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Joined: 7/4/2009

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Walking, Long walks Posted: 7/27/2009 1:50:31 PM
I have been reading several profiles and see that many women have an interest in walking, going for long walks and gardening. I like to understand this better and am wondering if this is more an (theoretical) interest or if people actually go for long walks. What do you do in the (Canadian) winter? when it rains? etc Thanks for yur comments or insights. Not theoretical for me as I walk often but usually not more than 3 miles. Besides being good exercise, it's a great excuse to be outdoors. Winter is not an issue here -- summer is. So it's indoor exercise and swimming (until the pools themselves get too hot). Gardening I like but have done less and less since living here in desert but if I ever move back to a normal climate, I hope to pick it up again. Don Quixotte, love that username.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Length of time to heal after divorced before dating Posted: 7/27/2009 1:38:37 PM
The rule of thumb is that it takes two years , after your divorce is finalized, to do your personal developement work to be healed enough to date again. Do you think that it is even longer for the over 45 group? Two years seems really long, especially for the over 45 group who may have no children (or no young children) at home. Current statistics show that men are way beyond dating in that 2 year time frame because they remarry, on average, in 6 months time! The average remarriage for women is 5 years later. ...well that would depend on how many years ago the marriage died!... Despite that you are ROFL, I think factoring that in would make sense in many cases. :)

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Define your terms, separated or just in another room Posted: 7/26/2009 5:10:25 PM
Geeze...they have a drop-down for seperated...and it is a legal status...of course if ya wants ta split hairs... There ya go, but I wonder: do we need more drop-down tabs to show 6 degrees of separation? No, wait, married is married, they say. Well, tell it to the POF admin, they set up the system. Had I been given a choice of choosing between married or single, I simply would not have joined the site as I recognize myself as not being either. That's why I thought it would be good to join the forums because then I might be able to simply enjoy the interaction. So yes, I block married users but not separated (those I'd have to consider case by case if I was interested in continuing communication). So, yes, I'm separated. And I'm looking for friends at the moment not a long-term romantic relationship. (Could be that is why all those who favorited me have yet to make contact, I know, I know, another subject not looking to reopen it here...) Dating? Soon, but I do prefer waiting 7 more weeks (despite my attorney's advice and encouragement to "get out there"). If I was on the rebound, my 7 weeks with a divorce decree are not going to change my emotions much other than relief that the process is over. LOL, I have had years to ready myself for this. Regret over the decision? No! Residual sadness over a lifetime commitment having to be abandoned? Yes, of course, there will be a bit more of that but it has no bearing on future relationships. It is simply unfortunate as life is sometimes. But life goes on, thank goodness! Anyway, had things gone according to the first idyllic schedule, divorce would now be behind me... Those "6 degrees of separation" go further back than the recent 4 months of being legally recognized as such, or the previous 2 years less formal separation, and the 3 years of detachment before that which brought a realization that demanded I bring it to an end.

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Communication stops Posted: 7/22/2009 8:52:02 PM
cactushugger said: ...I'm afraid I just blew it with another though... She'd suggested coffee right away the other morning, and I got the message too late. So, I messaged her about meeting sometime this week - deleted. I tried once more, very politely - deleted again. So, last night I wrote her a scolding message in a weak moment. I figured a 90% chance I'd get a nasty reply - but not so... I just sent her a big apology, called myself an ass, and admitted being totally wrong. So are you suggesting that she deleted your messages in retaliation for your untimely response to the coffee invitation? Did she open them before deleting? Anyway, it really is confusing trying to "read" people. I've had a few conversations that just seemed to stop mid-stream as well. Did they suddenly lose interest? or think that I had lost interest? More than once it has happened immediately after being given their emails and/or phone numbers. Were they expecting me to pursue them from that point? LOL, who knows...

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Tomato Stealing dog.. Posted: 7/22/2009 6:13:13 PM
...one of my dogs has developed a taste for tomatoes.She will actually go out and pick them her self. She devours them!!! like they were meat..My other dog likes rotten tomatoes, but the girl will eat them green, red, rotten, it doesnt matter..is that odd? LOL, the one who only likes them rotten may be odd. I wonder if she likes fermented and soured foods as well... The Golden I had also liked tomatoes but waited until they were ripe, however, she kept eating the cantaloupe way before it was time for harvest. And thank goodness I kept the cucumbers enclosed in a fence, as she loved those. Crazy pets. :p

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Libraries v. bookstores Posted: 7/22/2009 5:39:14 PM
Most of the people at my library are not reading or concentrating; instead they are usually online, in the study rooms or looking at the DVDs. The bookshelf aisles are dim and quiet, well, accept for the tap-tapping of keyboards on the 50 computers. ;) The librarians are usually seated at the front desk far from the books, or they may have one acting as monitor by the computers. As far as the bookstore, I agree with My2cntsin above but I do try to be quieter in areas where people are sitting and reading.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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when the heart isnt enough........ Posted: 7/21/2009 12:15:29 PM
i often wonder, seeing so many people, who are protecting the heart, and it being so understandable, each soul walking a different road, with different experiences, and in the end, making up, who we are, how we feel, all seeking love, a hug, a its gonna be alright... when the power of love, overtakes, the love of power, then, we will see a huge difference. as we grow older, ironically, it becomes more about the heart than before, but still to many, giving of the heart totally, still isnt enough....and this is sad, so sad, well if anyone sees what i see, feels what i feel, ....comment please, and if not, its ok too, savanah Yes, I see it, too, and admit to even feeling it on occasion. However, it is with some hope that we are all here so with that reality, I try to keep this in mind for when the moment might arrive: “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket -- safe, dark, motionless, airless -- it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.” ~CS Lewis

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First Line, Last Line (Part Deux) Posted: 7/19/2009 11:10:21 AM
imagining in thought you can fly never doubting or wondering why you lift your arms and expect to sail never thinking of that word fail and so indeed you richly soar never knowing your feet are poor how fortunate you really are thus may you reach those places far

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Personal Favourite Quotes I Like Posted: 7/19/2009 10:58:43 AM
In the midst of winter, I finally discovered that there was in me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

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Half Full or Half Empty? Posted: 7/19/2009 10:36:11 AM
The glass is twice as big as it needs to be.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open? Posted: 7/18/2009 8:08:27 PM
Thanks everyone for the compliments and replies and thoughtful words. I DID let him go!!! And I'm much better for it. You truly are "much better" for having let him go. Be prepared to remind yourself of that in the days and weeks to come. I'm glad you shared here (for your benefit and mine) as your situation is similar to one I recently experienced. Keep strong. :)

Joined: 7/4/2009

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A nice tasting Protein Shake? Posted: 7/15/2009 7:52:37 PM
I like Jay Robb's whey protein powders (chocolate, vanilla, tropical dreamsicle) as well as the strawberry egg white protein shakes. Very light flavor without a lot of unnecessary ingredients. Pure Advantage has a good chocolate whey, too.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Omega 3 and skin? Posted: 7/15/2009 7:46:34 PM
Yes, Omega 3s are great for the skin. Many skin conditions, e.g. rosacea have cleared right up using fish or flax oils. Of course, you can just add the fish or flaxseed to your diet but it may take a little longer to see effects.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Calcium absorption Posted: 7/15/2009 7:39:46 PM
I've read that no more than 500mg can be absorbed at one time. You may want to also consider calcium citrate as a form that is well-absorbed. Vit D (as mentioned above), also helps with absorption, as does magnesium. There are conflicting reports though as to the ratio of calcium to magnesium, some saying 1:2 and others 1:1.

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Why is everyone so afraid to think for themselves? Posted: 7/14/2009 5:53:26 PM
And as we all undress at night, in the dim light of the candles, our brothers are silent, for they dare not speak the thoughts of their minds. For all must agree with all, and they cannot know if their thoughts are the thoughts of all, and so they fear to speak. ... What brought it to pass? What disaster took their reason away from men? What whip lashed them to their knees in shame and submission? The worship of the word "We." ~Anthem, Ayn Rand Individualism is out (unless we are rich, famous or beautiful), "we" is in, lol, or so it seems at times. ;)

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Valerie Bertinelli....Ooh La La! Posted: 7/14/2009 12:48:15 PM
She looks great, and I as I remember her from my teens -- it is an inspiration to keeping fit. A quick search revealed that she lost 40 lbs so probably no concern with sagging skin afterward. I agree with Pazoozoo, though, in that these celebrities almost always have a personal trainer. That expensive add-on also contributes to their motivation.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Do you enjoy chatting with strangers in real life? Posted: 7/14/2009 12:39:18 PM
Very true, Alli oop, many seniors are open to chatting with strangers. Just a few moments has the ability to enrich the lives of both chatters. Watch out for the creeps though, lol. Connor, no need to feel awkward, just smile and say "thanks but I'm in a relationship" or throw it away.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Blurry images Posted: 7/14/2009 12:26:46 PM
Still no straight answers to that. I am still awaiting reply from the admin. Certainly not my intention to deceive nor my desire to be accused of such...

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Why do people with no photos get to deny emails from people with no photos? Posted: 7/14/2009 12:23:50 PM
...you see some really hilarious stuff, like the girl is looking for an intimate encounter but she blocks people that have emailed others for an intimate encounter. Falls under the category of, What were you thinking? or not thinking! ROFL. Thank you for spelling out IE. And here I thought these people were looking for computer compatibility as in 'internet explorer'. I'm still wondering about activity partner. Is it safe to apply blissful ignorance there? Just a little fishie... On the photo issue, I feel they are simply choices and we all get to choose. :)

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Blurry images Posted: 7/11/2009 11:00:38 PM
Wait a minute. Noncompliant is not having a face in the 'main' picture; I see no such rule requiring one's face to be showing in the 'thumbnail' of that same picture.

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Blurry images Posted: 7/11/2009 10:00:03 PM
Noncompliant? I didn't realize. Well, I will have to choose another pic in which I can get a 'better' image to fall within that square. Thanks for letting me know!

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Viewed Me? Viewed You! Posted: 7/11/2009 5:52:41 PM
I like the way it's set up now. I do have mine turned off so others don't see when I've viewed them. There a lot of people on here, and I often have to revisit a profile to remember who is who -- even those I've messaged with. Checking a profile does not always mean that I am "interested" in a person, per se, so I'm glad this feature enables me to read more about them to satisfy that curiosity. It can sometimes be helpful in simply participating on these forums but I wouldn't want anyone getting any ideas about that. And neither do I just because someone has looked at mine.

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Blurry images Posted: 7/11/2009 3:17:34 PM
No worry, there's all kinds of responses even before the pic. :) I confess I knew about the gray thumbnail, let's just say I have my reasons. Anyway, the blurry images have been much improved since I let this site resize them rather than trying to do it ahead of time on my computer. Appreciate the response, thanks so very much!

Joined: 7/4/2009

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What books would you recommend to me? Posted: 7/11/2009 2:16:04 PM
I haven't read The Curious Incident... but since you described it as "innocently sweet" you may enjoy something by Alexander McCall Smith. He's written several series, and all of them have a combination of being gentle yet witty. Classics: For social satire, Austen's Pride & Prejudice hits the spot. Or the Three Musketeers for adventure and romance. Don Quixote for something to last the rest of the summer, and it will give you a bit of everything: adventure, romance, tragedy, insanity, comedy, and, of course, chivalry at its maddest.

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Blurry images Posted: 7/10/2009 11:34:29 PM
After uploading my pics here, they appear very blurry and even distorted, I'm not so sure they are a good representation. :( Anyway, they were crystal clear on my computer as well as my photobucket account and another message board system. Please help, thanks so much!

Joined: 7/4/2009

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Unable to delete profile pic Posted: 7/9/2009 10:36:03 PM
Why can't I delete my profile pic? I did manage to finally take it off public view while I continued trying to delete it; however, it keeps defaulting back to public view and cannot be deleted no matter how many times I hit the delete button and save the updated change at the bottom of the image page. Please advise, thanks!

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