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Joined: 6/23/2009

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Making assumptions about girls over 30 Posted: 7/4/2009 1:02:23 AM
I'm 35 and get asked all the time if I'm married or if I have kids. And people are surprised when I tell them I'm single. I do want a partner and children, but I'm not about to just marry someone because I'm getting older and my fertility is declining. If it's meant to be, it'll happen... My friends and I refer to each other as girls socially. I identify as a girl because I feel youthful, but I also am proud to be a woman. I have a great education and a professional job and have travelled the world and have done many things that make me proud to be me, and make me proud to be a woman. I find it interesting that you associate the term 'woman' with being old and saddled with responsibilities. I have so much respect and admiration for women who are 'old' (like my mother and other older women I look up to), and I only hope that I can grow into a woman like that. We live in a Peter Pan culture where youth and beauty is valued more than experience, wisdom and fortitude. I find that sad. I hate to break it to you, but you ARE a woman... personally, I find that to be a wonderful thing :)

Joined: 6/23/2009

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Most rejections stem from what is NOT in her profile... Posted: 6/30/2009 10:09:21 PM
Insanity: doing the same thing repeatedly in the same way and expecting different results. OP, you have a negative attitude towards women. You have to LIKE women if you want one of them to date you. It seems to me that you are blaming everyone else rather than yourself for your dating problems. It's not the fault of 1000 women that you've constantly been rejected. It's solely your fault. Work on your attitude, social skills and approach and you'll probably have more luck.

Joined: 6/23/2009

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To settle or not to settle? Posted: 6/30/2009 8:03:44 PM
Great comments. Lots of wisdom and ppl speaking from experience. This topic has been on my mind a lot lately. I have never been tempted to settle until I turned 35. I kept asking myself, 'Am I too picky? Is my ability to attract men declining as I age? Are there any guys left that are great matches for me? Do I have unrealistic expectations?' and I thought maybe I should settle for the great guy who loved me but who was so different from me in some very big lifestyle factors? Honestly, it was a bit tempting. But I want to be in love and have that be mutual, and I want to have compatible lifestyles. So I have decided to not settle and have faith that when the time is right I will meet a guy who will be a great match for me! However, I disagree with the notion that everyone settles. No one is perfect so it is unrealistic to expect perfection. But when you're in love with someone, you love that person despite their quirks. Or you love them for their quirks. If you're in love you feel like the luckiest girl alive. :) and THAT is not settling!

Joined: 6/23/2009

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Why am I always the friend? Posted: 6/28/2009 7:25:05 AM
I just skimmed the loooooong posts. 'short and to the point' should be a forum rule ;) Maybe you are so often just a friend to women because you: • act goofy. I have a guy friend who thinks he's being funny but he comes across as immature and silly. • don't know how to flirt in a sexy, teasing way. Watch the movie 'Alfie' and see how he constantly makes smiley, flirty eye contact. It's obvious he doesn't want to be some girl's buddy. • are a mama's boy. Just putting it out there. • Like to talk about relationship problems and personal woe. Date girls who have female friends. A woman who can't make female friends probably has problems with social skills (e.g. Paris Hilton). Tell a girl to talk to her girlfiends about that stuff because you are not a girl and can't relate. Then switch the topic to something that interests you.

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