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jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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obsessing over women a turn off? Posted: 11/19/2009 12:59:22 PM
Is obsession a turn off? Most definitely. It's one thing to adore someone (safely!), it's another thing to become obsessed. Obession can sometimes lead to violence and turn deadly. It can be a terrifying thing. I don't want that; I doubt very many women actually do. Luckily I've not had to deal with any of that in real life...hopefully never will. :-\

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Stretch marks Posted: 11/18/2009 5:45:04 PM
I have stretch marks around my hip area (the side of both hips) and underarms (both of them). I don't have many, but they're still there, nonetheless! Do I care? I used to when I first got them but certainly don't give a rat's butt anymore! I'm pretty sure I got them when I was 13-14 years old and went exercise crazy (losing roughly 35-40ish pounds in 2 months). Oh well, they're my markings and I love them! Haha. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Coincidences or Not? Posted: 11/18/2009 5:37:10 PM
Part of me believes "everything happens for a reason", while the skeptic part of me chalks it up to coincidence and nothing more. I'm certainly on the fence with this one! I'm just going to live life...with an open mind. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Obnoxious screennames Posted: 11/18/2009 5:31:23 PM
To be honest, I probably wouldn't reply because of your screen name. I'm not into "gangsta"s, firstly. And even if you're not a "gangsta", your name implies you either are or think you are. Secondly, anyone who thinks they're "gorgeous", "hot", "attractive", etc., and says so in their screen name--well, that's just lame. But hey, if being a "gorgeous gangsta" is your thing, don't let my opinion change that. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What do you think of a guy with an accent Posted: 11/3/2009 11:45:31 AM
I'm indifferent. A slight accent can be attractive, but I've actually been turned off by guys with various accents. shrug I walk a very fine line with my opinion on accents. I'm on the fence! :-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Safe dating in the internet age Posted: 11/3/2009 8:41:24 AM
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with Googling someone to find out if they're legit, or what their story is. Hell, I found out that this one guy whom I met online and had corresponded with via phone chats/instant messages for a few months was simultaneously saying the same fabricated lines to me as he was to about five or six other girls. Y'know, the contrived, "You're so beautiful, you're everything I'm looking for. I can see us lasting forever, we're perfect for each other", etc. etc. Feeding me the same BS as he was those other girls. And I almost fell for him. He was a very good actor. Luckily I called him out on it before I met him in person. Haven't heard from him since and don't want to, either. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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I don't get it ! Posted: 11/3/2009 8:29:21 AM
Although she wants to look good, yes, she also doesn't want to be treated as some piece of meat. "Ohh, you look scrumptious! Ohh, I could just eat you right up! drool" Compliments are nice, but there is such a thing as overdoing it. Repeatedly telling someone they're hot/gorgeous/beautiful can actually have the opposite effect. I know it definitely makes me roll my eyes if a guy says it too often. I can understand why she'd never want to see him again.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Non-Smoker, But No Must Not Smoke Posted: 11/1/2009 9:31:46 AM
I don't add any restrictions to my profile because I don't want to limit who can contact me. Some of us are not only here to date, but to make friends. Although I would prefer not to date a smoker, there is absolutely nothing stopping me from being friends with a person who smokes. In fact, I've befriended many people who smoke, or are married, or live farther than 75 miles, etc. I don't like restrictions. You never know who you're going to meet! :-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Official disclosure of alien life is here... Posted: 10/31/2009 3:01:18 PM
If the aliens require a volunteer, I'm fully willing to be abducted by them. In fact, I have been for a while. For whatever reason, they don't seem to want to take me to their leader. I just--I don't get it, man!! :-(

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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if a guy show you a true deep interest? Posted: 10/31/2009 8:33:09 AM
Persistence can (and often does) very quickly turn into annoyance. If I tell a guy I'm not interested, but he keeps pursuing (persisting), he often becomes increasingly annoying to me and usually that obliterates any positive feelings I had for him. In other aspects of life, persistence very much pays off...but for me and matters of the heart, persistence and annoyance can be one and the same. If I'm not interested, I'm not interested and leave it at that.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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We need to standardize how calendar dates are written Posted: 10/30/2009 12:03:21 PM
Argh! I can't stand it when it's written "30/10/2009". Argh! No! Month/Day/Year, dammit! Argh. 10/30/2009!! sigh

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Flue shots are more dangerous than the flu itself! Posted: 10/30/2009 11:19:31 AM
I don't trust vaccines/shots whatsoever. Unless they make it mandatory for every living being on the face of the Earth to receive these vaccines or face fines/jail time (which is coming, by the way), it's a definite no-go for me.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Are you a shoe slut? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:26:51 AM
I am quite the opposite of a shoe slut. QUITE! Haha. I own, what, maybe 2 or 3 pairs? And that includes a pair of running shoes which I wear most times I head out. Haha. I don't need a lot of shoes, I don't want a lot of shoes. I don't enjoy shoe shopping (and clothes shopping, actually). I find it to be a chore, more than anything. :-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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how old is to old ? Posted: 10/28/2009 2:26:20 PM
This question is never going to have a set answer. The answers will undoubtedly vary from person to person and what they're comfortable with. Personally, I've been interested in men almost twice my age (20+ years my senior). For me, age is just a number. Truly just a number. As cliched as this is, love really is ageless and knows no bounds. Take a chance and go for it! ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Is This Really It? Posted: 10/28/2009 11:51:28 AM
I have no interest in seeing it whatsoever. So...no.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What is your Regular Bedtime? Posted: 10/26/2009 3:50:00 PM
My regular bedtime is between 12AM and 1AM. It's really weird, though. I feel a lot more energetic if I sleep from 12AM to 8AM than 1AM to 9AM, even though the same amount of hours have been slept. Nonetheless, sometimes I just can't seem to pull myself away from the internet at 12...so I'll suffer the next day, gosh darnit! :-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Do the ladies on PoF tend to focus on 1 guy at a time? Posted: 10/26/2009 3:37:39 PM
If I agree to go on a date with someone, then I only date that one person. Like another poster here said, less drama, less mess. Plus I want to be able to focus my time and attention on getting to know that one guy, not multiple men.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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The Penis Study Posted: 10/23/2009 10:08:33 AM
Nice, nice, nice, VERY nice. Hahaha!!

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Stay In touch ? Posted: 10/23/2009 8:12:29 AM
"Let's stay in touch" is usually translated to "let's stay in touch". Y'know, "let's keep in contact". Really now, don't over analyze. Sometimes there is no underlying meaning to words. Sometimes what people say is exactly what they mean. She probably would like to "stay in touch" over the next few weeks until you two can meet up again.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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if i were a girl... Posted: 10/23/2009 6:54:31 AM
lol. This question made me laugh because now I can't stop picturing myself dating...myself. Actually, match made in HEAVEN!! Dude, I think you're on to something! Anyone having a cloning machine?!

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Some people really need to lay off the tanning beds! Posted: 10/21/2009 12:10:54 PM
A bit of a tan looks nice, but some people take it to the extreme! I will never understand this. Personally, I don't give a rat's behind about tanning. Pale and proud, baby! Who's with me?!

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Do you find Seth Rogen funny? Posted: 10/17/2009 8:05:13 AM
No. There's something about him which rubs me the wrong way and kind of annoys me, actually. :-\

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Asking women out while they're at work. Okay or not okay? Posted: 10/17/2009 7:59:17 AM
A lot of the men I've dated have been because I've met them at work. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it whatsoever. If the vibes are there between the two of you and there's obvious flirting occurring, then why not! Hell, my father met my mother at her place of employment. So...go for it!! :-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Women on Submarines Posted: 10/15/2009 3:32:52 PM
I personally would prefer to have a 200 lb man defending/rescuing me as opposed to a 125 lb woman. Men are naturally stronger and as such, naturally better at some jobs/positions… As much as I do agree with that to an extent, I'd just like to throw in that when someone has a gun, their sex/weight/size means absolutely nothing. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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My Nightmare Date (long read!!) Posted: 10/14/2009 2:31:14 PM
Why is this not in the humor section?!

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Basic vs Premium membership? Posted: 10/14/2009 2:09:52 PM
Actually, it seems loser-ish to me when a person spends $15 (or whatever is the cost now) on something that is offered for free. I agree, 100%! I've actually not responded to this one guy because he was a "serious" member. Makes me roll my eyes. Okay, okay, I wasn't interested in him regardless, but the "serious member" thing was the icing, y'know?

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Can two people who are total opposites make a relationship work . Posted: 10/12/2009 2:57:10 PM
Depends. Can they compromise (key word)? Can they find a middle ground? Can they agree to disagree? Can they find a happy medium? If so, they may be okay for the short term, but it's the long term which will prove most challenging. There is such a thing as being too different, despite opposites attracting.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What is the truth about apple cider vinegar? Posted: 10/12/2009 11:54:10 AM
Doing a search for "benefits of apple cider vinegar" will provide you with a plethora of hits. With that said, I've been using ACV for a few years now. I like the taste (although for some, the taste may be acquired) and put a couple of tablespoons on most of the dinners I consume. Maybe try not ingesting it raw/straight, but instead spread it on meals (it's great on potatoes and steamed veggies, in my opinion). Very tasty indeed. :-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Men wearing jewelry Posted: 10/10/2009 10:28:56 AM
Some jewelry is attractive, definitely. I seem to be the minority, but I love it when a man has his ears pierced...Mmm, it's so damn sexy! Also, when a man wears a chain around his neck...ohh, that is good. Also, a ring or two is fine, just nothing excessive. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail? Posted: 10/9/2009 10:59:39 AM
If they truly seem like they may entertain, inspire, direct you, then why cut them off? Why not go with the flow and have some deep need satisfied? They might not have some "deep need" which needs satisfying. They might not be seeking someone to simply chat with online. They might actually be looking for something real (in person) via these dating sites. Also, as someone else said, maybe you just don't "do it" for them, even as simply someone to correspond with. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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A sophisticated lady Posted: 10/9/2009 7:49:23 AM
Whatever you do, don't overdo it by trying to impress her. Be yourself. Yeah, yeah, I know, you've probably heard that millions of times before, but it's true, gosh darnit! In the end, someone is either going to like you or not. Being anything but yourself is, well, fake. If you're a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy and if she truly does like you, then she'll love that about you! ;-) With that said, there's also nothing wrong with trying to impress. Dressing nicely, being well groomed, being on your "best behaviour", etc. That's all well and good! Just...don't be fake. Find a middle ground. ;-) Also, don't feel "outclassed". We're human, we're all in the same class. Good luck!

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Dating outside of one's race Posted: 10/8/2009 11:31:49 AM
I've been attracted to men of every ethnicity. I'm all for dating someone because of who they are, not the shade of their skin. This is going to sound cliched, but love truly does come in every colour. :-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 9:54:49 AM
My initial thought is that she's trying to hint at how desirable she is. By informing you of the (seeming) competition, maybe she hopes you'll find her that much more alluring and enticing, since all these other men want her. shrug

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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How should I respond? Posted: 10/8/2009 9:25:29 AM
I mean, if a girl is making first contact(and I maybe clearly wrong here...sorry) then she's probably not having much luck What? Really? You honestly think that?? No, dearie. We send messages first because we found someone we're interested in and have the balls to introduce ourselves. ;-) Anyway, just tell the woman that you appreciate her sending you a gift and that it made you smile (if it did), however you don't think you're compatible in a romantic sense, "good luck on here", other nice well-wishes, etc. Not too difficult, eh? :-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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another dating site calls us losers Posted: 10/7/2009 12:26:05 PM
Pfft, they call us losers? Pfft, you just tell 'em, "Takes one to know one!" Ohh yeah, that's a big burn right there. Damn, I should write insults for a living. :-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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MSN Scam? Virus? Posted: 10/6/2009 12:07:32 PM
Never, ever, ever fall for these types of emails/messages! They're almost always a virus/phishing scam of some sort. I hope you changed your password! And do a virus scan on your computer, ASAP. I've received that exact email quite a few times, actually. Apparently some of my MSN friends have fallen victim to this! Yikes. Edit: Seems like everyone else already suggested all of this...so...hopefully you're okay! :-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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The soft blow off, how do you handle it? Posted: 10/6/2009 8:33:37 AM
This is exactly why I prefer to see what the person looks like before we even begin conversing in the first place. At least you only sent a couple of emails before you were "blown off". The worst is when you've been chatting for a while and have established some sort of connection only to find out one of you isn't attracted to the other when a picture is finally sent. Best not to put yourself in that sort of position in the first place. Nonetheless, I would prefer to just be honest with the guy and hope no one's feelings are too hurt.

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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No connection, no chemistry, no passion...but....they're nice? Posted: 10/6/2009 7:41:22 AM
lol, james...unfortunately a connection/chemistry/passion can't really be explained. You'll either feel it or you won't. shrug

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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No connection, no chemistry, no passion...but....they're nice? Posted: 10/6/2009 7:24:20 AM
If I'm unsure about my feelings from the first date, a second date should hopefully confirm whether or not our relationship will progress, romantically. But I think anything more than that is just leading the guy on. I would definitely have to be honest with him and let him know that although he's a great guy, attractive, intelligent, etc...I just can't see us having anything more than a friendship. It happens, c'est la vie!

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What About The Hair Color? Posted: 10/6/2009 7:18:37 AM
Odd hair colour isn't attractive, in my opinion. But that's just me. I'm sure there are women who disagree. With that said, it's your body, your hair; do what makes you happy and screw what anyone else thinks. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Advice Posted: 10/5/2009 4:51:49 PM
Why would it be wrong to ask others for advice, regardless of your relationship with them or their sex...? Is it wrong for the folks here to ask advice from strangers on the internet? O_o

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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forum suggestion - forum for the mechanics Posted: 10/5/2009 3:12:02 PM
A forum specifically for mechanics? That is really silly. No offense, but what makes mechanics so special compared to every other job out there? What not have a forum for people in retail? Or lawyers? Or doctors? Garbage collectors? Landlords? Fire fighters? Telemarketers? Etc. I'm sure specific forums for mechanics exist elsewhere on the internet, however. If not, then you know what your next task is! ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What's the WHOLE story with success stories? Posted: 10/5/2009 2:31:34 PM
Haha, how correct you are! For every success story, there are probably five times as many unsuccess stories. But really, who wants to hear those? People want (need!) hope. That's how you sell. That's how you get people to try new products, join new sites, etc. If companies advertised the negative, do you think they'd have much success? Definitely not. Haha, pay attention to most weight loss ads/commercials. In small print at the bottom it usually says, "Results not typical". Haha, that makes me chuckle every time. Speaking for myself, I like hearing the success stories. I have too many "unsuccess" stories of my own, I really don't need to hear of anybody else's. lol. Dum spiro spero. Dum spiro spero. Dum spiro spero. repeating to self* Haha. :-) (*While I breathe, I hope)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Having no luck at all Posted: 10/5/2009 1:46:13 PM
You've only been here for 2 months and you're already ready to throw in your towel? Man! Have some patience, buddy boy! Besides, it's not like you're wasting money by remaining on here. The freakin' site is free! Well, unless you choose to upgrade. ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Am I just being mean??? Posted: 10/5/2009 10:08:15 AM
Why can't you simply tell them you have chosen not to participate in gift giving and gift receiving this year? I don't think this is a mandatory thing, correct?

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What do we do when not attracted to our date? Posted: 10/4/2009 5:38:11 PM
You're correct! Physical attraction matters, definitely. 100%! And no, that isn't being shallow, it's being human! The guy can have the best personality in the world, but if there's no physical attraction, unfortunately things are just not going to work out in a romantic sense. And you can't force attraction, either. shrug Nonetheless, I think what you did was fine! You agreed to coffee and followed through. I think it's just being polite and something I would have done, as well! I would hate to be rude and up and leave the guy before we even had a chance to converse. But I would definitely let him know that this relationship isn't going to progress past a friendship. He can either accept that or move on. :-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Male Grooming - eyebrows Posted: 10/4/2009 12:43:37 PM
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man taking care of his appearance. Grooming is definitely a good thing! ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Another kissing question... Posted: 10/2/2009 12:01:30 PM
Ahh, to kiss or not to kiss! That really depends on the chemistry between you two and if you're both comfortable with a kiss (or five!) or not. Like you said, just play it by ear! Don't follow any of those silly "rules". ;-)

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Don't drop that soap Posted: 10/1/2009 9:28:29 AM
Haha, soxfan, that was funny. lol. :-P Well, if their relationship is going well so far, then I wish them nothing but luck for the future! I mean, who are we to judge, right? :-) As for myself, well, I know it's said that women like bad boys and all, but... Haha, but really, he would have to be pretty damn fantastic. I wouldn't outright write him off without at least getting to know him as a person (and why he is/was in the slammer in the first place!). Maybe an inmate would be the best thing that ever happened to me! ...blank stare...you know what I mean. Jailhouse Rock, anyone?? ;-P

jazmella

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Medeival Times Blue Knight Posted: 10/1/2009 9:12:34 AM
Regardless of the outcome, this thread is SO CUTE!! Haha! hugs everyone in it <3

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