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blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

Why is it so rare? Posted: 4/6/2009 7:35:18 PM
Could be, personality. Remeber looks do not last 4-ever. Either do we.

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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How does someone get rid of the feeling? Posted: 4/6/2009 7:32:53 PM
If it,s real, it would never leave. Is that simple enough?

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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What are you looking for? Posted: 5/8/2008 7:13:06 PM
Really cant say or let,s put it honestly, Dont Know, because if I would have found it, I wouldnt be sitting here typing . I know what I dont want and it so much easier to have a answer for that, So let,s put it like this. I,m giving up, and if it happens , then I will have the answer, but it will be the right answer for me. I want to be held at night, and wake up in the same way. Sex isnt the most important thing, but I have come to relize, there,s different ways of having sex, and it can mean so much more then the way I use to think of of sex. And another thing, I want to give and be loved. That,s the thing Or now it,s not called a thing, but a feeling I miss having from my late husband. I wonder if I will ever feel even half that way again. I,m not getting any younger, but I have to say I dont look my age , so I would say that,s a good thing for at least now, but I ,m afraid I will be alone for whatever time I have left, and I,m only 52, yea, only Who knows, life does have it,s surprises, I hope I have more then one

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 107 (view)

Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors Posted: 4/18/2008 1:55:12 PM
Well, I ,m a bit different in what I see, when I look in the mirror. I have Blond hair, so no gray hair, and I dont think I look as old as I really am. But I,m thinner then I was , so there,s a plus. But there are more minus,s then plus,s. I lost my husband. We were married 32yrs, since I was 16, and I,m not 16 anymore, and how does one start over? Or do I really want to. Sometimes I do, then where or how do I. Mabey I think I look better then I really do, but at my age, looks arent suppose to matter anymore, but to be honest, they probably matter more then ever. Only time will tell, like everything else, but I used to feel alive when my husband was alive, now I dont have the feelings of life, anyway

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 307 (view)

What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic? Posted: 3/9/2008 10:05:33 AM
How do you realknow is someone is bipolar, unless you know the sighns. I would think on a first date thsome one is going to say, " Nice to meet you, and by the way I,m bi[polar too" Hello, Bi-polar is the tne word. Everyone wants or thinks they are, it sems. My daughter is 21 and is bi'polar and the ones who it really hurts the most is ones you have to live with it, and by that I mean the family. She has found a med, that has finally worked, but not without cost. She had a baby in July 2007, and 2weeks later suffered from postartem depression, and was seeing, and hearing people that werent there. The police came several times, but because she was over 18 nothing could be done, The babys father made it worse, which she then took it out on me. I,m a widow and do you think I could call my 2 older sons for help. No, they are the type that think or say what do you want us to do, or she,s not our problem. All I wanted was mabey a little support. My husband used to say " Tommy and Michael make fun of many, but dont have any" and boy was he right. I have add, but always did, but way back then their wasnt such a term. But I survived, barely, but still trying, and trying to live each day has it goes, and it,s not an easy thing to do. but I have a granddaughter who needs me, afterall she didnt ask to be here. Fineally her father is in jail for beating up my daughter, which he always did, but no one would listen to me, and my daughter, who has no self esteem left wouldnt do anything until the last time when he punched her square in the face, and I finally took her to the police myself, and they sent her to the hospital, and they were there waiting for us, talled her into charging him. Now,s he,s finally there, but he will get out, but by then I hope with my daugher,s new counsler and new friends it will give her whatever she needs to move on with her life, and then I can finally have mine back. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Would You Disown Members of Your Family?? Posted: 10/21/2007 4:53:20 PM
Thank you. Every one says ' Your not alone ' but that doesnt help . My mind is telling me 1 thing, and my heart is feeling something else. I have no family support, she is 1 of 5, and all the other ones can say they are embarressed. Embarred, I,m the one who took it all. They are ages 34 to 24, so instead of saying , My sister is sick, they are Embarresed. Wait till they see my will, and the look on there faces will be enough pay back for me, I hope me and my husband who already passed see it He used to say ' Michael and Tommy make fun of many, but dont have any " Never really thought about what he meant by that, but now I know he had them pegged to a tee. My 1 son has 3 children, so he should be carefull what he say,s. I was taught you never talk about someone else,s children, because you dont know how yours will turn out. But know one knows until you live with it , how bad it really is. Again Thank you for your words of careing. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Would You Disown Members of Your Family?? Posted: 10/13/2007 5:24:52 PM
My daughter is Bi-Poler, and this week she ended up in jail. I was or it seems like it was the one she took her anger out on, and she through me down the steps. I finally at that point, which was long over due called the police. They have been here so many times because of her , and they could never do anything until this happened. She now is sitting in jail, with a bail that has so many restrictions, no one will bail her out. I cant help feeling torn, and I guess that shows how dumb I am. Since my husband died, I lost all my so called will power,. I have 4 other children, so I guess 1 out of 5 isnt bad But I know she doesnt belong in jail. She needs to be commited as a impatient to a hospital, so I,m looking all over the house for anything from the time she was 14. That was her first time she got herself into trouble. But now she has a daughter of 3 months which Social Service took from her the day before she attacked me. She was a out patient, but even though the place where she was said they would commit her as a in patient, another service said she didnt need it. HA HA. Mabey they should have taken her home with them, but I still cant disown her. Am I stupid or should mabey I be commited??

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Would You Disown Members of Your Family?? Posted: 7/3/2007 7:37:53 PM
The more I see and hear, I dont think there isnt a dysfunctional family out there. I know I came from 1 and my late husband also. I see my family is that also. My 2 older sons have turned their back on my daughter who is 20 and pregant. When she needs them the most, they turned their backs not only on her, but me as well. All ways there,s an excuse why we cant get together to dicuss the why,s and what can we all do to resolve whatever issues that they might have. Every time, it,s another resaon why this one wont come, and then the other time something else . I,m learning, and yes it,s hard some days to cope with it all by myself. When my husband was alive, least I had someone. Yes, he yelled, but then got over it, but i had someone else to vent to. He would say F them, . My son is a collage graduate, but my daughter is bio-polar. so what,s his excuse, she has one..They have made no attempt to contact her, knowing what ever she has I bought her. All I keep thinking is , Their father would be so proud of us. The old term I think was skeleton,s in the closets, now it is dysfunctional. I would fell out of place if if I didnt come from1 or live with one. Wouldnt even know the difference.Name one normal family in this country. Even the country is Dysfunctional. Must run in the genes, lol

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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an ideal relationship?? Posted: 7/3/2007 7:17:45 PM
Any, that 2 people dont always see things the same way, although it helps, but get boring after a while. Some one who you go to bed with at night, and just holding each other is telling the other one, without even having the sex part. Making Love is something and to me more meaningful, then usint the word "sex ". It has such a romantic meaning, and even feels better then just lets get it on. Am I living in a dream? , or wishing for a fairytale, and a fairytale ending, Happily ever after??? Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Ladies....would you wear a t-shirt, flip-flops, and shorts 1st time meeting someone? Posted: 6/21/2007 8:46:33 PM
Guess it depnds on what kind of date we are talking about. And if I looked good in them , why not. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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at which age can you take a guy seriously? Posted: 6/21/2007 8:44:24 PM
I don,t think even a man knows when he can be taken seriously. I guess if they can get what they want or think that,s all that they want for free, or rather, lets say a cheap date, then they will take it. I guess it also depends on the man himself, and if he wants a life long comminment, then I,m sure it,s a whole new ball game. I dont want to play games, exspecialy at my age. I want to have romance, trips, and most of all life with love. Who know,s if there are any out there. I had that, but my husband passed away going on 3yrs. ago But I,m not settleing for just the sex game. Us women can find that anywhere or anyplace, but it,s not for me. How many other,s of you want games or a life??? Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 175 (view)

Does anyone like being alone better? Can you take or leave having a relationship? Posted: 6/16/2007 10:38:10 PM
Yes, I also feel the same way. We all need our so called space. After being married for 32yrs, and then when my husband died. I was lonely . but now when I,m dating. I still feel like I want to be myself without explaining to anyone. I would jusy love a day for me. Why cant I just say leave. Mabey I,m afraid they wont come back, and some who cares either way, But someday U hope tp meet that someone again. Will never ne like it was, then mabey I wont ever want to be alone again.

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Widowed father, two little boys... wouldn't mind some advice... Posted: 6/9/2007 8:14:52 PM
I,m so sorry about your loss. I dont care what anyone says, no one knows the pain until it happens to you. They mean well, but no one can even begin to discribe the loss , pain that comes from memories to the what could of been,s. It,s going on 3yrs since my husband died, and I honestly dont see it ending. My love for him is more today then yesterday. Will I ever find someone to love again?, Only God knows, but one thing I not only know, but feel, it will never be the same. I lost my soul mate, and I never understood the term until now.He,s around, and when my time finally comes, he,ll be waiting, just as I will be waiting to go. God never promice,s us tomorrow, but when he took my husband, my tomorrow,s were taken too. Memories are my life now, and I live through them and I guess you could say in a way I,m still living with him, the only way I can. But you will learn to live the best possable way in which you can survive your loss, Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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My daughter has scared away every man I've tried to have a relationship with!!! Posted: 6/5/2007 9:07:57 PM
Here I thought I was only living that nightmare. My daughter isnt even a child anymore, according to the law of age, but one meeting with her, ends or should I say scare them away. She would scare me and does, but I,m stuck with her. My Husband died going on 4yrs now, and I never thought I would even want to date again, but I miss being alone, and sex isnt the biggest part. I hate waking up alone, talking one on one, and sharing those special moments. I just keep thinking and praying for the day I can live and answer to only myself. I should just through her out , but that,s not the way I am, so I only have myself to blame. But your not alone, no answers, but if any help, you have company with ya. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Single dads still attractive? Posted: 6/5/2007 8:58:55 PM
Single Dad,s are just as atractive as us single moms. Even though mine arent children anymore, thank God. But in this day and age single, or in my case widiwed, we are what we make ourselves feel, and yes how we take care of ourselves. Besides losing my husband , I lost my confadence. But now I think and feel I do look better then when my husband was alive, Guess , I took alot for granted then, but I wont go back to looking and acting and most of all taking life, and even love for granted anymore, exspecialy if I,m ever lucky to find it again. LIsa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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a place for us novices... Posted: 6/3/2007 7:37:38 PM
I know the day you died, my life had ended too, You took the path to Heaven, and left me all alone, In my dreams, I wait for you, to hold your hand to me, and lead me down the path you did, and give a kiss to me. Then I wake, still all alone, like yesterday, and feel more and more alone. I pray to God to bring me home, where you and I belong, but my prayers go unheared, and I,m still standing here alone. They say "God never gives one, more then they can bare, but I tend to disagree because I cant stand it anymore. I try to feel your touch again, and hear your voice again, but as the days go on and on my feelings are gone since then,. I ask my Angel to bring you to me so I could say the things that were left unsaid. Love is suppose to give one joy and life, but life is killing me. I never knew the life we had was worth so much to me. So when you took your finale trip, did you think of me? You took my life with you, whether you know or not, but the only difference is I,m alone in a empty spot. When my time will finally come, I know I will see you there, but if you have any say when that time might be, please make it soon as possable, because I,m just a shell of hurt and pain, and you know that wasnt me. I want to come as you recall, the way I used to be, for afterall isnt that why you fell in love with me?

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Widowed father, two little boys... wouldn't mind some advice... Posted: 5/30/2007 9:35:47 PM
I,m so very sorry for your loss. The saying God gives us no more then we can handle, I would disagree with that, and I have faith, and love for God, but being left witha Bi[polor daughter, who is now pregent and a son who has some problems which I take the blame for, has and is truely slowing killing me. I pray to Saint Jude, who has answered and given me something or some how to deal with this, but most of the time I feel so alone, I cant honestky say why I,m still here, so I guess in that way my prayer s are being answered. To be honest , advice is something you dont need. You need and you know that you have to follow your heart, and your mind. Only you know, even though you think you dont, the answer of what you are looking for. Open your heart, use and follow whatever faith you have, and you have your answer. Believe, is the key to all of our problems, I just hope that I,m smart enough to foloow the road in which I,m suppose to take, because I know many times Ive taken the wrong1 and in some cases never found myself where I was or should have ended up. God Bless You, and just have faith, and trust, and your ???? will be answered.

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 489 (view)

Unfinished Buisness Posted: 5/30/2007 9:17:22 PM
The day that God had chose your time, without me even knowing it, I was right behind.Did you feel me by your side, or did I walk alone? Will I ever catch up with you, or do I walk to slow? Because the day God chose your time, I didnt even know. I try to find you in my dreams, and talk to you in my prayers, but are you even there? Will I ever feel your touch, or will you wait for me? For when my time will finally come, Will either of us know? Love Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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The one thing you miss most when you are single Posted: 5/30/2007 9:02:55 PM
The 1 thing I miss the most is everything that makes a relationship good amd a good 1 bad. Confused??? If you take time to really think about it, a real true relationship is both. If it,s true love , we forget about the bad times, and even some of the good. I,m a widow since I was 49, now 51, and I miss every fight, and evry touch. We used to fight every day, but if we didnt, it wasnt us. I was married for 32yrs, and every certain time of a day, month, hour, or year, thee is something I miss. The saying time heals, I havent yet been able to feel or see it anywhere in my future, and mabey never will. I guess being divorced is a bit different then losing someone by them passing on. Afterall, It was not of either of our making. Does anyone else have those feeling, or way of thinking??

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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The things you miss most about being in a relationship... Posted: 2/24/2007 8:57:30 PM
Being in the relationship, whith the one who I lossed. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 12/22/2006 6:20:20 PM
If any of the the feelings we felt, feel, or just to talk about, would scare anyone way, then they really couldnt love any of us. Why would our love threaten them as long as we are honest. None of us are afraid to reveale any of our feelings. If they truly loved us, they would respect our past. Everyone has a past, it ,s just that this past we share is someone who will never walk through the front door again, and to feel threaten by such a loss, is something that should be understanding if the right feelings are there. We didnt choose to leave what we had, it was made for us, and my heart breaks a little bit at a time, when I hear a song, look at the clock at 5, a certain smell, a brother who looks so much like him. Some day there will be nothing left , to break, exsept my spririt, and then that,s when I will really die altogether inside. How I will cope, I cant even begin to imagine, the same way I cant honestly tell you how I,m living today. Mabey it,s not really living, but just excisting, but what keeps me here is , the promice of seeing snd being reunited with him again, and layiong beside him for the finale time. And never leaving his side again. God, how does one keep living without the only one who would make me feel alive again? Yes, there are better days then others, but they are so far and few, My life will never be the same again, and I pray every night to give me what ever it takes to do to survive this, because I,ll admit I,m not a strong person, and I pray for faith to live with what I have to live without, which is every memory, touch, words, and his voice. Only time will tell, but I pray for everyone who has lost what someone who had made our lives complete. Not perfect, but as perfect has it had to be for any of us. Lisa::

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 12/20/2006 8:44:53 PM
Dearest Fairxy, I know where you are and I,ve been where you havbeen , and in some ways in our lives we still remain there, and perhaps we always will. That part doesnt bother me at all, but perhaps to others to havent lost the kind of love that we had and I truly believe within my heart, that kind of love only comes around once in a life time. I,m not saying there wont be others, but never what we had in such a way that any only then did I truly relilze, and feel and know what real Love was. He was just not a part of things in my life, he was part of me and together we were whole, and when he passed on, part of me passed with him. When I say I love him more today , then yesterday, some cant understand it. I,m sure you know and feel what I mean, and I cant exspress it more then in any other way. O go to his grave, and I say what can I say to you , that I havent said in my heart and head already. I kiss his stone every time I leave , but in my own way, I,m kissing the only part of hom that is close or have any real part of him to me. I know his soul is in heaven, and I feel he his my world though I,m not in his, but I like you, pray more times then I care to admit, to also be joined with him. I see him waiting for me, with my mt favorite dog, and when God seems fit, I am ready. I believe in Heaven, God, and ever after life, and also I know and truly feel we will be together . Only God knows, but I know he also knows I,m also ready anytime my time comes. They say with time it gets easyier. I dont see or feel that ever happening. I,m so afraid I,m gonna forget his voice, and that scares me, for then I treuly have lost a piece of him. To all of those who have lost loved ones , this week is one of the hardest, and I pray for everyone who has gone through it. Know one truly knows how it feels, or live without someone who you loved more then you ever have loved in your life, and my prayers are with everyone of us. Just believe how beautiful it must be in heaven this time of year. God only knows, and our loved ones who already made their final destiny. LOve to you all. LIsa :

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 12/16/2006 2:54:59 PM
I have the memories, I guess that,s all I do have. My love is more today then it was yesterday, and I never see any time of day or any thing I do , with out him by my side, But the most important thing is the love I have and feel for him. My new saying is " More today then Yesterday". Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 12/3/2006 7:22:42 PM
Yes fairyw, You are normal, and you do see him and feel him in your heart. I,m one of those who believe that my husband is around, and I could tell you many things that make me know this. By what you are saying, please believe me , he is with you. Like my husband, he died unexspectaly. I dont remeber the final 2wks of his life, but to this day, I feel the hurt and pain of them. They say we only have 1 true love in our lives, and I believe we have had ours, and we will be together again. You are so young yet, and mabey in time you will find someone again, but believe me, it will never ever be the same. I f you would like someone to talk to , I would like very much to do so. I do cry every day, and not 1hr passes , that I dont think of what he would be saying at a paticular moment, or when I look at the clock at 5, he should be walking in the door. My e-mail address is ahanjelhre@aol.com, and I will give you my number if you ever feel like talking. Mabey we could help and heal each other. Some times, all we need to do is talk about them, and it,s like we are living those lives agains. Remeber, memories never die. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 12/2/2006 7:53:31 PM
I cant stop thinking or loving my husband of 32yrs. I was married since 16, and he passed away 2yrs ago. I never needed him as much as i have in the past couple months. To me, it will never get easier, no matter how much time passes or who if fall in love again. It wont be the same again, and I,ve come to to exspect it, but it hurts just the same. I believe you did see him, for I believe, they are in our world, and when our time comes, we will be in theirs. Luv Lisa:

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 107 (view)

I still love you but I am not in love with you..... Posted: 11/18/2006 12:33:13 PM
I disagree with you all that said it was a way of saying it had something to do with whether sex was good, bad, or whatever. Let,s be honest, Men and Women. Who cared if the sex was lousey, when someone isnt getting it, I would say that whether good or bad, least they got something. I,ve never been with any man that turned down sex, or even used that as an excuse for a break up. Most men, and they know ot, dont care as long as they get it. Mabey someone better came along, but I just dont think sex was the issue. Lisa

blueiss2

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Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:55:34 PM
Now since Ive reached 50, lol, and Ive been a widow for 2yrs. after being married for 32yrs since the age 16 I have to add, I now know what I want in my next or any other relationship. Romance. I now know at my young teen yrs, I didnt have a clue how real sex was suppose to feel. Sure I thought I knew and enjoyed it all, and boy was i wrong. How many of you out there , when you were a teenager and in your sexual moments really enjoyed it compared to what you have learned over the years. Even you men out there. Compare your sexual exsp. to then to now. We or I thought I enjoyed it and knew it all, but though the years, looking back, knew nothing. Now I want romance with my partners, Romance can be anything you or your partner enjoy, from the first kiss to the last sexual climax, And I know my memory probably fades me, but my sexual climaxs from then to now are nothing compared to now. I even surprise myself sometimes in things I think and come up with. And it,s not the cheap sex games, not saying they also have there good points, but scarves, oils, bubble baths are just the simpler romantic things. What you wear, where your at, even time of day, can make sex a sensual exsperiance, which leads to romance and then becoming romantic. Forget the back seat, ( But that had it time , also) but as the saying goes, "Been there Done that" I,m older and know how really sex is suppose to feel, or at least can, and on the whole, does. Thats 1 thing that I enjoyed about getting older, probaly the only thing. LOL. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 82 (view)

I still love you but I am not in love with you..... Posted: 11/16/2006 12:35:41 PM
Doesnt that " I still love you but I,m not in love with you " sound so dramantic? My God, who ever made that up. To me it doesnt even make much sence, I guess, unless your the one useing it. Just say the way in English, that we can understand. That sounds like something in a play. Mabey I,m just a dummy when it comes to stuff like that, but I rather hear, "Its not working out, But we can still remain friends" and then we all know what that means. Yea right.I guess it is suppose to sound so mature, and make you even feel or still feel special, but in the end, it all means the same, It,s over, goodbye, nice while it lasted. Was that so hard to say. Least I get the picture, and I,m sure we all would. Honey, his loss, your gain. Wonder where he learned it from, or who told him the same line. Now , if you ever feel that way , you use the same line. I think I will, the guys I seem to date, will think I made it up, let alone understand it. LOL. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

Who wants to live forever? Posted: 10/9/2006 1:23:19 PM
Live forever. No thank you. Sometimes I feel, I,ve lived to long already, but what waits ahead, is living forever. Not here. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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HELP!!! Confused on the behaviours of the man I like!! Posted: 9/12/2006 6:30:15 AM
I know you could do alot better. Mabey that was just his way out, because he was face to face with you. Your really beautiful and there will be other,s, there always is. I,m sure you will find the right one, but he didn,t sound like he was it. I know there,s alway,s one who you love to death, and he doesnt feel the same way. Those feelings dont stop like that, but when I think of that, I go back , way back to High School day,s, when that always seemed to happen, and still does. I guess we never grow up in some way,s. Think we would by now.

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Cancelled vacation.......need advice! Posted: 9/12/2006 6:22:31 AM
WEll Tim, Mabey you can relate to this man. I just know the way I would think. How many Woman do you actully know that would spend that kind of money, on her own, like the girlfriend did to go to another country. Scroundrel, was does that word really mean???? I didnt use it, but I think you hit the nail on the head. Sorry I didnt think of that one, but it,s funny how you did. Yes, your right, Some people, and yes I probably would be one of them of the time was right, and I had some kind of history with this person, but I dont think I would go so far as cross the ocean to a another country, exspecialy with all the story,s you hear today. So, of that makes me , well "whatever" then I would rather be that then "whatever" And let me ask you this, and answer honestly, ( like I would know if you really did) How far dod or would you go to see a women, and let,s say if you had to use the amount he sent her, to do it? LIsa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

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Cancelled vacation.......need advice! Posted: 9/10/2006 9:47:14 AM
Not me tim, He,s still a loser. I would make him even a bigger loser by letting him lose or waste all that money that he sent. Sounds more like a whimpy loser at that too. He has something he hiding. Why would an so called ex-girlfriend spend "how much" to go to where ever? Doesnt that sound strange to anyone? There,s more to this then that. Lisa

blueiss2

Joined: 2/28/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Cancelled vacation.......need advice! Posted: 9/9/2006 7:50:35 PM
Wake up, and I dont care in what time zone your in. How convenient for this to happen, and the best of all is he cant or better yet wont get rid of her. Sure, sure, blame it on the old Mommy game. I,m sure your much smarter then this, and even though it,s gonna be hard, be stronger, because it sounds like to me, he,s a whimp. I know your hurt right now, but I bet the more you think about it , the madder you will get, or should get, and kick his a-- to the curb, along with Mommie story. This one doesnt sound like a real keeper to me. Sounds like you might have to keep him, because some man this weak, cant be all that. Hope he really is where he say,s he is. Put the suitcases away, charge the new clothes you bought to him, and say Bye, no see ya later. Did his ex girlfriend pay her own way over there, or did Mommie pay it for her. Think before you leap, exspecialy in a different country. You might never be seen or heard from again.

blueiss2

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Msg: 91 (view)

For those who don't have pictures...why? Posted: 9/9/2006 7:38:17 PM
Here we go again. Same old ?????, just by different types. So there,s your answer. Count how many times this same ??? has been asked, and then count how many different types asked it, but then , and this might take a while, or mabey no time at all, because it,s still the same answer, no matter how many times you read it. LIsa

blueiss2

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Msg: 160 (view)

Dressing too young Posted: 9/7/2006 7:37:27 PM
I think you should dress, tastefully, and that can mean sexy too. Victoria Secrect isnt cheap, by cost or by looks, and if you look and feel good in whatever you wear, wear it. I,m a size 4-6, depending on the lable, and I look good enough not to be scared to come out of the dressing room, for a change. To wear a short skirt, which isnt real short, feels and looks good, if I do say so my self, and I,m probably the only 1 who does, but dont care. I look slim in jeans, and dont care what any 1 else thinks. If they button, and zip, and I can sit, there on Now getting them off, is another story, but while there on, I do look good, even in the mirror. What more needs to be said Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 88 (view)

Does anyone understand what i am going through? Posted: 9/7/2006 7:30:44 PM
Well, some would say ,you have the best of both worlds, but I would say, she,s gay. Not both ways, she,s just into women. You know it, but only you can answer or know what or how to handle this. I dont think any man really know,s what your going though, or really any women either. Men will say, well why dont you watch or join in, women I couldnt tell ya. Some of them are real possive, other,s , cant say. Good Luck, honey. Mabey she will change: Mabey not But the ???? is, can you Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 118 (view)

Do women understand men? Posted: 8/29/2006 9:54:26 AM
On what subject are we talking about. Love, life, .Are these two different things anyway, since usualy when one talks about the one, some how, through the back door one or the other come up. Understanding comes with it,s own meaning anyway. Understanding #1 Agreeing with their views #2 Trying to see their view, and seeing at the very least, where their looking at it from. Even though I do try on some subject,s, there are some personal ones, that I,m a little bit to selfish to even look, try, or reason with it. So that also comes to mind #3 Subject, personal or sexual. I,m 2 for 2 50 -50 and a little to selfish on a certain 1 to even want to try.

blueiss2

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Msg: 38 (view)

They love you, you don't love them, you love them, they don't love you? Posted: 8/29/2006 9:45:54 AM
I hope I,m understanding you advtrakat, but it reminds me of when we were in High School. I would always want some other guy, who wanted nothing to do with me. What was up with that? Then I would always get the guys, I couldnt stand, like I was so much better then them. Now I wonder where they all are. Probaly the one I wanted is a jerk, fat, bald, even though looks dont matter, and the others are rich, successful, and if you have the other 2 who needs looks anyway. How can I remeber so long ago, and ask me about 2 days ago, forget it. Only the important things in my life I remeber, so now you all see just how much importance there is in my life Lisa And now I see it too:

blueiss2

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Msg: 65 (view)

Are you proud of your age? Posted: 8/25/2006 2:30:34 PM
I dont think it,s a matter of being proud of our age, like what can we do about it anyway. The right thing to say is, " Its how you live and what your age you do" My answer is I think I look good at my age, So the answer is YES, I,m quite proud to be 50 and still look like I look, which really is not my age at all, Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 127 (view)

Photos and the older person! Posted: 8/21/2006 7:20:34 AM
Ok. you got a point. My pictures are the way I look now, I even change them every once in while, just because I can, and it gives me something to do, when I get my depression mode, which hasnt been alot lately, but I,s still me. I,m sure some of your fellow men friends would differ on what they would want to see. Some what more, but to be honest, never heard of one say less, but I agree with you. The women that I see here seem to have more class then that, as well it should be. After all we arent of the young Hot Bootie call,s ( Hope I said that right ) that some of younger ages, let,s say are. I,m even unsure of some of mine, so I have a friend who I can ask and get a honest answer. To much, or just enough. But you do make the most valuable point of all. Send a picture that is you. Let,s face it, if a relationship is to go anywhere , honesty is the best way, We can have the most bubbly, sweet personality, and even though they have talked to us forever, when brought face to face, it,s like they never heard you at all. So You have made the most valuable point that has ever been underestmated on this or any other site. Honesty is away of getting and staying in a relationship, and love is the reward at the end of road. ( Did I say that right ???) Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 76 (view)

What does a man mean by taking things slow??? Posted: 8/18/2006 5:40:33 AM
To me taking it slow , means The slower the better , and last so much longer, and it it only gets and feels so much better. Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 22 (view)

As much as we are looking for the one, have we forgotten it still requires effort? Posted: 8/18/2006 5:36:46 AM
I just had to tell you , I love your hat. I,m a Country Music person ( Better then just a fan ) and I cant think of who you remind me of. Give me time, but any man with a cowboy hat looks good to me. I can always pretended who,s under it, and on top of me Done it from Garth Brooks to Kenny Chesney, but Brad Paisley tops my list, (and me) In my dreams I,m sure or definitly not his, that,s why it,s all just a dream to me. I can write some song with that I think, Mabey he read,s this sorta stuff, not. Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 9 (view)

As much as we are looking for the one, have we forgotten it still requires effort? Posted: 8/15/2006 5:34:33 AM
You at least , or to me anyway, seem to know just what you are looking for in a relationship, and in the life after you find one. When I,m asked, I honestly dont know how or what to say. Now that I read what you wrote, I,m sitting here wondering to my self what,s wrong with me. Am I not even ready for a relationship, let alone a long term one. I,ve only been alone for 2yrs. but since I was married for 32yrs, why dont I know. I certainly know what I dont want, so why is it so hard to see what I do want. Am I just making my self more confused, then I normaly do, and I do that alot. But listening to you, I got to hand it to you, you know your want,s and you seem to have your life going in the direction in what you want and are lookinf for. I,m sure you will find and get it, because you have a direction. Even if I had a direction, I cant read a map : so mabey that,s why at times I feel and think I,m lost. Good Luck, and thank you ( I think ) for pointing somethings out to me.

blueiss2

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Msg: 125 (view)

Should depressed People date? Posted: 8/14/2006 5:47:40 AM
The more I think about it, No, we all should just stay home. Lisa

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Msg: 22 (view)

No Energy??? Posted: 8/13/2006 11:51:16 AM
kitkat, You sounded like me not so long ago, and even a little bit now. Now remeber I,m 50, so when we are talking energy, I seem to all of of sudden have some. I just love the way you described the macho and everything else. You got ot down to a T, Is it like that at every bar? I just go to listen to Country Music, but never by myself, but It is fun to sit and look at just how hard some of these men and also women, work at whatever there out for. Me, just to sit have a drink is enough for me. Line Dance, I can also do, better then some of the younger ones, but I just feel that if I had to put the energy that they all do into mabey a 1 night stand for most, other,s looking for whatever, like you , Why Bother. I think the energy I get comes from watching them, and smiling, and even laughing, and the dancing helps to. The song by Toby Keith "I,m not as young as I once was, but as good as I ever was" to me say,s it all. By the way, Dont stay home, you never know what you really might miss, and at the end of 1 of my days, it,s a real pick you upper. Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 37 (view)

People, of our age, alone...what do our pets say about us? Posted: 8/12/2006 12:34:49 PM
I have a Rottie named Louie. Well Louie weighs about lets say 165lbs, and is very smart, and a good judge of characture ( I know I spelled it wrong) But anyway, I tell him all my secrects, and ask,s his advice, and he has never ever told my secrects, and when he see,s my dates, I just have to look in his big brown eye,s, and if I dont see his white teeth, he approves. I,m telling the truth, because he has growled and chased a couple of my looser dates out. Turned out, he was right. Now what does that say about us. Dont even want to know. He loves my new Boyfriend, and so do I, He just gave me a ring, so it must be a good thing, but Louie knew it all along, Animals arent stupid, we are when it comes to love. I trust his thoughts more then my own, so that,s telling me how bad my choices have been. But those day,s I hope are over. But then again if you think about it, one dog knows another dogs thoughts,

blueiss2

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Msg: 22 (view)

Desperation and being older... Posted: 8/12/2006 12:09:45 PM
Your friend was right. When you use the term " Desperate" mabey you mean scared. There is quite a differnce even though at one time or another they mean and feel like the same thing. Believe on your self and let the rest take care of it,s own. You,ll be surprised what will find you when you least exspect it, or what you will find when your not looking. Patience is what a virture, ( I,m sure I didnt spell it right) but you get my drift, Good things comes to those who waut, No pun intened. Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 42 (view)

Living Together Again Posted: 8/12/2006 8:52:08 AM
No, You misunderstood or mabey I didnt put it the right way. I would or never could compare the 2. I had 32yrs of memory,s that no one could ever replace, and I mean that in anyone,s life, just not mine. I,m nothing special. There are men and women living and feeling like I do, every day, and the rest will have to go though it someday also. It,s just the way I had to deal with it. I dont know what would work for someone else, or even try to, but that,s what and how I coped and delt with it. I would never marry again. I had 1 husband, and I will be buried next to him, so I will be with him again. All I was or trying to say, It is possiable to love again. My marriage was far from perfect, which I live with now knowing how things I could have done better, but didnt, things I could have said, but didnt, but no regrets, a lot of sorry,s, yes, but no regrets. I know he ,s in my life, even though I cant be in his, and in my own way, I feel he helped me find this relationship. Never ever compare, which would never be fair, to my husband,s memory, or my new memory,s with my new love. Love comes in different ways, as people do. Just finding them isnt the easy part, and when you do , dont let your past keep you from the future. Sorry if I said it made it sound like that. Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 122 (view)

people on this website Posted: 8/11/2006 4:46:30 AM
Welcome to the internet of dateing. This only happened 1 time to you? You are quite a lucky 1, or mabey just a starter. Dont take it personaly. If everyone did, no one would be here. Age has nothing to do with this problem. This comes to us in all shapes , sizes, stories, lies, truths, and need I say more. The grass always looks so much greener on the other side. One profile here, One there, which looks better . The money part, the looks, personality, dont think so, but you see the ???? that always 1 asks is " What are you looking for" ? and my answer is, honestly dont know, because what I think I might want is not really what I do want, and what I dont want , is probably what I do want, but just dont know it. Did I confuse you yet. If I did , then I did my job, Get it?? Lisa

blueiss2

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Msg: 35 (view)

Living Together Again Posted: 8/11/2006 4:38:23 AM
If I was asked this ??? 2yrs. ago I would answer I would never want to live with anyone again. My perfect world , to me at that time was laying in my bedroom (in my bed alone ) If I wanted to get up fine, if not even better. But the term " Be carefull what you wish for because you might get it " happened. My husband died. Then after , or I cant say after because it,s still with me, I became so lonely and depressed . I hated nights because I hated sleeping with someone, and not the sex part, I hated mornings, because I hated waking up alone. My perfect world wasnt so perfect afterall. It was like a living _ _ _ _. But I dont go to bed alone anymore, yes and the sex is just the way I like it, ( when I want it ) and waking up is even better, because I dont have to get out of bed to make his lunch, find his underware, or socks where ever he took them off, and even the sex is much better in the morning, because it,s on my time, not his for a change. So my answer is, You can have the best of both worlds, but only You know which 1 is the 1 for you. And you can always change it, on your time. Lisa

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