FIRST LINE LAST LINE 's continuity needs the first posting to follow the last line ... to be used chat & forums.

Posted In Forum:

Home

MyForums

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: FIRST LINE LAST LINE 's continuity needs the first posting to follow the last line ... to be used

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 6672 (view)

FIRST LINE LAST LINE 's continuity needs the first posting to follow the last line ... to be used Posted: 6/6/2007 7:26:35 AM
It's all part of the plan To walk this journey hand in hand To share the joys and it's sorrows There is always another tomorrow If you think of your vision today Then it will come to fruition they say Keep love, hope, peace, faith within your heart Never let in doubt or things tear you apart Keep reminding yourself this is the only time That I can walk this earth that's so fine Those that you love tell them today Those that you are ill pray it goes away Those that are sad give them a hug Those that are bad tell them to stop that bug Those who are poor let them through your door Those who are rich tell them to help the poor We are all one kind you and I Weather your a girl or a guy We are of spirit that feels and see's All our hearts beat the same And blood flows through our veins The only difference between you and I Is that we each have our calling in this line That's what make's this world so fun Like a colour of a rainbow and the bright sun

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

what did you do following a break up? Posted: 5/28/2007 12:50:13 AM
**** for few days about all the reasons why I had to break up with him.. that got old really fast with my cat ha-ha... Wrote some poems about why I don't love you like you do with me on the forum, and my other website.. Walked around nude on my balcony, ate whenever, stayed up late, yaked for hours on the phone, shopped for hours, which would drive him nuts...Posted I am single on all my sites and again here on POF.. so email me now ha-ha... Went to where we hung out to advertise that were no longer together and sighed to his friends I need to have fun again.. to find out how his male friends always liked me and thought they now could score with me.. thinking sweet revenge.. realising that he was NOT worth loosing my dignity over.. so close those doors.. Now opened up my windows again by catching up on 8 months of things I should of been doing, need to do... and was always side tracked by him...Now feeling really great and enjoying being back in control of my life again.. Really looking forward to what will be NEW and lays ahead for me.. Life goes on... And I hope for a fun and exciting summer!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

When is the best time to tell a girl you have kids Posted: 5/14/2007 9:26:53 AM
It depends on the circumstances. I think that you have to inform them up front that you have children and not wait. Let them know if you have custody, or access, and also the age of the children. How much time you spend with them, and how you think about incorporating them into the picture eventually if you are thinking of dating each other. Then how is the X be part of all of this? Some just want to keep things simple, and think this may add complications, or time restrains. Kids means family almagamation. It's not just the person now your dating to consider only. I have dated men with kids and never met them, or been asked to join them and found this odd as they spend time with my kids, what's up with that?

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

What should I make of this Posted: 5/14/2007 9:09:15 AM
Get a anulment! She is baiting guys as your not good enough for her. Married people tell other's there married. Don't go out on dates with strangers, or try to meet strangers on a dating service, let alone tell there own husbands don't ruin it for me! If it's a real freind only then you would tell them your married, and offer at least for you to join them. Sounds like she wants a open realationship with men, and is this what you want other men with your wife dating her? She is also misleading these guys, and guys don't take this well... this could lead to issues not just for her.. but for you.. What if the guy wants to come in after the date? Your there? I could'nt beleive that she wants you to drive her so she can meet some guy, have fun with him, and for you to not say your married that's nuts, and you'll be nuts to allow this conduct! Can I sell you land in Florida cheap haha...

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 116 (view)

Facial hair...do you like or not? Posted: 5/14/2007 8:55:12 AM
I have sensative skin and break out.. and will tend to try to meet men with no facial hair... I think some men suit it.. but please keep it clean and maintained, and not something that's really odd, bizare looking to attrack onlookers to embaress the gal...

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Oral Sex - Give some to get some.. but what if... Posted: 5/14/2007 8:51:45 AM
Wow I would of thought you would have worked this all out before you got married to her... unless you waited until you were married. There could be many reasons why she does'nt do this for you. I think you need to just ask her her take in this sexaul act.. it's a personal thing and ..Make her feel comfortable talking to you about it... and be prepared maybe it's something to do with you... Some men smell, or taste yucky... most women do'nt swallow.. even wifes...this is again a personal choice...

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

Telling someone you are not interested. Posted: 5/14/2007 8:44:11 AM
If weight is your factor in finding someone you should state your body style preference on your profile . This helps other's know your preference to by pass you. In your case respond politly stating sorry were not suitable for each other wishing them all the best fishing. I perfer honesty why waste time!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

expectations.... Posted: 5/14/2007 7:46:22 AM
I have to agree with many here, it seems to me that you not ready to 'settle to just one at this stage of things' or you would not be thinking about expectations this soon, and feeling 'fear' . If your totalling 'in love' with each other you would be thrilled that he wants you to now be exclusive. Sounds to me that your still growing with him and are you ready to just be with 'one' only after a long marriage and just began to dip your feet into the pond. He should not have a problem with you saying that you need more time to get to know him, and if he does then question what's the rush? If he is bothered by the fact that you want to date other's for fun this is jealousy and will become part of it always in your realationship.. which from my experience can be embaressing, or a nightmare, or control over you. Do what you head says at this stage and your gut feels. Don't rush into things until your ready though, to spend perhaps the rest of your life withsome. Is'nt this the point of becomming a couple in hope to be together always?

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 1964 (view)

8 LINEs let 'em fly start with #1 from the previous guy Posted: 5/11/2007 9:50:33 PM
Don't do it anymore there babe ... it will only cause you harm She bats her baby blue's and continues to charm He grasp her firmly and lays her down Stroking her back unzipping her gown Gazing into her eyes he noticed a tear Asking her what it wrong my sweet dear I just realised I don't love you that way Grabbing her gown she runs away....

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

When to Believe...and when to just walk away Posted: 5/11/2007 12:26:02 PM
...he said he would call......HE NEVER did...he dropped me and email a week and a half later...saying he was sorry he lead me on....but couldn't date...TOO much baggage??? Were you not listening to him? You should of taken this a the RED FLAG... and said NO Thanks! People please listen to what there saying, he at least told you the truth about himself, which say's allot these days. Least you did'nt find this out after being with him for ages. Count your blessings... move on... and go with your instincts! If it does'nt feel right, good, or suspisouse, full of whole's in there story, do you need this crap in your life? Don't feel jaded he did you a favor he is a looser! Walk away when you hear those things that you know will result for you down the road. Yes this site can work I have met some great people and decent people BUT I take my time, and Listen to all the clues, and any RED FlAGS I walk! Good Luck fishing hun!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 1960 (view)

8 LINEs let 'em fly start with #1 from the previous guy Posted: 5/11/2007 10:50:35 AM
Is to seek her out in Candy.... Big one's small one's short one's tall one's there's plenty Happy,Funny, Sad, Mad, Smart, Stupid, too many I so confused at which one to pick Help me buddy this is making me sick I know why don't you try and few then you'll know The winner you want to keep and grow Journey with and share all your dreams Hey this one looks good her name is Sunbeams

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Advice on testing people Posted: 2/20/2007 3:50:45 PM
Are you testing me to see if I give the right answer

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 79 (view)

Do i push the issue???? Posted: 2/20/2007 3:07:52 PM
He asked me if i was listening to what they were talking about and i said no even though i did You lied to him too! So in my books this realationship is already doomed!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

Should I warn the new woman? Posted: 2/20/2007 3:04:03 PM
Maybe you should have filed charges against him when he was doing it to you. I would agree to this statement that another posted. Sorry that you did go through this experience, and it is natural that you would'nt want anyone to experience what you may have gone through. However this could re-open things between you and him again, or worse put you in danger. Hopefully she is aware of Abusive signs to know what to do.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Chick food Posted: 2/3/2007 11:17:13 AM
Penis???? Good one! . Chick food…. Ummm my guess anything that would be eaten "Fear Factor" menues.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Sex and the City: I'm Carrie and I have myself a MR.BIG Posted: 2/3/2007 10:49:02 AM
You have said it yourself: When it all come's down to your Mr. Big he really isn't such a great guy enough to be a "keeper". Mr. Big is the guy who will be there for you in time's of void, rebounds, nothing better to do, Last min there for you, sex that is familiar without having to share feelings about it. Freedom to be who you are and whatever you want to do. He's are best buddy. We attach to him because he is our perfect SELF EGO BUT also eventually we wake up one day saying to our self's, maybe subconsciously even, Is this really ME? Who I am? What am I doing? This isn't going anywhere. This really is un healthy for me! Yet why do I hurt so much? Because it was so EASY! Did you ever see the episode when they tried to work on things in that relationship… Whoa it really woke them up! They saw each other FLAWS! Each other's truths about them self's. It was way to much for them both. Why because then it became REAL. There Fantasy, Fairy Tale ended when they both went there. They knew that although it was all perfect, as long as they didn't go to the REALITY part all was hunky dory. So they just continued… but in DENIAL with each other. Hey Mr. Big has it great when you think about it. Knows how to bait, real her in, cast her out without seeming to make her think anything will change because he is going to do this or that now. When away, busy, or just got a hour or two to kill, knows that if he picks up the phone, your little heart pitter patters because He thought of YOU. Somehow we placed this type of guy up on a pedestal to become our Carrie God savior. Even when Mr. Big is married, he knows you'll be hurt, but is he? No. Heck he is even fantastic with the guys you date. Aww no jealousy, like most guys have with us. Mr. bigs so goy and we know it! Gosh he will go as far to test things. Remember when Mr. Big's life fell apart, although Carrie was engaged. Well he wines to her, (knowing all well But who cares, Carrie thinks Mr. Big reached out to me!!!! That mysteriouse man, showed he can be vonerable, or was he? No, becasue he knows how Carrie ticks, and how to win her over and get away with things she knows she should'nt be doing, and while making it seem okay to do!). Carrie will open that door when her world falls apart, or his. But is this just Revenge? If so it's is bitter sweet, at the expence of ourselfs. Mr Bigs are the little devils that sit on us. Mr. Big and Carrie CREATED together that IDEAL realationship. When in reality this is nothing like when we are in a REAL REALATIOSHIP. Mr. Big is relationships of coarse will be complicated why? Because it's social not the norm, and where does it lead? Do we marry our Mr. Biggs? Well we think it's ideal, when we know the real fact is, You both never truly REALLY ARE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER! You just LOVE what is was, or is. Or is it even LOVE at all? Maybe it's just because it was easy, and we all want to be with someone, and heck if it's easy why not! The thing is how do we defeat our Mr. Biggs? We cannot stop thinking about them. We try to compare them when were with other's. Try not to feel any emotions, and go as far to mask our emotions and feelings. Foremost because if we deal with them, then we have to start to look at our self's and face the truth about the IDD of our Carrie. There is a way to get through all of this. And just not live in that IDD part of that Carrie. How? To defeat them both? Flick off the Devil Carrie! Find someone who is bigger then Mr. Big. Someone who is REAL. Someone who will NOT allow you to fall into your Alter Ego IDD Carrie side, but the REAL Carrie that will accomplish something not just For her own Self Worth, but for a Healthy mutual Relationship. Not one that feeds it. If your addicted to drugs would you be with a person who does drugs or incourages it towards you, well hope not, or you will never recover that co-dependant part of you. Don't allow yourself to let Mr. Big rain on your parade anymore. Find that guy who is NOT Mr. Big. The one who is not mysterious forever with you. Never reveals the true side to him. Yep it is going to be hard as when your now going out dating your have to pull out the Truth's first in that guy. Your now on a new mission, to find the Mr. Better. Revealing to you who/what he is and all those flaws. The listening to also will he meet my IDD Carrie needs to, but in a good way? BUT one day there will be that one who you connect to, and click with. Clicking with that side to your Healthy Carrie, and the one that wants to see Carrie complete. Bells and whistles will go off, not alarms! You then have been rescued! Saved! Not by the Mr. Big. But the Mr. Keeper! Look for the Keeper. In the meantime time to let go off how Mr. Big holds onto you and is stopping your from moving forward the way you deserve. A happy ending after. I know how you feel as I too had the Mr. Big syndrome badly. I had to rescue first myself and Kill the Idd Carrie side in me. Become the REAL Carrie. Not allowing myself to fall of the wagon. My Mr. Big, became Mr. Small.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

anyone have any funny breakup stories.... Posted: 2/2/2007 7:24:22 PM
Some funny stories on this post. This is a brutal one, hope no flack back on this,understanding why I did this one.... I met him on another dating site. He told me he went off it, but he didn't. I suspected cheated although he say he wasn't. So, I set up another name at the site I knew he was on. He began to correspond to her (which was me, but he didn't know that). All along saying he was single and looking forward to meeting. So I suggested a romantic weekend getaway, and he accepted. In the meantime I asked him if he was seeing anyone else and he said no baby I love you and seeing you only. I had him over, and suggested to do something together that weekend. He all of the sudden said he had a business trip, but the next weekend he would see me. Telling me again how much he loved me, and would miss me, and looking forward to when we saw each other again. He used to use my computer and I knew he was snooping in my emails. He asked if he could use my computer before leaving, and I said sure, leaving him alone. I had kept a minimized email on my desktop that was to him. Hoping he open it. He did and saw all the correspondence from the girl he was about to meet. In big bold letter's I wrote BUSTED! It's me you jerk! Sorry but our date is cancelled this weekend, and so are we! Entering back in the room he was white as a ghost and kept quiet as he exited out with his tail between his legs, never calling me again. Another one: I had bought play tickets way down the road. Had the guy I was dating hold them. He was out of town for a long time and coming back just in time for the play. He said he would leave the ticket at the pick up booth for me, and meet him at the seats. I didn't want to spoil both are evenings with a break off. I had a g/f who said she would like to meet him, now knowing I wasn't interested. So, I told her to go to the play so she did. Naturally he wondered where I was when she sat beside him. She told him, although I thought he was a great guy, he wasn't for me. I wanted to show my appreciation for everything he did for me, not wanting to ruin the evening breaking up, and introducing her to him, in maybe hoping they would like each other. They hit it off and had a great time. He emailed me back saying what a classy lady and good friend I was, and the best way to end it between us. Another one. I am going celibate. Boy they run fast when you say that.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

kids driving me crazy Posted: 2/2/2007 3:56:18 PM
I learned by going through what most parents do that seemed the kids did well in school, to apply some of that stragity in the home. What is it. Applying good structure routines, responsibilities, rules and consequences that are age appropriate. Praise and encouragement. Talking to them, not at them so they will learn. Helping them until they understand it allowing mistakes that will be made but are to learn not to repeat them. Parenting is not easy. When we think of it, we have to train them to help them and it's in your hands until they are able to manage things on there own. Knowing also what foods made them more hyper, or tiered and allowing these foods only. Knowing there interest, and applying this by having them do that at home, or join a program that offers it. Having together time in this area or taking them out just for that. Letting them have a freind there age over to play with. Kids have energy, so doing something that allows them to exercise this daily. If not they may get bored and act up. Get them outside. To a park, walking, or outdoor activity. Fun activities that allow them to exhurt there energy but in a control normal method. Games that allow them to exercise both mind and stimulation independently and with there siblings. Getting them involved in something will help quiet the house and your nerves. Using reward chart system with there input on what good behavior will mean what they think they would like, or earn. Make time for yourself. Get out and away from it all and let go of the stress. Know that eventually they do grow up and things will change. Perhaps expalining to them the effects on you has may also help for them to change.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

What destructive things have your kids done? Posted: 2/2/2007 2:31:47 PM
Well this post allows me to reflect on damage control reminders. Having 3 boys I had to experience allot but to share some: · While being grounded in his room saying to him not to come out no matter what. Coming in to be knocked over with a ghastly smell to discover he had pooed down the vent. Oh it was diarrheara. · Another grounding time in there room. Thinking to have them do a quiet craft of drawing, saying to them to pretty up the walls as they are too plain. To enter to find murals all over the fresh painted walls in permanent crayons! Learning to be exactly specific with them use paper. · One with his first sweetheart (age 4) both decided to draw a heart on my car with a rock and there initials, still there to day. Another one proclaiming his love for the 10 yr old in large permament black marker on my the front white wall of my house. (all forms of per. pens left the house for ever after this). · Having my wallet go down the toilet with all my ID and $150.00 in it at the time. As my son kept hearing me how money just goes down the drain in this house. He thought by having no wallet flushing it down the tolit, would solve that problem! · Repair jobs on my TV, dressers, walls, with scratches from them slipping with the tools. · Dropping my lap top, breaking the glass inside of the screen. · Downloading from web sites causing many viruses to now ruin 3 computers! · Putting bubble bath in the Jacuzzi! · Taunting one younger brother that they threw over his hat overboard the cruise ship. For him to seek revenge and throw there hats over They were Rare 911 Collectors made special for the Firefighters, and given to them from the Chief at the site there. · Tugging to hold the hamster bonking it's head… now it's dead. · Using my tampons as cannons. · Having to build a model of the Challenger for a open class presentation, they found my dildo and using that as Challenger. He got a A+. I got a call more give him more appropriate building materials. · Cutting bubble gum out of his brother's long curly hair to his scalp leaving me to have to buzz cut all his hair, and curls off on his first day of school. · Telling me they found a kitten to have all it's shot's, fixed to find out it was the neighbors. Lucky they let us keep him. · Broadcasting live on College Campus air without me knowing this. A call comes late at night from irate women screaming and threatening me saying I was having a affair with her husband ruining her family and to stay away from him. Leaving me to ponder which guy I am dating it could be! I know how the parents of Tom Green feel now! · Posting a single add on a dating web site posting my b/f at the time cell number. Guess they didn't like him. However I may not have liked those things at the time got very upset, but now when I look back on those things I can laugh. To say all that's left is those memories, or reminder's of there childhood which at time's I miss, now that they are Adults. Well most time's they are!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

How do get your kid out of your bed? Posted: 2/2/2007 12:49:01 PM
Have you asked your child why he is having a hard time sleeping on his own? Finding out there reason may help you to know what you need or help him with. Being that they have had you beside them, it sounds more like a comfort thing with him. Heck he is loosing his snuggle buddy to now be all alone in the bed may be a scary feeling for him. I can relate to this as my son didn't want to leave me for few yrs. What I did was we went out and he I got him to pick out a special teddy bear. Telling him that this would be that part of me with him now in his bed. He would take this when he went overnight or away. I asked him how he would like to have his room decorated, and let him pick out his own new bedding. This helped him to be exited to go into the room. I would go into his room to do activities, while saying wow what a cool room to be in and hang out in, letting him think this too. Started first with day naps, finding he could go to sleep on his own, and then making a big deal of how well he did, and big boy he was. I put a night light in his room. Read to him, comforting him and tucking him and the 'new me' sung as a bug and asking him make sure I get to sleep and don't keep you awake (referring to his new bear) he loved that. I would let him know he can call out to me any time if he needed me, but said I am going to come in once and awhile to check on him. That seem to bring some reassurance to him too. Working with a reward chart on how many days he did it... and what he could look forward to depending on how many days he made it on his own seemed to get him to get him to stay in his own bed. You seem to have many idea's now, so hopefully something will work out for you. If not and your still having trouble.. get bunk beds! Kidding... maybe talk to the pediatrician. Hope you get some sleep soon!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

standards and expectations Posted: 2/2/2007 12:21:05 PM
No you don't have to lower your standards to have someone in your life. As you begin the dating stick with those who will not allow you to think this way. The one's who accepts you for who you are with understanding you had a past but this doesn't reflect who you are and the now. They will want to include your kids. Please do not consider you children as baggage what a horrible thing to say about such blessings giving to you. These are your children who will be in your life forever. Saying this about them and yourself is disrespectful. Leading you towards resentment, and they will learn this also. You are all going through a new transition. The kids cannot feel this is there fault your marriage ended, and now may be in mom's way to meet someone new or get anyone new. Being a single mom myself, if a guy told me well I like you but you have kids he is not for me, I come with as a package deal, not bagage deal! It's not about the looks either. Each one of us has inner beauty far exceeding exterior beauty.. love that part and the outside will shine and be appealing too! Be comfortable about this transition. With thoughts of it being a new adventure filled with fun and new experiences to try or share. Have fun, take your time!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

When is enough, enough? Posted: 2/2/2007 11:50:56 AM
If threats were made towards you daughter why didn't he or you go to the police? If this is true there is way more to this story. People don't make threats on other's life for no reason! Call the police. Tell them what's going on. Get protection for you and your daughter ASAP. Paying 'thugs' off will NOT solve this issue. This is aiding and abetting in criminal activity! Her life has been threatened! You need to take/make all measure to protect her and yourself. If not you could loose your daughter to Children's Aid, If this is some ploy he used to obtain money from you, he has serious issues, and needs help. Then yes go for custody, have supervised access order made, and go for support and full custody. Change you locks, maybe move, and have a restraining order out on him. Keep a eye on your daughter, this is very disturbing post, for me to have read, a serious issue indeed!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 158 (view)

Breast Augmentation over 45 Posted: 2/2/2007 11:29:41 AM
OP I would suggest that you view sites on before and after a few years with breast implants. Depending on where you incision is like any surgery you will always have a scar. With implants they do drop. They will ripple and be seen depending on how you bend. The implant can be felt no matter where it is. Having a monogram is more painful and also harder to detect if anything is wrong. Usually now with implants you now have to also have a extensive ultrasound done every few years. You also need to consider scar tissue build up, that may also change the feeling of the actual breast. Some women breast can feel more lumpy and from the implant ripple feeling. Due to have a object now in your body you can be more prone to sensational loss especially in the nipples. Some have nerve damage, from this, or from the incision. You also need to afford to replace them maybe 6-10 yrs down the road. Like any surgery you need to allocate recovery time. Although you may feel good after a few days you will have to 'care' for them. don't drop to soon and they will anyhow. Wearing a support bra 24/7 for many weeks, maybe months. No lifting anything over 5lbs, and pushing things for min 3 weeks after surgery. So you also have to plan help in domestic things or errands for quite some time. To have a breast lift it's the same. It's something to really think this is serious surgery that sure you can go back if you want, but also this may change the original shape requiring more surgery. It's up to you, it seems to be a confidence thing for you right now, and maybe just try to work on remembering when you were confident and bringing it to the forefront now see how you feel by doing this. Buy a push up bra, or a padded one. I just know that from the girls that have done it sure it made them feel better visually. But with them all 'men' didn't like feeling them, leaving them to feel more self conscious to undress of allow the 2nd base to happen. They could see the implant, and scar. Whatever you decide do this for you. Know all the in's and out's of risk, and future in this factor. Please don't do this because you think men want big boobs.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 102 (view)

Males disapproving of women having male friends Posted: 2/1/2007 2:04:12 PM
We live in a two gender society for good reasons. To learn grow and share amongst each other. To bring balance into our own well beings. To enrich our lives' not just for our self's but for the opposite sex you may be. To help understand better ways, learn recourses, or skills.To help compliment each other. Where it may be for personal support or relationship we will benefit. Having the opposite is in our lives scales the necessary, with guys and girls (and it's not all about sex!). For someone to have issues with there significant other half not to be allowed this is Unconventional, Ungodly.This is control = abuse. There is nothing wrong with anyone having the opposite sex AS A FRIEND. Anyone who tells you such needs serious coucelling help. Is a danger to that other person's Well Being! And most likely has other issues themselves. What a horrible world this would be if we couldn't be allowed to be friends with the opposite sex. Just makes me shiver to think OP can't see the relevance to this. I ponder if he has any female friends he see's when with someone?

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 800 (view)

LAST LINE REPEATED STANZAS Posted: 1/23/2007 10:11:49 PM
Than loving a man with some tricks up his sleeve All that was said is lead to believe That our love is real Our words as good as gold to be forever sealed All our time not a waste The plans that our made not in haste Our hearts merge into one Our spirits shine like the warmth of the sun Our souls dance on and on To know that it's forever That you and I will always be together

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 67 (view)

During after dinner conversation, your date whips out a book... Posted: 1/23/2007 1:59:15 PM
Too bad you had not read the book to tell him how it ends, Or the next book to read The Art of Decorum, then walked away, of coarse ordering desert to go on his tab! You did right hun, this guy was just not worthy of you.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 381 (view)

Why men wont date independant women Posted: 1/23/2007 1:46:56 PM
Independent women equals no more Step ford wife's! Independent women means healthy interdependent relationships, not co dependant one's. More recourses available, means better quality lifestyle now or for your future. Known fact outside stimulation beyond the A typical mother/women stuff are more content, live longer, less likely to get Alzimer's, and go through menopause allot better. Why does this intimated so many men… hmmm You would think in today's society men would hope to find someone who can be independent. I think that those who don't want her to be, = Red Flag~

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

a sudden break up...awaiting his decision...in so much pain...help Posted: 1/23/2007 1:06:07 PM
My response is in hoping for you to identify that you have become to co dependant on another person instead of being interdependent in a relationship. We must always know that we have our own life's outside even when in a relationship. Your boyfriend seems like the type that needs someone who is confident and trusting that first his feelings are genuine for you not to have to question them. The example is he fly's to see you in his very little spare time, and is taking the time to allow this relationship to grow properly, by not rushing things. I think you need to re-evaluates if your just co dependant person? If so, there are groups that do help in this and to consider joining one. Also is this part of you past behaviors with other's? If so then this is a clear indicator you do have a problem. Now I do understand that your hurts are legit enough to say that this is still possible to salvage. However it is going to take you becoming aware of what type of person he is needing you to be with him and accept them. You cannot change him, your the one that has to change in order for him to want you around. If your willing to change the way he expects things to be, then talk to him about this, by letting him know that your understanding him better to allow time now to show him. If he does really love you this may be just as hard for him, and want to work this out. Also I am not too sure why he would freak out when your calling, something may not be totally on the up and up here. Not to worry or upset you more. However he is saying that you shouldn't be calling him when you want and only allowing him to call you. If he is not entertaining other's then there should be no issue about this, unless your harassing him with insecurities.. instead of fun calls... or better romantic ones. This has been going on for a long time, where is this realationship going to lead? Any plans been talked about yet? By now you would think such. Where is he living? Why are you not living together yet? Maybe he is also seeing that he only has weekends and if he has been with you always for this long, it may be getting to him. I can realate to this being in a long distance realtionship myself to say I need a weekend for myself now and then too. In the meantime, perhaps suggesting to allocate a weekend each month, or even two now and after he comes back, as part of the new beginning. However if he wants now out of this then nothing you can do, but heal your heart, and move on. Re evaluate what other's are noticing within your character from these post, by the way you ask our oppinion on. Take this as a learning experience - resource towards the next person you date. Get back your own self worth and life. If you break up, sure grab some sappy movies, eat ice cream and wallow for a few days in your fluffy slipper's and pj's, but then begin to get busy again. Do the things that you need to. Heck what are you going to do if you don't break off and he is away for so long? So do those things now. Go out have fun. But most importantly learn that in today's dating to be interdependent, co dependence is not healthy for either party. Good Luck!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 88 (view)

When do you consider yourself to be in a serious relationship Posted: 1/18/2007 11:29:01 PM
When you decline and say no thanks to those you have been dating: All those Trips, jewellery, gifts, outings, events, concerts, plays, lunches/diners/brunches, flowers, late night calls, video cam, stocks, computer tec, car repairs, haircuts, spa/massage days. Change your locks, phone numbers, email address. Burning all those love letters, sexy photos and throw away all traces of the others that left things that you have in a box. You put not availble not looking on your profile. Your in deep if you: Tell your real name, meet your parents, see you when you sick, tell your secrets, make space in each other's home for you stuff, begin to plan a future and start acting on it, accept each other's pet peeves, fight without killing each other or walking away, snuggling without sex, making love and then being there after you slept, sharing chores, putting your name on the will and house deed without a prenup, joint credit cards and bank account, sharing bills, knows each other favourite foods, colours and style of clothing to buy for each other, hand your car keys to each other, does all the repairs or decorate that need to be done without asking, treats the kids like your own, don’t throw the cat out of the bed, tells each other you love and adore each other with all your heart and all your life, have fun, can go out and do things on your own and while at each other place, allow friends to come over you don't know at your house, cooking together or wanting to cook for each other, no longer have to play host to each other, don't mind double dipping, you know where all there flaws are, or what they are and like them, know what each other is about to say, or thinking, can signal to each other and know what it means, you can tell them no, and not have to like everything they do and it's okay, your affectionate in public, you no longer flirt, and tell the one who is flirting with you your not interested. The phone rings now and you no longer have to concern yourself about it being another to have those awkward moments. You deside you want to take it to the next level and get engaged.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

Teachers and their abuse of power Posted: 1/18/2007 10:08:44 PM
OP: Sorry for the mix up... must of been my blond day misreading the OP posting. OP Sorry that you are going through all of this. I do hope that it all sorts it's self out without further stress on you.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

Teachers and their abuse of power Posted: 1/12/2007 10:31:45 AM
I am not sure what DFAF'S is? Is this a private school he is in? What is there Code of Conduct state? Are they allowed to do this? First off I would have reported this teacher to the principal of the school. Show them all the emails sent to you. If this will not help, call the supervisor of your board of education, or councellor who helps in this area. Teacher's have the rights to inform you about your child's academics, and behavior, but in no way become hostile, or threating in any way. This is not only unprofessional, but way out of line, and illegal. This school sounds really scary to beable to cut his hair, and have him wear weird clothing, sound like a horror movie to me! What does this have to do with education? Not a thing! They can suspend a child, give them detentions but they cannot lay hands on them in any manor least here in Canada. If they did charges can be laid. If this happened to my son you bet I would lay charges and get him out of that school immediatly not just change classes! There is something wrong with there system in there. I am concerned what this type of impact is having on him. I never heard of any school who can discipline like this, to me this is a Red Flag, that would concern me what more is going on. Some may say kids need dicipline these days, and I agree to the extent that this will not scare them to fear going to school, or lower there self confidence and esteem. I think this is what is going on here, and what they are doing to him is abuse! What do other parents say about this school, and has this happened to other children. Talk to you son also to find out if there is more going on. Hope all works out for you.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 78 (view)

FINDING OUT QUICK HES A PSYCHO!!! Posted: 1/12/2007 12:17:24 AM
I think he was upset your text messages did'nt say 'quack quack'...or that you did'nt sing to him rubber duckie... your the one...

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

dating your step sister Posted: 1/11/2007 11:53:01 PM
Oh another one for Jerry Springer Dude you need for evening thinking such thoughts!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

To respond or not to respond?... Posted: 1/10/2007 6:47:27 AM
This post has been done before. So again I will state I feel that it's appropriate to respond to those who seem to be nice and shown interest and taking there time towards you. Why can you not be cordial back? If your taking the time to be here to meet someone, read your email's, then why would'nt you respond? (shakes head) Hope we don't see a post from you saying gee why is no one emailing me.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Ok, girls can you be totally honest? Posted: 1/10/2007 6:40:03 AM
I have to agree with one posting about your photo's and the way your profile is written. Sorry but your's just was not very interesting, and misrepesenting. No offence to you as your probly a really nice guy. I suggest that you re write your profile. Try using the one here on POF as they can help you with it. I also suggest get new photo's up, with you only and maybe doing something that you enjoy doing. You can always state photo pending on your profile, or apon request after you have the opportunity to explain the one's you may only have to send in a email, so they get why there is a child in it, and antoher women. You could also crop just your head LOL. Other then this be patient... it takes time to find a mermaid hehe... Good Luck!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Why does this happen? Posted: 1/10/2007 6:24:20 AM
No offence to you, as your probly a really nice guy. However after reading your profile I got the impression that all your seeking is someone to do what you want in the things that you like only and dictating exactly how. You just sound to controlling, and women may be getting this impression. Try rewritting your profile and making it sound more alluring for a women to want to be with you. Good Luck!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Disappointment... Posted: 1/10/2007 6:13:34 AM
Why would any friend be unhappy to hear that you have found someone finnally that will make you happy, that makes no sence! Why would you be concerned to tell anyone your in a committed realationship, again this makes no sence! You learn who your real freinds are when you tell them the truth. If you care about the one your with, you will have no issues with saying your in a committed realtionship but now just wanting friends here and stating such on your profile. Does it smell fishy in here all of the sudden???

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

File a RESTRAINING ORDER from COURTS Posted: 1/10/2007 6:00:59 AM
Sounds like a Jerry Springer story... and you know what we say about those folks, who deal with these types... your just as much a looser to get involved in such!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Dressing/Undressing In Front Of Your BF/GF/SO Posted: 1/10/2007 5:51:52 AM
I think that this has to do with how people instill that dressing is a private thing to do, and this then become's imprinted part of behavior when around another person, becomming a insecurity. It can change by allowing them to feel comfortable instead of awkward. This is a normal thing to do. If your already seeing them with no clothes on, then what is the difference? If your allowing it only when making love.. then your feeding what I mentioned above. Make some changes by undressing each other, or with the the person going through this. Make nice compliments to them, with out going further...or just remain quiet... well unless it 'just happends' then why not LOL. You can do this by just saying I want to pamper you, it pleases me too. Try showering together by removing the clothes first before stepping into the shower. Then dress each other again. Try just walking around in your underroo's. or sitting together in them. Try going out into a shop, this can be a big step, it's so personal. However allow them to show you there style and then treat them to something they have pointed out to you, to let them know your cool with there choices. Then once they have it on make a nice compliment, sealing it with a kiss. Try saying keep the door open, this allows for that time there feeling okay to share. Not always will one want to. Also please don't expect it all the time, just becasue it happen few time's. Most make this mistake and women tend to perfer privacy to do women things before they prepare for bed. A door close usually may indicate this, or they just want there own time. Underware reveals that private personal part of ourself's, that some people just perfer not to want to share with anyone. Athough it is usually get seen in the washing to know what they are wearing, really is'nt the same when it's on the body. Also don't expect it all the time. The only way around it is to find out there real reason, and work with there.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

INTERNET PERV TRIED TO GET DAUGHTER PLEASE READ Posted: 1/7/2007 7:19:06 AM
As a parent I view the internet as a privilage for my son. He must abide by the rules, or loose all compter privlages. I will not allow him to enter chat rooms. This is where things like this can occure as some have posted here. He must only have friends he knows on MSN chat and within his age. I do monitor his surfing and history. I have parental block on sites. Kids need to have healthy realationships with there friends, this is what phones are for, and meeting up with them. Allowing a child to become dependant on the web is no way to teach them soical skills ect. A compter is a resourse for information for education, this is what the problem is, they have allowed there kids to use it for entertainment. There are game sites that fill your compter with virus and cookies that track where you are and also can obtain all your personal information. Preditors are not the only concern. Watch you kids. Many schools offer safe methods for kids when going on the internet... if they are going to talk to strangers. What ever happen to Dont talk to strangers period!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 215 (view)

How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 1/6/2007 5:34:44 PM
My x walked out of our lives when our son was 7 months old. I was obtaining my Master's degree and starting up my practice at that time. I have had no financial support from the father to date or any contact (now 13 yrs latter). He is in breach of support payments. Somehow he has been able to make it although he has been inforced to not be able to obtain loans, credit cards, driver's licence, to somehow where ever he is make it all these years. I had to pay for everything prior, without relying on anyone financially, and was able to do it. However parenting alone was the hard part at time's for me, to say ' I need support' if I am going to keep my career, have a life, and offer a decent one to my son. I had to become humble and reach out at first feeling of 'humiliation'. Foremost of being labelled a single mother, not being able to do it on my own, and it being my fault I was. I was blessed with grace that this did not happen. Being a single parent can be hard if you allow it. I choose not to allow it to be hard, or wallow in self pity, by knowing and allowing the opportunity's that other's are out there to help us. We do'nt have to do it all by ourself's nor do we need to 'find' a partner. Eventually it was learned my son had special needs. I then acceptted to the offer to have a network of support team, so that he will enjoy school, and he does. This has helped me to understand his capabilities without 'upsets' on me, and 'pressure' to him' throughout his years in school now. I also work as a missionary and then they began to reached out to us. They invite us to events, gatherings, and have always gave him those extra gifts for him. Some male friends of mine have been like 'big brother's to him doing things’ guys' should do together, and setting a great example to him about men. I have been often complemented on how wonderful a son I have, and what a great job I am doing. I give this credit to so many who have helped me while being a single parent. I have no regrets or bitterness towards my X. He is the one who has lost out on knowing all those magical moments and hallmark memories, not all of us. You have to make the best out of things. Don’t rain on your own parade because the ‘significant’ other is not there. Money is not what makes parenting.

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Ever change your mind? Posted: 1/4/2007 8:18:09 AM
OP You two were only dating, not yet living together. She was just 'staying over' as you said.. and being a 'guest' and kind enough to just help out by waking up and doing the dishes. You took this ALL out of context.. thinking 'that the act' of doing dishes in PJ's... meant much more to you... this is getting to close! Enough to state it... Instead of just saying thanks for helping out... which is what you should of done. She ran... and I don't blame her.. not just by your reaction ... but also to feel 'what the heck is he on about... I am just being nice to him and he goes all fippy on me... when all I did was stay over for the night! You prooved to her your heart and sincerity is not there, enough for her to move on.. why waste her time when she may be seeking something more meaningful. To also state your not worthly to be her friend. Friends would not treat each other this way first off and then to be insulted by you to ask her lets be freinds after being lovers!!! WOW... Lucky a plate did'nt get thrown at you! If you expect to have x lover's as friends you need to know 'this is not reality'. It will not work. Would you like one day to be sitting beside you wife and her best freind who knows her been intimate with her? Like to see any man who can handle that! Anyhow she knew.. and why should she waste her time! She was testing you! Not the other way around. You discovered from this... to just keep dating... next time have her go if she stays over night before you do.

Funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

How would you like this ? Posted: 12/31/2006 6:44:40 AM
If the finding part of the clues for her will be simple, and she will not have to travel to far between for each one so she will not get frustrated. This you don't want for her. If such, then I think she will see it as a fun thing and ponder to how it will end to want to contiue. Perhaps let her know somewhere how many clues there are so she will have a idea how long the game will go on for. I think at least this will one original birthday for her to remember. Maybe you can hint first as to how she likes to spend her birthdays before doing it. If she says I really want to do something different then the usual... there is a good clue for you to go ahead with it. If she hate's birthday's this may just end up making things worse, and perhaps use this for another time. I like your imagination to try to please someone on there birthday by doing something very original and different.. first time I have heard this one! Thumbs up to you for wanting to put allot of thought and care towards this... it's very sweet and romantic. If you do it, let us know how she liked it. Enjoy!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 3790 (view)

First Line, Last Line Posted: 12/29/2006 8:49:13 AM
Full of all your hearts desires CHEER! To what we hope for this coming Year Those things that changed our lives so profoundly Freeing some of us towards being more roundly Through our new found Evolving evolution Trying so hard towards some sort of resolution To use now those magical ingredients to mold things When 12 o’clock rings To keep the hope bound as the tradition Within your hearts always the main mission Many blessings come your way, regardless of your positions Wishing you all the best for 2007

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 67 (view)

Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/29/2006 8:17:25 AM
I think this is a personal re- viewed between the circumstances of each partner. What they are capable of… able to manage… according to 'physical, emotional strengths potentials', 'time', practicality, like's and dislikes to determine delegating 'task’ responsibilities. Placing expectations that relationships should be 50/50 .. Is just not ‘practical’, or ‘logical’. Things and people change.. So will such responsibility to allow flexibility and things to flow with peace. So often this is what causes the nagging and nit picking because people think this way.. It’s crazy and unrealistic.. And I have yet to see this being maintain it in that manor (50/50)..

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 268 (view)

Do Men REALLY Like to Cuddle? Posted: 12/25/2006 11:16:55 AM
My man love's to cuddle me and enjoy's it... so do I. It allows us to just be us, showing that we are comfortable with each other. It's intimate in another form that let's us feel were cared, and loved by each other. I could'nt be with a guy who could'nt snuggle, walk hand in hand, gazing into my eyes... For me it's part of Love.. infact more important then the 'act of love making'... and you can do it anywhere anytime.. So I say spoon away!!!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

Marriage is Boring Posted: 12/25/2006 11:09:04 AM
it's just that I never achieve the big O. Well no wonder your bored!!!! Wait until you do.. as they say... have one you will want more more more!!!!! Try make over's... maybe a new look will help with that image thingy hang up you get with the same old same old face!!! Share's egg nog with the room!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Ex Calling ALL THE TIME...Destroying My Life As I Know It Posted: 12/25/2006 11:01:13 AM
Your 19 so she must be young too.. Call her daddy! and tell him to give her a good panking!!!!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Waiting till after New Years to say goodbye..... Posted: 12/25/2006 10:54:36 AM
Christmas is already a time usually filled with emotions, reflections, joy's and pain. You already mentioned that she is feeling something that is 'not right'.. yet you both got through Christmas somehow together.. and perhaps she is wondering that you have had a change of heart, to now think that New Year's will be with you also. I am not sure if you had plans already as you did not mention this? However, If this was me... I would perfer to go into the New Year without the start of something heavy bestowed apond me.. it would bum out the New Year.. which we all try to start with 'new' hopefully. I think that if you were to tell her now... then she can clear what is 'old' before entering it into the 'new year'. Sure she may be hurt then also, but she will also be able to be 'free' to choose what she can do... now being single. New Year's is allot better time for a single person to 'hook' up with friends that will help her be a little more distracted. I feel that if you were to wait she would ponder as to how your feeling then were at Christmas... not to sincer already bad enough... now New Years... hmmm... I hear a slap in the face comming...if you were to wait... Good Luck to you both!

funtastic!

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 78 (view)

Wierdest Second Date! Posted: 12/22/2006 9:10:32 PM
I think that this is one for the Wierdest reaction from a man being jelouse on a second date... OP you win the Christmas ... allowing a dog to be the bigger man on the date... with you out the door???? Are you 16?? Funny I just got one as a gift from my b/f for Christmas... and named him Bijou - meaning Jewel NOT knowing that he will have a biggen... ... grins......

Show ALL Forums