If at 30, none of my contemporaries fit the bill, I'll get a girl who's 18, fresh out of school.

What business?

Yes, men do earn more. The money doesn't just fall into their laps

And contributions other than mere finances can be measured how?

"Seen by some" would be an opinion.

If your empathy weren't so superficial, you'd of understood that this comment could be offensive to me. It seems you have much more to learn than I do.

My point was that the legal system screws over men. If anybody wants to challenge this assertion, then go ahead. But neutralism gets nothing accomplished.

Men make more than women, so naturally men get screwed in this instance. Unless you have facts to verify the average female makes more than the average man.

Your perspective allows you to view it this way, I can say the same for you. It's rational to suggest that a majority of the financial contributions came from the person making 200k, and not the jobless person.

She did raise me, and I believe she did a poor job at it. As you've said, contributions are assumed, not promised. Household contributions can't be measured, but financial contributions can. The only problem with changing divorce in the legal system to reflect financial earnings would be the drastic increase in divorce lawyers... Though I admit experiences like mine do vary, I would still be on board for such a drastic change.

Forgive me but I'm too young to get what you're saying here. All I know is I've always been philosophically against marriage, specifically after hearing divorce results in a default 50% split regardless of situation.

Pregnancies and parenting seem to prevent women from advancing to higher positions

Recently my mom(Jan) has divorced her 2nd husband, the marriage lasted a decade up till now. During the marriage she had almost no jobs, the only jobs she ever had were minimal pay. Meanwhile her husband has a 200k salary, working every weekday and commuting miles to get to his job. Throughout the years Jan has spent a lot of the cash her husband had made. Well the moment I became an adult, it seems Jan was scheming to divorce her husband. It seems to have finally happened, and of course, Jan is guaranteed 50% of all her husband's money, including my college funds. To top it off, her husband must pay her $2000 a month for the next 5years.

In the midwest: The only gender inequality favoring men are biological factors; men being the physically dominant sex. Otherwise, the cultural bias supports women more than men just a little bit, but on a massive scale when it comes to the legal system. It seems in society's efforts to even the playing field, it creates inequity. Divorce should in no circumstance involve a 50/50 split, it should be based on whether you sat on your ass doing squat or whether you financially contributed to your household.

I think it's all about the power of your mind. I love human behaviour and interaction, it amazes me to no end. This place is just pure education in the subject.

This is a generalization and it involves western civilization, not the third world. I know that in many cultures women are still treated in very poorly, but in western civilization, it's time for them to own up to the fact that they are treated better than men.

He has a GF and his texts have crossed the line. Why don't you tell him that

Even if she's not trash, the whole situation is trash for the man.

EI means Emotional intelligence. I am getting pressed on the subject heavily at the moment. IBM invested tons of money into this project for a reason, trust me. Kasparov lost the battle, but not the war.

Just like I accepted I did not know much about evolution, I am asking you kindly to read more on the subject. I can't give you any good links, it's too complex, but I promise it poses huge questions on our understanding of the world today.

This is gonna sound douchey and I apologize for that, but I find people who say that about stats have no formal training on the topic.

Parents should teach their kids to QUESTION authority more than respect it. Failure to do so is only training children to grow up to be obedient servants & soldiers, whose sense of morality comes from an outer authority more than their own conscience.

One would have thought we'd have learned something from the Nuremberg trials, but it certainly doesn't appear so. I blame the average parent for creating the society of obedient slaves that we have today.

Philosophy creates theories that can be destroyed by logic, not by empirical tests

Religion inculcates within people at an early age to obey and respect authority

What do you believe? For me it is rational to view outcomes in positive manners. I believe that all human behaviour is subject to a favourable outcome. Everything that we do is reward based or subject to the aversion of punishments. If you can think of another frame were this would be better understood that would be great!

Do not allow him into your house, until you are ready to introduce him to the children.

This is just basic logic, nothing more. As you say, the kids can wake up at any time.

But there's something past that which bothers me:

He knows you aren't ready for him to meet your children. He knows you don't want him interacting with them. He knows that this is all important to you.

But he is so selfish, he is asking you to set your concerns about your children aside, for his simple pleasure.

Without that, a pic is absolutely meaningless (zero risk). Get it?
This is really not difficult

But I'm sorry, there is just NO RISK of harm or danger by simply posting a pic

She needs to know that he's the one that made the mistake not her. And when she's 15 I'm sure idiot isn't going to be the word coming out of her mouth.

Posting innocuous pics of your children on POF poses ZERO risk of harm or danger.
Let me repeat, ZERO risk of harm or danger.

Even if the parent says they dont want your income, eventually the incomes Will combine. If times are tough, its hard to not look at someone elses kids and think, we could afford to fix the subaru if she didnt have those kids.

this will not stop the self-aggrandizers from tooting their own misguided horns for all to hear

I have often suggested being a married parent working or keeping your marriage healthy and being a parent is probably more work......and I understand the premise of not being able to get up at a moments notice or spur of the moment....

But Love....your suggestion of sharing? You want to share your life...or when you have a free weekend every other weekend you want someone available when it is convenient to you? Somehow when I was raising my children I do not remember ever teaching them sharing was when it was convienent you shared????

But perhaps sharing for some is a little different? Many individuals seek a companion...but that suggests a relationship or equal effort or commitment by both parties....not someone who is willing to settle for something less than optimum.

I never has an issue when a single mother viewed my time as a custodial parent as an impediment to building a relationship especially when she had her own " primary parent" role. It is perhaps the single parent who has a very full schedule and expects someone to wait for when they have free time is in fact the selfish one.

Well, it's either, "The children come first!", or it's, "My happiness comes before the children!" It can't be both... Koko

A woman who still doesn't get it. It's off-putting to men. Show me ONE guy's profile that says, "Looking for a single mother who will neglect her kids, to spend time with me!" It's a GIVEN that a single mother will devote her focus first and foremost to her children. Why do so many women feel the need to state the obvious? Is it so you can club some guy down the road with, "I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'D BE SO SELFISH AS TO ASK ME TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU!!!"?

Look, EVERYONE makes sacrifices to be in a relationship. Saying stuff like, "My kids come first!" is just stupid and contentious. Among other things, it paints you as a kudos-seeking martyr.

Saying that women file for divorce more than men, does indeed say something about the genders: it says that women file more than men. It logically follows that one would wanna investigate the reasons, but it all b0ils down to, they want to, and they can. Stop being dumb.

Wrong. Abortion(s) as well.

This may sound cruel but I don't think twice about killing roaches, if it hasn't had a chance to develop a mind, if it is living on pure instinct it doesn't have a life yet.

I can't believe that in 2013 people can be so judgmental and stupid. I personally would prefer the women had an abortion than had the unwanted child and the child witnessed the horrible things in this world that a child should never see.

Some of you idiots dont seem to realize that the kids this woman would have had would have been on OUR pockets. Shes done the word and the unborn a favor. Do you people really think a woman with multiple fathers and likely none in the picture is going to successfully raise 6 kids?

Some people really have the victim mentality down pat. Please illustrate when I have ever called you a name or called you an ass? Can we go back through your replies and see how often you resort to name calling??

Why do you suggest you are being bullied here…ohwhynot.....because someone is not rolling over to your supposed greater wisdom and knowledge? You get challenged or feel you get bullied at every situation where individuals disagree with your narrow selective views…or just when the guys do not fall in line…or is that roll over to your views of the truth?

And why should you feel sorry for their offspring? Because it enables you a sense of superiority in your own parenting?

And if you look at the statistics in fact many of the woman suggested there were problems when the men did not see any issues….there are numbers that suggest the women were dissatisfied in the marriage…that the men did not support their needs enough…while at the same time many of the men were surprised and blindsided by the level of dissatisfaction by their wives…..would those statistics be valid for your consideration? They do exist indicating woman felt there problems while the husband was unaware. After all they support your premise? But are those numbers relevant and factual since the numbers debunking your belief are irrelevant? Or are you one who likes her cake…as long as she is the only one who can eat the cake?

But that would then beg the question…why are woman so much less satisfied with their lives and direction of their married lives…and as statistics also indicate…second marriages fail at an even larger percentage….and as woman initiated divorces more than men…woman were more dissatisfied with the marriage and the interaction between the parties….woman supposedly identified more problems and men were unable or unwilling to deal with issues…is the problem men being unwilling to work at the marriages…or woman being less able to deal with the realities that life will not be a fairy tale? Perhaps we need to ask….is there anything that will satisfy some woman?

It is slowly being seen more and more…but it is not supported through legislation or established laws in the family courts. It is therefore questionable for anyone to suggest there is real change when there is no actual legal principle allowing that supposed change. Can you acknowledge that concept? Perhaps what perhaps is more accurate is some woman realize they are not interested in being a mother just like they realize they are not interested in being married.

In fact N.O.W. and a number of other woman advocacy groups are now against the premise of shared custody as it removes or diminishes control of the primary custodial mother. Or is that diminishes $$$$$$$$$$ returns? But as we have seen here…having control of the children is very important to many mothers…anywhere from controlling access that they determine as appropriate…to how many Barbie dolls or when MP3 players are appropriate in their opinion.
Exercising or mandating primary control! I would be curious to see if you want to argue that is not the position of NOW?

So yes…Ohwhynot…I have seen and read some studies on both sides of the table and unlike your myopic beliefs I suggest there should be no free passes to either side of the table. Expect and demand the same accountability and responsibility on both sides of the table….yet you suggest it is alright to work part time and require full time from the father.

As to lowering cs …Marine500….we might not agree completely here…..balancing the adjusted lifestyle in both homes….as both parents have to take financial responsibility for the adjusted lifestyle…. The lifestyle may not be what it was prior to the separation…just like the lifestyle may not be what it was prior to one or both of the parents losing their jobs…but I support the premise of requiring both parents to actually hold down employment….I might even have some acceptance of equalization of income streams in both homes…but that would be contingent on both parties being employed at a level commiserate with their education and employment history….that would leave out 50% of custodial mothers who are not employed or not employed full time!

Cry us a river, ohwhynot as you are after all the perfect illustration of the poor victim who was bullied…because some individuals had the audacity to not blindly follow your reasoning’s and rational……and then they suggest…..I did everything to make the marriage work and he just never appreciated or understood I was right…and he was wrong

Ho-hum. Women file for divorce:

1. Because they want to.
2. Because they can.

So, for nine singles cases of newborn infected HIV from mother transmission in two years... a law was enacted.

So, for nine singles cases of newborn infected HIV from mother transmission in two years... a law was enacted.Yet, regardless of over 300,000 birth in the same two years in that State alone -considering just the 3% of probability of "mistaken paternity" which can be quantified as 9, 000 cases- it´s defended the holy "right to privacy" while cheating.

In order for me to take your posts "out of context", they'd first have to BE in some sort of context. Aside from your verbose statements which essentially boil down to, "Spanking is bad because I say so!", your posts make very little sense, and have gotten the replies they deserve...