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annuddermale

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Is this good advice? Don't do anything. Posted: 2/19/2009 2:00:58 AM
this reads more like a dom/sub relationship guide than a guide to male/female dating. if that is what you seek, then it's great advice - let the man do what he wants, you say, "yes". if you desire a more balanced relationship, then it's terrible advice. so you need to figure out what you want...just like always.

annuddermale

Joined: 2/26/2006

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Only 17% of American (USA) women like giving oral sex? Posted: 1/30/2009 5:32:08 PM
i don't brag...i'm awesome, but i don't brag...

annuddermale

Joined: 2/26/2006

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Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 9/28/2008 7:47:50 AM
The mushy ones still make me say blech, tho. Dang, that's so-o-o-o-o hawt. Hahahahahaha... Annudder

annuddermale

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She brings her friend on the date. Posted: 9/28/2008 6:10:08 AM
^Exactly. She WAS rude and apparently just wanted someone to buy drinks for her & her friend. Of course, that's based on your view of things. Her story will likely vary. Annudder

annuddermale

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Real Dolls - Documentary and thoughts Posted: 9/23/2008 5:36:06 PM
Not you? oh well...not big on marketing yaself are ya? Perhaps sad to say, prevarication is not one of my assets... Or perhaps verisimultude is... Some righthand man you turned out to be. sigh Yes, the stigma of being left-handed precedes me. But, quid quo pro, I AM in my right mind. Oh, and blow is a euphemism... Annudder

annuddermale

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When you click on 'who viewed me' it now shows the age of the person rather than just the picture Posted: 9/23/2008 4:34:50 PM
Yay! Now I can go back to sayin' I'm 25. As long as they don't check my profile, they'll never know! What do you mean, "Yeah, sure - ut volutabrum no!"? Annudder

annuddermale

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Real Dolls - Documentary and thoughts Posted: 9/23/2008 4:22:44 PM
decline in the sperm on offer by men who like to jerk off into a cup Some of us use mugs. 32 oz. mugs. Not me, almost sad to say, but I'm sure some would be happy to claim it... Besides...there's always cloning which you should also know ONLY produces females. Hmmm - that would be news to Fibro, the male mouse clone produced in 1999. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/sci/tech/357302.stm Then make really cool manbots...to service us All named BOB, no doubt. Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 9/21/2008 6:11:54 PM
annuddermale, does that mean you will be attending the BBQ? You are most definitely invited!! We always welcome new victi... err guests! *"something about sauce"..."no, don't go there"* I'd be honored to be a guest, as long as you promise to tie me down and have your wicked, wicked way with me... Oops...that was outloud, wasn't it?...

annuddermale

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Just something I ponder...do you? Posted: 9/21/2008 5:41:06 PM
My opinion is that if you seek an IDEAL, you're sure to come up short. What you need is to strike a DEAL. Annudder

annuddermale

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so sweet Posted: 9/21/2008 5:29:57 PM
Given that pineapple juice improves the taste of semen, I'd be surprised if the state with the highest proportion of gracious-givers wasn't Hawaii. And I think I'll buy stock in Del Monte. OT: It doesn't matter what the percentages say - the only important fact is whether or not you & your lady are enjoying each other in an honest & fulfilling manner. Usually one-on-one, but that might be a topic for annudder post. Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 9/21/2008 5:07:49 PM
I don't mind chasing my lil girl. However, I'm not up for chasing a grown woman. So, if she still likes being chased, then I'd suggest maybe growing up first! Or at least that the woman slow down so we can catch up. I mean, I'm in decent shape, but age does slow us down a bit! But at least the basement is a defined arena - with dark corners to...'er...light up. Annudder

annuddermale

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Affair with a married co-worker. Posted: 9/18/2008 7:35:18 PM
(the slut part, at least)!! indeed! Hahahahahahaha....

annuddermale

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Affair with a married co-worker. Posted: 9/18/2008 7:15:32 PM
Annudder, it is just possible that people are responding from their experience but also what they know of the OP. When people make choices that are contrary to the way they normally conduct themselves they tend to regret them. If the OP was comfortable going down the road the thread would not be here and assuming that any people that advised against this behavior as simple right or wrong meaning they have been cheated on, get a grip. packagedealx3, I have a grip - firm enough to do for now. I said "many", not "all" - you presume to put words in my mouth. But I do agree that the OP is likely uncomfortable with the situation or he wouldn't have asked the question. I am puzzled, though, when you say "what they know of the OP." Few if any here would know the Original Poster. The statement is nonsensical. As for the "lawsuit" - ever heard of "alienation of affection"? It may or may not pertain in the OP's state (if he is in the US - I didn't check his profile), but it is a viable option in some states at least. Enjoy the rest of your evening - Annudder

annuddermale

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Affair with a married co-worker. Posted: 9/18/2008 6:03:38 PM
Well, I think you've been chastised (and properly so) enough. You now say you are not going to "do it" (Freud would be proud) and are indignant that reader (and non-readers) have continued to berate you and the situation. Consider your audience: Many here are likely victims of a cheating spouse - how did you expect them to respond? Many here profess to have high morals - their responses are pretty much predictable, aren't they? Many here love to razz those who ask more or less rhetorical questions - did you really expect them to treat you differently? It doesn't matter if YOU think their marriage is dead, or even if SHE says their marriage is dead; it only matters if THEY decide their marriage is dead. Besides, being the object of a lawsuit as the instigator of an illicit affair with a married woman couldn't be a good thing. (Yes, yes, I know she's suggesting it, but guess what? The courts won't care - you are intruding on a union whether innocently or not.) I'd run, and fast. Annudder

annuddermale

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When you click on 'who viewed me' it now shows the age of the person rather than just the picture Posted: 9/18/2008 4:55:58 PM
sigh...I'm sure to get less views and few approaches from women who discover I'm in my mid-50s and actually put stock in numbers. What is it y'all say 'cross the pond? "Bollocks!" Annudder

annuddermale

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Good looking women and sex Posted: 9/16/2008 6:03:00 PM
ANY woman I'm lucky enough to share relations with is extremely attractive. Aren't all of yours? Shouldn't they be? Annudder

annuddermale

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why? Posted: 9/16/2008 5:09:55 PM
LOL...the ol' "I deleted my profile to get in her pants" trick. Hmmm...he may have just hidden it, or he may be one who rushes headlong into relationships, wearing his heart on his sleeve. "Foolish people are often reckless, attempting feats that the wise avoid." An Essay on Criticism - Pope Annudder

annuddermale

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Real Dolls - Documentary and thoughts Posted: 9/15/2008 3:44:01 AM
It does bring new meaning to "getting dolled up." Taking a fantasy-lover to the extreme is their business; not to my choice, but that doesn't matter, now does it? I wouldn't intrude on their world as long as their world doesn't maliciously affect mine. Only then would we have problems. Annudder

annuddermale

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percentage lying about age Posted: 9/5/2008 3:09:03 AM
No offense, but My friends said he looked to old for me does that even matter? It seems to me it's the person, not the friends' opinion that should come first. Annudder

annuddermale

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 9/5/2008 3:03:22 AM
I do value the kindness that others display and I won't knock it. That's it in a nutshell. I agree that it's the person, not the testimonial, that's the point. It seems most here think every testimonial has to be a love interest. Friendship on a dating site? The very idea!!! Yes, the very idea. Annudder

annuddermale

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Guys. Are you more attracted to helpless women? Posted: 9/2/2008 4:21:16 PM
The reason I say that is because new people are answering the OP post without reading the follow ups and seeing the clarifications and the new facts (my talking to the guys). My apologies for not catching it before. But "walked too fast"?... Annudder

annuddermale

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Guys. Are you more attracted to helpless women? Posted: 9/2/2008 3:57:58 PM
DietCoke®Guy, and others... re: Anal Intercourse/Penetration/Sodomy/Making-buds-with-BOB discussion. While I commend you on your persistence and cursiosity about the subject, y'all are drifting off-topic. Whether or not penetration with an inanimate object or male genitalia defines anal intercourse is not responsive to the original question. Besides, I'm sure Sweet_Melissa could point out that some males' genitalia are, in essence, inanimate anyway. Yes, Sweet_Melissa, men like to be of service. Some more so than others, as I'd wager you've run across. And a Damsel-in-Distress, especially an attractive DiD (hmmm, Dominatrix-in-Distress???), would make many men fall all over themselves to be of help. I still think the men in your apartment building simply didn't know how to approach you before, and found an opening to start a discussion. Annudder

annuddermale

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Guys. Are you more attracted to helpless women? Posted: 9/1/2008 9:39:10 AM
The injury simply gave the guys an opening to talk to you, to attract your attention. The picture on your profile indicates a very attractive...heck, "hot"...woman. There are other threads about how some men are "intimidated" by the beauty of an attractive woman. I'd think in your profession you'd have picked-up on that. Annudder

annuddermale

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High level of energy over 50. Posted: 9/1/2008 9:32:01 AM
Oh, I move like Keanu Reeves in The Matrix, except the slow motion is full speed. Okay, I don't - but I think I do sometimes. Annudder

annuddermale

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If guys can see through my dress so what!!!! Posted: 9/1/2008 9:20:59 AM
And NO NO I'm not going to pust it publicly on POF. LOL What, and have all of you think I'm not innocent anymore? 'er...uh...mmm...e-mail? Annudder

annuddermale

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If guys can see through my dress so what!!!! Posted: 9/1/2008 7:24:45 AM
That's extreme. Personally I wouldn't think to judge someone I don't know and haven't seen. But maybe that's just me. Annudder

annuddermale

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If guys can see through my dress so what!!!! Posted: 9/1/2008 6:41:43 AM
Okay...I was in church yesterday. Yeah, yeah - I know, that was the first surprise. Anyway a very attractive woman and her beau walked past me. I couldn't help but notice that the woman, wearing a tight white dress, had on some very nice panties. Thank goodness they were also white, or I'd have had a cow. In church. Which would be a mite em-bare-ASS-ing... Annudder

annuddermale

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percentage lying about age Posted: 9/1/2008 4:40:41 AM
If 50 yr old men took a good look in the mirror and were realistic about age and dating, women wouldn't have to lie. Hmmm...since when does one wrong make the second wrong right? Doesn't matter, though - to each their own. I know it's hard to believe, but I don't approach 20-somethings, and usually not 30-somethings. Some have approached me, and I have responded, usually in the negative. Not always, of course - friends are always welcome. If there's to be more than friendship, though, there has to be more than a few simple e-mails. But my main point is simply that what others may do does not affect my experience, nor should anyone paint with such a broad brush. I painted my bathroom this weekend - paint splatters. Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 9/1/2008 4:00:50 AM
If a person is unhappy with his/her ability to attract members of the opposite sex, there is a great deal that he/she can change for the better. Some people refuse to own their own experience, and instead, "blame" others for making perfectly natural choices. I agree, but I also imagine we'll both get some guff for that statement. Denying Nature's dictates IS possible, but, well, unNatural. Hmm...I'm thinking outloud, folks, so don't go off on a tangent. Sometimes one needs to type it out to think it out. Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/30/2008 1:20:00 PM
this was my seat. I left my drink with the napkin over it when I went to the restroom. I am so-o-o going to use that ruse myself...but I'll leave out the "Ma'am." Whew! Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/24/2008 12:46:04 PM
normal guys who arenn't looking for an arm piece Us normal guys WANT to have you as an arm piece! I hate generalizations - they're so...general. I hate to break it to you, TheDirtyBen, but, IMO, you're wrong. There's a difference between wanting someone to take your arm, and having a "piece" on your arm. Yes, of course I am proud when a woman I am involved with entwines her arm with mine and we skip off somewhere. But I am so-o-o not looking for a trophy for my arm, but an extension of my heart. Maybe that's just me. I suppose you'd say I'm not "normal." Ah, well... Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/24/2008 10:40:25 AM
If you base your opinion on someone's ugliness, you're shallow. Well, ladies and gentlemen, same rules apply! You're just as shallow for judging a hottie for being stunning without getting to know their personality. Oh, I think most here would agree that judging someone's intelligence based solely on appearance is wrong. But that's not the point of the thread. Here is freebird6333's original post: Men are their women who you think are so beautiful that you would be wasting your time if you asked them out? Women do you feel sometimes men avoid you because they are intimidated? Any answers to help each other out or personal experiences? Nothing in there about judging intelligence - just questions about whether anyone is intimidated by beauty so much that they find themselves unable to approach someone. In other words, do you, or do you not, reach "out of your league" when you come across someone you find strikingly attractive? And the answer is as varied as the respondents: some do, some don't, some might. Surprise. Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/24/2008 6:50:34 AM
Of course now I'm too old, but somebody out there missed out on a great woman, because he was too much chicken to take a chance! I take it you still haven't gotten your mirror fixed, 'eh? Good luck with your search... Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/24/2008 5:56:00 AM
Let's be honest here, some women will take one look at a guy and think: "NO WAY"! Yes, and it is the same with men. There is nothing wrong with having a preference. Shrug it off and move on. Annudder

annuddermale

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Is love dead? Posted: 8/24/2008 5:52:36 AM
All men want is sex. All women want is love. The two will never see eye-to-eye. mmmmm....no. Annudder

annuddermale

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Is love dead? Posted: 8/24/2008 5:20:09 AM
Lostcauz, thanks for sharing that. It's a lovely story, and I'm glad you found your Special Angel. Giving up is easy, of course. But no one ever said finding love would be easy. So I'll persevere. Annudder

annuddermale

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When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/24/2008 5:06:55 AM
^^^ well-said. I contact women in whom I have an interest. Period. Sometimes I get the dreaded "unread and deleted" notification, more often the "read" without a message back, but sometimes it's a nice note back. Nothing ventured, ya know... Annudder

annuddermale

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abusive relationship Posted: 8/24/2008 4:48:19 AM
to the OP: I have no answers, just a hopeful prayer that your next relationship is fulfilling and wholesome. I wish you joy. re: forgiveness: Forgive, but never forget, and never, ever look back with regret. The real loser in this situation is the abuser, IMO. Annudder

annuddermale

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Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 8/6/2008 2:46:02 PM
Don't be scared, I won't bite.....unless you want me too.....or are you just annudder male to leave me dangling haha just don't leave hickies... But you better have one long reach... Annudder

annuddermale

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Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 8/5/2008 8:26:44 PM
asking exes is an excellent idea though!!! Sure, and don't forget to ask Charlie Manson if he's innocent. Oops - not to say I don't trust my ex' veracity (I don't particularly, but that wasn't the point), but I suspect the answers would be as varied as the reasons the former loves are now exes. Annudder

annuddermale

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Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 8/5/2008 2:59:37 PM
* hmmm....now back to sprucing up my profile*......what do men like to hear?...kidding Gee, and here I thought we men were supposed to be visually-oriented... but then there's "Scent of a Woman"... and NOW I've got to know what I want to hear, too?... gawd, next you'll be asking what I want to fee...'er...touc...uh...have tactile sensations with (dangling annudder participle out there)... Annudder

annuddermale

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percentage lying about age Posted: 8/3/2008 7:43:13 PM
Won't be helping me in a few months, verygreeneyez... I'll be 55 then 56 then...you get the idea... and God help me when I hit 60... OT: Men lie because they can. Same reason women do. It should give you pause for thought when you catch them in the (to be generous) fib. It should also give you a reason to leave. Annudder

annuddermale

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How do I handle this? Posted: 8/3/2008 7:34:43 PM
sits down next to JerseyGirl2008, and offers a cup of cola to go with the popcorn

annuddermale

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Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 8/3/2008 5:10:12 PM
I haven't bothered to read the six-odd pages in response to this post; I just wanted to respond to the original topic. I am what I am. I don't know if my profile comes off as "romantic" or not. shrug Yes, I wrote it in hopes of finding a woman. Why else would I be on this site? (I know, I know: "FOR THE FORUMS!!!" ) Truth be told, not many have ventured my way - yes, I have @50 favorites, most of whom I've never e-mailed or communicated with in any way, but few have had the temerity to venture into AnnudderWorld, and those I've approached generally remain silent on the subject. Oh, well - it's an electronic bar scene, 'cept the only buzz I'm getting is from the hard drive. Life goes on - I'll go on with Life. Annudder

annuddermale

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 6/24/2008 2:57:25 PM
But yes of course I understand they could be just friends, but why go on about how superb and wonderful they are? Surely if they are one in a million then they would want to date them?? I don't know about everyone - I'm not the one writing all the testimonials. I've written one or two, I think...and, yes, I did drone on a bit... Circumstances sometimes prevent dating - age, distance, finances, family committments (I'm talking about single parents here, since, IMO, married folk should only be dating their spouse) - who knows what else? And it may be that the person is just(oh, how incredibly wrong it is to say, "just") a friend...not a potential lover, partner, or date. But that doesn't prevent me from being grateful for the friendships I've found, and appreciating the person on the other side of that friendship. It is, after all, called a testimonial - "a public acknowledgment expressive of appreciation or esteem".... As a friend I hope my testimony will make others look at that person's profile as go, "Wow! What a neat person!"... But I see that many here are too jaded to hold that view also... and perhaps that answers questions about me... Annudder

annuddermale

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 6/22/2008 6:40:55 PM
It always makes me laugh when I see a testimonial on a mans profile left by a woman who goes way over the top in declaring how wonderful, sweet, funny the guy is blah blah blah. Well why arent you with them then? If they are so bloody amazing. I take it there is no room in your life for men who are simply friends? Not lovers who are friends, just men who are friends. If so, then there's your answer. If not, well, that's an answer to a different question. Annudder

annuddermale

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does invisible ink exist Posted: 6/21/2008 2:16:55 PM
I am after only one thing. It isn't sex, 'course...that's just a part of the package. A very pleasant part, but just part. I think you are not finding the right person, just the right nowperson. I hope you take your time and really get to know the next man before deciding you want to share your body with him. Good luck, Annudder

annuddermale

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Smarter ladies have worse sex Posted: 6/21/2008 2:11:19 PM
I am sure many men here would be willing test subjects to see if the theory passes muster. Or just gas. Annudder

annuddermale

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Hot Tub and the First Date - would you? Posted: 6/21/2008 2:09:22 PM
It would appear to me in the forums, at least... Shimbo's motto is: Have weiner, will travel! Or maybe "assuage the sausage." But I'm sure he'll find relief is at hand. Annudder

annuddermale

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We need to talk Posted: 6/16/2008 3:57:35 PM
He applied for a viza extention and in case he will be denied, he has to go back to his country at the end of the summer. The response is in two weeks so I guess there's another " we need to talk" on the way. LOL...that probably when the marriage request will come. Sounds like he wants to stay - whether because of you or other reasons, time will tell. Good luck, Annudder

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