It's their house, their rules, their reactions.

Your parents, at this stage of their lives, most probably didn't plan or want to live with a baby and all his/her needs.

You are a burden on your own parents.

Debate is soooo much better than argument!

OP, as a single man w/ no kids this makes you extremely eligible and marketable in the dating scene, and you should not waste your coveted status on dating single moms. There are plenty of single women w/ no kids around your age that are stunning, cool, educated, and funny, and don't come with a single mom stigma. They would love to start a life with men like yourself. Relationships should be about you and that person. Not you, the person, her kids, her ex, her kids cousins, her kids grandparents, her single mom life, etc....

Use your status every chance you get...make it every part of you and use it as your hook and to your advantage when attracting the ladies. Singles w/ no kids are the cream of the crop! You could really use my advice so let me point out a few things if I may...

won't I have to get used to always playing second fiddle for her emotions?

In an ideal world a couple will become infatuated with each other long before they have children, and having those children together will bring them even closer.

I worry that I wouldn't receive the same back and that there wouldn't be any 'honeymoon' period.

I love spontaneity

Does this mean the courting period is far longer with single mothers because you don't see as much of each other (by much I mean purely 1 on 1 time)? Can this be worked around? However on the flip side I know single mothers have been through the whole dating hoopla before so is dating one a shorter process

any other advice on how I can be sensitive to her and her situation? Are there any faux pas men commit when dating single mums that I can sidestep? She doesn't need any more hurt in her life and as much as I like her I'd regrettably step aside if I'm ever at risk of contributing to that, or even worse hurting her son through attachment. Would I be better leaving her to find a single father whose life is in the same place?

I never approach a debate in terms of proving someone wrong...

It was not meant at you at all. I obviously did try that (again) and again it did not work.

How about the father takes her every weekend during soccor (or other) season and he can put them on a team near him.

I heard of this one chick who had multiple kids by multiple men of different races. Her first marriage didn't work out, and apparently she didn't learn from her mistake the first time because she winded up in another dead end marriage. Afterwards she was single and at some point she even had to get foodstamps. She bounced her kids all around the friggin country trying to land a man and I guess get educated somewhere along the way.

Somebody needs to tell Obama's momma that it just ain't cool or respectful to be on a welfare program and have multiple kids with multiple daddies. She might lose the respect of some complete meaningless strangers. What the hell kind of example was she setting for her kids? Why didn't she give more forethought to the her husbands and/or sperm donors to have a more lasting relationship? Boy I can't wait to see how her kids grow up and turn out.

Nothing quite like success being penalized and failure being rewarded. She couldn't/can't hold down a job, so I get/got to support her. We both have the same level of education, but while I understood that you don't start at the top, she doesn't. She feels that many jobs are "beneath" her. lmfao When I was in a trench with mud up to my ears swinging a shovel for 10 hours a day I never thought it was "beneath" me.

Shouldn't the decision about whether or not, when, and with whom one has children be an even BIGGER decision than deciding upon whom to marry?

You can always tell when a politician is lying: his/her lips are moving.

pro-life vs. Pro-Choice

or which way the toilet paper roll should hang yet!!!

it really makes sense to me that if you have shared custody (50/50) that you shouldn't have to pay support.

Why do people do it? My two are same father oldest is 11 yrs old and my 6 month old.

I know of one woman where I used to live, on kid number 7 father number 7 does not know who the fathers of the kids are either. But it seems this happens a lot, multiple children in a family where each has a different father, how do you explain to the kids?

Why would someone knowing the person has this many kids with different fathers go ahead and even have sex with the person knowing this? Aren't especisally the men afraid of being on the hook for a child they may not want? Like Duh, if you can't tell what they are like with 7 kids all different men, then there is something wrong.

I feel its not fair to the kids at all. If my mother or father for that matter had kids all over the place, I think I would lose respect for them.

The only one trying to FORCE beliefs around here are the people trying to say there is something wrong with believing that marriage is between a man and a woman.

I accept your right to bed whom you choose and do pretty much anything you please with your girlfriends. I've stated that numerous times in numerous ways.

Someone who disagrees with you on a thing or two has a closed heart? But you are a champion of "diversity," right?

My self-esteem is not governed by strangers with wildly opposing belief systems, nor by any "group" who wishes to coopt my belief system on behalf of their pet social issues.

Reminding a b!tching & complaining person that it was their own decision/s that put them in the position they're in and as such, they really have no right to continually complain, is a negative connotation?

Thanks for sending me a note on it and I didn’t mean to avoid this for discussion. I was just trying to avoid calling myself the hypocrite I’m sure to be.

There is no such thing as a right to marry.

i am offended because you are living in a glass house and throwing stones.

That's why I learned to avoid political discussions with subjects of crowns.

he doesn't bad mouth his ex. Unlike you has admitted and accepted some responsibility for his current situation.

What you do in your bedroom is a choice.

You know I always felt irritated when LGFTQ compared their struggles to Blacks. I didn't think it appropriately fit especially with whites because they would still be very racist and yet choose to hide behind their minority status as a different sexual orientation.