times. Isn't that a comforting thought? So sorry, but first love is almost NEVER the last.

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