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Justifying Cheating?
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:50:49 PM | In my humble opinion, cheating isn't "justifiable"...that said
I have never cheated in a relationship. I am cut from the faithful cloth. For me, it would be going against the very grain of my character. I couldn't look at my own reflection in the mirror. I have been on the cheated on side of the fence. And frankly, it blows. You put your trust in another person and they break it. It hurts, it rips right into your soul to be in that position.
And yet, yet...I accept that, for some people, that is the cloth that THEY are cut from. And who am I to judge them? People cheat for all kinds of reasons. Some good, some bad. But what makes it wrong is when they paint the picture of a faithful lover, which is in reality a lie. To me, it wasn't being cheated on that hurt so much...it was being lied to. Innecessarily lied to. I am the kind of person who is very easy going. If I am with someone that needs more than what I have to offer then so be it, but don't lie to me and sneak around behind my back. See, that is the bad side of unfaithful. It turns a person that you respect into someone that you can't, because they don't respect you enough to be honest.
I don't think being a serial cheater makes someone a terrible person. I don't think that the inability to be faithful makes them weak. I think that it's the dishonesty that most people employ in the process of cheating which makes them less of a human being than they are likely capable of being. It shows that they also have little respect for themselves. In my eyes, whatever it is that you're going to do, stand up and do it honestly and openly. Don't sneak around in the back alleys and hang your head down so you won't have to face the music. You have to be able to look your own reflection in the mirror. And if you can't, then you have stepped over the boundaries and into the realm of dishonesty. | | | |
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