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aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 121 (view)

How long should sex last? Posted: 5/11/2009 9:32:53 PM
I think it all depends on the situation leading to it. Slow and romantic love making should take a couple hours(at least!). That would include foreplay. Sex that is a little rougher should last, at max, an hour, not including foreplay. Any longer then that, and I hurt! My preference is the slow and passionate though....Mmmmm

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Joint Bank Accounts Good or Bad Idea Posted: 5/6/2009 11:05:06 AM
jsphn11, here are some answers to your questions. A bit of a quick summary first. My bf makes just about double what I do. He has full custody of his 2 boys (10 and 7). I have full custody of my 3 (14, 11, 8). He is definitely used to being the sole bread winner, since his ex was a stay at home mom, so he tends to be a bit more generous with his "play" money. We both pay for our own vehicles, insurance and daycare out of our personal accounts. Vacations: I contribute what I can, but he definitely outs in the bulk for the trips. Work: We are both Navy, but right now he is ashore and I am on ship, so between him and my mother, my 3 kids are well taken care of. Neither of us works "overtime". Moving for Work: Both of us are "permanently" posted to Victoria, so no worries there. Loss of Job: Only way we will lose our job is if we screw up...so no worries there, either.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Joint Bank Accounts Good or Bad Idea Posted: 5/5/2009 12:54:54 PM
I learned the hard way with my ex-husband. We had a joint account...he spent every dime and ran up debt, failed to pay bills and the mortgage while I was gone for 6 months on training. When my bf and I bought our house, we wee both VERY scared to have a joint account, but needed one for the mortgage. We both have our own bank accounts that the other does not have access to, and we have the house account, where money for the mortgage, bills and food goes into. ALL bills are split down the middle! It has worked very well so far. What is left in my personal account is mine, and I can do whatever I want to do with it.....now if I made as much as he does, then I would be financially happier

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Teen boy bringing girls over. Posted: 5/4/2009 11:17:43 PM
Thinking more along the lines of Britney Spears and J.Lo's perfumes puke...lmfao!!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Teen boy bringing girls over. Posted: 5/4/2009 11:05:55 PM
Chances are that his parents already know...unless they are completely clueless. When my son started bringing girls home, I knew as soon as I walked in. Gotta love teen girls wearing cheap perfume!!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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beautiful people, ugly genitals... Posted: 8/24/2008 12:39:59 PM
This is quite an interesting topic...lmao! I don't normally(read: never) go around checking out Va-jay-jay's, but I have seen a few nasty looking c*cks that I politely refused to play with. If the girl is clean and willing to show you her "butterfly" then you should be grateful and show her how appreciative you are.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Should I send flowers Posted: 1/2/2008 8:28:03 PM
A small, non expensive, arrangement is a very nice way to let her know you are interested in getting to know her better. I know i would be totally flattered had I been her.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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how many of you are home with kids tonight on NYE Posted: 1/2/2008 1:29:57 PM
What I find funny about this guy is: (a) He wrote: You who try to make excuses about leaving your children makes u a bad parent. (b) Then writes on another thread There are a lot of posters on here **ing about having to recieve aid. So his way of thinking is if you are a single parent, you (a) can't leave your kids with daycare so that you can go to work, and (b) can't bch if you receive aid because you chose to follow his way by not getting someone to watch your kids. How are you to financially raise your kids then??? Somebody has had a bit too much if ya know what I mean...

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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do I tell him??? Posted: 1/1/2008 9:53:27 AM
I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage, OP...but maybe it was a blessing in disguise???

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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how many of you are home with kids tonight on NYE Posted: 1/1/2008 9:39:38 AM
I went to a house party last night...and brought my kids with me! My best friend had a small gathering at her place that was kid friendly...so we went. We had an awesome time, and the two boys decided they wanted to sleep over there while my daughter and I went home. It's now 9:30am, I have been up just about an hour and none of my kids are up yet. Does that make me a bad parent???

aevalise

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Hair pulling during doggystyle Posted: 12/31/2007 5:38:24 PM
Love it, love it, LOVE IT!!!! or even when they slide their arm across the front of my neck...damn!!!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 12/31/2007 8:29:07 AM
Hal 9000... A "Jarhead" is the nickname given to a US Marine...

aevalise

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Traffic fines to be added to ICBC insurance Posted: 12/31/2007 8:17:59 AM
The way i heard it, if you are caught excessively speeding, you get the typical fine and every year after that, on your birthday, for three years, you get a nice little fine to pay. They gotta do what they gotta do to keep the roads safe. What ticks me off about ICBC is the way the safe driver program is run. I have been accident free and had one reg speeding ticket over the last 13+ yrs. I moved away for 6 of those years due to my ex's job(3yrs in the USA and 3 yrs in NS). I was not on the insurance, and because of that, I now have to start from scratch again to get my discount. They will not accept a driver's abstract and I had my discount maxed before I moved out of BC. WTF is with that??

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Can you be to wet? Posted: 12/20/2007 11:45:26 PM
Mitzi...congrats on being one of the wet ones!! Hope you ditched little dinky boy after his comment!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Fake VS Real Breasts Posted: 12/20/2007 12:16:18 PM
1. Would you ever get a breast enhancement done to your body? If so why? I would love a "perker-upper" job. After three kids, they aren't as perky as they used to be! 2. Do you feel natural breasts look better then the fake ones? or fake look better then the real? If so why? I think natural breasts will always look better then fake, but there are some great surgeons out there that can make fake ones look natural..and that would be the Dr that I would go to!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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young single moms Posted: 12/12/2007 5:56:59 PM
OP, don't worry about how young you were when you had your daughter. I was 16 when I had my son(who is now 13!) and if the guy had an issue, then I had no interest in him. It should never matter about what age you had your child, just as long as you are a good mom, then that should be all that matters. Good luck with your fishing...he is out there waiting to be caught!

aevalise

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Why do women love doing housework? Posted: 11/28/2007 9:59:28 PM
I hate cleaning, but it has to be done and I like a clean house....so I clean.

aevalise

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would you ever be someones play toy? Posted: 11/28/2007 9:37:21 PM
Hell YA!! I would be up for it!

aevalise

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Ear rings what age is right? Posted: 11/28/2007 6:43:41 PM
I had my daughter's ears done when she was 11 months old, and I have never regretted getting them done! Never had issues. She was young enough not to play and pull at them.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/23/2007 11:33:38 AM
Aevalise wrote: BTW, did you enjoy your time in? What ship did you land on? Sir Raff wrote: Are you losing it? Sir Raff, That comment was not directed towards you, and as a matter of fact, the entire post was not in response to anything you wrote but a reply directed towards TheFlyingPig(the person who posted above me), so just stop. We all know where you stand on the issue and you just keep reiterating the same argument over and over while insulting anyone who is, as you so eloquently put it "dummies" or "misfits and/or on the lower end of the socio-economic scale". I am done trying to discuss this issue with you since all you seem to be able to do is insult and degrade. Have a great day!

aevalise

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/22/2007 9:35:38 PM
Its fine to have an issue with the conflict or with your country's leadership...thats your right, but to have someone directly insult anyone who is or has served disgraceful. BTW, did you enjoy your time in? What ship did you land on?

aevalise

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/22/2007 9:15:13 PM
My dear, I compare the two because the only difference is technology and training methods. I do not see the difference between our brave soldiers then versus our brave soldiers now. Both have vowed to put their lives on the line for the greater good of all. They have taken an oath of unlimited liability and to be willing to do so makes ALL of them brave heroes! I have the utmost respect for our war veterans. Probably more then most people due to my long family history of military service and my own service to my country now. So next time you try to insult me with your "how dare you" attitude, keep in mind what you wrote and how disrespectful that was to all those who have served or are currently serving and their comrades who have lost their lives.

aevalise

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hey dads, when should this stop(ladies chime in too) Posted: 11/22/2007 11:09:29 AM
I would say that now is a good time to cease the bathing part of your quality time, but keep going with the blow drying her hair and such. That sort of stuff creates fantastic memories for her!! I have just ceased assisting my 6 yr old son with his bathing. It kills, since we always had fun, but now I am the official messy hair towel mommy...lol Trust me..I still love it when someone plays with my hair!!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/21/2007 10:55:47 PM
Rank and file soldiers are there because they generally tend to be misfits and/or on the lower echelon of the socio-economic scale. I wonder if you would ever say that to a elderly veteran infantry soldier.... The way you speak of our CF members repulses and disgusts me. What a disgrace.....

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/21/2007 7:52:43 PM
TheFlyingPig, if my son wants to join the army and go to war, then that is his choice, isn't it? What say do I have? I am his mother, but in the end, he is the one choosing to fight for what HE believes in. If I wasn't a single mother, I would be other there in a heartbeat to fight beside my brothers and sisters in arms.

aevalise

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/21/2007 4:13:48 PM
I don't need to mention that, Mountain Lion 1, it's pretty obvious. You are gonna need a university degree soon to be able to even work at McDonald's (slight exaggeration, but you get the point). There are lots of kids out working at 14-19, but things nowadays are way more expensive then back int he 70's. To get a decent 1 bdrm apt here in Victoria, you are looking at around $800 and working at a place that only pays minimum wage, well you definitely can't afford that rent...no wonder kids are living at home longer. Take that same kid at 19 with a high grad under their belt, send them to join the military(the army for arguments sake) making $30k to start...well they will be able to afford to live on their own. Not only that, but send them on a deployment to Afghanistan where they can bank $20k tax free, and you better believe they are gonna want to go. Now, they not only have a stable job with full benefits, but also a decent down payment for a house. This is a win/win for the kid, the economy and society!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/21/2007 11:41:13 AM
I think you will find that the average level of education among the troops is fairly low Well, the education level really depends on when the person got in. back in the 70's, it was grade 8 drop outs and guys who had the choice to join or go to jail. Now the majority are grade 12 graduates or even post secondary educated individuals(like myself). If the troops had better choices available to them in life, they most likely wouldn't be troops. Many join due to no other options available where they live. Many others join out of pride and respect and family tradition. Personally, i joined because of the pride involved in the job and knowing that i am doing my part to ensure the safety and security of the nations future. Once they get into the Forces they are brainwashed. When does this course start cause I haven't taken it yet..... We have $19 Billion worth of infrastructure that needs to be replaced in Canada. Those $$$ to support the Afghani war would've gone a long way to doing that. Care to elaborate a bit on this??

aevalise

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/20/2007 10:08:35 PM
What I find interesting is alot of you are saying "Let's go home", but I do not see you serving over there. I don't even see you serving over here for that matter. Why not ask the troops how they feel about the mission and if THEY want to come home or stay and help. I bet you the majority will say they want to stay. Going through boot camp, the army guys(and gals) that were joining were doing so to go over to Afghanistan. They had so many recruits coming through they had to not only accommodate recruits in St Jean, PQ, but had to open up THREE other bases to run basic training. Does this not say something to you?

aevalise

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Canadian Troops in Afghanistan. Posted: 11/20/2007 4:52:05 PM
Awesome post, Pucks!!

aevalise

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CAN A woman TEACH A boy how to be a MAN! Posted: 11/20/2007 11:32:18 AM
valleyjavastop, I think you may be assuming all moms wear heels or something. I am a single mother to 2 boys and 1 girl. My boys, ages 13 and 6, are developing into wonderful, respectful young men. My 13 year old proving that I am doing things right. He knows when it is time to be "macho" and when it is time to have "feelings". He has come to ME to discuss "man issues" and when I have not had the answer, I would go and find it for him and tell him. When he wants more manly time, he calls up my brother(he's 19) and they go hang. My son helped me build a fence, helped me build a shed and has even helped me change my own oil. Some of us women are not all about high heels and manicures...some of us enjoy getting down and dirty like the boys and I think that truly helps the boys to grow and develop into mature, sensitive, respectful men, the type of men that women want!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Does anyone date single moms anymore? Posted: 11/20/2007 11:16:49 AM
I'm sorry that you feel that way, JohnE102. Not all of us bring hassles and drama to the table, it just sucks that a few bad apples have spoiled it for the rest of us normal single parents who are looking for a life companion for ourselves. I also appreciate your comment on me having a good handle on how you, and many men, view dating single mothers. The only reason I have that view is because of very good male friends of mine getting screwed over by money hungry single moms. One women was collecting child support for one child from three separate men!! No wonder so many men are scared to date single mothers! I hope you are able to find someone that makes you happy, regardless of her being a single mom or not. Good Luck!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Does anyone date single moms anymore? Posted: 11/20/2007 6:52:30 AM
I think the reason many men don't want to date single mothers is that they do not want to be responsible for taking care of a ready made family. The OP even said she wanted to find a man to take care of her and her two kids. That totally confirmed it! What single mothers need to do to prove to a guy that they don't "require" him to take care of her and her kids is to ensure that she is doing the job perfectly. Now by that I do not mean she has to be a perfect parent, but make sure you are financially able to do things on your own without anyone's help. That also means not surviving off of your kids child support and any other benefit that "belongs" to your child(ren). The guy will then see that you don't need him there, but in fact YOU want HIM there, and that may set him at ease. Try to put yourself into the man's shoes and see how many vindictive, greedy single mothers are out there collecting child support from multiple men for the same child, living off of support money and how scary that must be for him to even want to consider dating a single mother. Good luck! BTW, I am a single parent of three kids, so this isn't coming from someone who can't empathize.

aevalise

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Should Ex's spend holidays together with the kids? Posted: 11/19/2007 11:37:18 AM
My bf and his ex do this for Christmas. My ex and i do not due to the distance between us(I'm in BC, he is in NS). I have no clue how this will work this Christmas as far as the BF and I are concerned, but as long as the kids are happy, then it really doesn't matter to me.

aevalise

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Cosmo: What message are trying to send? Posted: 11/19/2007 11:19:24 AM
I love Cosmo!! The covers are not the best(the revealing outfit the covergirl is wearing etc) but the articles and the ads are great! It is the womens version of Maxim...

aevalise

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How Satisfied Are You with your life today? Posted: 11/18/2007 8:27:50 PM
I am very satisfied with where my life is going right now. I have a great group of friends that care for me as much as I care for them. My career is going well and has a bright future. My kids are developing into great little citizens.

aevalise

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Can her friends be a turnoff? Posted: 11/17/2007 10:49:24 AM
Very true, Mr F...you sound just like me! Except for me it would be half to a TooL concert and the other half to see Josh Groban...lol

aevalise

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Can her friends be a turnoff? Posted: 11/17/2007 9:33:24 AM
As far as I know, none of them are of that sort, MrF...but I see what you guys were saying. My friends are all very different from each other, so if I am somehow like all of them...I feel bad for the guy I am going to date! He'll have his hands full...lol I like to think that I am my own person, but I can see why some of the qualities my friends have, I would also possess too. Just don't like the idea of someone judging me based on my friends. I may have some of the same qualities as them, but I am not them, so why judge?? Meh, it's just the type of person I am, I guess. I don't judge so I don't expect others too, either.

aevalise

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do you feel like me about needing an affair Posted: 11/17/2007 8:50:42 AM
There probably is, canoby, but is it fair to your wife?? How would you react if you found out she was banging the milkman? Keep in mind, Karma will always come back around and bite you in the arse.

aevalise

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do you feel like me about needing an affair Posted: 11/17/2007 8:45:29 AM
If you feel the need to have an affair, then it is time to end the relationship. It is not fair to her, or to yourself, to "spend the rest of your lives" miserable.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Can her friends be a turnoff? Posted: 11/17/2007 8:29:44 AM
I am curious as to why the friends one keeps could make dating them a deal breaker? For myself, I have an eclectic variety of friends. It would really suck if some guy didn't want to date me because of the types of friends I had. I wonder if the same is held when it is the person's family as well.....hmmm I don't like to judge others...thats not my job!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Being Choked while having sex Posted: 11/17/2007 8:23:30 AM
My thoughts too, YYY_a! I think there is more to this story though.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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Being Choked while having sex Posted: 11/17/2007 7:57:48 AM
I, too, am a fan of it!! Had a guy I was seeing for a while ask if I wanted to try it. I said he was nuts and he asked if i trusted him. Good thing I did and was willing to try. It was the best experience ever and it is now one of my favorite "submissive" things to do. If I am not in the mood for the hands around my neck, I have him hop behind and I put a belt around my neck for him to pull on. Its not a matter of choking, its the pressure that I like. Maybe I am just very open minded, but what fun is sex if there is no experimentation?? The things you thought were freaky and stupid turn out to be things you throughly enjoy!

aevalise

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Sleeping with ex's best friend? Posted: 11/16/2007 5:25:08 PM
If you are wanting to be "one of the guys" then don't sleep with Rich. It's a pretty simple decision to make...

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE, STORY OR POEM? Posted: 11/16/2007 11:16:01 AM
I have two favorite quotes. "Well behaved women seldom make history" and "Be careful of the toes you step on today. They may be attached to the a$$ that you have to kiss tomorrow"

aevalise

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Renting A Husband Posted: 11/15/2007 11:40:48 AM
I know I have a few things that need to be done around here, and I just can't find the time to tackle them.

aevalise

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What size is your bed? Posted: 11/14/2007 10:18:15 PM
When the ex and I split he took the queen size bed, so for a couple months I was living on a double until I got a fantastic deal on a pillow top queen size....it's WAY better then the bed I had when i was married and I love having the room to toss around in....lol

aevalise

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Poor kid :( Posted: 11/14/2007 10:15:20 PM
I would say, form her past med history, and from my own experiences, a humidifier, vicks vapo rub and do not have her around any kind of smoke. I'm serious about the smoke thing. Candle smoke, cigarettes, anything of the sort can spark these "attacks". My two youngest are very prone to ear infections and pneumonia if I smoke anywhere around them(even outside with them within proximity), so smoking is done strictly outside and when they are not around. I hope she starts to feel better soon....it sucks when our kids are sick.

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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I don't like his kid...NOW WHAT? Posted: 11/12/2007 11:13:05 AM
I agree moonflwrs...its not my place either. That is the parents job. When my kids screw up, I set them straight right away. If he tried to square my kids off, i would square him off right away...it is not his place. Geez....I hate dilemma's!

aevalise

Joined: 3/2/2006

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What time does your kids goes to bed? Posted: 11/12/2007 11:04:54 AM
My 6 and 9 yr old go to bed at 8, but my 9 yr old gets to watch tv in bed until 9pm. My 13 yr old goes to bed sometime between 9:30 and 10.

aevalise

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I don't like his kid...NOW WHAT? Posted: 11/12/2007 11:00:49 AM
What a great topic!! I am going through something similar, except it is with a 5 yr old. I have been seeing this guy for 7 months now, and his 5 yo drives me crazy!! He whines, cries, fights, instigates fights, is rude, argues with his dad and throws some nasty temper tantrums. The tantrums are so bad they we have actually been kicked out of a campground! I have told him about this behaviour and how much it bugs me, but it doesn't seem to be getting any better. There has got to be a nice way to tell him that I am not willing to go through this. Even my kids (13, 9 and 6) don't like the child's behaviour and actually don't like him coming over. They have asked if only the older child could come(he has 2 boys, 9 and 5) over. What am I to do!?!?

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