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 Author Thread: men's habits....
 ineedsun
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 84 (view)
 
men's habits....
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:54:54 PM
Some men have higher levels of testosterone running through them and may be more horny as a result. Seasonal changes play on a man's chemistry, too. Not all are the same, not all need porn or jack off all day long, every day.

I'm on a loading phase with supplements and protein shakes with my workouts now and the sun is really elevating my mood. During this time of year with all these things added to my body, my libido is through the roof. When winter comes, it's more stable.

As for lingerie, Ipersonally can't stand most of it. It's too average. It's too expected. If a girlfriend brings home a bag from Victorias secret, I pray it isn't the typical lace thingy. I hope it's a combo of things, not just a one-piece teddy like everyone expects to see on the sex kitten in a love movie.

For me it's boring hint at being naked. If my girl wants to tease me without being fully nude to start out four play, she'd get me going much faster if she walked in the room with a bra on, Brazilian shorts and high heel sandals. Or a really short mini skirt, heels and no top. This keeps the hot zone hidden with that element of wonder, while still giving my eyes an instant preview of good things to ... hehehe

Some of my other guy friends agree with me on this, as they are not too big on the typical lingerie thing, either. We all agree that seeing just part of the shape of our girls in mini skirts or panties, then some of the body is a bigger turn on than holes showing very little in lacy lingerie.

Then again, let me add something I think many guys will back me up on. Regardless of our taste in Lingerie, if a girl doesn't bring the fire in her eyes and a strong sense of self-esteem while wearing any kind of "teaser" goods, no amount of lace on earth will do it.

Sure, some men lose it over the idea a girl is unbuttoning her clothes. But I think most want more than the visual of lingerie - they want the kick-ars attitude of being taken by a minx, whatever she's wearing.

In fact, that might answer your question as to why you've experienced men being more turned on with lingerie than naked. Girls who wear anything to tease, usually are going to take their man through some kind of play time before getting "down" to business.

If women think they are the only one's that like some kind of four play, they're crazy. Granted some men want their four play to last 4 minutes (or 4 seconds), but I think most would like a bit of teasing other than nekked girl just walking in and spreading the eagle.
 ineedsun
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:04:15 PM
OP,

The women who really want what they say they want, will gravitate towards such a man. People don't do things they don't like to do. If you don't like working in an office, you're not going to spend the money to go to a school to learn such skills. Women are no different when it comes to what they want in men.

Just because some girl says she wants a great guy, doesn't mean she really wants one. A lot of them don't understand the difference between the bad boy who is a "boy" that is bad and a "man" who can be just as exciting, edgy, fun and without all the hurtful attitudes, over-the-top ego stroking and player-type intentions.

Any time a woman (or man) is hurt by someone they trusted, their immediate reaction when seeking someone new is to proclaim their need for a "real, caring, loving, non-abusive" person "this time".

That does not mean she's about to check herself on how she attracts such men - so she can avoid them again. And it also doesn't mean she'll recognize a good man when she sees one. She's just hell-bent on not getting hurt, but still attracted to all those "things" that lights her fire.

Problem is, most people who say they are tired of getting burned, think all they have to do is move away from the stove to be safe. And what they end up doing is hanging out near the door of the same kitchen they got burned in, instead of just getting the hell away from the entire building that the stove resides in.

One thing is for certain: If you're nowhere within reach of the fire, you can't be burned by it.

Most times I find that the girls who keep getting the same kinds of jerks they want to avoid, are not doing anything different to attract the right guy.

I know this is puzzling to try and understand. But honestly, it's no different than when "intelligent" people watch a Jerry Springer episode and ask "how can these fools on stage really think they are smart and normal citizens?"

Good women will jump all over a great guy (well, at least take it slow). But the bad girl that is always ****in about the bad-boys that hurt her, will most likely keep going back to the same.

In a world full of people wanting what they can't have, too many are reaching for the bad, hoping it will come with all the greatness they desire, too.

Just know, any good woman worth your time, will see all the good in you, if you have it to give. Any woman who can't see that is just blowing smoke when she says she wants a good man.

Of course, before the lynching begins from some women just waiting to jump on such a thread, I am talking about those qualities people look for after the initial attraction works for them, which has to be there for everyone.
 ineedsun
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 295 (view)
 
Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:45:32 AM
And to the girl who posted above me, just because a guy might have been blessed with looks that others "place" upon him as one of those "guys", does not mean he is more likely to jump on one of the girls that is bound to throw themselves at such a man.

Just as women want to be known for who they are, not all men that have these so-called blessed features are found out and about playing the town, hitting on everything that walks or even taking advantage of all the "women that are throwing themselves at him left and right".

I know it's hard for some women to believe. But maybe if they'd stop looking in the places that these "attractive" men do their unattractive things to women, they might find that some "attractive" men are not dogs, not going to cheat on their girl and not be stashing numbers from girls that come along "left and right".
 ineedsun
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 294 (view)
 
Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:38:28 AM
For women that HAVE NOT always felt or considered to be the "attractive" girl, I notice they do not fear attractive men as much as those that are the "attractive" girls.

Women who haven't received the same attention as the "pretty" girls, feel sometime they have nothing to lose by approaching "attractive" men. Some are shy, of course and it might take some effort, but I've seen many such women make no haste in at least saying something to attractive men.

However, I think that women who are used to being or are considered extremely attractive, are not afraid of attractive guys when in the company of other attractive women, or when they are in a situation where they (the girl) are usually the focus of attention (clubs, parties, work).

But I've seen extremely gorgeous women fall apart when an attractive man blows them off, as if the girl just expects all men would want her. And although I have no opinion of myself, every girlfriend I've had admitted to me at some later time, they were intimidated by me when first meeting me. Most times it was said to be because of all the talents and things I do. They told me they felt I wouldn't like them because they were not as talented and I would probably find them boring.

From those experiences alone, I believe that when an attractive woman, who's never had to really approach men because they are always approaching them - it might be hard to do the approaching when they are among an "attractive" man.

So, in some situations where an attractive woman is alone or confronting an attractive man on her own (like a dating site), she may not be as comfortable making the first move. Somehow it's been the mans role, attractive or not considered so attractive, to want to approach a woman that is "attractive".

Maybe this role has made it hard for women to take the plunge themselves.

I do believe this: A woman who finds an attractive mans profile on a site like this will more likely suspect him of wrong doing and not approach him first. And even if the guy approaches her, the chances of him getting a reply are slim. If he's that attractive, he must be a player, right?

But it is funny, this subject. Because "some" of the very women that suspect attractive men that look a certain way, dress a certain way or have those pics that look magazine or "poser" of being players or up to no good, often have photos of themselves looking all dolled up and ready for action.

Bottom line for me:

by society's standards, I believe less attractive women will approach an attractive man before an attractive woman will. Be it because the hot girl just expects to be hit on by the guy first or she suspects him of being a player - I think the less attractive girls feel they have nothing to lose and possibly something to gain - whereas the attractive girls can rely on someone eventually hitting on them if they are too afraid to hit up the attractive guy on their own.
 ineedsun
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:16:30 AM
I know this question is a bit old, but there can never be too much help for someone asking for it.

I'll tell you what I tell models when they complain that other photographers only want to shoot them nude. "What are you photos screaming, verses what you think your words are saying?"

When all that a stranger has to go by is your photos, when trying to get an idea of who you are beyond words, each photo you have tells a collective story.

When I look at your photos I see a very friendly, happy person. But to be very honest, you are leaning forward in your closeups and your full shots show you with nothing on below.

There are men out there who are looking for more than sex. Yes. That is the answer to your question. And I promise you - when such men see women with photos that give them any sense that the woman behind them may be too quick to show their goods or "hint" at them, they will pass you by.

And another thing that sends a bad signal to such good men are the conflicts in what a woman says and how she shows herself. Your photos are not that bad in relation to the problems you're experiencing. But I've seen a lot of women on here that say they are not looking for a good time, don't even ask, and don't consider them easy to get in bed.

Yet, these very same women are doing the poses with their butts towards the camera, pushing their hair up in other shots and blowing kisses at the camera. Now, what fool isn't going to call them out on that?

For those men that are looking for sex from you, more so than a relationship, they are just waiting for photos like yours to pop up.

Men are not completely stupid. They sense a woman's willingness to open up her sexuality in her photos. There is a big difference between a head shot that is for showing your personality and happy spirit, verses one that accentuates your goods, up top.

I suggest you put some effort into taking photos that show you in a more upright position in your closeups without your cleavage being seen at all. Then take some full shots with some pants, a longer skirt or a full-length dress on.

I'm not suggesting you cover up like a school teacher. But trust me, if you want to show off your sexuality, this isn't the time. Men can gather that info in your words and how you express yourself through thoughts.

I'm telling you flat out: Your photos are a conflict of interest. You are smiling, look very sweet and personable. But when you don't have what looks like anything underneath your top (in your full shots) and you're leaning forward in closeups with your cleavage front and center, the whole package of YOU can come across as a subtle invitation to those that you are trying to avoid.

And not to toot my own horn, but making people look their best is part of my living. Another part is helping people brand themselves or their businesses. And not many people are aware of how the smallest thing in their image portrays the very things they are trying to avoid in attracting to them.

Now, go get yourself some pics that show off that sweet side and save the desert side for the man that proves to you he's worthy of you for who you are, first.

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