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coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Smoking, who to blame! Posted: 11/25/2009 11:55:32 AM
The problem is that the tobacco industry is an inherently nefarious entity that has intentionally chemically engineered their product to be addictive in order to maintain customers and increase profits at the expense of their customer's health. How we allowed this egregious enterprise to operate unabated for as long as it did is amazing to me. When my dad finally dies of tobacco related emphysema I'm sure I will feel a lot of comfort knowing that it was strictly his fault for smoking.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Bodily Imperfections......what can you/can't you deal with? Posted: 11/25/2009 10:58:54 AM
Stretch marks are a big time deal breaker. Dated a girl once who looked like a dang tiger she had so many stretch mark stripes on her. Nasty. Also, soft chins really turn me off. And scraggly hair.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Adam Lambert American Music Awards Posted: 11/25/2009 10:53:11 AM
But we knew what to expect from Madonna and Britney. All they did was kiss, and I don't think they did simulated sex acts on each other. And also its Madonna. Not some runner up on season umpteen of American Idol.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Adam Lambert American Music Awards Posted: 11/25/2009 9:03:17 AM
The real issue is that his performance was just a little too racey for network television, even at 11pm. Regardless of what Britney and Madonna or Christina have done, it doesn't excuse what he did. Heck, there's a valid point to be made that other performers take it too far too (like Justin and Janet), but you can't use the "If they can get away with it, I can too!" excuse. Two wrongs d0n't make a right. Then there is the fact that mainstream America has not openly embraced male on male public displays of affection. So making out with a dude on primetime tv and having another give you a simulated BJ is not going to endear the viewing public to you. The fact remains that many Americans are cool with gays existing, but we don't want their antics shoved in our face just because one of them gets the opportunity to do so at an awards show.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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What are guys thinking? Posted: 11/25/2009 8:38:02 AM
It's not even about the guy being a horn dog or whatever. It's strictly a matter of intelligence. If you whip your junk out on the first date you are an idiot. Of course all guys like sex and want to have a lot of it. But you don't have to let that urge control your actions like you are some hapless buffoon. Women don't typically find the super aggressive sexually overt guys very appealing. So acting that way will only succeed in getting you the opposite of what you want if you are a guy. Although I don't blame the guys for trying to get some early on. You never know when these flaky POF women are just going to vanish on you, so take what you can get, when you can get it, I guess.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Would you message someone if you knew they weren't going to respond? Posted: 11/25/2009 8:05:26 AM
You should still cast a line into that section of the pond every once in a while even if you've never been successful getting fish from there in the past. You might get lucky one of those times. You'll never get lucky if you prevent yourself from doing so.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Hey guys! Posted: 11/25/2009 7:53:04 AM
Yes, be cheeky. Whatever that means.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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being blown off Posted: 11/24/2009 1:25:50 PM
Are dudes on here really that bad? I can understand just wanting to get laid right away, not that I would ever take that approach. But they have to know that not all women will sleep with them right away. If it were me, I'd still talk to them occaissionally just in case they eventually became receptive. Why completely shut them out when the nookie may have only been another two or three dates away?

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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A real woman Posted: 11/24/2009 1:09:52 PM
A real woman should be physically attractive in some way. There are many women who are just plain dreadfully unattractive (and men too). A true woman should invoke feelings of lust in men, after all, attraction is what its all about. A woman should also be feminine. None of this uber empowered masculine BS. She should be refined (to an extent) and display womanly traits. Personality, humor, intelligence and all that stuff is more a measure of the person, not necessarily their gender. So I'd say those qualities are inapplicable as it pertains to this discussion.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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being blown off Posted: 11/24/2009 11:57:10 AM
If the person felt that you had a redeeming quality they liked, they'd keep you around. The only reason anyone would completely dismiss you is if they totally have no interest in you or like someone else better. In either case, they feel that you are not good enough for them. Believe me, that's a tough thing to come to grips with because it is very personal and disheartening. Not only do you not get to date the person, but now you feel like you are just a lowly nothing that nobody wants. Thats the cold hard reality of rejection.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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being blown off Posted: 11/24/2009 11:36:39 AM
Well let's say they decided they don't like you. So they try to be cool about it and tell you, "Yeah, ya know, I just don't think we are right together..." But then you are going to be like, "Well, why not? What'd I do?" and blah blah blah. It's not like you are just going to accept that at face value. You obviously thought they were good enough for you, now you are dying to find out what was you did that was so awful in their eyes. But the other person doesn't want to sit there and awkwardly debate or describe why they don't like you. They don't want ANYTHING to do with you anymore, obviously. So that is why they just vanish. They don't like you and they don't want to deal with you any more, in any capacity. Admit it, you'd do the same thing to someone that you truly felt was below you.

coveredinpaint

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/20/2009 11:35:39 AM
I can't even get myself to workout. How am I going to get someone else to? But I suppose them getting laid goes hand-in-hand with losing weight, whereas that doesn't apply to me personally. They aren't close friends either. Just friendly acquaintances I feel sorry for. I suppose its more about me than them to be honest. I want to believe that the world isn't such a cold and lonely place that a man can't ever find a woman. The truth is that there are a million guys out there just like these two. It's a very sad reality. I'm just trying to reject that reality and substitute it with my own.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Must be doing something wrong Posted: 11/20/2009 10:56:21 AM
It could be that you're just coming on too strong dude. When women smell an agenda, they usually bounce. You have to make it seem like you don't care about sex, even when you do. That's part of the game.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/20/2009 10:30:16 AM
That's true. Most all women could find a sex partner if it came down to it. But some guys simply can not get laid unless they pay for it.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Must be doing something wrong Posted: 11/20/2009 9:57:09 AM
OP, keep in mind that you see these as failed encounters, but it is also a failure for those women. I've still yet to figure out why women will spend all this time talking to you or going out with you only to vanish. But I just assume they found someone else. That's why you shouldn't take it personal.

coveredinpaint

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Men and self esteem Posted: 11/20/2009 9:36:55 AM
Just because there isn't a Dove commercial for boys you think that boys don't receive encouragement? What about the Boy Scouts or little league or the boys and girls clubs or all the organizations for kids that the NBA Cares Program helps?

coveredinpaint

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/20/2009 8:36:41 AM
Thanks for all the suggestions, some were very interesting and possibly helpful. It sounds like if I want to see any change I will have to really make it happen myself. So I'd have to be their personal trainer and life coach and take full responsibility of them since they are unable to. And I'm not willing to do that. But there is something to be said about there being a person out there for everyone. So its just a matter of finding that person for them or waiting for them to discover that person on their own.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/19/2009 11:11:49 AM
I'm not going for a World's Greatest Friend award or anything like that. Its just that I lost a friend over the summer in part to me writing their problems off as something that "they" need to be handling. Well, people who have serious problems can't hande them on their own...which is why they continue to be serious problems...and hence my attempted intervention. The one guy is a gun nut and I would hate to see him snap like so many other dissaffected lonely guys out there. Saving them by getting them a lady could be saving others, you never know. Maybe I just need to play match maker. I don't know...

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/19/2009 10:57:17 AM
Because I realize that they are unable to do things that are in their best interests. The reason they don't have girlfriends is not because they don't want one. It's because they simply can't get one. It may not seem like as big a deal now, but what about in 5 years when they are 30 and still virgins because nobody even tried to get them on track. Sure, they're screwed and its their own fault, but that doesn't solve the problem.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/19/2009 10:36:46 AM
Dating or meeting a woman or two should be a priority for any grown man. Some of you say its not my problem and don't worry about it. Some say to get him a hooker. Some say get him to use pyschotropic drugs.... That's basically just translated : Your friends ain't getting laid.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Hopeless virgins Posted: 11/19/2009 9:55:14 AM
I have a couple friends in their mid to late 20s. They are both very overweight and have little to no confidence around women. As time goes on and year after year passes, they continue to not get any women, though I'm sure they want one. I've been trying to find a way to get them a women just because I feel so sorry for them as a not only a man, but a human being. I mean, nobody wants to feel lonely and rejected their entire life, especially when you see your friends pairing off and falling in love. The problem is that these guys really need change from within, starting with some serious weightloss. But it goes beyond appearance even. One of them is pretty disgusting and doesn't clean his bathroom or take care of himself very well. The other just plays video games all day. Now clearly they are their own worst enemies, but I feel obligated to try to help them. Heck, I'd even like to see them on POF, although I think they are just afraid to date at this point because they have no confidence in themself and fear rejection. I just find it hard to have a serious talk with them about it because it seems odd that I am more interested in getting them women than they are. Any suggestions?

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 11/16/2009 1:04:34 PM
When that balloon boy a few weeks ago was supposidly off flying in what looked like the space ship from the movie Flight of the Navigator. And yet nobody knew what I was talking about, even when I told them that Carrie from Sex in the City was in that movie.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Whats the difference? Posted: 11/16/2009 12:36:52 PM
A point could be made that even if you put "long term relationship" it doesn't mean you want to hook up on the first date either. And only sleezy or desperate people would ever put "intimate encounters" on their profile. And even if I wanted just a quick jump off, I wouldn't want a lady who is openly looking for intimate encounters on here.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Whats the difference? Posted: 11/16/2009 11:51:57 AM
My opinion is that women put things like "friendship" on their profile, not because that's all they want, but because they don't want guys who are just looking to jump their bones on the first date. Personally, I think going to a dating site to look for a "friend" is rather naive. I think what they really want is to just meet someone with the potenital of it evovling into something more later down the road. They just have to act like the only want a friend to keep the creeps away.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Have any other women experienced this? Posted: 11/16/2009 8:43:11 AM
It's tough for a guy because you definitely don't want to seem like a shy quiet type. Some guys will go with the opposite approach and be really talkative and ascertive. Some guys are naturally self-centered as well, so talking about themselves is all they do anyway. The approach I go with is to be relatively quiet, and to mainly spend my time talking to ask them questions. This will let them know you are interested in learning about them, and if they are someone you would like, they'll ask questions about you.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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What are guys thinking? Posted: 11/16/2009 8:37:11 AM
Sort of like the "Schroedinger's Cat" thing, but instead of a cat its a cawk?

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Ridiculous car insurance rates Posted: 9/11/2009 2:25:51 PM
14 years of a flawlesss driving record got me a letter in the mail notifying me that my insurance rates have actually increased because I don't have a good credit rating. My insurance company called me the other day and told me they misdeposited my payment. They didn't cash the full amount and asked me to mail in the difference. While all their fault, I told them I had no problem doing that. A couple days later I got a letter in the mail that said my policy had been canceled with an as of date of one day before the phone call I recieved. They canceled my policy one day before I was even notified there was a problem!

coveredinpaint

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rude customers- what would you do? Posted: 9/11/2009 2:15:28 PM
It's the fact that people have a choice that makes them so choosy. Ever watch pro tennis players before they serve? They take three balls in their hand, look at them, then somehow determine which one is the "bad" one and then throw it down for the ball boy. And these are all identical, brand new balls. Whatever perceived difference there is between the items is nominal and insignificant, but since you have the choice of one over another, you might as well try to pick the best looking one, not that it matters though.

coveredinpaint

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do we get hit on just because ... Posted: 9/10/2009 10:46:09 AM
I think you get hit on because men are looking to meet someone. So they hit on you. Am I missing something here?

coveredinpaint

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Humans created by Aliens: Plausible theory? Posted: 9/9/2009 12:59:04 PM
Oh how I wish humans were a result of extra terestrials. Because then the ID theorists would be proved correct, however, not at all on the terms they would like.

coveredinpaint

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He brought his Fanny with him... Posted: 9/9/2009 11:51:28 AM
I was at an 80's party a couple weeks ago and part of my "attire" was a fany pack. It was vicious man-- bright red and vinyl. I rocked that thing out to its fullest. I was amazed at how useful and efficient it is. You can fit all kinds of stuff in there with room to spare. It's secure, stored all in one place, and right at your finger tips. I'd consider wearing it again just because. (Though not on a first meet.)

coveredinpaint

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Oral Whores Posted: 9/9/2009 11:45:31 AM
Honeyangel1985 was just making the obligatory man-hating reply in this thread. It didn't matter if the OP was male or not.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Yes, Sometimes we forget.... Posted: 9/9/2009 8:56:13 AM
Sounds like the same type of people who are constantly saying "I don't have any cash on me". Like how can a person go around in the world and not have at least $10 on them?

coveredinpaint

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Yes, Sometimes we forget.... Posted: 9/9/2009 8:17:40 AM
How do you forget your wallet? Part of leaving home is knowing that you have your keys and wallet on you. It'd be like crossing the street and "forgetting" to look both ways. I don't think women buy the "forgotten wallet" thing because either you are lying, or you are too stupid to remember even the most basic things.

coveredinpaint

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He doesn't...I do Posted: 9/9/2009 8:14:14 AM
Just poke holes in the condom when you are ready for kids.

coveredinpaint

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Epistemology Posted: 9/8/2009 1:22:01 PM
Knowledge is of the past. Wisdom is of the future.

coveredinpaint

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Evolution. Posted: 9/8/2009 12:33:54 PM
Also, natural selection does not necessarily mean that useless traits (like nipples on males) will be filtered out of the gene pool. It just means that nipples will provide no survival benefit to the organism. There is no force at work which compels your nipples to go away just because they serve no purpose.

coveredinpaint

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First Date Ok Second Date Gone Bad... Posted: 9/8/2009 11:55:05 AM
Give him a second chance. Something tells me he wasn't exactly playing grab-ass with your girlfriends.

coveredinpaint

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Can you ever become attracted to someone your NOT attracted to? Posted: 9/8/2009 11:52:38 AM
I've gone from not being attracted to being attracted. But there has to be something there to begin with, it's just that you didn't initially see it.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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saying to me ever dated a black man? Posted: 9/1/2009 11:35:16 AM
I've asked black chicks if they've ever dated a white guy before? Goes both ways. No big deal.

coveredinpaint

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 9/1/2009 11:33:46 AM
There's just something about a woman taking a dump which really does it for me...

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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The infamous disappearing guy act Posted: 9/1/2009 11:28:46 AM
I would always just assume that they found someone they feel is better than you, so they choose them over you and that's why you never hear from them again.

coveredinpaint

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Oh, but you don't want to date a guy like me. Posted: 8/31/2009 2:18:31 PM
It's a ploy, to be certain, but there is some truth to it. I think usually it just indicates low self esteem.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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Confusing rejection Posted: 8/31/2009 11:33:17 AM
I always hate the "what happened" threads. Because you just never know. It could be a wide variety of reasons why he didn't call back, many of which might not have a single thing to do with you personally. OR, he just could've randomly changed his mind about you. I would've done it different though. I would've talked to her much longer and then when the eventual "pounding on the door and never calling back" happened, she'd be REALLY confused as to why you dissappeared. Forever she'd wonder "Who was at that door?!"

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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open relationship, women do not seem to like a happy and permiscuous married man. any help? Posted: 8/31/2009 11:26:50 AM
You can't expect there to be that many woman looking for someone to be a f*ck buddy with. If they were just looking to have sex with someone, there are plenty of guys who fit that bill, even who aren't married. But most women are looking for some type of relationship and would be insulted by the fact that you are already in one and looking to be in one with them too.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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guys who like girls with tummies Posted: 8/31/2009 11:19:01 AM
I don't think many guys like bellies. I do think that guys will tell girls things that they are with to convince them that they have something they like, even when they really don't.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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What would you have said? Posted: 8/31/2009 10:57:33 AM
To me, the guy might as well have said, "Even if I wasn't a lazy loser, I'd still be a lazy loser."

coveredinpaint

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Always been single and still am at the age of 31 Posted: 8/31/2009 10:53:55 AM
If you want what you have not, you must do what you do not.

coveredinpaint

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The ghost in the machine...(a virtual universe?) Posted: 8/31/2009 10:32:31 AM
All courses of events were set in place the moment of the big bang. There is no free will or choosing your own destiny. A choice implies that two or more possible outcomes could happen. However, only one possible outcome can transpire for any single event in space/time. And while we perceive this seemingly dynamic, random universe, we are just passive bystanders watching things unfold as they were always meant to.

coveredinpaint

Joined: 7/13/2009

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The shaving craze Posted: 8/31/2009 10:14:08 AM
I think it works depending on the body type. A petite 20 y/o can pull it off, but a full figured 35 y/o really doesn't need to bother shaving.

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