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truthodare

Joined: 2/26/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Hitting 40 Posted: 5/25/2009 1:02:52 PM
I've had more fun in my 40's than any other age. I feel that I am more accepting of others, but I am also more selective about how I choose to spend my time.

truthodare

Joined: 2/26/2006

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dating advice from women Posted: 12/28/2008 5:31:40 PM
and I must add. . . . . . Turn the cell phone off while you are on a date! If you must check messages, do it in private. Do not check out other women while you are with her, or at least keep it to a minimum.

truthodare

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For true intentions hide professions? Posted: 12/28/2008 5:16:35 PM
Judging from the number of male profiles that do not have a profession listed, it seems to be the general attitude that all women are gold diggers until proven other wise. Either that, or there is an abundance of men who do not work for a living. I have always paid my way, or at least offered to do so. I resent these assumptions, and I also find it some what deceiving not to list your profession. I have mine listed. Of course, it's not all that impressive, so I doubt anyone really cares.

truthodare

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I have met a poffer i have really fallen for! Posted: 12/26/2008 8:03:34 AM
She may be some what "on the fence", but sometimes you hear what you want to hear, and not what the person is trying to tell you.

truthodare

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signs of a great relationship when you are middle aged/older... Posted: 11/6/2008 6:14:45 PM
Everybody says they want drama free. Even the drama queens say that. They never admit to being the cause or to being addicted to the drama, that is always someone else. Someone else who won't yield, see things their way, tolerate their nonsense. Very True.

truthodare

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teeth whiteners, do they work? Posted: 10/26/2008 4:32:57 PM
I think most of the whiteners work to a point, but I prefer the trays and gel. I eventually decided to have trays made by a dentist that actually fit my teeth, and they work even better. It doesn't cost that much, and for me it was well worth the investment. I said up front, "if you are going to tell me to stop drinking coffee and soda, forget it." The over the counter products are not as strong as what you get from the dentist, but basically the same ingredients. . . .so my dentist says. I do believe that those who already have sensitive teeth have trouble bleaching, but that is not my case. Once I got past the initial bleaching, I do not have to bleach often. . . .maybe once or twice a month. I've made no adjustments to what I eat and drink, so I feel the effort is minimal. I have something that I've never had before. . . . a beautiful smile.

truthodare

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Are sigle women handy women? Posted: 10/26/2008 1:36:43 PM
I've always said that with duct tape and a hot glue gun, I could probably build a house. Lol, my favorites are WD-40 and a pipe wrench. I've been single for a long time, and I'm pretty handy at fixing things around the house. However, this does not mean that I enjoy these activities, or that I can do them better than a man.

truthodare

Joined: 2/26/2006

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Attention GUYS: Some dating advice from a woman. First Impressions are Lasting Impressions! Posted: 10/26/2008 12:46:45 PM
I have received messages from guys online before why won't girls date me?? Why do you not think I am a fit? etc... So, I decided to post this guide, though it;'s a bit tongue and cheek. FYI: I know it doesn't apply to every man. Every point on there is based on an actual experience. If you can take away one thing from my post, then great!! Keep an open mind. Very good guide. Mine leans even more toward "basic common sense", but it's amazing how many do not get it. I'm glad to see that some do.

truthodare

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Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone? Posted: 10/26/2008 1:05:37 AM
I once worried about it. A couple years ago, I realized that I was half way there, and that I should probably come to terms. I have. . . .it's not so bad.

truthodare

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Men that have been single for a long time are looking for mostly intimate encounters! Posted: 10/24/2008 10:42:24 PM
Hmmmmm, well I am in a small town, but I don't know that many men in their 40's who have been single for a long time. I know one of that age who has never been married, and we are best of friends. I know a few who have been single for quite some time, and they generally seem to have their act together. For the most part, they have been raising their children, re-educating themselves, climbing the corporate ladder, fighting for our country, and other such things that may have been more important to them than looking for a relationship. There are those who have not been single long and fantasize about intimate encounters with 20 year olds. . . . . . but I'd say the ones to look out for are men in their 40's who pretend to be single. . . . So there you have it, lol. Make sure they are "single"!!!!!

truthodare

Joined: 2/26/2006

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Why are so many women over 30 Cynical Posted: 10/24/2008 8:12:54 PM
As my dad use to tell me, you can be trusting of people, but don't forget to cut the cards Hey, I like that. I was about to object to the comparison between cynical and bitter, but I think a few already have. I feel that cynicism and sarcasm are more closely related. No one appreciates bitterness. I try to find something to be happy about each day, and I'm willing to give most people a fair break. What ever I choose to be happy about may or may not have anything to do with the male population, but I do still like men. However, here's a free tip. If you insist on using the same old lines over and over, then cynicism may come across as bitterness. "Same old lines" includes comments like "all women like bad boys, so they deserve what they get (aka no one likes me cause I'm a nice guy)" and "all women are gold diggers." Lol, of course, bitterness may also come across as bitterness. Most people here are cynical to a degree. I have a rather large dose of it, but I try to use it constructively. Most of my friends find it amusing and entertaining.

truthodare

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percentage lying about age Posted: 10/14/2008 6:24:41 PM
I'm not sure about the percentage, but I've seen several of those, "I'm 50, but look 40, and act 30." Yeah right! You expect me to believe that because you say so? I don't care how many others you claim have told you this. . . .I haven't. I've seen very few, if any, who actually look more than five years younger than their age. Why lie? Wouldn't you rather have someone think you look good for your age? Come to think of it, I do look good for my age. Lol, but then again. . . maybe I don't.

truthodare

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Sure-Fire First-Date Killers Posted: 10/12/2008 8:51:02 PM
Lol, sorry for your bad dates, but this is the most entertaining thread I've read in a while. Thanks for sharing.

truthodare

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When Meeting someone what is the first thing you look notice? Posted: 10/12/2008 5:52:13 PM
Lol, if they don't have teeth, I'm out of there. No explanations necessary. Aside from that, I have a thing about hands, and it can be a factor in whether or not I'm attracted.

truthodare

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 10/12/2008 5:08:42 PM
I'm finding them a turn off. Like someone else said, "if they are so great, why aren't you with them"? On the flip side of that, I recently read one from an ex-wife about how she adored him, and would still be with him if she could. It was his only testimonial. . . .lol, imagine that. Evidentally they lived in different states. . . .for whatever reason. Ok, so he is on a dating site, and maybe she did it on purpose, or as a joke. . . . but considering that he did not have to display it, did he actually think it would impress someone?

truthodare

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Young At Heart ??? Posted: 10/12/2008 12:34:19 AM
Young at heart is another way of saying " I look like crap, I can't walk , dance, have sex, not even poop like I used to, but I'm hot because I think so!" OK, gotta clean the screen, lol.

truthodare

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are you really happy being single? Posted: 10/12/2008 12:11:10 AM
I've been single most of my adult life, so I figure I'm either happy being single or totally disfunctional. What ever the case may be, I'd compromise for the right person.

truthodare

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Love Like there's no tomorrow Posted: 12/18/2007 5:48:23 PM
Lol, some nice thoughts here, but it does occur to me that the majority of the people you are asking have not been able to keep a romance alive, myself included. I'm quite sure there are some married folk here, but something tells me many of them are not too busy keeping the romance alive. . .with their spouse that is. Yeah, yeah, I know. . . "there is absolutely nothing wrong with married people being here."

truthodare

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women with a lot of male friends Posted: 12/16/2007 12:15:42 PM
I have a lot of male friends because I grew up around a bunch of guys, and for several years I worked with a bunch of guys. A few of my best friends are guys that I dated in the past, but I am not big on the friends with benefits type situation. My parents were determined that I was going to act like a lady, so I'm not exactly a tomboy. If I were dating someone, I would not make a habit of putting them in a room with a group of my guy friends. That would be a disaster, as some of them are somewhat protective of me. I was once very shy, so that did not help me to make female friends. I have not overcome shyness to the point that I would ever want to be the center of attention. I have made an effort to learn how to get along with other women, and it has paid off. Still I am not comfortable around highly competitive women and drama queens. Why am I still single? I recently spent several years finishing college, and I didn't have time to date. I have a lot of guy friends, and some potential dates cannot handle that. I've had some of those friends longer that most marriages, so I'm keeping them. I am not competitive with other women. Even if I were, I'd never win because I'm not good at it. Therefore, if the other woman wants you bad enough, she will get you. Some of you guys put me in the "friends only" category faster than I can blink an eye. It's OK, I figure I give off the "friend" vibe. I am not whining in the least. I value all my friends. I would like to meet "the one" some day, but if I am forever destined to be a "friend", I can live with that. I think I am fairly normal. I just wanted to tell my story because I feel that I have a lot in common with other women who happen to have a lot of "guy" friends. I am hoping to presuade you that this does not have to mean that we are all attention seekers, or sluts, or gay, or tomboys (not that there is anything wrong with that). I think the previous post makes a valid point. Is it the fact that she has a lot of male friends that bothers you, or is it how she interacts with those male friends?

truthodare

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First date- and he ogles the 22 yr old waitress all night Posted: 12/15/2007 6:42:54 PM
I've been hurt before and I know it can stick with you. But ultimately these things need to be overcome and people can only learn and hopefully get wiser after these types of experiances. Get over it. We are not quite ready to move on! If we were, there would be no point to this entire thread. It was the OP's first date with the guy, so I'm quite sure she is not heart broken over what might have been. I'd say she is royally pi**ed at having her time wasted. She is entitled to a little rant, and those of us who have been there have every right to be supportive. Geeeze! It's not like anyone is stalking the jerk.

truthodare

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What's up with the 'NO DRAMA PLEASE' rule??? Posted: 12/15/2007 3:34:12 PM
OP, that was very well put. I agree that no one is drama free, and that the phrase is way over used. As already mentioned; however, there are those who thrive on stirring up crap. Regardless, requesting "no drama" is pointless, as those who thrive on it are never going to admit it. Many of them don't even realize it.

truthodare

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First date- and he ogles the 22 yr old waitress all night Posted: 12/15/2007 12:06:50 PM
Lukas! The Ozarks already have a bad enough rap. Must you prove that NW Ark is the redneck breeding ground of the world?

truthodare

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Life's Lessons in dating.....What have YOU learned.... Posted: 12/14/2007 9:50:50 PM
Always trust the gut! See the good in others, and accept them for who they are. You rarely get closure, so don't expect it. Failed relationships are not always a complete waste of time. Lol, just ask my dearest friends.

truthodare

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Why do men lie about their age? Posted: 11/13/2007 8:17:12 PM
I once saw a profile of a woman that admitted in her profile that she lied about her age, that way she'd come up in younger people's searches. She didn't want to meet anyone her own age, she was looking for someone younger, so she artificially put herself in that age range... I''m beginning to think this is quite common, and it's not gender specific. We also have those who try to convince us that they look/act much younger than their age. I think it's pathetic, but it does make for a good laugh at times. At some point most of us have had someone tell us we look younger. Big hairy deal! That doesn't mean we have to believe it, and it certainly doesn't mean everyone else believes it. There is not a standard for our age! I don't feel old, and there are lots of things I like about being forty something. Having to watch others my age strutting around making fools of themselves is not one of them.

truthodare

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Responsibility and age Posted: 11/12/2007 7:27:31 PM
Wisdom is not something automatically gained with age. These forums are proof enough of that. Lol, so true. That's because we are too busy feeding our over active egos, and getting younger by the minute. Too bad we can't act at least as old as all those youngins we got chasin us. Oops! did I use the "E" word again? What was I thinking? The OP has got some nerve thinking my age is undesirable. Come to think of it, she is my age! OMG!!!!

truthodare

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Are you old enough to be my dad? Posted: 11/12/2007 4:32:45 AM
Most men who have replied to this in what appears to anger really is just being offended by the OP’s attitude in her indignation of being hit upon by so many undesirable people. Hmmmm, sounds like a bruised ego to me. What else would you call it?

truthodare

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On Turning 40 (For ladies.) Posted: 11/11/2007 9:53:55 PM
OP: Thanks for the nice words. I'm happy to see that many of you are looking forward to 40. I dreaded it with a passion. Now that I'm 44, I have to say that life truly does begin at 40. My mom says that by the time you reach 40, most of the bad things in life have already happened to you. That is one thing we agree on. Lol, message 18 & 45, you are right on the money about dating. There are a lot of men in our age range running around making fools of themselves. That's OK, I've learned that I can have a great time without a date.

truthodare

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Rude replies Posted: 11/11/2007 9:10:18 PM
I was getting hate mail for not being interested, so I quit replying. I recently got hate mail for not replying. I guess you are damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

truthodare

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Why Do Women Care when a Man dates a Younger Woman. Posted: 11/11/2007 6:26:51 PM
I do not care who dates who, as long as they are consenting adults. However, the number of people over 40 who do not respect the rights of others to have an age preference galls me to the core. You have every right to want to date younger, but there are those, including myself, who prefer to date within their age range. I've had my share of negative comments concerning my age preference, and I'm guessing that younger women have even more. If we do not want to date someone who is closer to our parent's age, don't try to convince us that there is something wrong with us. Lots of people over 40 work out, lead active lives, and try to take care of themselves; and there are people of all ages who "let themselves go". You are not an exception! I am an average 44 year old and I've seen very few if any my age who look as much as 5 years younger. Not only do I have an age preference, but if you would date someone 20+ years your junior regardless of your age, I'm afraid we have very little in common.

truthodare

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The Rise of the Corporations Posted: 11/10/2007 6:32:27 PM
It's too bad it took the largest white collar crimes in history to convince the government that corporations were out of control. Do you think mandatory SOX compliance will help? I get the feeling it is here to stay, and it had best be taken seriously.

truthodare

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Are you old enough to be my dad? Posted: 11/10/2007 7:06:56 AM
The OP has every right to an age preference, and there is nothing wrong with that. As for you men over 40 who have some how managed to convince yourselves that younger women want you, I'm terribly sorry that the OP has busted your bubble. We all know that some are enticed by money, sports cars, and world series tickets; but that doesn't mean they all are. Geeeeze! Grow up and get over yourselves.

truthodare

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Why do men stare at other women overtly, even when with a beautiful woman? Posted: 10/18/2007 11:10:46 AM
I'm not a guy, but here's my take: I am willing to accept that everyone looks. I do not consider myself jealous or insecure. A small percentage of the guys I've dated have checked out other women to the point that I have noticed, but it does happen at times. If a guy can't carry on a conversation because he looses his train of thought every time an attractive woman walks by, I notice . If it is obvious enough that I notice, it is too much for me. I see it as rude, disrespectful, and a complete waste of my time. I have never felt a need to discuss the issue because more than likely there will not be another date. As for the idea that any man who doesn't check out other women is a player or worse. . . I'd have to say that if all decent men have bad manners, I'd rather date a player.

truthodare

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Does anyone else here pay attention to the backgrounds of the profile pics? Posted: 10/6/2007 12:59:39 PM
Absolutely. I'm not exactly a neat freak, but when I see clutter and filth, I'm not interested. If they think nothing of taking a picture in that atmosphere, then they probably live that way on a daily basis. Cars don't really bother me, but sometimes they are a litle vain. I have a sports car, but the only vehicle on my prof is a plain old pick-up truck.

truthodare

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401 k question... Posted: 10/6/2007 9:57:20 AM
Great advice has been given here, and most bases have been covered. Educating yourself would probably be the best alternative, but it can get frustrating. In addition, I would suggest talking to several financial advisors, and asking lots of questions. Most will not charge you for initial consultation. . . .at least that has been my experience. Keep in mind that they all want your money, so they will talk themselves up and bash their competition. When they make a particular option sound really great, there is usually a down side. . . .just ask the competition. Pay particular attention to fees, and compare them. Eventually you will get a feel for weeding out the bullsh$t. If you do not feel comfortable setting up your portfolio once you have decided on a particular 401K or IRA, see advice. . . . . .and don't forget to rebalance after a period of time.

truthodare

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would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money Posted: 9/23/2007 11:23:29 AM
Haven't you heard? Women pass up nice guys for jerks. At least that's what I keep reading on here. I reckon men should know this since they are typically the ones who date women. I haven't meet too many jerks that actually have money, so I'm afraid your friend is doomed.

truthodare

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My date with the Drag queen. Posted: 9/23/2007 10:04:52 AM
Thank you. Your story does make us all feel a little better about our own unfortunate experiences. The way you handled the situation and the fact that you can talk about it, shows great strength of character. I once endured dinner with someone who was at least 15 years older than his photo, about 100 lbs heavier, had absolutely no table etiquette, and smelled like a brewery. I think some folks actually see themselves as the person they are trying to portray; even though, they are not. You can call them on it all you want, but they are not going to get it. Why bother?

truthodare

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WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF A PLAYER? AND HONESTY?? Posted: 9/18/2007 9:14:36 PM
Hmmm, I kind of doubt the true player is going to come forward and admit it. On the other hand, lots of people feel played when they get dumped. Were they played, or were they guilty of hearing only what they wanted to hear?

truthodare

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To be or not to be? Posted: 9/18/2007 8:38:57 PM
It happens all the time. They don't want you until someone else wants you. Dump him. I agree with previous post. Something is wrong here. All agree, and the OP hasn't got bashed yet.

truthodare

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Older Man Posted: 9/17/2007 10:40:43 PM
Well, I'm not a Grandma yet, but I do have a 24 year old daughter. If my daughter told me something like that, I'm afraid the old fart would have to leave town.

truthodare

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guys does this bother you about a girl Posted: 9/17/2007 9:35:59 PM
Only in Ark. . . . .

truthodare

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I work odd hours...does that make me less dateable? Posted: 9/13/2007 7:05:39 PM
I worked a swing shift for 10 years, and yes I was less dateable: It is harder to meet people. It is more difficult to make specific plans. I was sometimes tired and grouchy, so I've been told. There are a lot of other fishes out there with normal hours. They forget when you are working and when you are sleeping, so they don't call at all. I actually liked shift work, but now that I work normal hours again, I do have a social life.

truthodare

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Is it ok to require good spelling? Posted: 9/11/2007 8:05:36 PM
Everyone has a right to their own opinion. Personally, I don't like spell bashing. I have some perfectly intelligent friends who can't spell for crap, and I don't have time to correct them. Seeing as how I'm sitting in front of the computer in my PJs, I view this as a casual atmosphere. When communicating with friends feels like a job interview, I don't want to play.

truthodare

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Why is it more accetable to be divorced rather than never married if someone is 30+ Posted: 9/8/2007 7:44:28 AM
Having been divorced does appear to be more acceptable at times. Never married says to me that a person knows what they want, and hasn't found it yet. I was married for a short period of time, and have been divorced for a very long time. I don't really consider myself "divorced" or "never married". I consider myself "single."

truthodare

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How do I tell my girlfriend I like to wear a bra? Posted: 9/6/2007 8:13:19 PM
If you are truly serious about this relationship, don't tell her EVER! . . .and I'd seriously consider kicking the habit.

truthodare

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Does confidence overcome our shortcomings? Posted: 9/6/2007 7:38:52 PM
It definitely helps; however, when over done it comes across as obnoxious. I agree with previous post, "that's not REAL confidence."

truthodare

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Acceptance of single life - Right or wrong Posted: 9/5/2007 5:30:02 AM
Perhaps it is right for some, and wrong for others. At any rate, I hate that we have to be judged on the basis of how long we've been single. My friends and family will not readily admit that they judge me, but why do they feel a constant need to "fix me up"? At my age, I do not want to be fixed up. I have not completely given up but if it never happens, I am comfortable with single life and for the most part I am happy.

truthodare

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Chemistry or excuse?? Posted: 9/1/2007 7:17:53 AM
Chemistry. . . .sometimes it's instant, sometimes it takes a few dates, and sometimes it takes a kiss. When I tell someone there is no chemistry, they can take it to the bank. It means that it is not happening. . . . .ever. It does not necessarily mean that they are a bad person, or that they did anything wrong.

truthodare

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Women with hairy upper lips Posted: 8/31/2007 7:27:24 PM
Ladies, most people are not going to tell you that you have a noticeable mustache. That is kind of like telling someone they are fat. . . .to their face. If you can see it, others can see it. If it bothers you, get rid of it. . . .even if you have to shave it off. I haven't tried the ePen, but thanks for the tip.

truthodare

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Married woman, partying without her husband Posted: 8/16/2007 6:10:24 PM
What is wrong with you people? Regardless of whether it's our business, the OP is merely pointing out a type behavior that contributes to an ever increasing divorce rate. Maybe the husband doesn't mind, and maybe he does. Next time you catch your mate cheating on you. . . . ."Who cares? It's no big deal"!

truthodare

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How Many RED flags did you ignore before you got wise? Posted: 8/3/2007 9:49:07 PM
We've all ignored red flags at one time or another, but it sounds like you are on the right track. Good Luck.

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