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crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Dating people from different cultural backgrounds Posted: 1/20/2009 6:45:23 AM
Having actually lived some of this, its not a simple answer. The real question is can I live and accept the values, and differences a different culture brings. Race and nationality mean nothing if two people have the same spiritual/religious ideals,goals, and or back ground. Personally women have a lot to lose when they get involved with someone from some radically different cultures. I have friends who had marriages fall apart do to the fact that the husband had to put the values and wishes of his parents over his wife. I have had friends whose husbands ruled over the marriage as a tyrant claiming it was divine right. Some use their culture to justify abuse. Whats important more than anything is to know what your getting into and if it is something that you are willing to deal with. Things change in a relationship when it becomes serious. The persons involved usually change or try to change the other person to fit into the back ground they want them or their family to accept. It important to be of one heart one mind and one soul on core issues that are the basis of your life.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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SEX AND WOMEN OVER 40 OR 50????? Posted: 2/18/2007 7:02:50 AM
Actually it is the male hormone Testosterone that creates the sex drive. Men as we age typically have a decrease in it and hence the same happens to our sex drive. Women have it as well just in smaller amounts until after 40. They have an increase in it and they experience an increased sex drive.One of the reasons we change so much was we age.The men have an increase in female hormones and the women have an increase in male hormones. Aint life grand. The way to battle this is to stay active.Having plenty of muscle seems to maintain hormone levels in a proper balance.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Promiscuous Men Posted: 1/31/2007 5:31:59 PM
I heard of a study done that claimed the more promiscuous a man is the less ability he has to connect and stay intimate with one partner. I guess this may depend on a mans mindset but I can see a lot of truth in this.What do you think?

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Is sex really sacred? Posted: 1/22/2007 5:55:09 PM
Sex as a biological function of reproduction yes it is.Now as humans we are completely unique in regards to it. First a human penis is completely different in shape, size, and angle from all other mammals including other primates. The most natural way for us to have intercourse is face to face. Our broad, flat chests makes that possible. Doing this face to face is suppose to help create a bond between a man and women. We as humans are more visual than any other creature on earth. Women also climax no other female animal mammal or otherwise does. All male creatures with a penis, reptiles and some birds must climax to release sperm. All other female mammals have a heat cycle a chemical change that releases an egg and allows her to be receptive to the sexual advances of a male.Most female mammals will not tolerate a males sexual behavior unless shes in heat. Human females are receptive every month out of the year and dont need hormonal surge to make her sexually available to a male.This is really strange in the animal kingdom and rather stupid to having offspring at any season even in winter has serious consequences. The piont of all this besides what many people think. We are more than animals. Our sexuality was ment to bond us to each other in a form of intimicy that no other creature can experience. We have a choice really ,like in every behavior we have.You can use it the way it was intended or you can abandon it and behave more like a beast than a man.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Has money, but you wouldn't know it. Posted: 1/21/2007 7:03:32 AM
You never let anyone, including friends know what your worth. It does two things and only two things, incite jelously, envy and alters peoples perceptions about you.People judge you on how much you make and what you do for a living. If your worth something people come looking for financial help all the time. If you roll around like a big spender you attract a lot of attention to yourself in ways you do not understand that tends to lead people not being quite honest about thier intentions. Men do it as easily as women.I know plenty of women who men get involved with simply because they end up supporting them in some way or fashion.I know one women who some how pays the mortgages on her boy friends properties. Cause he gambles away the profits. She has money and he knew it.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Best foot forward? Posted: 1/21/2007 6:49:26 AM
I think most men are hiding who they are and their intentions. Simply because they have learned that they have to hide the nefarious parts of their nature to get what they want from a woman. All my lady friends keep telling me about how terrible it is dealing with men these days. The married ones are pretending to be single, the single ones arent looking for something serious. I have found women to be pretty much who they say they are for most dont want to be the object of quick gratification..

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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answer me this Posted: 11/14/2006 5:03:18 PM
Make better choices in men. Trouble with women, you believe everything men tell you. See it kinda works like this, When us men are in our early teens we learn what to say and how to act to get what we want from girls. Yes ladies when your young you are innocent. Boys learn how to play games just to get physical pleasure from you. Men dont seem to out grow this and seeing how easy it is to get action from women these days they have no reason to stop doing what they are doing. Men who are serious about a woman will stop playing games sometime in their life. How do you find that man? Easy.. Dont let him get in your pants so easily.Dont be eager to indulge him, even if you like him. If a man truly like you as a person, if he truly respects you he will wait as long as it takes. This may sound unreal, but think about it. If hes not serious he will easily move on to another. Its a good way to see if hes waiting for you as well. After all You can see if he just kinda drops off the map. He probably hooking up with someone whos giving him what he wants. My advice, be very choosy about the men you pick. Even a female dog is picky about who she allows to mount her. Arent we more than dogs?

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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I need help to understand Posted: 11/14/2006 4:48:00 PM
Long distance relationships are more work than they are worth. You become limited in the time you spend together and those tend to be only good times. You never get to see a person show their true colors through all seasons in life. This guy found someone new and close by. I suggest to keep your relationships within close driving distance.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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men dumping me because I have a multi racial family Posted: 10/22/2006 2:51:11 PM
Yes it seems to be something men do.It is really stupid if you think about it.they have just done genetic tests on people around the world and found that the physical differences in humans is so small geneticly that they are actually going to have to revise the defination of race. People need to get out of their self imposed shells and mingle with people differnt from themselves.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers? Posted: 8/26/2006 9:09:48 PM
They are well educated and intelligent and have trouble finding equals that suit them.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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confused Posted: 8/26/2006 9:06:36 PM
Damn,,Dude, How old are you? I seem to remember things like that when I was 14. Scary.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Why do guys say baby - honey - sweetie Posted: 8/26/2006 8:59:23 PM
I tend to call women of interest to me Darlin. Not strangers, women in the holding pattern of friendship. In relationship, it will be a pet name unique to who they are. Sweetie , baby.. dumb stupid and generic. I had one girlfriend I called Toes, cause she could write with her feet. Another was 6.4,, she was all leg...yup..Legs. If Im calling you by your first name, you may as well be my best friends mother.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Marriage Posted: 8/26/2006 8:51:49 PM
If your in relationship with someone for over a year, the subject of marriage better well come up. If it hasnt and when you decide this isnt going anywhere and then all of a sudden the subject comes up. GET OUT NOW. He is scared of being alone and hes just settleing for you cause hes afraid nothing else will come along.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Sexual Morality Posted: 8/10/2006 7:22:32 PM
Humans are not cats, animals we maybe but we are much more than that. See , this is the problem.we have been teaching we are nothing more than animals now for years, and then we wonder why we behave like them. So lets compare ourselves to cats shall we, mostly anti social, mate with every female thats in heat, fight tooth and nail with every male we meet. As a male kill any kittens you come accross so you can force the female back inot another heat cycle so you can father YOUR offspring with her. Yes lets be like animals. Thing is a cat knows its a cat and doesnt pretend to be anything else.It lives as a cat till the day it dies, it knows no other exsistance. So as humans should we aspire to be like a cat? Live as a cat does only knowing one thing survive and pass on your genes. Humans are worse then animals, we KNOW better and yet some fool aspires to live like an animal, mate with any **** in heat, fight other males for dominace, live for only one thing yourself. Well WE are much more than that. Just because we have a superiour brain doesnt mean we are just naked apes.We have a spirit an inner self that strives to live above the realm of the beasts.Something God gave all of our kind. Dont waste your life in some stupid selfish pursuit of pleasure, there comes a time when we muct be accountable to our brothers in our actions and deeds. So if you choose to live as a cat, by all means do so.In the end you will die like one alone, in pain and in the jaws of something larger and stronger than yourself.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Sexual Morality Posted: 8/4/2006 7:27:48 PM
I have always thought sex is more than a biologicalact of procreation.It is pretty much that with all other living things including plants, or with primates is used to secure some standing in a social hiercy. As homo sapiens(thinking man) we get all screwed up. Sex between a man and woman is suppose to produce a bond. A physical expression of intamicy that acts as a glue binding the emotions and spirit of two individuals creating a pair bond. I think most women would agree with this. As far as morality sexual expression within a marriage is probably the safest for of sex there is. If sex is good there should be a good way to use it. Two commited people sharing each other within that pair bond only. Sex with multiple people tends to be a really good vector for disease, distrust,emotional upheaval, and human brokenness. I find if quite strange that sexually transmitted disease doesnt run among animals even those that have mutliple partners.If that happened those species would be at risk of extinction. Most animals are not monogomous but females generally pick the best that their species offers through whatever set of rules they work by.They also have a set breeding season which sets time limits of sexual activity.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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USA the Christian nation...NOT! Posted: 8/4/2006 6:49:15 PM
Funny how everyone has their ideas on this, but no one ever looks at the writings of these men. I suggest you read their stuff especially Washington.He wrote extensivly and one of his passions was collecting sermons and he use to read the good ones to his family. Most of his stuff is saved and can be easily read. I cant see why a deist would do this, they dont beleive in a personal God. Sermons from those days were far from impersonal. I suggest before anyone labels a dead man on thing or another they should read his own words first.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Do christians have the right to impose their views/values on the larger society ? Posted: 8/4/2006 6:33:51 PM
One of the tenents, of being a Christian is to go into all the world and tell of the good news the redemption of man. As much as people love to beat christians up cause it pretty much fair game, Being a Christian can also mean you get teased, ostrizied and in some countries killed.Ones not born a christain, though many seem to think that. Its an issue of choice.God invites all people to look at the evidence with an OPEN heart he doesnt force anyone to do anything, he is a gentleman. It is a mandate to give an answer for the hope that lies within, with gentleness and respect.If you were a starving man and found a free banquet open to anyone who wants to come wouldnt you go and tell others where that banquet is? Its only natural that christians proclaim their faith.I dont think anyone has the right to FORCE you to believe anything, but in moral issues of the day Chirstians must stand up and be heard and if possible influence change. When Hitler started rounding up people for the death camps, lots of people turned away they didnt care. The cathlioc church turned a blind eye to what was happening in Italy.In Germany many christians stood up against Hitler, yes they were sent to death camps as well. There were also plenty of churches that did nothing and they stayed safe. Christ said that his followers were to be salt in the earth. In his time there was no other way to preserve food outside of drying and salting it.When Christians loose their saltiness the world will spiral into moral decay sorryut I would much rather have a world filled with Christians. The muslims will force you to bow, the Hindus will value oxen and rats over the least of humanity with their caste system, and the buddists will be too busy searching for the state of nothingness to be of any good.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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The question no christian can answer for me. Posted: 8/2/2006 7:56:19 PM
As far as Jesus being executed, yes its a historical event, recorded by secular Roman and Jewish historians at the time. So ther was a historical man who lived and died about 2000 years ago. question is, what do you do with him? He was one of 3 things, liar, lunatic, or Lord. He claimed to be a good man but also the God in the flesh, so if he is a liar he isnt a good man to be making those claims. People dont usually die for a liar all of his disciples died terrible executions, if they recanted they would have been allowed to live.No one will willing die for a lie. Second he may have been a crazy man, to claim what he claimed, in the end his confession he was God was went sent him to the cross, Jewish law demanded he be put to death for such a claim. If he was insane the Jewish leaders wouldnt have had any reason to execute him. If Jesus says he is Lord and claims to be all he claimed then humanity has a problem.He was pretty exclusive in how people can reach their full potential in thsi life and the next. As far as God a god of blood lust. God sets the rules, as far as I can tell all of humanity at one time honored any god with a Blood sacrifice. In Eden after Adam disobeyed 2 innocent animals had to be slain, and their hides used to cover up an exposed Adam and eve. The blood sacrifice is not to be taken lightly, its a horrible thing and its ment to be a horrible thing to behold. A person having to do this didnt do it with a glad heart, it was suppose to remind them that inoreder to be forgiven for the awful things you do an innocent has to pay the price. It was ment to show what price had to be payed and one should strive to not do evil. An animal sacrifice in ancient times had to be the First born male of a "clean animal" one without any kind of defects or inperfections. God wanted the prize winning animals. WHY? Cause those would be the ones your DONT want to part with.Showing you want to give the best to God and also a shadow of things to come. God eventually said that the shedding of the blood of an animal wasnt good enough to forgive humans, thats why it had to be done over each year at passover.Christ is also called the lamb of God , for as a human void of inperfections especially in his soul the only truly innocent person able to satify the blood sacrifice for a person.so much so its good for all people for all time. As for why? Well God is perfect love and perfect justice. The only way to satisfy Gods justice and to maintain his integrety he had to devise a way that would satisfy the demand for payment of sin(spiritual death). They only way that could be done was for him to provide the sacrifical lamb, one without imperfections, one truly innocent, and one whos value was greater than that of an animal or equal to or greater than a human. The idea is God sees the blood of an innocent man who pays the price for a gulity man.Hence Christ steps in and willingly subjects himself to the justice of God on behalf of a condemmed man. Now you dont have to believe a word of this.You may think its all made up, hog wash bulls**it. Trouble really is, WHAT IF IT IS TRUE. NO other faith in the world is like this God reaches down to man, all other faiths are man reaching up to God. Rituals, tradtions,ect ect. The Only thing Christ asked was to believe and trust. Everything else will follow. No church, no priest. Personal relationship with God that eventually evolves into a different lifestyle. doent mean christian are perfect, means they are still human and do stupid ass things, but it means their lifestyle shouldnt be one characterized as a bunch of ass clowns. Sorry to say but a lot of Believers forgot Christ loved those who hated him the most and asked all those who believe to follow him and deal with what happend to him, despised, rejected, persecuted, and hated yet and love and respect all people regardless of what they believe. Win people over by your life not your words but dont be afraid to share what you believe with gentleness and respect. Yes Jesus himself said he could save himself from his fate but HE chose to hang there.But the whole point is he lived despite dieing, testement that YOU will to.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Why do women talk so much? Posted: 8/1/2006 6:39:52 PM
Studies have been done on this. Women typically speak about 40,000 words a day, Men 25,000. When men come home at the end of a day they have used up those words and tend to be rather quiet or give short answers.women have only used up half of their words ,so they are anxious to get them all out by the end of the day and that typically fall on to the spouse/mate/significant other. I dont know the reason for this but its probably genetic, Women are communicators who typically deal with children as part of their day, so throught time women spent a lot of time together with intermingling kids as well,its useful to be able to use a large amount of words in such circumstances.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Can you have a normal relationship with a psychic??? Posted: 8/1/2006 6:30:46 PM
No you can not have a normal relationship.Ive dated two of them. They make you feel violated. They may not want to read you but its almost instinctive. They know the deepest things you keep hidden, things YOU want to keep to yourself.It doesnt have to be a bad thing, in my case she blurted out why I love the smell of dirt. I was so taken back by that becuse that was something I have never told a soul. I love the smell of fresh tilled soil and newly cut hay. She had no right to dig that deep and I realized she could easy go into places deep into my soul no one but myself has the right to go. The other one had the ability to see spirits and to be honest I got sick of seeing them myself. Trust me,, no matter what anyone tells you, if you can see a spirit its not a good one. Once she was gone they went with her. Somethings arent ment to be seen or known, trust me ignorance is bliss.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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ok ladies question for you Posted: 7/30/2006 6:47:40 PM
It seems to me the more women I meet the more Im hearing about how awful men are.In the sense there is just a huge glut of men who have no idea what a gentleman is suppose to be like. Its not a question of male bashing , its a question of a man meeting a woman and not being a pig. What are you seeing in your dating life, online or off.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Why don't you age? Posted: 7/30/2006 6:00:19 PM
several factors, First off Race. Darker skinned people dont get as much sun damage over time. Exposer to too much sun especially when young destroys the skin on a chromasomal level resulting in premature aged skin. Second genes, some people just have genes more resistant to the aging process. Third life style, If your living like the devil from your teens on. partying hard, eating poorly, abusing everything, not excercising your gonna llok like crap the closer you get to 40.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Why do women find sex on a first date so weird? Posted: 7/30/2006 9:19:09 AM
It still amazes me how stupid men can be.All this time and they still dont understand the needs of a womens heart. Even saying American women are prudes.Please!!! Do you foolish men actually think typical women feel respect from just being an object to gain sensual pleasure from? Men will copulate with ungulants for that. Women typicaly respect their sexuality and expect that it will be treated with some sense of dignity. When a woman presents her body to a man her heart is usually included with it, she wants to give her mind body and spirit to that person, she wants to be loved respected and honored and feel safe. Sexual expression is about feeling safe, secure, appreciated. Men walking into a womans sexual life like a bull in a china shop is nothing short of emotionaL DESTRUCTION. Men wonder why women are so jaded. Well guys heres the deal, you morons were busy screwing around so much when they were in their 20s you left them as single moms, in an emotional wasteland. The few skanks you managed to bag, left you with the impression that every woman you meet should give into the false charms you use to satisfy the urges you havent managed to control. Like a rutting buck you lose sight of an individual doe and concentrate on a herd. You goofs need to wake up and discover women are more than some thing to gratify that primitive reptilain part of your brain that only knows 3 things food, sex, and aggression.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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My Ex : Five weeks from Separation to Suicide. Posted: 7/30/2006 8:21:15 AM
Great post. Cause Ive been there. Not to the end you have had. But having a Ring given back to you is a tough tough thing. In my case I never really got an answer as to why. Its a heart breaking experience and in my case its been almost 4 years. She was all I ever wanted yet when she called me a few months ago, looking for $$ after 4 years of not hearing from her. Eye opener. Im sorry to tell you this but you got off easy. She had some real mental issues and if you married her, it would have gotton old real fast espeically if you didnt know about it. It may sound shallow but when it comes to choosing a mate you pick the best thats possible. All living things do this and why shouldnt we. You pick someone who is as emotionally and physically fit as possible. If you chose not to do this just be aware its going to be difficult getting a successful life started. Its differnt if something happens after the fact, then you can work through it, but I wouldnt start off like that.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Dating + religion Posted: 7/30/2006 7:51:36 AM
There is a fundumental truth that runs through humanity. All do what is right in their own eyes. A reckless and rebellious people make up their own rules and set of standards.Thats what causes the evils of the world, the unchanged human heart. Thats what impowered the Nazis, motivated the Romans and set up communism. People love to bash Christains, blame all the ills of the world on it, something christ himself said would happen. Something else said, was "There will come a time when my people will will not follow health giving doctrine" The Christain faith survived and took over the world not by the sword, but by its followers who outthought and outlived their pagan counter parts. Sure there are morons in any faith based affilation who are jerks wanting to remove an individuals choice. Christ never forced anyone to believe him, he complelled them through his actions and words. He insisted that you submit to those who hate you, give to the piont where your inconvienced, sacrifice your will for the good of others, and if as much as possible be at peace with all you know and meet. Most of all love people as much as you love yourself. Are these bad things? As far as sex and dating, is it a good thing to be screwing around with ever woman/man you meet? At one time in human history there were only two STDS syphilis and gonorrhea. They were the scourges of the ancient world. Sure we have sexual liberation in our modern times (there has always been sexual freedom) but there is a price to pay for all human indiscretions. That is what its really about, God loving humanity so much telling us all that if you live a certian way their is always a price tag of pain and suffering that we bring on ourselves. Its not God that inflicks pain and suffering but our own stupid choices of ignoring what we inheirently know what is right and what is wrong.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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whats with women and pets? Posted: 7/28/2006 7:43:07 PM
Typical human centric idealology.We share the planet with a billion other life forms.Some of which we share hearth and home with. Without those humanity would have never progressed as far as it has. Human civilization was built on the back of lesser creatures, something modern man has forgotton. The world is a rather empty dull place when it becomes full of nothing but people. People who keep the tradition of having relationships(yes they are relationships) with animals honor something very old and vital. There may come a day again when the horse will no longer be considered just a hobby to pass the time. Accept your cultural heritage in the husbandry of lesser creatures, without it we would still be nothing more than naked apes.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Dating + religion Posted: 7/28/2006 7:23:28 PM
Actually those "religious" girls probably arent that all religious if they consider even dating you. The concept of being equally yoked must not have been bashed into their heads hard enough by the bible thumpers of the south. Do yourself a favor and stick to the non religious types and save them the heart ach of a doomed relationship.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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realationships and pets Posted: 7/26/2006 8:18:07 PM
Pets and relationships can be rather tricky.The secret is to choose a partner wisely. If your a cat person dont get involved with someone doesnt like cats.Common sense really. If you dont like hunting DONT get involved with a hunter. I think we all get the picture. I have quite a collection of critters most women find it"interesting"

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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THE DAYS OF THE CAVE MAN.......evolution? Posted: 7/17/2006 7:21:27 PM
Physically women are weaker. If our society broke down women would be flocking to men for protection. Pagan cultures,,if you think pagen cultures of the past treated women with respect try reading some roman history. Christanity gave women more of an equal partenership than any religion before hand. Men are suppose to love their wives sacrificaly. Meaning to give of themselves freely and to deny themselves.Women are to treat their husbands with respect.This does not mean submit to abuse, brutality or anything demeaning. Men are not loving their wife if they value hanging at the bar after work while shes at home dealing with kids or managing the house.Women are not respecting their husband if they are telling their girlfriends what a bad lover he is. Male female gender roles are not really hard to figure out, everything falls pretty much into place IF people choose the proper partner. Thats the biggest problem with relationships, people choose poorly in the mate selection part of life

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Confused and lost Posted: 7/9/2006 8:27:26 PM
Funny funny, I read this post and think instantly...20 somethings. Sure enough. good luck buddy women dont become real till around 30 after they have been dumped, used, decieved and abused. After that they tend to get a new perspective on men an actually look for ones that can have deep meaningful conversations with hope of connecting intellectually with someone.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Guys that cry.....Good or bad? Posted: 7/9/2006 8:18:19 PM
Crying over fiction. stupid. If your a man and some fiction gets you tear jerking ..please. Men should cry over things that actually deserve tears. Death of loved ones, Death of your dog, if youve never put a dog down and not cried you have a problem. Ive cried seeing some of those medical shows with sick and deformed children, thats real, and desreves tears. Not some stupid snuff film glorifing euthanasia. I have 3 nieces that I constantly consol for stupid things,I dont tell them its stupid but I reason with them and ask them if its worthy of tears. Cause it really sucks trying to consol a 10 year old bawling over her favorite TV show being cancelled.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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platonic relationships with older men Posted: 7/9/2006 7:23:22 AM
All men need mentors, especially when young usually your father,uncle, brother. Even when you get older like 20s you can find mentors, but its a bit different. At this time in life a mentor is usally an other male with more experience in something your interested in, it can be hobby related, or issue related like someone in church ect. I have found mentors in male friends old enough to be my father, it developes from a friendship usually surrounded by a particular interest, The best mentors a man can have are ones you can get great life advice from in my case they are men with good marriages and have prevailed through the storms of life. Nothing is worse than developing mentors from broken people. The fact that these 0lder men are gay, I would be leary at best, you have no idea what their inner motives are

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Its what is on the inside that counts... Posted: 7/9/2006 6:33:10 AM
Something really basic most people miss.Our species is a visually oriented species.It is our most hieghted sense. Of all the mammals only primates can see colors. So when it comes to mate selection its only normal and natural to find someone physically attractive. The good thing is everyones version of whats physically attractive is different that way everyone has hope. Thing is we are also so much more and can see beyond the physical and thats really the most important thing. Im sure everyone knows that some of the most beautiful people are actually the most horrible to gaze upon once you have the ability to look under their skin. Some of the most stunning women I have had the displeasure to know had the exterior of a Goddess and beneath that golden exterior lurked the most vile, dark, sad, distorted, wicked. human being that ever exisited. Men to, the best looking ones(and ladies you all know this to) can be the most shallow, stupid, vain, ignorant, arrogant, controlling, power tripping, ego centric, selfish, brutal ass you could ever meet. The sad thing is most of us dont figure this out till we are all about 30 yrs old.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Face scars on a lady. Posted: 7/9/2006 5:54:44 AM
This may sound rather odd, but I like scars. First off each one has a great story ,at least all of mine do. From the piosion ivy scared knuckles, to the replaced thumb.Scars give character, and are unique to the individual and set them apart of others in terms of experience and actions. I do realize this is a mans perspective. Women dont normally see any kind of percieved inperfection on their body as a non issue.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come? Posted: 7/6/2006 7:43:22 PM
Dont date Rednecks or losers.They come in all makes and models Teach your children to have good relationships friends or otherwise with ALL people to the best of your ablities. Trampy teenagers are a result of bad parenting. If they are dating Gangsta thugs, mom and dad screwed up. There will come a time when humanity is going to be judged for the foolishness of racisim.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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What Every Man Should Master And What Every Woman Should Teach Posted: 7/6/2006 6:49:18 PM
Ok Cassanova, thanks for sharing. Are you sure you didnt leave out ANY more details? Could you peacock anymore with that thread?

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Fellow ladies, would this gross you out, or is it just me? Posted: 7/6/2006 6:43:23 PM
Classy guy. thats the problem with men these days, no honor, no shame, and no sense. Now I know why women complain about men. Men need to be taught a course in being gentlemen. This is what happens in a society with absent fathers, and a sex driven media.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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is faith important Posted: 6/28/2006 8:34:32 PM
Faith is a HUGE issue.I cant beleive how lightly people take this. There is something called being equally yoked. Its a term used to discribe animals plowing a field.You never yoke an ox with a horse the ox has much more strength and stamina and it would have to work so hard dragging the horse around that eventually it would tire before its time. Also you never put a more experienced animal with an inexperienced one, the experienced one will get frustrated as it works having to lead the inexperineced one. In case you dont know the field represents life, the plow is life tribulations and troubles.The animals are partners in marriage or a strong relationship. The reality is humans are spiritual creatures. Even the Godless have a god, it may be money, sex, power but its usually SELF. You make your own rules and regulations and do whats right in your eyes. People who dont take their religious beliefs seriously tend to downplay its importance in a relationship. If you unequally yoke yourself to someone in the end there will be big regrets. Being attracted to someone has many facets, it has a physical,mental, and spiritual component. The physical and mental have the ability to fall apart,(sickness,injury, age,) the spiritual doesnt do that.It creates a bond stronger than life itself. Being in love with someones soul comes from the soul of a person, that spirtual essense we all have. If your soul is on a different page than your partners its eventually going to tear you apart. If what you concieve truth to be is different from your partners, your in big trouble. Having experienced this first hand, do yourself a favor weed out ALL of those that dont share the same CORE beliefs in what ever faith you take seriously. Think about this, Would a satanist get involved with a Christian? How about a jew and muslium? Would christain or Jew bow to the Hindi god Geneish? Yet again this doesnt apply to people who dont take their faith seriously. People who dont believe in anything should stick to like minded people.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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the weirdest thing ever... Posted: 6/9/2006 8:09:54 PM
What a jerk. What kind of a debase moronic fool is this assclown? Is he a baboon? Cant he control his primitive reptilian brain for one night!!! I swear I am embarassed as a man knowing the world if full of idiots like this. Its not weird its disrespectful, imagine if you were stranded somewhere and this was a stranger doing that, you wouldnt tolerate that for a second. Tell him you knew what he did, say you saw his "little guy" and it was REALLY little. He wont be rubbing that thing on anybody soon.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Do older men fear dating a woman with chilren? Posted: 6/2/2006 9:57:15 PM
Ok ladies, heres the deal.If your little darlings are really little hellions,,no thanks. Ive dated enough single moms to know some of of your baby humans are more like chimps completely outta control. No man wants to walk into that as well. Also if they are starving for a daddy big turn off.I once invited a woman I dated to breakfast and asked her to bring her 6yr old. within seconds he was laying his head on my shoulders and cuddling up next to me. By the end of an hour he wanted to come home with me and says he loves me. Now I felt really bad for this kid. Poor little boy wanting a father figure in his life.Starved for male attention. Well in this day and age just the accusation of touching a child will get you jail. I dont touch kids that are outside of my family,and having them grab on to you like the last man on earth at first meeting is rather distressing to me. Im not child phobic, Im godfather to 3 girls and an uncle to 3 as well. Kids are a package deal and I understand that but if your raising a potential trouble maker, please dont unload that on some unsuspecting man.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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He Loves Everything About You, Except Your Cat Posted: 6/2/2006 9:31:10 PM
Package deal. You also cant expect someone to NOT except what ever critters you have about.Its about excepting you and what you chrish and value. there are plenty of men who dont like a womans children and we all know of stories of women killing their kids to keep some loser of a man. Same deal here if he expects you to dump what you love and value cause he is such a prize..please. Is he so great he would force you do something like that.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Why are people so cynical against Michael Jackson? Posted: 6/2/2006 8:51:49 PM
News flash for you. Here in the states hes hasnt been popular for years.He is kinda been over since the late 80s. He is really creepy, grown men dont share beds with kids period unless your related and even then there comes a time to stop.Didnt you ever notice he doesnt do this with little girls. His family supports him cause he is the sole bread winner of the family. Even black folk here find him too strange, after all he was a black man at one time. I have no idea and no one else can tell me how you can change the color of your skin like that. To many blk folk he has turned his back on his heritage.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Christianity Posted: 6/2/2006 8:43:11 PM
Bob, there is no limit to the grace and forgivness of the living God. CHristianity at its basic core if simply a personal relationship between you and Christ.Its begins with the simple notion that you need a savior, for ALL have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God. People make christianity to be all sorts of rules and regualtions.In reality God changes your heart. The things that once controlled you should no longer do so. Doesnt mean you wont fall and fail, but you get up and start all over.People dont like hearing this but christianity is exclusive.Jesus clearly states he is THE (definate artical) way, the truth and the light, no one comes to the father except by him. Which really means all other faiths are invalid. I dont make the rules thats just what he says. People are free to choose to believe this or not. God is a gentleman he doesnt strong arm anyone. He does invite all of humankind to turn to him and ask what is true and what is false.Anyone who truely wants to know will have that question revealed to them in a very personal way that will leave no doubt. I suggest you find a good grace teaching church non denominational. I do not know how easy that is considering most of Europe is pretty much Post christain these days.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Do women actually need men anymore? Posted: 5/28/2006 6:44:24 AM
Women have no use for men anymore, and as time passes its pretty well damn evident. We have become sperm donors and if you dont think so wait till you get in your 40s and ex girlfriends start asking for donations and actually draw up legal papers so you wont have any rights to a child you may create. Geneticly you have everything they want or at least what things they like that would be passed on to a child.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 5/21/2006 11:04:58 AM
Everyone deals with grief in their own way. Death is a part of life and we as modern people seem to forget that, plus our culture has an aversion about discussing death. Time is the great healer, the real deal is to love like tomorrow will never come, make sure everyone you care about knows how you feel about them while they are alive

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Men can be abused too... Posted: 5/21/2006 9:20:22 AM
Man your a wuss. Women dont put up with that why would you. Im out the door if a woman thinks shes gonna decide she gonna box me about. I mean Im 6.2 and 230, Im not allowed to hit back and if one person regardless of what sex decided to take out their frustration by hitting.. damn we dont tolerate that in children. Dude your a puss.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Not Sure I Can AFFORD A Woman Posted: 5/20/2006 10:36:38 PM
I think most women want an equal. They figure thats the best way to keep insecure losers away from them.After all if you let numbers intimidate you your not going to bother them. There are a lot of women out their supporting good for nothing men.You would be amazed how many proffessional women there are with deadbeat boyfriend

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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how long does it take? Posted: 5/20/2006 10:02:26 PM
You remember past loves (not lovers) forever. Time and your own will dictates how often you think of them.Eventually there will always be a fond rememberance of them.There comes a time when one person will over shadow the past and they will just be fond memories.

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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Ok here's another one for ya.... Posted: 5/19/2006 8:34:21 PM
LDRs are tough to maintain. I was once engaged to someone who lived a 1000 miles south of me. We held it together for 3 yrs. Eventually someone is gonna have to move and that should be discussed as soon as mutal sparks start glowing.Its a huge issue one person giving up their whole support system for another and starting life anew somewhere else. It needs to be explored between both parties before things get serious. Good luck

crzrck

Joined: 2/23/2006

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The land of endless first meetings - guys plz comment Posted: 5/18/2006 8:51:11 PM
I find lunch to be the best thing. Its usually shorter, you can eat and talk a little bit and part ways easily cuase lunch usually has time restraints plus, you do not have the pressure to "do" anything else once its over. Its also great if its someone you have decided you want no part of lunch ends pretty quick cause you have other things to get to. Anyone can suck it up for a bad lunch date.

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