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zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Have a Super Valentines Day! Posted: 2/14/2007 3:46:58 AM
Thank you. You too. Wish you have a good day. I just had one, on the 13th Feb, one of my best friend told me the news they are (she is)pregnant!!! I am an aunt now. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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What ever happened to woman being fun? Posted: 2/14/2007 3:37:04 AM
Hi Scottdawg76, I would appreciate you reply to me. I jumped into conclusion too fast anyway. But we girls are full of fun. We are waiting for the one to share with. I know a lot of girls who is still single but love cooking, reading, enjoy cooking, going dinning, being independent, enjoy having a conversation and looking for a date. Somehow, they are all impressed "no clubing" because guys there are all gxxxx. Maybe your approach was...hmm..I mean...a little aggresive? I don't know. But I wish you good luck. I work with girls they are super good looking and they are single. If you ask me why? I really don't know. Good luck Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Legend of Saint Valentine Posted: 2/14/2007 2:50:00 AM
Thank you, Silk Petal Rose. Even at the end it ends up a Hallmark selling tools but I still appreciate no rose no candle valentines day. What about you? I wish you happy valentines. Z PS. For guys only: Did anyone of you want to googles and check what is on March 14th?

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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I have never recieved a message, some help here? Posted: 2/14/2007 2:37:53 AM
Hello, I like the last paraphragphy. "I am looking for someone to romance. I'm not just some nice guy, I know how to treat a woman and make all her friends jealous (because they CAN'T have me). Ever wanted to feel like that?" The rest, ok. But fall into ok and nice guy type and "I Will Read It And Forget About It" that type. Only your last paragraphy telling the real and the raw. I love it. Can you build something out of that but not way too top of that? Not too much telling "I AM THE ONE" but no need to be the nice guy next door. We all have a nice guy next door, but why you? Something what you can do? Why other girls would think that it's their lost they didn't pick you? Can you make delicious cookies? Can you make a sketch for them better than any other street corner artist? Why you are so unforgetable? You would play violin and make candle light supper better than 5 stars hotel? Let us know, we will fall for it. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Has anyone ever try speed dating? Posted: 2/8/2007 3:01:15 AM
Hi Gary, I personally didn't try. If you don't think it should be counted then I don't mind. One of my girl friends used to go on speed dating and she went on a couple of them. She is not a shy girl and she is very talkative so it was not bad for her. A speed dating is a group of female meeting a group of male singles then they have 5 minutes (or less) to talk to each other then switch to next. For your seek you may want to take down some notes as you meet people for their names and how you feel because at the end you will have to figure out which one impress you the most and then(over 15 people, you better take some notes, right)....ha I am sorry do you remember who you speak to and who impress you? As I said, I didn't experience it myself. My gf she was not shy but she didn't find her date there. She wasn't very impressed by this event. But there was once she went, there was a show after the speed dating there was a firmen dancing show (ok, I believe they are not real firmen, but they all look good, ok?) she felt very worth to go at least to see the dance. Speed dating, if you are not good at talking, and you think there will be someone appreciate you are silence as a piece of wood, you can go try it. It is kind of like a debating event. Who is a better speaker (of course looks good too) get the vow(S). How's that sound to you? Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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What ever happened to woman being fun? Posted: 2/8/2007 2:46:16 AM
Not sure what and where. But I am pretty much a home girl. I used to go out have fun going clubing and dancing and get drunk and make out with guys but I never went home or hotel or motel with any. I don't do it anymore I don't like bar sence anymore I like staying home, cooking, reading, cleaning and spending time with my bf. I think I have a lot of fun. What kind of fun you are looking for? If a girl talking to you about her work issue just for a listener to relax you don't have patient to listen, then too bad. Are you looking for a girl jumping into the dance pool then jump into your...hm...well...wherever. Define what kind of fun you need then go look for it again. Don't just complain we girls no fun. We are all fun. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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violence at Night Clubs and Bars Posted: 2/8/2007 2:11:09 AM
As a Montrealier (I am sorry if it is not a good term), I back you up. I am telling here even not my experience, but it happened. It happened to my very decent friends. I was not there. I get the report according to one of the girl not drunk and none of them are cheap drunk. They went on a very popular club which still exists now in downtown. They were dancing then went to the bar order shooters for the group. The bar maid never come back with anything within 30 minutes. My friends were waiting and getting impatient. At the end, they paid by visa but they didn't leave her any tips because it took too long. The barmaid got pissed. She pulled the handbag handle of the girl and argue. They pulled around and the barmaid ripped the handle. My friend got furious. Complained to the manager. Got the money for the handbag. Hey, if you think this is the end of the story, you better keep reading. My friends went to the dance pool, dancing. The barmaid was furious of what happened. She went into the dance pool, push my friend. My friend was being pushed on the floor. The group was furious. At the end, you know what, the whole group got kicked out from the club. I never go to that club anymore same as all of my friends. By the way, the girl who was charged by visa for the drinks. She got charged double on her card. She checked her statement and found out. Of course, without us, the club still exists, but just want to tell you, yes, it happens. If you talk about Thursday cluc? Ohoh...hmm...I never had been a regular there. I had friends being regular. But everytime I went in I felt like I had to beg them, the bouncers. What for? A big no for me. I am going to have fun and spend my money. No way I have to beg. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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ARE WE TO OLD....... Posted: 2/8/2007 1:39:06 AM
Oh wow, Those are good inputs. Wolf. You may feel old only by digit. Are you comparing 10 to 40? Or 20 to 50? Nobody is the winner here. I am blessed I had the asian look so people think I am young. I am studying at the night school the professor thinks I am a day student (just by the look). Going on an interview, people may double look at my cv asking me "you, are you coming out from college?" There is never a question of being too old. Unless your health couldn't support you. You know what I mean? If you are doing what you want to do, and able to do it, achieve everything, YA, you are young. Digit is nothing. You feel what you are. Feel to achieve. Feel healthy. Feel active. Feel young. Feel free. YEAH!!!! Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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How can you tell fake boobs from real boobs? Posted: 2/8/2007 1:25:18 AM
Hmm... Ok, Hi all, My now BF dated a dancer with fake boobs before. He felt the real ones and the fake once. According to him, he dosent' appreciate the size when they are too big. But then usually all guys (most) go for visual at first sight. Visually bigger are "kinda" better. No argue. For real. I don't mean oversize bigger. But in proportion, a very slim girl to have big boobs, of course, we all think that is perfect but it dosen't happen to everyone of us. I work in the fashion industry. Unless you are looking for a perfect model? Even thou they don't look for big boobs obviously to fit in the garments. As I know, looking at the photo when the person is flat lying down on back, the bressts part suppose to be flat without support. Because breasts are soft muscle, fat and nerves components. If you see any photos with a person/model lying flat on the ground, wearing bikini, still supper big and high up like "big" "BIG", so I can bet she was wearing pats or she has boobs job. Breast size are given. Work out can make it more solid, but not buliding it double D or whatever double..... That's my point of view. If I am wrong, please let me know. I would like to know too. Thank you. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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What do ya think Posted: 2/8/2007 12:49:42 AM
Hi Fabulous, This is fabulous, I like your profile. Tonight I 've read 2 profiles and you are one of them and I think both of you are in very good approach, respectively. Honest, very much you are what you are. I don't feel like you are full of yourself. I find your profile very interesting, cute, honest, straight forward and with sense of humor. A little longer than average (I just compare with those nothing profile, like ask me if you want to know, those kind of profiles) but not boring at all. You have a few extraordinary interests which are not underlined. For those in blue color and underlined means people can search you I know you probably know it in case for other readers only. But you have a lot of other interests to share so I don't think that is a problem. May I ask what is that about collecting served heads? This actually sounds scary if you mean it for real. Really? What kind? How can you get them imported? Ok, I ask too much hehe. Your profile, you are kind of half joking and half telling. I like the way you are not too serious because it is very comfortable. One point I just want to tell you, please you don't need to loose any weight if you like to cook or eat. I think you are definitely fine even find you a little too slim on your photo. (As a photography student, I know photo always looks chubbier than real life but not that much) You are in very good shape. I would even encourage you to gain a few pounds. If the rest of the girls don't agree with me then don't take me on that. Just most of the girls I know we all like guys not "skinny". Oh by the way, I work in the fasion industry. How we look at a model and how we look at a REAL PERSON are totally different perspective. I think you already told all the right things on your profile. I wish the lucky star(s) will read it and at the same time catch your eyes. If possible, more photos. At least benefit the rest of us. I mean ME. HAha. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Tear it apart Posted: 2/8/2007 12:19:42 AM
Hi dear, Now this is something we call it as a honest profile. If I have to definte it as a color. It lays on the grey zone. Depends on how you read it as light grey or dark grey. But it is a grey. With positive which is not "glamouring" and with negative which is not "complaining". I like it. I like your photos. Maybe you want to add a full body shot photo? But that's only upon your wish. I think your profile is interesting. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Any comments? Posted: 2/2/2007 6:35:02 PM
Hey I am back POF, Hi Sincere soul, I think your profile is very sinsere. Except one thing, what is your profession? I can understand people may have professionals that they don't want to expose themselver to make them into trouble or look improfessional. The fact is, if you leave it blank, you are jobless, I mean, you look like a jobless. At least most of the girls would think that way. What do you want to do with that? Be honest we girls are very afraid you would turn out to be a jobless bump. If you are on a transcantion in between jobs, or at a job you prefer not to tell, at least have something related to your field like "security" or "studing" or whatever. Don't lie of course. But in gerenal you should have a term to call your profession, right? In the part of your interest, you can change going roller blading into roller blade or roller blading. It might easier for perope to search for you. Same things as for watching and going movie, just write movie. Those are being underline are being found by being serach. So higher chance. :) Write a little bit more about your first date. Even we all know walking on the beach or watching sunset on the beach is not real in MTL, but you can be more interesting, right? Say something interesting. Like we can go musemum or exhibition of whatever. Tell a girl what is so interesting to go on a date with you. Why you? Because you are unique and special. So you have to show it. Right? Just my opinion. Wish you good luck. I love POF. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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rate my proflie Posted: 12/19/2006 11:39:47 PM
Hi Kilerteddybear, I think correct spelling and grammar will help. I am no expert in writing but you don't need to be good in writing a novel, just to write it for viewer to read and understand. If you say you are funny and romantic, please show it. I don't see it. I know you may want to save for the special person. But your profile is....quite boring. Can you convince us girls you are funny and romantic? Remember to beat all the others to show who you are, not only saying "ya, I am here," Make a difference" to make us why we read you and make us "KNOW" you"." Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Would you loose weight for $10,000 dollars. Posted: 12/19/2006 9:09:46 PM
Make sure he will pay.

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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A river of ink Posted: 12/19/2006 9:09:13 PM
Hi elikca, My opinion is, there are different reasons people would use internet dating site to meet people. Some are tired of bar scene and some just want to be picky and some want to be "in the ocean". No matter what is the reason, the fact, at least to me, it dosen't make any difference. You can meet a girl at a bar and it can last forever you marry her and have kids and happy ever after. Or same story you can meet her on the street, on internet, at work...etc. If you meet a right person, and work your relationship togehter and also hope it would last long, and with luck you two get along and work things out, yes, it will last. Dosen't matter where you meet the person. People always doubt "does internet dating work? is it real? are they all fake?" It happens in the reality also. Anyone can meet someone at a bar with only seeing a face, who knows what is real behind and what is not? Relationship is partnership. It is about trust, commitment and honesty. With all other factors in live which I would call it luck. If you meet a person which is so good but at a wrong time, well...too bad. But it happens, right? Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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real life and internet? Posted: 12/12/2006 6:08:05 AM
It is just a feeling of comfortable. Of course, it might end up after 1000 hrs of chatting and still meet in real life and feel the wrong one. But if the person is not ready for real life meeting, give him/her some times. Rushing would just make the person feel being pushed. I think that is the purpose for internet. You can email message, you can use instant message even webcam to see the face. Anyway, how many of us can tell by the first date? To know a person it takes sometimes. We all had experienced that first time meeting this person he/she was terrible, but acutally a nice person and become friends? Did it happen? It is always about chemistry. If a person consider himself or herself or actually from yourside is not ready to meet and be patient, isn't that the right chemistry for the first step? Just my personal opinion. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Christmas Carol's. Posted: 12/11/2006 9:06:45 PM
Dear commonsens, To avoid most of the Xmas carlols that you hate, solution is: Put ear plugs on and sleep under your warm and comfortable blanket until boxing day is over. After 27th is no more xmas time. So any of those exist it will become your "normal" carols. How's that? Hehe Long time no see to all POFs. Hi. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Christmas Carol's. Posted: 12/7/2006 11:38:43 PM
Last christmas - Wham

zonezone

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Unreasonable Phobia fears of BBW/BHM Posted: 11/13/2006 1:49:08 AM
I am trying to take this topic as an outsider out somehow an insider. This is how sad it is. I am an asian and I live here. I am not a perfect size model for sure but I think I am not super size. In general I am still average. In a Canadian standard. In my city where I was brought up at, all the girls "supposed to be good looking" they are all size 1 or minus. If I go back to my country, I probably not fit in their size xl. I have read one of the article and there is a girl about my heifht (5'3") and she had 140 bls and she said she wanted to die because she was over weight. In 140 bls wanted to die, my god, give me a breakd. As long as you are comfortable and you are HEALTHY, please healthy. That is the main concern, right? Please eat. Come on, I am sorry I am not a size 1. I am a canadian size 5-7. To an aisan standard, I am already a pig, ok? But I enjoy eating. I love eating. Just to be carefule about your health. If up to a point you are not healthy, yes, you have to watch out. Ya, trust me, I am not the kind of girl to have a bite of the coin then saying "I am full." NO. I like the whole piece of bacon pizza. Hey, where is the bacon? Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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somebody please rate me ?!!!? Posted: 11/8/2006 11:25:18 PM
Hi killah99, I am here to killya.....haha. Ok, let's start your review. By age 33 you suppose to have a job or pending to do something but it dosen't tell us anthing by a "YES". So please do not make us girls to guess you are a jobless bomb. OK? Please even I am not an english first language, but put your supposed to be "cap" to "cap" like "I". Just for the viewers. Write your paraphy in a good gramma is one of the main fact. Please do not ask me, as english my second language, I will have to tell you I saw pooer gramma I wll skip. I mean it. A BIG TURN OFF. About your "about me" there should be a big improvement. You can write better than that. About your photo, hey, now comes to my strong part, I will say the second photo, your big head shot is the best one. For the others, soso, but they are still good. As a main photo, how your face is really telling who you are. I like that shot. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Can I get some feedback please? Posted: 11/8/2006 11:04:27 PM
Hi Foreverpink, Your profile seems to me there are a lot of unknown. So how do you want peoploe to approach you if you don't even know what you are doing yourself? If you are working now, it's ok, state your profession, it is important. Even later on you will be a student, state you are a student, remember to put something there. Nobody want to be friend with or date with or whatever with a jobless. You are still 19 and you think your friends are most important, then why you state you are looking for long term? Maybe you would like to change your status to dating. By your age, I don't mean all of you not serious. But you have a lot of time to think about your future. Change your status into friends or dating, change your statues later when you feel you are ready. From your profile, seems to me you are looking for dating and potiential to be long term. So go for dating first. :) I am sorry I can see your profession changed already. Remember to keep it updated. It will help to make the viewers to understand you. Tell vierwers more about you. For an unknown person be honest I go for deleted right away. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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what s wrong with me Posted: 11/8/2006 10:41:00 PM
By the way, do you have any photos? I hope you notice that photo(s) is the main part to get more viewers. We live in a superfical world. Don't we? I always admit I go for photos. And yes, I don't represent all viewers, but I don't answer people without photos, or they don't provide one with their message. I hope you have at least one. Fair enough? Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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What do you find most romantic in a woman or a man? Posted: 11/8/2006 10:31:57 PM
May I say, sorry to break the mood, the ideal may not be the one you thihk that's your ideal? Like the prince charming you are looking for may not treat you like a princess? My ideal moment would be "my charming prince treats me like a princess and bring me a ring in the evening time in a romantic moment in the forest." I think it is not happening in a real sense but it dose not harm to dream, right? As a city girl, I don't know what is a romatic moment, I think it is somebody have a smile, with warm food, and give you a hug. What do you think? I don't even have time to groccery shopping. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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What do you miss the most about being in a relationship? Posted: 11/8/2006 10:17:41 PM
Vanesss, Sex is a good part but never over graded it. Of course it is always good to have it with someone you like/love. The warmest part is always about sharing: sharing the food, the good wine, the good concert, the good plan, even the bed...etc. It dosen't matter where it goes, right? See what the other half needs and bring the person something what they want, even how small it is, it will be a complete evening time. I brought my present BF to a massage and he appreciated a lot what I offer him. I even offered him massage on his head the same day I brought him to massage. Even I am not a pro massageur but he fell asleep right away. He enjoys it. It dosen't cost anything and it is nothing sexual and actually it is sweet: to see him sleep. It is not only about sex. It is about being comfortable. When you are comfortable with the person, good sex will come. It is always about good communication. Just my opinion. :) Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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what s wrong with me Posted: 11/8/2006 10:02:12 PM
Hi all, I have been busy for all these days. Here we go. HI Caronacon, A lot of people told me your profile is working as same as your resume. I couldn't agree less but I couldn't agree more than that. It sounds like picky, isn't it? If a guy ask me to meet him just like meeting him like an interview I am sorry it is more than 100% turn off and I will never meet the guy(s) asking for it. There are a lot of good comments given to you so you can take them as a reference to rewrite your profile. You don't have to do your profile exactly like everybody wants that's impossible but whatver what you DO want? Well written and more information and interesting at the same time. Be hoenst, lacking of information is one of the BIGGEST weak point to get viewer. Why would people contact you if you want to hide your info and please remember if you "don't want to put anything on your profile", don't ask for anything. Right? That's true? Isn't it? What do you want to read from the person? Then put something there equavalence? Right? I hope it will help. Thank you. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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open call Posted: 10/28/2006 12:00:36 PM
Hi Krel, I am in a rush and I just take a quick look of your profile. I will do a serious reading after. My concern is more about the photos(if you check my profile, I am into photography). Your main photo there was a back light from your room just right out from your mouth make it look like you were smoking. I am not sure if that was done by purposed but if not, it is not a good main photo; you are only an occasional smoker. I saw your photo in small and thought you had a cigarette in your mouth. The second photo from left photo is totally pixelated. Couldn't even tell what exactly it is. A philie(sub marin sandwich?) Delete it, please. The photo in front of the kitchen sink...be honest, it is a daily life photo I appreciate I can see you from different angle and different way. But it was blurry and not flattering at all at all. If you have a better one, replace it. Will do more reading later. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Well, here it goes, let's see what you think Posted: 10/27/2006 10:19:05 PM
Haha, I only be here regularly just 1 month or 2 doing this profile review. Before I was busy looking...untill lately I found my date. First date part...not bad. I like the squash idea. But I am not the athletic type myself. LOL Now is the time you will have to work on your photos. Taking selfportrait is not as hard as you think. A lot of cameras obtain timer function. Do not hand hold it and take a shot usually it will come out distorted or seeing your two arms. Ask your friends to help you on that if possible. I saw some people use photo booth photos and you know what, some come out not bad. Webcam photo...so far I haven't seen any good ones thou...not sure if it worths to try... Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Curious Posted: 10/27/2006 10:02:01 PM
Hi Ry, I see you edited your profile. It looks ok. As I mentioned in my last post, it falls into the plain nice guy type of profile. If you want to be extraordinary, you will have to work harder on it. The ratio of the 2 genders are very uneven. Most of the girls from 20s - 30s have a lot of incoming messages. Therefore, they don't necessary to search and send out messages, of course, some of them will. My personal experience, I might have sent out 1-2 messages (I couldn't remember) since I joined but I received messages everyday. And I only picked out those who dropped me a thinkful message (not only saying "Hi baby you are hot. Wanna chat?" or even just a "Hi") and with well written profile and good photos. Do a search in your area to check how many guys are looking for the same target as you are and check how many girls are in your target area. Also, read more other people's profiles then try to be different from them. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Well, here it goes, let's see what you think Posted: 10/25/2006 9:15:10 PM
Hi Lostrider, Good, in progress. Take Spade's suggestion, work on your first date part. A quiet place to have conversation...ok, fair, but BORING. Com'on. You can do better than that. Give you a tip, there was a guy brought me to a Floral Exposition on a first date. I found it pretty impressive. Go somewhere interesting first, then sit down have a coffee and dessert. It will create more topics for your conversations. 31 year old reviewing profiles on a tuesday night...Spade, are you talking about me? Haha. Writing may not be my strong skil but typing definitely is. Good luck. Keep working. If possible, more photos please. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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I need your opinion Posted: 10/25/2006 8:48:41 PM
Hi Proud mom, The profile is in improving progress, good for you. You have revised your "Interest" and "About me". They look ok. If possible, put a little more work on your "About me". Now it is still in a big paragraphy. Try to break it down into smaller paragraphy and put space inbetween small paragraphies. It will be a lot easier to read. As for about the kid's pic, it dosen't offend the forum rule, so you can post any as you wish. We are trying to give you a suggestion as a outsider only. May not be the best suggestion, but we show we care. Right? Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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A simple opinion for my profile, is it like maybe too much to expect? Posted: 10/25/2006 8:34:01 PM
Hi Lukewarmguy, I didn't get to see your profile at the beginning. Now you already changed and deleted all the details. So I guess you are not really looking for comment or simply not looking for anything anymore. Even looking for a friend, a decent profile should be provided. At the end you said gave it up already. This dosen't sound attractive to anyone at all. I guess there was a misunderstand from you to understand what RileyRoars's post mean about seperated status. It is not telling you to hide it. The truth is if you are seperated ONLY, the wife is still somehow in the picture. That's why it will be difficult to get reply. Changed it into "prefer not to say" is not helping either. Usually "prefer not to say" will lead people to think to the worst answer possible. If that is your marital status, that means you are "attached" and "prefer not to say". That's why Zuzus told you your profile and marital status are contradicting each other and screaming out "liar". Anyway. Don't know what is the main reason you give up so easily. Hope you will give it a try again when you are a little more cheer up. Ciao. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Well, here it goes, let's see what you think Posted: 10/24/2006 10:53:00 PM
Hi Thelostrider, First is a comment on your post. "Met some not so nice ppl". Try not to be negative, stay positive and not giving out negative feeling. Please remember your posts (the most recent once, or by search, viewers would find out the posting history up to last 25 posts) will be reflected on your profile. Negative comment is not very attractive. You give a little too much in details about your school history. This is quite boring also you may need to pay attention people may be able to find out some of your personal info. Please try to avoid that, just for your own safty and personal info security. I know that is a joke, do not sell computer to you potential date/date. If we need a saleman, we will go to Future shop or wherever. There are some hobbies or interests you had in the past and you discontinued. If you don't do them anymore then you can totally skip them. If you drop them due to certain reason, you can mention "Now I have a lot of things more important in life I am busy with, but I definitely would love to do it again in the future." Too many dropping out of anything sound like you are a quiter. Quiting something because you can't afford it now, ok, understandable, you are young and are a student, but it dosen't sound attractive anyway. Your wardrobe...LOL, undecisive and improving it. Unless you are looking for a girl to change your whole wardrobe from head to toe. Otherwise, yes, we will. No matter is your wardrobe or your hobbies or your career, learn what you want and what you like first, be comfortable with it then stick with it. You are still young and there are a lot of things to be experienced and developed in your life. I hope my comment is not too harsh. However, your profile sounds too "lost" (is that what you mean in your username?) and too undecisive. Man needs to have confident to be a real man. We girls want to date a man but not a little brother. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

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Updated profile, please re-review, Thx Posted: 10/24/2006 10:20:31 PM
Hi Ry, You can add more in the "About me". Not only the description of yourself, also about what you are looking for. Give more hints to viewers to know "what do you want" and "what do you like". It is very plain by only telling us "you are a nice guy". If possible, try to make your writing more interesting. Now it is a very general plain "nice guy" type profile. I can tell you 80% of the guys' profile are sharing more or less the same info. Where is the part "First date"? Please do not skip it. Put something interesting to show you care and you are interesting or even romantic. Ok, first date may not necessary to be romantic. But you never know... Nice photos. It is a good start. This is a fact that good photos can attract a lot more viewers. By the way, you are very good looking. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

help with profile Posted: 10/24/2006 10:03:58 PM
Hi Charity, Ok, you already edited your profile. That's good you are opened to suggestion and take action which considered to be good for you. I can see you put a few more interests but you put them in your self description "About me" part. Please try to go to "Edite Profile" and put them seperated by using comma (eg. hip Hop, country, heavy metal, fishing, hiking) The order of priority or type of activity is not important. Once you have them in the part "Interest", as long as there are other people sharing the same common interests as you do the activity will be in blue underlined. It will help other people to find you. I can see you are new here so I repeat myself to make sure how it works I hope I don't sound tiresome. To Woman has a very good point, your grad photos are not updated photos. You can keep them on for now but please replace them ASAP when you have some new ones. Those grad photos even they were well taken but the person in it always look too uptight. It is also preferable using photos within a year even your face hasn't changed at all. Those photos you were in a red dress are good. You look sexy and comfortable and they are more suitable for you age. Another thing about photo which I forgot to mention, there is one of the photo of you and your daughter. This is very considerable to put your kids photos on the profile. Please remember this may attract child molester or pervert to approach you for your kid. Most of us do not recommend kids photos on profile. Only for the safty of your daughter. Last thing: spelling: newfoundland > Newfoundland Good luck. You have a very positive manner and are very open minded. You will have your catch soon. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

help with profile Posted: 10/24/2006 9:09:13 PM
Hi Charity, "I had my daughter when i was 16, her father left when i was 3 month pregnant. I finished high school, went to college, and raised her on my own (with the help of my parents). It was hard times, but looking up now." I will recommend you take out or rewrite this part. This paragraph gives me "bitter" feeling about the father of the kid left you. Try not to mention anything about the past relationship. It sends out negative vibe. Put more interests and hobbies. As you can see, those being underlined in the interest part, is helping other people to search you. Please take off the photo you sat on a guy's lap. Dosen't matter who he is (brother, best friend or ex). It is misleading and turn off. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

profile Posted: 10/24/2006 8:50:06 PM
Hi Charity, Since you are very new to here so I guess you misunderstand what OpheliaBonBon's post means. She was trying to tell you this thread was started by Buddylen. People posting under this thread should be giving comment to Buddylen's profile. Not asking people to read their own profile. She didn't mean you hijacked other's profile to use it as your own. Please start a new thread for people to view your profile. Be honest with you I don't know how to start a thread you will have to figure out. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

I need your opinion Posted: 10/24/2006 8:35:02 PM
Hi Proud Mom, I would suggest you reread all the comments and critiques. Most of them are good suggestions. About posting your kid's photo or not, it is only up to you. Your profile already stated you are a single mom. There was a post already mention posting a kid's photo may attract child molesters and perverts. We just want your kid to be safe. This has nothing to do with you are proud of your kid or not. About your profession, you can put "On maternity leave" or your working field before you left your work. Leaving it blank is not helping. Nobody wants to judge you as are a jobless bum or "looking for rice ticket or daddy". Put your profession there the problem will be solved. Please rewrite the part "About me". You put a big paragraph which mix all your interests and your self description together. It is not easy to read. Also I mentioned in my last post, puting your interests and hobbies in the "Interest" part will help people to search you. Take it easy. Most of us are trying to help here. Good luck and take care. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

I need your opinion Posted: 10/23/2006 8:33:08 PM
Hi Devilish, You put all your interests in "About me". It will eliminate the chance people may find you by doing search on the same interests and hobbis. Please check others profiles, you will find out in the "Interest" part, the blue underlined terms mean there are people sharing this activities at this site and their profiles will be found by searching as well. Please mention your profession. A young single mom with a baby without a profession sending out a "looking for rice ticket and daddy of baby" signal. It will scare away a lot of potential viewers which may not mind going out with you but mind you are only going for their bank account. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

What do you miss the most about being in a relationship? Posted: 10/23/2006 8:18:03 PM
Good luck to all the girls here who look for the strong warm arms. Wish all of you will have a warm and romantic winter this year. I find mine here in POF, you will find yours. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

I need help! Posted: 10/20/2006 9:02:22 PM
Hi OP, You are still young and looking for some fun and no commitment. Understandable. Not necessarily happen to all the people in your age. But you do have limitation for those who can contact you. This site yes also obtain the criteria of "intimate encounter" or "other relationship". But you can see the search which done by you (very nice of you Opheliabonbon, so sweet and generous) that pointing out there is very low in demand in that area. That means it is no surprise you will not get much reply as return. There are sites for people looking for "intimacy" or certain "partner". The possibility you will get a return should be much higher than here. So far as I can see, a lot of female POF users are looking for dating and long term. And a lot of them find it very "turn off" for guys who are looking for only certain things and disregard their profiles what they are really looking for. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

help me Posted: 10/20/2006 8:47:05 PM
Hi Casper 73, You already got all the good comments you need so far. Would like to see the reivse first then I will give comment again. Now all I can think of are already mentioned. Good luck. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

What do you miss the most about being in a relationship? Posted: 10/20/2006 8:22:18 PM
Oh Poetica, So romantic. Your poem inspire me and "excite" me to write something, a love letter. I think it would be most of us girls missing to be in a relationship: being wrapped around by the arms. For me, I can sit there inside the 2 arms and do nothing and not feel boring for the whole day. Just cuddling. So comfy. Especially winter is coming. LOL. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Is there something wrong with my profile? Posted: 10/18/2006 8:32:04 PM
Rewrite the about me please. Or simply copy and paste. One big paragraphy with spacing, spelling and gramma mistake is not attractive at all. Comment from a girl. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

New on the site, can you check my profile- Good, Bad or Ugly LOL Posted: 10/18/2006 3:13:17 PM
Hi candy, Now you have my point of view from a girl. Be honest with you, your profile will attract a lot of viewers who will contact you for one thing. I don't think your profile is bad, it is honest and tell us what you want. But some people will mistake it in the other way. This is a risk here. You are taking this risk either you get tons of nonsense contact to you and maybe eventually you will find one you like or maybe not. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Looking for honest profile review from women please. :) Posted: 10/18/2006 8:49:34 AM
Hehe, hi Geregrine, I know I got the answer for your little bunny. Hey girls if you want the answer, come to me. HAHA. No, please guess. This is a guy you want to take your time to guess and watch out. Com'on, he is a keeper. Yes, I definitly think you have a good profile and you will get a good catch. If not, come here see me, haha, ok, I go there see you. Hey, good luck. I feel honored to view a profile like that and the be viewered is so opened for opinions and advises. You are good. Trust me, we girls know there is no miricale after 10th date but we still believe there is a guy live for us for romance, keep it on please. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Looking for some helpful insight to improve my profile Posted: 10/18/2006 8:39:40 AM
Just an info, you can set your webcam in different color balance. Now it is a little bluish actually it is kinda cool but not great. But ask a friend to help you when you are online and set it as more "neutral" color tone at least you can take a photo in a good color. And yes, taking a good photo outdoor will help. You will need that. If you want more attention. A good outdoor photo with a good smile close up to your face WITHOUT sunglasses. We girls need no Brad Pitt, we only want to see your true face and your smile. Most of us here are city girls and no chance to meet new people, we need some warmth, NOT COOL OR COLD. Flash us your big huge warming sweeting smile with your shinny eyes blinking. Yes we love to see your eyes. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

One reply out of 100 emails sent, is this normal? Posted: 10/18/2006 8:27:32 AM
By the way, my sweet Cloudlight, your post should be pinned. Everybody should read it. This is a must or must not do. Thank you for pointing out.

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Photo Review / What to do for those who aren't photogenic Posted: 10/17/2006 10:13:39 PM
Hi Downtownliving, May I suggest the photo on the right side is the best one I can see(the one you were in front of a castle). Photogenic or not. It is very hard to tell. Be honest, as a photography student, to become a professional, all of us not really believe in photogenic or not. Of course, you may think not everybody would go studio to have a professional shot and actually that would look stiff. I don't think your photos are bad shots. Maybe you can get a couple more shots than you can have a pick from more variaties. But then, if you are good looking, but only not photogenic, why not leave a surprise for a lady who choose you for the way you are and the way you write your profile and your message. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Looking for some helpful insight to improve my profile Posted: 10/17/2006 9:51:53 PM
Hey James, Sweetie, don't be lazy. Even there is a post breaking down your profile into paragraphy, please remember to put those need to be "cap" to be "cap". Ok? Check your profile again there are a lot of forgetten "cap' "I" and something "cap" for no sense. Reread and revise please. You ask for your date to be active but so far from your profile I only see you are into yoga and you go camping. You may put camping into your interest section it may help you find people with common interest. But then, you don't seem to me you are very active. Maybe you would like to list more on your interesting? Or be specify active in yoga? I can see you put more photos. Be honest, they are not too bad. But they are all from your webcam right? I can see from the angles and the lighting of course the color. Everybody can see. It's better than no option but actually preferable that you can have photos in different time, place, angles, distance and clothing. All the photos from the almost same post, same setting and same clothing it can almost consider as a same photo. Unless you have significant different facial expressions. Make a funny face maybe. Z

zonezone

Joined: 2/25/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

One reply out of 100 emails sent, is this normal? Posted: 10/17/2006 9:32:47 PM
Hi Judgy, First of all, yes, correct, the chance of internet dating is just same as, not particularly higher, or not significantly lower chances that you may meet a girl on the street. This is only one of a way, a method to know more people. Second, about the percentage, I think you already got the answer from other post. The ratio here noticiably uneven in the two genders. That means, yes, competitive. At the same time just telling you, if you want to get attention, you have to work harder on your profile to make yourself stand out. About your profile, I don't find it particularly too long, but yes a bit. I have read some profiles longer than yours and I don't find them boring. This is telling you because your profile is too plain. If your profile is very interesting and well written, even in length is a little long but people would not complain because they are interested to know "what is next" and keep reading. You said you are positive and like to make people laugh. However seems to me the way you write is not the same, I can see complaining spelling out from your profile: your UPDATE, your searching (the paragraphy under your UPDATE), about your body weight and your money situation. Try to rewrite your profile with a positive manner. It will help. 1) Yes, mentioned in another post already, get rid of your UPDATE, we don't need to know. 2) Get rid of the 2nd paragraphy. Chics who are interests in the Canucks, and long walks on the beach and/or seawall even it is not a must, will NOT contact you or accept your contact. 3) If you are loosing weight or be healthy, it is for your own good. You are doing it for your health. If you have photos updated to show you are in better shape, show it. The way you talk about your body type sounds no confident and try to work out to be another person. Working out is no miricale. It takes time. If you are working out, keep it on, but put it as "I have a few extra pounds now but I would like to work on it and be healthy." Always be positive. 4) You can definitely skip the "put her sxxx together..." blablabla part. Be honest, nobody here is looking for gold digger not even Donald Trumph. You can put it as "I like woman who is independent and know how to take care of herself and a bonus on if she is finacialy wise who can advise and help me." Something like that. Don't make it sound like "I am not taking you out, get it?" In my case, a guy who can cook me a good meal worth more than bringing me to resturant. Maybe if you can cook, put it on your profile that you can make a very nice candle light supper? By the way, when I am doing my reviewing, I notice there is another part kind of contradicting in your profile. You suppose to be a very positve person and you work hard. Be honest this is kind of the city people's life. You don't need another half to make you not to be a homeboy. Be active and motivated yourself first. Show to others you can bring them something into their lives. Not to sit here to wait for them to bring something into you and motivate you. Good luck to you. You seem a nice guy. Work on your profile a bit and read the profile writing tips on top of this forum. Will help. Z

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